You keep ignoring your gut to please everyone else. Reacting to what others want instead of tuning into what YOU need. Sound familiar? When was the last time you actually checked in with yourself before jumping through hoops to meet someone else's expectations?
We're taught to react to others, to do "the right thing" according to everyone but ourselves. Your worth becomes tied to how well you anticipate and please the people around you. Meanwhile, your true feelings get buried deeper with each fake smile, each time you say "yes" when you mean "no."

In this episode, Tracy explores:
* Why we abandon our feelings to meet others' expectations
* How "doing the right thing" disconnects you from yourself
* The myth of mind-reading in relationships
* Three ways you dismiss your feelings daily
* Recognizing when you're reacting vs. honoring yourself

"As long as you don't give a f*** about your feelings, nobody else will. You teach people how to treat you." ~  Tracy Crossley


#808: Nobody Cares About Your Feelings

Tired of the endless cycle of self-help promises that never deliver? You consume podcast after podcast, read book after book, seeking that magic formula for perfection. But here's the truth nobody wants to tell you: you're chasing a fantasy.

The "fake Candyland bullshit goal" is what's making you feel like crap about yourself. One day you're on top of the world, the next you're spiraling. What changed? You're still you. Stop waiting for external validation to feel okay. You already have everything you need inside you—you just don't know how to access it yet.

In this episode, Tracy explores:
* Why seeking validation instead of actual help keeps you stuck
* How victimhood and living in your head sabotage real growth
* The difference between knowing something and actually living it
* Why beating yourself up over past "mistakes" never brings peace
* How to stop giving your power away to the "wishing and hoping farm"

"The reality is if someone broke up with you, they broke up with you for their own reasons. That's how it works. If I have a problem with somebody, it's because of me and how I look at something." ~ Tracy Crossley


#813: No BS Podcast

Are you fun? Do you have a spark in your eye or are you just a sad sack?

You put on your dating face. Your interview face. You're all excited and lighthearted at first. Then what the fuck happens? You turn serious. You start complaining. You focus on what's not happening instead of asking yourself - does this actually work for me?

If your happiness depends on external circumstances, you are screwed.
In this episode, Tracy explores:
* Why we go from fun to fucking serious when expectations aren't met
* How much you complain about the person or job (that's your clue)
* What happens when you lose your sense of humor
* Why everything doesn't have to be your way
* How to stop sacrificing your wellbeing for stories in your head

"You have a choice. You do. Stop giving up your happiness in favor of trying to change someone else or feeling stuck in a prison you made." ~ Tracy Crossley

#815: Find Your Spark; Get The Love You Want! (REBROADCAST)

A lot of us live in our head, disconnected from our feelings and intuition. This podcast touches on releasing insecure attachment, accepting your authentic self and getting “unstuck” by connecting to how you FEEL instead of how you THINK. I’ve been there, and discuss sensitive subjects using my own experiences with a lot of laughs and even more empathy… because we’re all flawed humans.

New tracks tagged #attachment patterns