HAPPINESS OF OUR LIVES

HAPPINESS OF OUR LIVES [ PROGRESSIVE VIBES MUSIC]

Hey lady! You know that we love grown woman conversations here at Cultivating H.E.R. Space podcast, which is why this week Terri and Dr. Dom are delighted to welcome Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons, a leading expert in sex research and the author of Good Sex: Stories, Science, and Strategies for Sexual Liberation, to discuss why good sex can lead to a healthier nation.

What does she mean by that? You’ll just have to tune in to find out not only that, but also why putting some thought into your sexual “wishlist” and your “absolutely not” list are worthwhile endeavors for any sexually vibrant woman. Dr. Hargons offers perspective on what good sex is and why deeply meeting yourself can increase intimacy and communication with your partner or help you feel comfort and ease as you slow down your sexual activity. Whatever the reason you have for your sex life always remember that the best sex is the kind where you feel valued and respected – even if that means loving on your body is a solo activity.

So, tap in ladies and cheers to good, ahem…vibes!

Quote of the Day: 
"My book is giving nerdy Black girl sex researcher with a ratchet brilliant mind and oldest daughter becomes therapist vibes." 
– Dr. Candice Nicole

Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Where to find Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons:
Website: Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons
Book: Good Sex: Stories, Science, and Strategies for Sexual Liberation
Instagram: @dr.candicenicole

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

S24E4: Good Sex with Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons

Hey lady! It’s Fall and for many, it’s officially homecoming season; the season when they’ll reunite with old classmates to reminisce on the fun times of their youth, but this week Terri and Dr. Dom want to focus on a more personal homecoming, one that is universally more accessible to all.

Dr. Thema Bryant, a friend of the show and two-time previous guest, discusses the power of finding a path home to yourself on her podcast The Homecoming Podcast. She offers wisdom on all of the various ways we lose ourselves as we journey through life and provides strategies on how to cultivate the tools needed to journey through life with wholeness. Dr. Dom and Terri draw inspiration from her podcast and dive deep into the elements that make a personal homecoming something you can delve into at your own pace. 

Bittersweet undertones run through homecomings because they often come from tough lessons, but the glory and self-respect that you can generate from making the decision to return to yourself is often the greatest reward.

Dr. Dom and Terri offer tips to help you usher in your personal homecoming. Whether it’s your first self-awakening or the latest chapter in an incredible story you have the tools to write the most beautiful scenes yet.

8 Ways You Can Come Home to Yourself

1. Engage in Self-Reflection: Take time for introspection through journaling or meditation. Reflecting on your thoughts and experiences helps clarify your values and desires, fostering a deeper connection with your authentic self. Research shows that expressive writing can significantly enhance self-awareness and emotional health.

2. Practice Mindfulness: Incorporate mindfulness techniques into your daily routine to cultivate presence and self-awareness. Mindfulness meditation can reduce anxiety and increase acceptance of your thoughts and feelings, promoting self-compassion.

3. Set Healthy Boundaries: Learn to say no and prioritize your own needs. Establishing boundaries is crucial for self-care and maintaining your sense of self in various relationships.

4. Nurture Your Inner Child: Engage in activities that bring you joy and creativity, reminiscent of your childhood. This process can heal past wounds and foster a sense of freedom and authenticity, allowing you to reconnect with who you truly are.

5. Build a Supportive Community: Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you. Having a network of like-minded individuals can reinforce your self-worth and provide encouragement on your journey of self-discovery.

6. Prioritize Self-Care: Make time for activities that promote your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Regular self-care practices can lead to increased self-love and help you reconnect with your desires and needs.

7. Pursue Your Passions: Identify and engage in hobbies or interests that ignite your passion. Pursuing what you love enhances your self-identity and fulfillment, allowing you to express your true self.

8. Embrace Change and Growth: Recognize that personal growth often requires stepping out of your comfort zone. Embracing change fosters resilience and helps you adapt to new aspects of yourself, ultimately leading to a stronger sense of self.

Quote of the Day: 
“Homecoming is a return to authentic living that is based on truth, self-acceptance, and an aligning of action with values and purpose.” 
–Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis, Homecoming: Overcome Fear and Trauma to Reclaim Your Whole, Authentic Self

Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

S24E5: 8 Ways You Can Come Home to Yourself

In this mad world, standing together against evil takes courage.

Madness Rising

[Verse 1]
God sent His son,
They called Him, Jesus;
He came to love,
Heal and forgive;
He lived and died
To buy my pardon, 
An empty grave is there
To prove my Savior lives!

[Chorus]
Because He lives,
I can face tomorrow! 
Because He lives,
All fear is gone.
Because I know
He holds the future, 
And life is worth the living,
Just because He lives!

[Verse 2]
How sweet to hold
A newborn baby,
And feel the pride
And joy he brings;
But greater still
The calm assurance:
This child can face 
Uncertain days because He Lives!

[Chorus]
Because He lives, 
I can face tomorrow!
Because He lives,
All fear is gone.
Because I know
He holds the future,
And life is worth the living,
Just because He lives!

[Verse 3]
And then one day,
I’ll cross the river, 
I’ll fight life’s final
War with pain;
And then, as death
Gives way to victory,
I’ll see the lights of glory
And I’ll know He lives!

[Chorus] 
Because He lives,
I can face tomorrow!
Because He lives,
All fear is gone.
Because I know
He holds the future,
And life is worth the living,
Just because He lives!

Because He Lives (female)

Hey lady! It’s Fall, which means the temperature is dropping and there is an invitation to turn inward to reflect, recharge and restore. The frenetic energy of the past few months is now slowing down and we can collectively use this time to check-in with ourselves and ask, “hey girl, how are you doing?”

This week, Dr. Dom and Terri tap into their higher selves and offer some of the strategies that they use to replenish and nourish themselves during the beautiful quiet of the Fall and Winter months. Whether it be planning a luxurious spa day or setting boundaries around your cozy reading time, it matters how you do you.

As with everything, take what you need and leave the rest as you grow your self-care toolkit. Hit us up on IG and let us know...how you plan on tending to yourself during the cozy, cold months?

Quote of the Day:
“Every season is one of becoming, but not always one of blooming. Be gracious with your ever-evolving self.”
– B. Oakman

S24E6: Fall into Wellness: 7 Ways to Rest and Recharge Before the New Year

Hey lady! *Cue Beyonce* All my single ladies! Well, you know the rest. This week, Dr. Dom and Terri dive into all of the reasons why being single gets a bad rap and why it’s actually something that can be celebrated.

In today’s modern dating climate women are finding themselves with autonomy and choice, which is a delicious and beautiful feeling. Even with all of that personal power, let’s not pretend that society doesn’t still places a stigma on singleness; especially if you are a woman. But, there are so many reasons why being single is the bomb and Terri and Dr. Dom want you to know all about them.

Whether you have closed up shop and are totally invested in the happiness of you and your community, or you still long for love but know that life is what you make it – there are plenty of reasons to feel excited about a life of freedom.

Terri and Dr. Dom explore the nuance that comes with being a woman who is free of bitterness because she’s accepted and embraced the gift of time she has to build a life of purpose and meaning so that she can leave a legacy of her choosing.

Did you notice the key word in this episode? Happiness is a choice and we hope this episode inspires you to choose only the best for yourself because lady – you’re worth it! Holla at us on Instagram and tell us how you maximize your fly ass single life. And, tune into the Aftershow where the dynamic duo let their hair down in the realest of ways.

Quote of the Day:
"Single? No, I'm just in a relationship with freedom."
– Unknown

S24E7: Redefining What It Means to Be Black, Single, and Happy

Hey lady! Can you believe that we are already at holiday time? This time of year, can be sweet and full of joy or rife with anxiety, tension, and heavy emotions. And, let’s be real, the current times we’re in can add in an additional layer of complex feelings that can trip up even the most internally sturdy among us. 

That’s why, this week, Terri and Dr. Dom offer strategies and tips on how to navigate an often energetically charged time of the year. Have you thought through how you’re going to enjoy this holiday season? Whether it’s optimizing technology to get the feast organized or discerning the appropriate boundaries when dealing with family members, you have options to make this season as comfortable for you as possible. 

You also have the power to decide to acknowledge any pain the holidays may bring and start a new tradition special to you and your loved ones.

Lady, we wish you comfort, rest, and peace however you choose to spend this season. And, remember, we love our community and we’re here for you in the archives and on our Patreon!

Quote of the Day: 
“Life is short, and it’s up to you to make it sweet.” 
– Sadie Delany

Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

S24E8: Navigating the Holidays When the Holidays Aren't Your Thing

avur nadav ettlinger veshaul mordechai hiklatnu et ze beyahad baulpan shel nachman yossef cohen

sephada

Lady! Have you ever been called the good girl? Are you perceived as dependable, reliable, and relatively harmless? Do people expect perfection from you and when you fall short from those expectations do, they make you feel shame and guilt? And, what happens to your good girl image once you decide to stick up for yourself or say no? Is the backlash swift and painful? If anything mentioned sounds familiar, then this week’s episode is for you.

Terri and Dr. Dom share their experiences with being the good girl and why those perceptions and thereby responsibilities can be harmful as we mature into adulthood. Whether you are the oldest child, or you came from a strict family, or you had to figure out your upbringing on your own; we’ve all experienced the societal burden of being the good girl. The good news is now that we’re grown women we have the power of choice and can choose to untangle the deleterious programming we’ve been surrounded by through family, media, and society.

Dr. Dom and Terri outline some of the harmful effects of the good girl mindset this episode. Don’t be surprised if some of the impacts are so subversive that they touch a tender spot in you. But, you know how we do. Check into the Aftershow for tips on how to heal and improve your life now that you know that you can be amazing, badass, and awesome without the low mantle of being good. 

Lady, this internal work can tough but it is necessary for growth and self-actualization. Check out our Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop for journals, pillows, latte mugs, and apparel to ease some of the awakenings you’re having while listening. They also make for great gifts this holiday season!

Quote of the Day: 
"Being unapologetic means that I will be all of me. I will no longer shrink or compromise myself by playing small so others will not feel insecure in my presence.” 
– Lisa Nichols

Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

S24E9: The Harmful Effects of Being the Good Girl

Original hymns with new melodies. You have permission to take these AI-forged songs to re-record them with real musicians. The tune is yours for hymns/Christian songs as is the tempo, style, instrumentation, and vocal styles. I'm sure some lyrics won't be allowed--so check beforehand. I do not receive any income from any of these tracks; they are not for sale.

Progressive Vibes Music || Tekknosucht Records || Mustache Crew Records ||

Ashad Jayman is a dynamic DJ and producer known for pushing the boundaries of electronic music. With a passion for creating immersive soundscapes, ASHA blends genres such as techno, house, and ambient to craft unique auditory experiences. Since bursting onto the scene in 2014,
From The Beautiful island Sri Lanka. 🇱🇰

In a world where black women are often underrepresented and misunderstood, we need more safe spaces to just… be. Every Friday, join Dr. Dominique Broussard, a college professor and psychologist, and Terri Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker, as they initiate authentic conversations on everything from fibroids to fake friends.

If you’re a black woman or woman of color looking for an extra dose of inspiration on the go, pull up a seat and join us on the H.E.R. (Healing, Empowerment, Resilience) Space podcast. Episodes are published every Friday on iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, and Soundcloud.

We can’t wait to meet you, sis!

Having studied classical piano as a child, Andrea writes lyrics that come from her heart and with the help of AI, gives the instructions for the music, and combined together, these songs are being noticed on YouTube.

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