Libido is often used to refer to sexual desire but it also refers to a psychological drive – an energy for life satisfaction. In this episode I am referring to your libido as psychic energy in general. This is about protecting your source of drive: channeling it toward that which you truly desire on a deep, personal level. Often in life, our drive gets fractured or frustrated by the needs of others or by filling the void with things like substances. 

I invite you to reflect on what’s happening in your life and where your libido is currently going. It needs to be channeled toward that which is most important to you. We must create a strong and consistent “container” or safe space for ourselves to bring forth any goal. Whatever condition in your life is stealing you away from a goal – I encourage you to be active in that fight even if it is unpleasant. That is a step in the process of change. Being in the struggle is how we move planets in our life.

The books I mention in the episode are here:

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Ep 262: Protecting Your Libido – Channeling Life Force

On respecting the evolution of this life and consistently responding to the call of the brightest light of all.&nbsp;  (0:00) – Introduction and Welcome (3:01) – Experience of Performing Live (7:24) – Deva's Connection to Miten (11:01) – Life on the Road and Practices (14:01) – Evolution of Deva's Work (18:18) – Collaboration with India.Arie (23:55) – New Album and Favorite Tracks (27:05) – Upcoming Tours and Retreats  Deva Premal is a world-renowned, Grammy-nominated mantra singer whose ethereal voice and sacred chant-based music have touched millions around the globe. Blending ancient Sanskrit mantras with contemporary melodies, her work creates a powerful space for inner peace, healing, and spiritual awakening. In collaboration with her partner, musician/composer Miten, she has played a key role in bringing mantra music to a worldwide audience through concerts, retreats, and acclaimed recordings. Deva and Miten’s music is celebrated for its depth, purity, and universal resonance, making them beloved figures in the global yoga, wellness, and mindfulness communities. Deva's new album:

Episode 229: Deva Premal

Hey lady! In these trying times connecting with community is more important than ever. Community is not just your close friends or even your family. Community is the place where you live, work, and play. It contains history, wisdom and can thrive when tended to well. That’s why Dr. Dom and Terri are thrilled to welcome M. Simone Boyd and Andrea Tudhope, hosts of the podcast We Are North Nashville, as they discuss the power of collecting the stories of the elders in the community to create a beautiful tapestry of legacy, love, and pride.

Inspired by a series of tragic events that occurred during the pandemic, Simone set out to capture the stories of the elders in her life before it was too late. But, as she soon found out the work was worthy but the emotional labor would take a toll if she didn’t recruit help for her noble mission. Together, with her co-hosts, Andrea and Steve Haruch, the three embarked on a journey of bridge building, record setting, and community preservation that has led to a fulfilling audio project the residents of North Nashville can feel proud of.

If you’re in a space where you know you need to build community and you want to contribute to the community you live in but don’t know where to get started tune in to today’s episode. Andrea and Simone offer their perspective on how approaching people and conversations from a heart-centered place can get all of us back to a place where we peacefully coexist and thrive together.

Lady, we want to hear from you! Holla at us in Instagram and let us know how you’re building community or working to preserve the stories of the community you’re in.

Quote of the Day:
"It needs to be pointed out...the things that were done to North Nashville to sacrifice that part of Nashville in the name of progress."
– Thomas Wilson
 
Goal Mapping Starter Guide
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary
 
Where to find We Are North Nashville:
Website: wearenorthnashville.org
Podcast: We Are North Nashville
Instagram: @wearenorthnashville
Facebook: We Are North Nashville
 
Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
 
Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

S28E5: The Importance of Passing the Torch with M. Simone Boyd and Andrea Tudhope

Hey lady! You know like we know that sometimes we are…right. It’s never about being right, it’s just the truth that sometimes we have opinions that are actually right even if they may be controversial.

This week, Terri and Dr. Dom offer a cheeky look at some real “hear us out” situations that will possibly get them cancelled. The two offer some common sense perspectives about things we may have been socialized to believe that are no longer true (White looks just as good in the winter as it does in the Summer) and some that we have been socialized to believe that were actually never true (sugar belongs in a lot of places…just not grits).

Lady, tap in on Instagram and let us know which opinions you have that would get you cancelled (respectfully)! Which one of these opinions do you not so secretly agree with?

Quote of the Day:
“It’s givin’ ‘I’m right, but let’s discuss it anyway.’"
— Every Black woman with receipts and restraint
 
 
Goal Mapping Starter Guide
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary
 
Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
 
Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

S28E6: Unpopular Opinions That Might Get Us Canceled

In this episode of 10 Minutes to Less Suffering, explore how shifting from being nice to being kind can reduce stress, support emotional healing, and create more authentic and mindful relationships. Listeners learn why niceness often comes from fear and people pleasing, while true kindness grows from compassion, honesty, presence, and an open heart. What you will gain from this episode • A clear understanding of the difference between nice behavior and true heart based kindness • Insight into why some relationships feel inconsistent or disappointing during stressful moments • Support for emotional healing, self trust, and clarity after confusing interactions • Tools to stop people pleasing and reduce daily stress and anxiety • Guidance for setting healthy boundaries that protect your emotional well being • Encouragement to act with more authenticity, presence, and self compassion • A calming reflection to help you connect with your heart and choose kindness mindfully • Inspiration to create relationships that feel safe, honest, steady, and emotionally supportive • Hope to live with more peace, connection, and present moment awareness This episode is ideal for listeners searching for self help practices, self improvement tools, stress relief techniques, emotional healing support, mindful living tips, present based awareness, spiritual growth, heart centered connection, and guidance for living with more peace and clarity.   You can also follow me on&nbsp;, , , , and . If you are interested in my work, please check out my books,&nbsp; (including a new audiobook),&nbsp; and my new Audiobook,&nbsp;  Also you can check out my new  or my new digital    Above all, my heartfelt hope is that this podcast has supported your journey of personal growth, helped shift your mindset, reduce stress, built emotional resilience, and brought you less suffering and more joy, clarity, and peace.

Nice or Kind? Seeing The Difference and Living From The Heart

Hey lady! While the Make America Healthy Again movement is in full steam the proponents seem to only offer conflicting messages about exactly what will make America healthy again. And, while you may be no stranger to doing your own research, these days it’s nice when you can find a source you trust.

Enter Sherece Brown, the founder of Dr. Pabs, Pineapple is a Berry a holistic company dedicated to vitamins and supplements for your littles all the way up to your teens. Sherece shares how her Caribbean upbringing made a big impact on how she approaches wellness and why her attention to detail makes her company one that families can rely on for additional nutritional support. 

Tune in to find out about Sherece’s unique journey and how you can grab a bottle or two for your family.

Quote of the Day: 
"The foundation of good health begins with what we put in our bodies." 
– Sherece Brown

Where to find Sherece Brown:
Website: DrPabs.com 
Instagram: @Dr.Pabs_
Facebook: Dr. Pabs Pineapple is a Berry
TikTok: @Dr.Pabs_

Goal Mapping Starter Guide
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

S28E7: Choosing the Best for Our Children with Sherece Brown

This is for working on relationships in your life where you have weak boundaries. If there is a loved one who doesn’t respect your boundaries and you feel guilty for needing space from them, know that that is part of your upbringing and the feeling of needing space is your emotional health saying “I need to heal.” This is an episode to give you some relief around that set of feelings. It has some tools for coming into the present, tuning into your body. 
Truly healthy and loving relationships are built between two capable individuals who show up with heartfelt effort. also applies with your relationship to yourself: you need to show up for you and set consistent boundaries around harmful situations. If there’s a person in your life who is not honoring you and your values, it’s up to you to boundary how you deserve to be treated. There need to be consequences when someone is not treating you with basic human respect. If there’s a person in your life who is having all their cake while you beg for emotional crumbs, this is an episode about confronting change and moving toward action. The inner world will match the outer world: your bar has to be consistent for everyone in your life otherwise your self-worth is affected in all spheres. Sending love!  
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Ep 263: Enforcing Healthy Boundaries – cake eaters + crumb beggars

In this episode, we explore the profound wisdom that lives in the dark.
Sjanett sits down with Ananda-Jey Wojciech, founder of The Ultimate Darkness Retreat in Poland, to talk about what happens when you turn off all the lights — literally and metaphorically. What remains when your senses slow down, and there is nothing left to distract you?

Ananda-Jey shares how darkness can be both confronting and deeply healing. In the absence of external light, you meet yourself — and discover your own inner luminosity. Together, they discuss silence, surrender, the body’s intelligence, and how transformation unfolds when you stop trying to control it.

A conversation about trust, stillness, and finding home within yourself.

What touched you most in this episode? Share your reflection with us.

Learn more:
🌑 The Ultimate Darkness Retreat → https://theultimatedarknessretreat.com/dshfs

🎧 Transformatie Podcast → https://transformatie-podcast.nl/129-ananda-jey-wojciech/

Darkness as a Teacher: Transformation with Ananda-Jey Wojciech | #129

Hey lady! We know that the daily onslaught of the news of these times can be distressing and difficult to ignore. There are genuine reasons to feel alarm during the current administration but we are blessed to have a deep history of having visionaries, luminaries, and trailblazers offer a blueprint of how to imagine brighter tomorrows. 

Octavia Butler is one of the most prescient artists of our time but her life was lived somewhat in obscurity, only coming to prominence long after her death. Yet, her writing gave way to world-building where weird, strange, genius Black women could write themselves into the future by being present with their experience. 

Dr. Susana M. Morris, a waymaker in her own right as a founding member of the Crunk Feminist Collective and author of Positive Obsession: The Life and Times of Octavia Butler, explores how Octavia’s life circumstances, disciplined writing practice, and passion birthed works that offer a clear-eyed examination of society and culture while also giving full permission for Black women to indulge our imaginations for a beautiful future that includes us!

Join Terri and Dr. Dom as they have a spirited discussion with Susana about Octavia Butler and her powerful artistry. While Octavia made it clear that she was not a prophet; she was so deeply connected to her dreams and words that she manifested a body of work that has inspired generations of future trailblazers and wayshowers.

Quote of the Day: 
"Black women writers are necessary so that Black women can define and depict their own experiences rather than being objects in the stories of others." 
– Octavia Butler

Where to find Susana Morris:
Website: Susanmorris.com
Book: Positive Obsession: The Life and Times of Octavia Butler
Instagram: @susiemaye
Twitter (X): @iamcrunkadelic 
Threads: @susiemaye  

Goal Mapping Starter Guide
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

S28E8: Octavia Butler Tried to Tell Us with Dr. Susana Morris

Tuesday Ft. Levonatron

Psycholoog|onderzoeker Sjanett de Geus in gesprek met inspirerende gasten uit binnen- en buitenland op weg naar meer vrijheid, wijsheid en overvloed.

Allison Carmen, Self-help author and Life coach, presents different techniques in this 10 minute podcast to reduce your stress, worry and anxiety. It's amazing how much you can get done in 10 minutes!

In a world where black women are often underrepresented and misunderstood, we need more safe spaces to just… be. Every Friday, join Dr. Dominique Broussard, a college professor and psychologist, and Terri Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker, as they initiate authentic conversations on everything from fibroids to fake friends.

If you’re a black woman or woman of color looking for an extra dose of inspiration on the go, pull up a seat and join us on the H.E.R. (Healing, Empowerment, Resilience) Space podcast. Episodes are published every Friday on iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, and Soundcloud.

We can’t wait to meet you, sis!

Bestselling Author, Artist, Poet, Podcast Host.

Help Me Be Me is an emotional toolkit for creating positive change in yourself. I like to think of it as self-help for people who hate self-help. I'm Sarah May, coach/mom/all-around happy person, and these are the tools that work for me in my life. For all of my offerings you can check out YayWithMe.com What I share is my personal opinion. It's not a diagnosis for treatment or a substitute for professional help. If you're suffering, please reach out to your local emergency services or call 9-1-1. Music theme created by www.BookerHillMusic.com

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