This is for working on relationships in your life where you have weak boundaries. If there is a loved one who doesn’t respect your boundaries and you feel guilty for needing space from them, know that that is part of your upbringing and the feeling of needing space is your emotional health saying “I need to heal.” This is an episode to give you some relief around that set of feelings. It has some tools for coming into the present, tuning into your body. 
Truly healthy and loving relationships are built between two capable individuals who show up with heartfelt effort. also applies with your relationship to yourself: you need to show up for you and set consistent boundaries around harmful situations. If there’s a person in your life who is not honoring you and your values, it’s up to you to boundary how you deserve to be treated. There need to be consequences when someone is not treating you with basic human respect. If there’s a person in your life who is having all their cake while you beg for emotional crumbs, this is an episode about confronting change and moving toward action. The inner world will match the outer world: your bar has to be consistent for everyone in your life otherwise your self-worth is affected in all spheres. Sending love!  
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Ep 263: Enforcing Healthy Boundaries – cake eaters + crumb beggars

In this episode, we explore the profound wisdom that lives in the dark.
Sjanett sits down with Ananda-Jey Wojciech, founder of The Ultimate Darkness Retreat in Poland, to talk about what happens when you turn off all the lights — literally and metaphorically. What remains when your senses slow down, and there is nothing left to distract you?

Ananda-Jey shares how darkness can be both confronting and deeply healing. In the absence of external light, you meet yourself — and discover your own inner luminosity. Together, they discuss silence, surrender, the body’s intelligence, and how transformation unfolds when you stop trying to control it.

A conversation about trust, stillness, and finding home within yourself.

What touched you most in this episode? Share your reflection with us.

Learn more:
🌑 The Ultimate Darkness Retreat → https://theultimatedarknessretreat.com/dshfs

🎧 Transformatie Podcast → https://transformatie-podcast.nl/129-ananda-jey-wojciech/

Darkness as a Teacher: Transformation with Ananda-Jey Wojciech | #129

Hey lady! We know that the daily onslaught of the news of these times can be distressing and difficult to ignore. There are genuine reasons to feel alarm during the current administration but we are blessed to have a deep history of having visionaries, luminaries, and trailblazers offer a blueprint of how to imagine brighter tomorrows. 

Octavia Butler is one of the most prescient artists of our time but her life was lived somewhat in obscurity, only coming to prominence long after her death. Yet, her writing gave way to world-building where weird, strange, genius Black women could write themselves into the future by being present with their experience. 

Dr. Susana M. Morris, a waymaker in her own right as a founding member of the Crunk Feminist Collective and author of Positive Obsession: The Life and Times of Octavia Butler, explores how Octavia’s life circumstances, disciplined writing practice, and passion birthed works that offer a clear-eyed examination of society and culture while also giving full permission for Black women to indulge our imaginations for a beautiful future that includes us!

Join Terri and Dr. Dom as they have a spirited discussion with Susana about Octavia Butler and her powerful artistry. While Octavia made it clear that she was not a prophet; she was so deeply connected to her dreams and words that she manifested a body of work that has inspired generations of future trailblazers and wayshowers.

Quote of the Day: 
"Black women writers are necessary so that Black women can define and depict their own experiences rather than being objects in the stories of others." 
– Octavia Butler

Where to find Susana Morris:
Website: Susanmorris.com
Book: Positive Obsession: The Life and Times of Octavia Butler
Instagram: @susiemaye
Twitter (X): @iamcrunkadelic 
Threads: @susiemaye  

Goal Mapping Starter Guide
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

S28E8: Octavia Butler Tried to Tell Us with Dr. Susana Morris

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S28E9: Building the Identity Required for Wealth and Abundance with Darnyelle Jervey Harmon

A gentle yet firm self-intervention. The whimsical backdrop can't hide the pain, as your "broken heart, it decides how far you drive". This track is the Inner Truth counseling the hurt Ego to drop the pride and patiently "re-evaluate expectations"  to break the cycle.

What A Whimsical August

Could the real secret to a happier life be hiding in simple, daily habits we overlook? Tune in for an inspiring discussion with Billy Marshall on his new book Your Happier Life Toolbox: How a Data-Driven Dad Cracked the Code on Happiness (and How You Can Too).

Moments with Marianne Radio Show airs in the Southern California area on KMET1490AM & 98.1 FM, an ABC Talk News Radio Affiliate!  https://www.kmet1490am.com

Billy Marshall is the "data-driven dad" who cracked the code on happiness—using science. He spent decades designing technical frameworks and data tools to help business leaders make smart, analytical decisions. But when faced with the messier puzzle of his own well-being—stuck on a question his degrees and decades hadn’t answered despite a loving family and outward success—he realized he needed a new framework for the most important project of all: his own life. https://yourhappier.life/ 

For more show information visit: https://www.mariannepestana.com/

Your Happier Life Toolbox with Billy Marshall

Have you ever felt like pieces of yourself have slipped away, and the numbness or heaviness you feel is your body asking you to come back home to yourself? Tune in for an inspiring discussion with Dr. Danielle Armour as we dive into her new book Awaken Your Body Awaken Your Desire: Using Science to Heal Your Stress & Find Your Sexual Vitality.  

Moments with Marianne airs in the Southern California area on KMET1490AM & 98.1 FM, an ABC Talk News Radio Affiliate!  https://www.kmet1490am.com

Dr. Danielle Armour is a psychotherapist, clinical sexologist, and nervous system specialist with over 15 years of experience helping women and couples restore balance, resilience, and connection. Drawing on neuroscience, somatic healing, and cognitive restructuring, she offers a compassionate, science-based approach that reframes stress and disconnection as the body’s natural way of seeking safety. Through practical tools like breathwork, yoga, mindfulness, and nervous system regulation, Dr. Armour guides people in cultivating self-awareness, confidence, and a renewed sense of vitality. https://daniellearmour.com

For more show information visit: https://www.mariannepestana.com/

Secrets to Reclaiming Your Lost Sense of Self with Dr. Danielle Armour

“This book is a game changer for caregivers of loved ones with dementia. This book will help millions of families, like hers, like yours, like mine, like everyone’s. It’s a book for our time.” – Maria Shriver 

 From Emma Heming Willis, wife of Bruce Willis, a deeply personal and richly compassionate supportive guide that helps caregivers care for themselves while they navigate a loved one's dementia.

The day Emma Heming Willis’ husband, Bruce Willis, was diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia (FTD), all they were given was a pamphlet and told to check back in a few months. With no hope or direction, Emma walked out of that doctor’s appointment frozen with fear, confusion and a sense that her world had just fallen apart.

In fact, it had. Bruce and Emma had their story written, their future mapped out. Yet all those dreams crumbled with that diagnosis, and Emma felt alone and more isolated than ever. How would she care for her husband while parenting their young daughters?

At that devastating time, Emma just wanted someone who'd been through it to tell her, “This feels terrible right now. Your life is in shambles. But it’s going to be okay. Here are some things to think about and put in place so you cannot just survive but thrive.”

With The Unexpected Journey, Emma has written the book she wishes she’d been handed on the day of Bruce’s diagnosis: a supportive guide to navigating the complicated, heartbreaking, and transformative experience that is caregiving for your loved one. Weaving her personal journey as a care partner with the latest research and insights from the world’s top dementia, caregiving, and integrative experts she offers the guidance and wisdom caregivers everywhere so desperately need to hear, including:

• A diagnosis isn’t just a label, it’s a starting point. It helps you better understand your person’s behavior and respond with more clarity and compassion.
• Taking care of yourself is not optional

The Unexpected Journey: Finding Strength, Hope and Yourself on the Caregiving Path, By Emma Heming Willis, Read by Emma Heming Willis

Hey lady! We’re grown so we know there’s nothing wrong with having a vice or two. But, what happens when that vice becomes an addiction? Analysts estimate that approximately 48.4 million Americans are addicted to something with 9.8% of Americans addicted to drugs and 9.7% of Americans addicted to alcohol. Addiction is a fact of life that many Black women have a relationship with, and many have overcome addiction through treatment, therapy and sometimes medication. But, before they even get there they start with a healthy amount of honesty about where they find themselves with their addiction. 

The peculiar thing about addiction is that one can find herself there without even realizing it, which is why this week Terri and Dr. Dom pull back the veil of addiction with a personal testimony about reorienting their relationship with addiction and science-backed, evidence based strategies to build healthy long-term relationship with the vice. 

Terri offers an authentic look at how she became addicted to marijuana and the gentle, self-compassionate methods she incorporated to set reorient her relationship so that when she engages it’s from an empowered place and not out of necessity.

Lady, contrary to popular belief you can become addicted to weed. And, if you are beginning to question where your relationship with weed lies, tune into today’s episode to gain an understanding of the qualities of a healthy relationship with weed and what is veering into addiction. If you’re ready to dive deeper into creating healthy habits and systems to support you living your best life, book a consultation with Dr. Dom. The end of the year is the perfect time to set yourself up for success in the new year. And lady, if you feel like you are in crisis please dial 988 for immediate assistance. We love you for real!

Quote of the Day: 
"It always seems impossible until it's done." 
– Nelson Mandela

Goal Mapping Starter Guide
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com


S28E10: Weed Addiction: A Softer, Honest Look at Coping, Craving, and Choosing Clarity

On participating in your life by orienting to practice; befriending time to stabilize your mind, meditating polarities to map your world.  (0:00) – Introduction to Nevine Michaan and Her Journey (2:26) – The Katonah Yoga Calendar (6:36) – The Concept of Mapping in Yoga (16:48) – The Magic House and Personal Responsibility (20:55) – Balancing Self-Actualization and Interbeing (36:15) – The Role of Numbers and Measurement in Yoga (39:03) – Practical Techniques for Maintaining Energy and Vitality (39:16) – The Importance of Personal Responsibility and Discipline (39:33) – The Role of Myths and Fairy Tales in Understanding Yoga (39:51) – Final Thoughts and Practical Advice  Born in Egypt in 1954, Nevine moved to New York at the age of three. In her early 20’s, while studying history and comparative religion at Vassar College, she discovered meditation. She understood that there is a function, a formality and a fit to the universe and that yoga is a tool, a technique – a practice with repetition which gives us the opportunity to participate in life with intelligence and joy. Nevine started a daily practice in NYC with renowned yoga instructor Allan Bateman in the 1970s and became fully immersed in what would become her life’s work. She began teaching yoga in 1978, and founded the Katonah Yoga Center in Katonah, New York in 1986. Nevine seamlessly relates her approach to yoga through comparing it to the likes of a musician. Her artful use of metaphor is one of her most well honed techniques when articulating her teachings, which are empowered by her practical approach to integrating the mind, the body and the breath. Nevine continues to teach both online and in person through her studio, the Katonah Yoga Collective in Bedford Hills NY and others throughout the community.     and learn more about our

Episode 231: Nevine Michaan

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In a single moment your life can change!  “Moments with Marianne” is a transformative hour that covers an endless array of topics with the ‘best of the best.’ Her guest are leaders in their fields, ranging from inspirational authors, top industry leaders, business and spiritual entrepreneurs.  Each guest is gifted, and a true visionary!  A recognized leader in her own work, and while teaching others to develop, refocus, and grow; Marianne will bring the best guest, and sometimes a special surprise.  Don’t miss this – you never know just which ‘moment’ will change your life forever.

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In a world where black women are often underrepresented and misunderstood, we need more safe spaces to just… be. Every Friday, join Dr. Dominique Broussard, a college professor and psychologist, and Terri Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker, as they initiate authentic conversations on everything from fibroids to fake friends.

If you’re a black woman or woman of color looking for an extra dose of inspiration on the go, pull up a seat and join us on the H.E.R. (Healing, Empowerment, Resilience) Space podcast. Episodes are published every Friday on iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, and Soundcloud.

We can’t wait to meet you, sis!

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