Overcoming the fear of others disapproval is a universal struggle for those who base their identity on what others think of them. When we act like this, we give others power over us. We’re nothing more than puppets on a string, always managed by the fickle approval of others. The Bible calls this the fear of man, but you might recognize it better as peer pressure, codependency, or insecurity.

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Day 26 – LIving Boldly: Controlled By the Opinions of Others

Ever notice how you contort yourself to fit what someone else wants? When you play small, hide parts of yourself, or pretend to be something you're not just to have a relationship?
You can't have happiness when you're living a half-life. Subservience to an ideal—whether it's a relationship, a lifestyle, or some fantasy version of yourself—is just another prison you've built.
Ready to stop contorting yourself into someone else's idea of perfect? This episode will help you recognize where you're sacrificing your authenticity and how to reclaim the real you.

In this episode, Tracy explores:
* Why suppressing your authentic self guarantees relationship failure
* How avoidants develop "imposter syndrome" in relationships
* The exhausting pattern of hiding who you are to please others

"No one who wants to suppress you and you wanting to suppress you makes nobody happy. Remember that. Happy people don't need another person to make them happy."


#807: Don't Be A Gumby

Dr. Reedy discusses what to do when you are the only one in your circle doing their therapy work. He talks about how therapy changes us and how we can get stuck in trying to change the people around us..

What if I am the only one doing the work? - Ep 667

Caught in a cycle of blaming others for how you feel? You might think self-acceptance comes from others accepting you first. Wrong. That approach builds walls, creates resentment, and slowly kills your relationships.

Codependency, anyone? Giving the remote control to your emotions to someone else NEVER leads to self acceptance. 

In this episode, Tracy explores:
* Why you feel resentment rather than acceptance
* What is a trigger that leads you to a world of hurt?
* How to actually accept yourself.

"Where there is judgment, love is not happening in those moments ~ Love of yourself or the other person." ~ Tracy Crossley


#809: Self-Acceptance Is Not What You Think

Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on attachment, parenting, and relationships. He talks about how a parent’s self-acceptance, which leads to self-awareness, is the key to your children's healthy development. He explains that self-compassion is the key to greater awareness and consciousness. And he talks about how boundaries and skills are really the evidence or signposts that reveal where we are on our journey. He emphatically points out that the goal in therapy is not to be so good we are beyond reproach, but rather the outcome of therapy is learning to love and see our "horrible, rotten, human, fallible, lovable, selves."

Being the Villain in Your Child’s Story (AMA) - Ep 668

Which Type of Therapy (Individual, Couple, or Family) is Right for Me? - Ep 679

My Child’s Resentment About Treatment - Ep 680

Everyone focuses on the addict’s recovery — the detox, the rehab, the meetings. But what about you?
The truth is, families are often left carrying the weight of addiction alone — drowning in fear, resentment, sleepless nights, and second-guessing every decision.
In this episode, we uncover the missing piece no one talks about: family recovery. You’ll learn why your healing isn’t optional, it’s essential — not just for your well-being, but for your loved one’s chances at lasting change.

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Episode 108: The Missing Piece in Addiction Recovery No One Talks About

Dr. Reedy discusses how we can understand our experience through using what therapists refer to as “parts work.” From the Ancient Greeks to the present, people have used stories, characters, and archetypes to better understand and work with the different energies that motivate human behavior. These methods, including the most recent iteration, Internal Family Systems, offer a non-shaming perspective where we learn to be in dialogue with ourselves and our parts rather than trying to suppress aspects of the self.

Parts Work - Ep 683

Dr. Reedy explores various therapy approaches and how they view symptoms. He explains that symptoms are messengers from the unconscious, the inner-child, and authentic self. We learn to be in dialogue with our symptoms. We can learn to listen rather suppress. As Marcus Aurelius says, “What stands in the way is the way.” Or as Rumi wrote, “The cure for the pain is in the pain.”

Symptoms and the Authentic Self - Ep 684

Rick launched the Life Over Coffee global training network in 2008 to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. His primary responsibilities are resource creation and leadership development, which he does through speaking, writing, podcasting, and educating.

In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and, in 1991, a BS in Education. In 1993, he received his ordination into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master's University. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).

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Finding You Therapy Programs is an experientially based therapeutic program serving individuals, parents, couples, and families.  Email the host drbradreedy@gmail.com

A lot of us live in our head, disconnected from our feelings and intuition. This podcast touches on releasing insecure attachment, accepting your authentic self and getting “unstuck” by connecting to how you FEEL instead of how you THINK. I’ve been there, and discuss sensitive subjects using my own experiences with a lot of laughs and even more empathy… because we’re all flawed humans.

Danny Deaton, a Family Addiction Recovery expert, and his wife Emily offer a raw, honest, and deeply personal perspective on addiction, marriage, faith, and family life. Drawing from their own journeys through teenage pregnancy, adoption, drug addiction, and incarceration, they bring an authentic voice to these challenging topics. Together, they founded Living Proof Recovery Service, a program dedicated to supporting families affected by addiction, and The Living Proof Family Foundation, a nonprofit focused on providing crucial support and education to those struggling with addiction. They’ve built these organizations from the ground up, all while raising their three children together, which they consider their greatest success. This dynamic couple welcomes you into their world, sharing the highs, lows, and everything in between with open hearts and unwavering transparency. Tune in for a conversation that feels like family, where you’ll find hope, strength, and authenticity in every episode.
 
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