I used to feel this is it–”this is as good as it gets,”  feeling empty and unfulfilled in my relationships. Even bored at times [when not feeling anxious]. Do you find yourself constantly trying to be the happiness fairy?, Only to end up feeling lifeless and disconnected? Let’s look at the hidden causes behind these patterns and how to be your own happiness fairy. 

Pay attention to the silent energy drains you allow in your life. It’s not your circumstances, it’s all in your assumptions. They keep you stuck, believing it’ll never change (whatever it is you want to change). Tune in to get some tools to help you set your wings free so you can fly!
In this episode, you'll learn:

How attachment styles shape people-pleasing behaviors.
*Ways people-pleasing sucks you dry.
*Why assumptions destroy everything.
*Tiny steps to set boundaries and build self-love.

"You want to feel full. You want to be filled up. You want to feel a sense of personal power. So it means you're going to get uncomfortable." ~ Tracy Crossley




#782: Help Me Fill the Emptiness Inside

Relationship in crisis? Here is the first in a 4-part series on changing your relationship from dumpster fire to a real partnership. Sometimes you get the idea that you need to be everything to your partner as a way to save the relationship. All it does is feed into pain and disconnection.

Whether you’re married, living together, or in a long-term commitment, this series can give you a direction that makes a difference.

You might have lost yourself, but let’s get you back to have a relationship rooted in love, respect, and authenticity.

Key Takeaways from this episode:
*Why being your partner’s “everything” is a relationship killer.
* The role fear and external validation play in damaging connection.
* Move from fear-driven to love-driven behaviors for a real bond.

"You want to have a remarkable relationship? You need to value what's inside of you. That will be a game changer with every single person." ~ Tracy Crossley

💔 What Marriage? Change It Before It’s Too Late
Are you on the brink of divorce, separation, or choosing to live alone? I can help you and your estranged mate. Want love, happiness and confidence in this relationship? Whether it brings you together or peace in letting go, don’t wait. I've helped several couples to bring what was missing home.  Don’t wait until it’s too late—schedule a FREE consultation with me today.

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#788: How to Stop Killing Your Relationship

Do you blame your partner for everything—or do they blame you? 
Either way, the blame game is not helping. Join Tracy as she explores the toxic cycles of blame, insecure avoidance, and intellectualizing feelings that keep you trapped in crisis. 

You’ll uncover why blame creates distance, blocks intimacy, and leaves you feeling anxious. If you’re ready to have uplevel, tune in!

🎙️ What you'll learn in this episode:
* What are healthy and unhealthy blame cycles?
* Identifying emotional triggers.
* What is the cornerstone of deeper intimacy?
* Stopping patterns of ruminating to connect authentically.

"Blame doesn't solve anything, no matter where it's going, even if you blame yourself." ~ Tracy Crossley

#790: You Always Blame Me: It’s Your Fault, Not Mine

Something's missing in your life. You feel it. You know it.

But you keep telling yourself everything's fine.

That gnawing emptiness? The one you try to fill with advice from friends about your dating life or career choices? It's not going away until you face what's really happening.

You're trapped in patterns YOU created.

In this raw conversation, Tracy digs into why you keep hitting the same walls in relationships and life. It's not about getting more advice—it's about finally seeing the truth about yourself.

In this episode, Tracy explores:

* Why your emotions keep you stuck in destructive patterns
* How self-deception blocks authentic connections
* The uncomfortable work of real self-awareness
* Breaking through fear to build genuine relationships
* Using soul plan readings to uncover your true purpose

"Your patterns aren't happening TO you. They're happening THROUGH you." ~ Tracy Crossley

#805: My life is good, but something is missing (REBROADCAST)

Ever notice how you contort yourself to fit what someone else wants? When you play small, hide parts of yourself, or pretend to be something you're not just to have a relationship?
You can't have happiness when you're living a half-life. Subservience to an ideal—whether it's a relationship, a lifestyle, or some fantasy version of yourself—is just another prison you've built.
Ready to stop contorting yourself into someone else's idea of perfect? This episode will help you recognize where you're sacrificing your authenticity and how to reclaim the real you.

In this episode, Tracy explores:
* Why suppressing your authentic self guarantees relationship failure
* How avoidants develop "imposter syndrome" in relationships
* The exhausting pattern of hiding who you are to please others

"No one who wants to suppress you and you wanting to suppress you makes nobody happy. Remember that. Happy people don't need another person to make them happy."


#807: Don't Be A Gumby

You keep ignoring your gut to please everyone else. Reacting to what others want instead of tuning into what YOU need. Sound familiar? When was the last time you actually checked in with yourself before jumping through hoops to meet someone else's expectations?
We're taught to react to others, to do "the right thing" according to everyone but ourselves. Your worth becomes tied to how well you anticipate and please the people around you. Meanwhile, your true feelings get buried deeper with each fake smile, each time you say "yes" when you mean "no."

In this episode, Tracy explores:
* Why we abandon our feelings to meet others' expectations
* How "doing the right thing" disconnects you from yourself
* The myth of mind-reading in relationships
* Three ways you dismiss your feelings daily
* Recognizing when you're reacting vs. honoring yourself

"As long as you don't give a f*** about your feelings, nobody else will. You teach people how to treat you." ~  Tracy Crossley


#808: Nobody Cares About Your Feelings

Tired of the endless cycle of self-help promises that never deliver? You consume podcast after podcast, read book after book, seeking that magic formula for perfection. But here's the truth nobody wants to tell you: you're chasing a fantasy.

The "fake Candyland bullshit goal" is what's making you feel like crap about yourself. One day you're on top of the world, the next you're spiraling. What changed? You're still you. Stop waiting for external validation to feel okay. You already have everything you need inside you—you just don't know how to access it yet.

In this episode, Tracy explores:
* Why seeking validation instead of actual help keeps you stuck
* How victimhood and living in your head sabotage real growth
* The difference between knowing something and actually living it
* Why beating yourself up over past "mistakes" never brings peace
* How to stop giving your power away to the "wishing and hoping farm"

"The reality is if someone broke up with you, they broke up with you for their own reasons. That's how it works. If I have a problem with somebody, it's because of me and how I look at something." ~ Tracy Crossley


#813: No BS Podcast

You know what we all do? We look at people through the filter of what we want them to be. Your parents. Your kids. Your partner. Even yourself.

We're so busy projecting our expectations, our fears, our own experiences onto everyone else that we never actually see them. And here's the kicker—they can't see you either. Not really. Not if you can't see yourself.

This isn't about getting people to understand you. It's about getting curious—about them, about yourself—without the agenda of trying to fix or control the outcome. 

In this episode, Tracy explores:
* Why learning who someone is matters more than trying to change them
* How your judgment of others is really about your own fear
* The difference between seeing someone and wanting validation from them
* Why shame keeps you separate even when you're in a relationship
* What it means to feel your feelings without running from the anxiety

"We judge others out of fear." ~ Tracy Crossley


#823: What If...

A lot of us live in our head, disconnected from our feelings and intuition. This podcast touches on releasing insecure attachment, accepting your authentic self and getting “unstuck” by connecting to how you FEEL instead of how you THINK. I’ve been there, and discuss sensitive subjects using my own experiences with a lot of laughs and even more empathy… because we’re all flawed humans.

New tracks tagged #authentic relationships