True freedom is only found when the singular opinion that governs your mind and conscience is the Lord’s. When His evaluation is the only one that holds sway in your heart, you are walking in the highest form of liberty. This posture before the Lord is how Jesus lived. Others did not manipulate him, nor was He governed by their approval or disapproval. No person could coerce Him, intimidate Him, or manage Him because His sole reference point was the will and perspective of His Father.

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A Practical Plan to Break Free from Being Controlled by Others

Gotta Love Me’ is a track about empowerment and self-love, recognizing the toxic patterns that come with codependency, and choosing to break free. It’s a reminder to prioritize yourself, leave behind toxic relationships, and avoid the self-sabotage that comes with relying on others for validation. This is your anthem for growth, healing, and realizing your own worth.

gotta love me

Leave It Behind, from Michael's 2017 release Unspoken.
CD's available at www.michaelcutting.com
Digital Download available at CD Baby and iTunes

Leave It Behind

Emotionally-healthy, emotionally codependent, and emotionally abusive people read and therefore apply Scripture in very distinct ways. Matthew 22:39, where Jesus says the second great commandment is “You shall love our neighbor as yourself,” is a fantastic litmus test for which of these three ways you relate.  

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: 

Article | Emotional Abuse: Definitions, Signs, Symptoms, Examples by Natasha Tracy 
https://www.healthyplace.com/abuse/emotional-psychological-abuse/emotional-abuse-definitions-signs-symptoms-examples#ref
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Podcast | Toxic Relationships Untangled with Wendy Carr. Episode 23 - The Communal Narcissist: Master Manipulator Cunningly Disguised as the Good Guy. 
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep23-communal-narcissist-master-manipulator-cunningly/id1446507808?i=1000449170798
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Book | Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, To Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
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Workbook | Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, To Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
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Dr. Darlye Élise Innocent, MSW, Ph.D. is a social scientist and holistic wellness educator + speaker who has been teaching on relationships, health, and spirituality from a refreshingly holistic perspective for nearly a decade.
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WEBSITE: http://darlyeelise.com

The Distinction Between Emotionally-Healthy, Emotionally Codependent, & Emotionally Abusive Relating

Healthy relationships are not built on fantasy, they are also not built on the hard work of trying to get your partner to change. You’re attached to a fantasy version of your partner, but you need to stop waiting for their behavior to change. The only thing that can change in this situation is you. You have the power to break out of this prison of attachment.

In the meantime, look at what you say yes to while you wait (hope) for things to change. Perhaps, the person you’re dating cancels plans consistently, offering a laundry list of half-hearted excuses. Maybe they disappear for days or even weeks at a time, giving you nothing but radio silence. You start thinking that you did something wrong. Are you not good enough? You say things to them to get them to own up or change, but nothing does change. You have a fantasy—can’t they see it too? In this episode, you’ll learn how to see and accept your reality and change, so that someday you will not settle for less than you deserve.

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Journey of Attachment: Escape the Prison of Attachment and Leave Your Breadcrumb Relationship Behind

Codependency can feel like an addiction. You surrender your own feelings to make another person happy, using them as a way to fulfill needs you should be fulfilling yourself. Maybe you can't even remember a time when a relationship didn’t feel like work. You're always sacrificing your own happiness to make someone else happy.

But how did you get to this place? How does someone become codependent?

Unfortunately, codependency is often a seed planted in childhood. It grows alongside you as you develop your identity and the way you communicate. In today’s podcast, learn how the relationships you observed as a child influenced your adult relationships, and learn how you can use this knowledge to break free of your codependent behavior.

If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: http://bit.ly/2ExXCLJ

Journey Of Attachment: How Does Someone Become Codependent?

Chelsea Joy, The Dean Kriel & Deirdre Stephenson
Are our lives actually like a scene from The Notebook?

In this months episode the barnacles unpack various attachment styles. Are our lives actually like a scene from The Notebook???

Joined by a fellow codie and queen of memes, Deirdre Stephenson, who shares a bit of her very own #barnacleliving story with us.

Give our guest a IG follow @stephensondeirdre for your daily dose of inspiration!

Life as a Barnacle S01E02 "Attachment, Not So Styling"

Your life isn't a fairytale, who’s is? For some of us we have this sneaky little habit. It’s called looking for problems, all the time and you probably don’t even know it! Perhaps, you're someone who looks for problems as a distraction. If you were to look at your life objectively, do you really have any major problems? I get it if you do, absolutely! Sometimes things happen that are to be dealt with and you have no choice. But I am talking about where you do have a choice, where if you were to focus on the good in your life you would realize there is not a real problem. And that is where you want to have awareness, the awareness of how you create problems with impossible solutions to keep you from looking inside and figuring out what's really going on.

With everything happening in the world right now that's out of your control, you might be feeling like a victim of circumstances. You might wake up every day afraid and anxious, watching the news, social media, anything that can feed right into how you feel these reactive feelings. Often though there is no looking beneath the reactions you feel, instead it’s an avoidance of what is really going on inside. It is how you avoid what triggers you or why you feel out of control on the inside, so it just keeps you in a cycle of repetition. Looking at the same reactions every day and calling that the problem rather than digging deeper to see what is really going on!

In today's podcast, I'll show you that your life isn't really a mess, but a distraction. You'll learn to grow up and live your life without fear weighing you down.

Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST.

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#484 Journey Of Attachment: My Life is a Mess. No, It's Not.

Lisa had to make the difficult decision of ending her marriage when she realized she was conditioning her kids to be dysfunctional just as her parents had programmed her. It killed her inside to see the effect of what she was doing in her children. Her therapist told her it would take everything she had to change it, but she knew she had to do it. After an ugly divorce, her personal trainer clients started to express their interest in her coaching them. She built her website and started writing about what she had learned and people responded! She eventually wrote her book ''The Road Back to Me'" and it became an Amazon bestseller. After that, the flood gates opened, she wrote more books and became a certified life coach. She now helps people to get out of the patterns they run and stop begin codependent.

Here's what we talked about:
-How Lisa found out she wasn't crazy but codependent
-Getting into the wrong relationships because the new potential partner looks good on paper
-People-pleasing as a result of feeling unworthy
-Self-care being deemed as selfish by the people in your life
-A marriage not surviving if both people don't grow together
-Going from victimhood to empowerment
-Codependency and the patterns we run over and over again
-Understanding where you come from is the only way to change where you're going
-Attachment vs. codependency

Here's more about Lisa:
Lisa A. Romano is a Certified Life Coach, bestselling author, and YouTube Vlogger specializing in codependency and narcissistic abuse recovery. Lisa is also one of the most listened to meditation teachers on Insight Timer and her podcast, Breakdown to Breakthrough ranks in the top 100 of the mental health category.

Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST.

Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

#485 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Lisa A. Romano

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of yo-yo relationships, emotional commitment, and codependency.

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Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST.

Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

#550 How Do I Get Out of a Yo-Yo Relationship?

A collection of songs that never made the cut, but still tell the story. Raw, unpolished, and real—this is where the unreleased tracks live.

Rick launched the Life Over Coffee global training network in 2008 to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. His primary responsibilities are resource creation and leadership development, which he does through speaking, writing, podcasting, and educating.

In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and, in 1991, a BS in Education. In 1993, he received his ordination into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master's University. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).

A lot of us live in our head, disconnected from our feelings and intuition. This podcast touches on releasing insecure attachment, accepting your authentic self and getting “unstuck” by connecting to how you FEEL instead of how you THINK. I’ve been there, and discuss sensitive subjects using my own experiences with a lot of laughs and even more empathy… because we’re all flawed humans.

Dr. Darlye Élise Innocent, MSW, Ph.D. is a social scientist and holistic wellness educator + speaker who shares refreshing and approachable perspectives on relationships, health, and spirituality — in 7-minute nuggets or less.

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