Are you your own worst enemy in relationships? Whether it’s anxious clinging or avoidant distancing, attachment issues often create cycles of fear and emotional avoidance that sabotage the love and intimacy you crave. In this episode, Tracy dives deep into the hidden forces driving these patterns and shares how stepping into self-responsibility can transform your connections from the inside out.

🎙️ What you’ll learn in this episode:
* How attachment styles impact your connection patterns.
* Why unavailable partners feel familiar—and how to stop chasing them.
* Steps to break free from fear-based habits and nurture authentic intimacy.
* How to create a vision for healthier, real relationships.

"Every single person on this planet wants to be loved, but most of the time, when you have attachment issues, what you really want, you push away." ~ Tracy Crossley

#792: What you really want but push away

In this episode of The BrokeMan’s Podcast, we’re diving into the psychology of attachment styles with special guest BO. Learn how anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment styles shape your relationships, communication, and emotional well-being. From understanding the roots of these patterns to actionable tips for fostering healthier connections, this episode offers insights that can transform the way you connect with others. Perfect for anyone on a journey of personal growth and self-awareness.

Attachment Styles Unpacked: Anxious, Avoidant & Secure | The BrokeMan’s Podcast ft. BO

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This episode is for you if you have recently ended a relationship or marriage with a romantic partner or spouse and now you need to process the relationship ending and move on! 

This episode is also for you if you know you still haven't moved on from a prior romantic relationship and it's impacting your ability to create a healthy relationship with a new partner now. 

You'll learn a holistic strategy for supporting yourself fully through this chapter so that you process any heartbreak & the relationship ending, support yourself through the grief cycle, get to know yourself outside of the relationship, re-establish a new life for yourself without your ex, feel comfortable being on your own and put yourself in the best position to be in a healthy, secure and loving relationship with someone else in the future. 

Learn cutting edge conscious relationship tips from an Award-Winning Conscious Relationship Coach and former Family Lawyer to support you with this phase of the romantic relationship cycle.  

You're not alone!

Apply for my Conscious Relationship Coaching Program here: www.leticiaringe.com/crcp

Podcast show notes at: www.leticiaringe.com/podcast


CLB 283: How to Get Over Your Ex & Move On (and The True Love Experience!)

We will all need help sometimes when it comes to our love life and romantic relationships.  Whether you're single, dating, in a relationship, deciding whether to leave a relationship or uncoupling right now - you can use Conscious Relationship work to help you. 

So, what exactly is Conscious Relationship work? And how can it help you?

In today's episode, I'm breaking down:

1) Exactly what Conscious Relationship work is;
2) How it can support you wherever you are in the love life right now;
3) Why it matters; 
4) How to know it's something you need; and 
5) How I can help you to do this work in my Conscious Relationship Coaching Program.

I also break down how Conscious Relationship work supports you with untangling insecure attachment styles and common protective patterns that get in the way of creating and experiencing the love, connection, sex & intimacy you desire. Enjoy! 

Apply for my Conscious Relationship Coaching Program today at: www.leticiaringe.com/crcp

Podcast show notes at: www.leticiaringe.com/podcast


CLB 286: The Conscious Relationship Coaching Program & What Conscious Relationship Work Involves

Welcome and welcome back to the Not Carrie Bradshaw podcast, where your host Jessica discusses style, pop culture, and wellness.

This week, Jessica is giving a cursory course on bandage dresses, updates on the new job, defining success on your own terms, and the anxiety of dipping a toe back into the dating pool.

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Getting Tested

A raw, confessional cinematic pop ballad unpacking the ache of attachment wounds. “Anxiously Attached” feels like reading a page from a private journal — with stripped-back lo-fi drums, haunting ambient pads, and breathy, vulnerable male vocals that crack open the truth about chasing love that pulls away.

Cleo wrote this song as an honest mirror — to hold space for the parts of us that still beg for a reply, that chase the silence just to feel seen. It’s about naming the spiral, tracing it back to the first fear, and slowly learning how to stay soft when old stories scream run.

From late-night texts to childhood echoes, this song explores why we overlove, apologize too much, and keep calling it “match” when we’re really just trying not to be left alone.
It’s gentle but gritty — made for anyone learning to sit in the messy middle and feel a little less alone in it.


Anxiously Attached

Are you exhausted from trying to make everything happen? From kicking down doors and forcing your way into opportunities that never quite pan out?

Stop. Just stop.

You think you're being proactive, but you're actually running from yourself. Every time you force something—a relationship, a job, a business opportunity—you're telling the universe you don't trust it to deliver. You're saying you're not enough as you are.

In this episode, Tracy explores:
* Why forcing comes from not believing in yourself
* How attachment keeps you stuck in patterns of scarcity and desperation
* The difference between taking action and forcing outcomes
* Why avoidants struggle to value what they already have
* How to break the cycle of work hard → fail → repeat

"When you force, you're never emotionally available. I was forcing because I thought that would open a door that would bring what was missing, but it never did." ~ Tracy Crossley


#819: Are You Still Forcing Sh** to Happen?

You know what we all do? We look at people through the filter of what we want them to be. Your parents. Your kids. Your partner. Even yourself.

We're so busy projecting our expectations, our fears, our own experiences onto everyone else that we never actually see them. And here's the kicker—they can't see you either. Not really. Not if you can't see yourself.

This isn't about getting people to understand you. It's about getting curious—about them, about yourself—without the agenda of trying to fix or control the outcome. 

In this episode, Tracy explores:
* Why learning who someone is matters more than trying to change them
* How your judgment of others is really about your own fear
* The difference between seeing someone and wanting validation from them
* Why shame keeps you separate even when you're in a relationship
* What it means to feel your feelings without running from the anxiety

"We judge others out of fear." ~ Tracy Crossley


#823: What If...

What if the way you love, fight, avoid, or people-please wasn’t a personality flaw—but a survival blueprint?

In this episode, I sit down with trauma-informed therapist Laura Fess, founder of VOX Mental Health, for a powerful conversation about what really happens to our nervous system when we grow up in survival mode—and how those early patterns shape our adult relationships, attachment styles, and mental health.

We explore:
• How survival mode wires the brain for hypervigilance
• What anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment really look like in adulthood
• The neuroscience behind healing, storytelling, and post-traumatic growth
• Why unlearning old patterns isn’t failure—it’s neuroplasticity
• The quiet, resilient power of hope—and how to let it drive

I also share a journal entry from when I was 15, written during a pivotal turning point in my family’s story. It’s conflicted and searching, filled with the kind of quiet hope that surfaces when you're desperate for change but not sure it will come.

It’s vulnerable, reflective, and the perfect opening to this layered conversation about pain, healing, and how we can slowly carve new paths—machete in hand—toward something different.

If your story includes trauma, survival mode, or the long journey of trying to feel safe again, this one is for you.

🔗 Connect with VOX Mental Health:
• Instagram
• LinkedIn
• Facebook

Host/Producer/Writer/Director: Jenn St John

Editor: Andrew Schiller
Website: www.jennstjohn.ca
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LinkedIn: Jenn St John

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Subscribe, leave a review, or just send a little love—your support helps these conversations reach the people who need them most.

Blueprint

This track explains a strategy for getting through moments of nervous system dysregulation caused (in this case) by a spike in anxious attachment. The levels of nervous system dysregulation I discuss, happen to humans when they feel threatened in some way. The different responses are fight, flight, freeze and fawn. Fight and flight are hyper arousal and freeze (and perhaps fawn) are hypo arousal. 

This voice note is simply describing a strategy that works for me when I find that I am distressed due to the absence of a loved one (anxious attachment). I hope that if you find the time to listen to it, that you might get something out of it too!

If you ever do this yourself, you can listen back to your note whenever you need to!

Self talk - anxious attachment strategy

Welcome to the brokeMans Podcast where the journey is real and spoken about. Where community shares that journey to show everyone they are not alone in this life. Penny for your thoughts lets talk about it.

Cleo Antaeus is an independent songwriter, singer, and producer based in Honolulu, Hawaiʻi, whose music drifts between cinematic pop, soulful indie, bossa nova flips, and raw, sync-ready confessions that feel like secrets whispered at 2 a.m.

In just seven months, Cleo has written over 160 original songs, each one shaped by their poetic storytelling and fearless experimentation. Since April alone, their self-released tracks have pulled in 25,000+ organic streams worldwide, with multiple songs crossing 1K–2K+ plays on SoundCloud — proof that Cleo’s garden is alive and echoing.

At the heart of this work are Cleo’s alter artists, Nova Rue and Sunni — soulful, cinematic branches of their voice that bring each story to life in new shades and textures.

Cleo’s songs are 100% original, self-owned, fully cleared, and crafted for TV, film, and brand syncs — perfect for supervisors, artists, and listeners seeking music with real depth and a timeless global soul.

Good songs rise — and so do I.

Genres: Cinematic Pop, Indie Folk, Neo-Soul, R&B, Bossa Nova, Alt-Pop
Based: Honolulu, Hawaiʻi
Sync/Publishing/Collabs: cleonytus@gmail.com

Hi, I’m Jenn, and I’m passionate about transforming the conversation around mental health through creativity, connection, and advocacy. Nearly 50 years of life have taught me that we all carry shadows—stories that shape who we are and how we show up in the world. My story began with the challenges of growing up with a parent battling undiagnosed mental illness, an experience that deeply influenced my resilience, empathy, and innovative spirit.

To say that I LoVe muSiC is a bit of an UNDERstatement. I live and breathe the stuff. It is my anaesthetic, my passion, my love.

Create a Life that is Beautiful is a personal development & coaching podcast with Award-Winning Coach Leticia Ringe supporting you to create the life, business & relationships you want! 

Relate Higher™️ is a series on the podcast, dedicated to providing the leading standard for conscious relationships: whether that be your romantic partnerships, friendships, family or your professional relationships. As well as support for all phases of the relationship cycle from deciding whether to leave a relationship, completing a relationship (including divorce, separation & break ups), healing a broken heart, dating & attracting new relationships, starting a new relationship and improving an existing relationship.  

Hit subscribe & get ready to create the life, business and relationship you want! Show notes & more at: https://www.leticiaringe.com/podcast

A lot of us live in our head, disconnected from our feelings and intuition. This podcast touches on releasing insecure attachment, accepting your authentic self and getting “unstuck” by connecting to how you FEEL instead of how you THINK. I’ve been there, and discuss sensitive subjects using my own experiences with a lot of laughs and even more empathy… because we’re all flawed humans.

The Not Carrie Bradshaw Podcast is hosted by Brooklyn-based (Atlanta native) Content Creator Jessica Wilkins. In each episode, Jessica dives into all the style, wellness, and pop culture topics she’s been DM’ing and texting with her friends about. From fashion tips to feminism to all things Black and beautiful, Jessica is your new fun bestie who has something to say about everything.

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