5 Reasons For BPD Lying That Destroys Relationships - Is There Biology To BPD Lying?

5 reasons (Root Causes) that explains why people with BPD lie. People with Borderline Personality - BPD - lie pervasively and often for so many reasons. BPD lying destroys relationships because you can't trust someone who lies so often about so much. There is no room for you to maintain your sanity if you keep giving them some benefit of the doubt or think they just can't help it. Is BPD Lying grounded in and "Biology of BPD?"

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5 Reasons Why Borderlines Lie - Is There Biology To BPD Lying

BPD Idealization Devaluation Cycles - "Get-Away Closer" BPD Push/Pull

BPD idealization is not as real as BPD devaluation. Both result from the core relational impairment of 
the Approach Avoidance Conflict in BPD - It's the push-pull "get-away closer" that cannot and will 
not ever change until and unless each person with BPD has 8-16 years of successful treatment.

Without that treatment Borderlines have no hope of learning object constancy and object permanence. Borderline Approach/Avoid (push/pull) is the absence of object constancy. This relational deficit in people with BPD is at the very core of what makes relating to them impossible and oh, so, painful that you can lose yourself in the process.

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BPD Idealization Devaluation Cycles "Get-Away Closer" BPD Push/Pull

Borderline and Codependent Dance of Impossible Connection 

Borderline and Codependent dance of impossible connection comes together from the wounded childhoods (to varying degrees) of both. People with BPD cannot connect from a lack of self. People with Codependency have learned to try to please and over-give to others to connect. It is the woundedness of each that creates the betrayal bonds - that is not just a one-way street like so many with Codependency believe.

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Borderline and Codependent Dance of Impossible Connection

BPD Idealization to Devaluation To Rumination &amp; Ruination Get Off The BPD Rollercoaster

BPD idealization is the beginning of the intense fast-paced relationship and it is also 
unconsciously for both the Borderline and the person dating or in love with this person, 
the start of the ending of all you believe you have found and can continue to build on. 

People in these relationships with (untreated) Borderlines go from idealization, shockingly, 
to devaluation on to be ghosted, discarded, or you breakup with the Borderline and then 
rumination is overwhelming and if not treated people with Codependency are the brink of 
emotional and/or physical, and sometimes also, financial ruination. You need to get off the BPD rollercoaster before you really can't recognize or know yourself emotionally at all anymore.

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BPD Idealization to Devaluation To Rumination & Ruination - Get Off The BPD Rollercoaster

BPD Silent Treatment vs BPD Ghosting

A commenter on my Youtube channel asked if BPD silent treatment is the same as BPD ghosting or 
similar or are they different. Great question. For some people your person with (most often quiet) 
BPD may well have silent treatment patterns and this is the best way you can ascertain the difference 
between the silent treatment and BPD ghosting. I also talk about the internal differences in what's 
happening for the Quiet Borderline.

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BPD Silent Treatment vs BPD Ghosting

Why Don't Borderlines Just Get It?

Why don't borderlines just get it, how to have their own boundaries and understand their feelings even with iniial therapy can't they just get it? Are you falesly hopingwomeone in your life with untreated BPD just get it? What is it that you might not be getting? What do you still need to get? That you still need to undersand about BPD and your relationship recycling?

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