Are you being loving or are you enabling someone to remain dysfunctional? How do you tell? If you are a person who finds you are enraged and triggered by a relationship in your life and you feel powerless, this episode is about imbalanced relationships where one person is overactive and another person is underactive and how that “sick system” self-perpetuates despite everyone having good intentions. If you are unsure whether or not you are codependent, ask yourself – do you obsess about the way another person lives their life and does it make you miserable? Are you finding yourself being put in compromising situations because of that person? This episode might be a helpful starting point. Also here are a few must-reads!
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Ep 256: Caregiver Relationships: Setting Healthy Boundaries

Self-discipline is the ability to control one's behavior and actions to achieve goals or maintain a certain standard of conduct. It involves making &nbsp;sacrifices, staying focused, and resisting immediate pleasures for long-term benefits. Veterinarians struggle with self-discipline because we have an unpredictable job and we tend to be people pleasers. &nbsp;On this episode we discuss tools to overcome procrastination and be more self-disciplined. Contact Julie at  Buy Julie's Book on

Episode #346 - Self-discipline and Getting Things Done

Can a three-second moment of joy really help you through life’s darkest days? Tune in for an inspiring discussion with Bridget McNulty on her new book Daily Glimmers: The Art of Finding Tiny Joys Every Day of the Year.
 
Moments with Marianne airs in the Southern California area on KMET1490AM & 98.1 FM, an ABC Talk News Radio Affiliate!  https://www.kmet1490am.com

Bridget McNulty is a writer, diabetes advocate and co-founder of Sweet Life, South Africa’s largest online diabetes community. She lives in Cape Town, South Africa, with her husband, son and daughter, and loves nothing more than a cup of tea and a good book – preferably somewhere green and leafy. 
https://bridgetmcnulty.com

Order on Amazon https://a.co/d/binCGsF 

For more show information visit: https://www.mariannepestana.com/

Daily Glimmers with Bridget McNulty

Can a few minutes of reflection each day really change how you experience your life? Tune in for an inspiring discussion with Venerable Lama Lhanang Rinpoche & Mordy Levine on their new book The Buddha in You: A Beginner's Guide to Buddhism, from Karma to Nirvana. 

Moments with Marianne airs in the Southern California area on KMET1490AM & 98.1 FM, an ABC Talk News Radio Affiliate!  https://www.kmet1490am.com

Lama Lhanang Rinpoche was born in the Amdo region of historic Tibet and received a traditional monastic education and later studied under several respected Tibetan lamas. Today, he teaches Vajrayana Buddhism at the Jigme Lingpa Center in San Diego, California. http://www.BuddhistSanDiego.com

Mordy Levine is an entrepreneur, meditation teacher, and the president of the Jigme Lingpa Center. He also created the Meditation Pro Series, a meditation program designed to alleviate chronic health issues. http://www.MordyLevine.com  

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For more show information visit:  
www.MariannePestana.com

The Buddha in You with Lama Lhanang Rinpoche & Mordy Levine

Living Buddhism, How to Master our Minds, August 2025, SGI-USA

Academic Demo - Philosophical Essay - Home Studio (unprocessed)

Hey lady! You know the saying, “No one cares because everyone is going through a lot”? Well, that’s not true. Over here at Cultivating H.E.R. Space, we care. But we also know that everyone is dealing with something, and not everything needs to be shared. That doesn’t mean you need to bottle it all up, though. What do you do when the journal just isn’t enough and you’re not ready to engage your friends in your business?

Terri and Dr. Dom explore the next frontier in this illuminating conversation about the benefits and potential harms of using Artificial Intelligence (AI) as part of your mental and emotional wellness toolbox. There are pros, like when you’re up in the wee hours trying to calm an anxious mind or soothe a broken heart. Instead of doom scrolling, talking to your AI buddy can help you process your thoughts in real time without oversharing with people who don’t need to know all your business.

But, there are points of consideration that you may want to review before you share your darkest secrets or (we know this may be common sense but a friendly reminder) your address and identifying information.

The truth is, AI is here to stay. And the sooner you learn to adapt to the technology, the better equipped you'll be to navigate our ever-changing world. So why not find a way to make it work for you? Tune in for practical tips on how to create a healthy, intentional relationship with this emerging technology.

Practical Ways People Use ChatGPT for Mental & Emotional Support
1. You can use it like a journal
2. It can help you put your emotions into words
3. If you’re spiraling or feeling stuck in negative thinking, you can ask it to reframe your thoughts gently and with compassion.
4. Need to set a boundary but don’t know how to say it? It can help you script that tough text or email.
5. You can use it to guide visualizations or manifestations
6. It can also help you build routines and strategies

How to Protect Your Info When Using ChatGPT
1. Be mindful of what you share
2. Check your chat history settings
3. Know that it’s not secure like therapy notes
4. Use it for support, not diagnosis
5. Add context for safer, better responses
6. In a crisis? Reach out to a human
7. Program your ChatGPT instance with your values in mind
 
Quote of the Day:
"The essence of therapy has always been relational, and that cannot be replicated by an algorithm."
– Chris Hoff
 
Goal Map Like a Pro Workbook
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary
 
Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
 
Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

S27E4: ChatGPT is Not Your Therapist But it Can Be a Support Tool

Hey lady! On the road to building the soft life of your dreams you’ll need to incorporate systems to keep that soft life moving authentically and with ease. Often, we’re taught that lives that feel good and easy come with hard work and while that is one way to do it there are ways to build routines and life processes that make life smooth and add joy. After all life is not about the end goal. The journey matters as much as the destination and to make that journey easier Dr. Dom and Terri have a comprehensive list of actionable strategies you can implement into your life incrementally to create a structure that is manageable and dare we say it, fun?! As with anything, take what you need and discard the rest.

You’ll want to tune into Patreon for the Aftershow. Terri and Dr. Dom offer seven journal prompts that can help you customize routines that provide soft structure and help you move intentionally towards your best, most fulfilled life of your dreams.

Quote of the Day:
"When you can and as you can, in ways that feel loving, make time and space for yourself”
– Tracee Ellis Ross
 
Goal Map Like a Pro Workbook
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary
 
Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
 
Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

S27E6: Soft Structure: Building a Routine That Honors Your Current Season in Life

Hey lady! This week, Terri and Dr. Dom tackle a potentially touchy topic – feedback, and the equally touchy topic of how to give it and how to receive it. After listening to this episode, you will be armed with tools for your personal toolkit so that you walk through life with grace, class and style. 

As each day turns the necessity of having a strong community to lean on becomes ever more present. Community isn’t a fantasy of make-believe relationships, it’s network of relationships built over time through authenticity, communication, skills, and trust. Without those elements living with other humans and their thoughts and behaviors can become difficult. There are strategies you can use when presented with an opportunity to grow via feedback and with practice you can become a person that maintains your sovereignty while being a strong communicator. So, how do you develop and strengthen the muscle of giving and receiving feedback? How does one cultivate a healthy relationship with offering perspective in a way that is constructive and supportive?

Dr. Dom and Terri offer a selection of common scenarios with actionable steps in how to engage with the other person skillfully. Knowing how to process feedback and how to implement or disagree is a key step in growing yourself in authenticity and in community.

Interested in customizing your toolkit in a way that feels real to you? Head to the Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop and grab a journal and think through your action plan. We’d love to hear from you about how you’re going to make receiving feedback a strength of yours. Holla at us in our Patreon and let us know how you handle difficult conversations and constructive criticism.

S27E8: The Feedback Loop: Parents, Kids, and Hard Truths

Sometimes holding on brings pain, yet letting go can bring its own challenges too. In this episode, discover why holding on and letting go both can carry their own struggles — and how moving through them can open the way to freedom, healing, and new possibilities. Listen to this podcast to find the courage and inspiration to embrace what comes next!   Affirmation  I honor where I am, whether I’m holding on or beginning to let go. I remember that emptiness is the beginning of healing, that uncertainty is my best friend, and that what I seek is also seeking me. In this moment, I am strong, I matter, and I am open to new possibilities.   If you found this podcast enjoyable, kindly consider subscribing and leaving a rating or review. Additionally, I'd appreciate it if you could share it with your friends to spread the love!   You can also follow me on&nbsp;, , , , and . If you are interested in my work, please check out my books,&nbsp; (including a new audiobook),&nbsp; and my new Audiobook,&nbsp;  Also you can check out my new  or my new digital    Above all, my heartfelt hope is that this podcast has supported your journey of personal growth, helped shift your mindset, built emotional resilience, and brought you less suffering and more joy, clarity, and peace.  &nbsp;

It Can Hurt To Hold On, It Can Hurt To Let Go

For anyone who works so hard to do the right thing and to break ancestral trauma, but then has someone telling them they aren't  good enough. 

Lyrics:
Come sit down, little girl,
I see that tremble in your hands
Come sit down little boy 
I see that aching in your heart

Do you know how good you’re doing
I see just how  hard you work
I’m sorry the world has been so cruel
And tried to putout your magic spark
 			
Hurt people hurt people 
And scared people scare people
But you- you broke that spell
You- you broke that spell
I see you turning that hurt into love
I see you turning that fear into magic

I wish I could keep you here
In this safe space with nothing to fear
I wish that I could always be near 
But in your heart, I am here

And we can heal this world together
Put down the bombs we can do better
Plant the seeds protect the wild
You dear are my perfect child

But hurt people hurt people.....		

May all beings find love and comfort
May all water be clean and clear
May all forests be protected
May all of nature be revered 

But right now you are hurting
So please sit down little child
Here’s some water and a pillow
You are safe and you are home

Feel the breeze and hear the birds
Feel my arms wrapped around you
Nothing to do or figure out
You can finally rest now

But hurt people hurt people

And I know how bad it hurts
I know how hard you work
And I know how bad it hurts
I know how hard you work  

Spellbreaker

I finally got an album together. It's called Meet Me in the Wild. It's not perfect but it's from the heart. Writing these songs helped me and I hope listening to them will help you. Just tryin' to take all that icky goo that life throws at you and turn it into something sweet. <3

In a single moment your life can change!  “Moments with Marianne” is a transformative hour that covers an endless array of topics with the ‘best of the best.’ Her guest are leaders in their fields, ranging from inspirational authors, top industry leaders, business and spiritual entrepreneurs.  Each guest is gifted, and a true visionary!  A recognized leader in her own work, and while teaching others to develop, refocus, and grow; Marianne will bring the best guest, and sometimes a special surprise.  Don’t miss this – you never know just which ‘moment’ will change your life forever.

Singing & voice-acting samples, and General Interest...

Allison Carmen, Self-help author and Life coach, presents different techniques in this 10 minute podcast to reduce your stress, worry and anxiety. It's amazing how much you can get done in 10 minutes!

In a world where black women are often underrepresented and misunderstood, we need more safe spaces to just… be. Every Friday, join Dr. Dominique Broussard, a college professor and psychologist, and Terri Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker, as they initiate authentic conversations on everything from fibroids to fake friends.

If you’re a black woman or woman of color looking for an extra dose of inspiration on the go, pull up a seat and join us on the H.E.R. (Healing, Empowerment, Resilience) Space podcast. Episodes are published every Friday on iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, and Soundcloud.

We can’t wait to meet you, sis!

Help Me Be Me is an emotional toolkit for creating positive change in yourself. I like to think of it as self-help for people who hate self-help. I'm Sarah May, coach/mom/all-around happy person, and these are the tools that work for me in my life. For all of my offerings you can check out YayWithMe.com What I share is my personal opinion. It's not a diagnosis for treatment or a substitute for professional help. If you're suffering, please reach out to your local emergency services or call 9-1-1. Music theme created by www.BookerHillMusic.com

Julie Cappel DVM, CCFP, is a veterinarian and an experienced life coach who helps professionals reach their goals and improve their lives.

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