This episode discusses the challenges of self-love and acceptance, emphasizing the importance of treating oneself kindly. 

We'll explore the common struggle everyone has with stress, pressure, and societal expectations, which often lead to self-loathing and coping mechanisms like overworking, substance abuse, and people-pleasing.

True self-love involves reducing stress, being kind to oneself, and recognizing your achievements, searching for a balanced approach, free from the extremes of high pressure or complete apathy, looking for self-compassion and realistic expectations.

Practical solutions include reframing thoughts, focusing on controllable aspects, and fostering genuine connections.

[#251] How to Stop Being Hard on Yourself

In this AMA, I answer the following questions about confidence:

What's the best way - strategies, methods - to really get to know myself and like myself?

How can people stop defining themselves - their actions, life view etc. - by the Nice Guy Syndrome ?

Any suggestions and advice for a work confrontation with a colleague who tries to control me?

How to push through with Radical Honesty without backing down when they're resistant?

[#252] Ask Dan Anything! Your Confidence Building Questions Answered

Dan Munro outlines his Philosophy of Integrity in full for the first time.

This philosophy emphasizes individual self-discovery and the absence of rigid rules. Integrity is defined as consistency and honesty, while confidence is described as a deep-seated belief in oneself. The philosophy posits that increasing integrity leads to greater confidence and a better life.

Munro identifies core values as subjective principles guiding your behavior in a way that will improve your confidence and the lives of those around you, such as honesty, courage, and responsibility. He stresses the importance of aligning your everyday actions with your values, continuous adaptation of your values, and the rejection of instant gratification for long-term benefits.

Munro also highlights the influence of various philosophers and thinkers on this philosophy.

At the end, you will get a step by step practical guide for living by with integrity:

Action Items
[ ] Identify your core values.
[ ] Create a guiding principle or definition for each value.
[ ] Test and measure how well you are living by your values, and refine them as needed.
[ ] Treat each day as an opportunity to experiment with living more by your values.
[ ] Use the 3x model of curiosity, honesty, and respect to continuously enhance your wisdom about living with integrity.

[#253] The Philosophy of Integrity: Finding the Meaning of Life Through Confidence Building

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Ask Dan Anything:

In this session, we focused on Nice Guy Recovery questions, including:

When to stop identifying as a Nice Guy and realise you’ve moved on from that label.

How to stop ruminating over your ex and move on with your life.

How to get unstuck from always needing others to guide you, and learn to decide for yourself the right way forward.

How to deal with the uncomfortable situation of having to keep seeing someone who hurt you in the past, and how to navigate past the awkwardness and potential manipulation.

Dealing with the difficulty of losing friends while you develop yourself and outgrow them.

[#254] The Brutal Truth About Personal Growth (Nobody Talks About This)

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In this episode, we discuss manipulation, defining it as controlling or influencing someone, which can be neutral or malicious depending on intent and outcome.

Manipulation is constant and subjective, occurring when someone changes behavior in response to emotional discomfort. It's vital to start recognizing manipulation by its impact on quality of life and engage in strategies like maintaining original plans, questioning intentions, and being assertive.

We'll look at the importance of endurance and making manipulation uncomfortable for the manipulator.

[#255] On Manipulation: How People Influence and Control You

Emotional pain is unavoidable—but how you handle it determines your confidence, resilience, and overall well-being. Most “Nice Guys” have been taught to suppress their emotions, thinking that sadness, anger, or anxiety make them weak. But real strength comes from facing these feelings head-on without letting them control you.

In this video, I break down how to stop fearing emotional pain and start using it as a tool for personal growth. You’ll learn:

Why suppressing emotions creates suffering (and how to stop)
A simple technique to process feelings without overthinking them
How to turn emotions like anger, sadness, and fear into productive action
Why labeling emotions can make them worse—and what to do instead
By the end, you’ll have a clear roadmap for handling emotional pain in a way that builds confidence and self-respect, rather than keeping you stuck in Nice Guy habits.

💬 What’s the hardest emotion for you to deal with? Drop a comment below—I read every one and would love to hear your thoughts!

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[#256] How to Handle Emotional Pain Like a Man (Without Suppressing It)

Ever catch yourself feeling jealous of confident, successful men? You see them taking risks, speaking their minds, and getting what they want—while you feel stuck, hesitant, and full of self-doubt. That feeling of envy isn’t just frustration; it’s a clue. It’s showing you exactly where you’re holding yourself back.

In this video, we’ll break down:
✅ What envy really means (and why it’s not as bad as you think)
✅ The biggest lie envy tells you—and how it keeps you stuck
✅ The difference between admiration, inspiration, and envy
✅ How to flip envy into motivation instead of self-pity
✅ 3 powerful questions to challenge your envy and take action

The truth is, the men you admire aren’t special. They’ve just taken steps you haven’t—yet. And today, you’re going to learn how to start taking those steps yourself.

💬 Comment below: What’s one thing you’ve envied in another man, and how are you going to take action on it? Let’s break free from the envy trap together. 👇🔥

[#258] How to Stop Feeling Envious of Confident Men (And Become One)

If you constantly feel anxious at work, overloaded with tasks, or stuck in a cycle of people-pleasing—this video is for you. Many Nice Guys struggle with setting boundaries, both in the workplace and with family. The result? They get walked all over, burned out, and feel like they’re never good enough.

In this episode, we break down:
✔️ The real reason your boss keeps piling work on you (and why you can’t say no)
✔️ Why people-pleasing makes you less respected, not more
✔️ How manipulative or critical parents keep you stuck in self-doubt
✔️ Practical strategies to set boundaries and regain control of your life

The hard truth? If you don’t change your approach, people will keep taking advantage of you—because they can. But once you start prioritizing yourself, everything shifts. You’ll gain respect, reduce stress, and finally start living life on your own terms.

💬 QUESTION FOR YOU: Where do you struggle the most—at work or with family? Drop a comment below and let’s talk about it!

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 Stop waiting—start your transformation today!

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[#259] Why Your Boss and Family Don’t Respect You (And How to Fix It)

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In this powerful episode of the Brojo podcast, Dan Munro sits down with Kijuan Amey, a U.S. Air Force veteran whose life took a dramatic turn on May 5, 2017. At just 25 years old, Kijuan was thriving—building a career he loved, starting a business, and chasing his dream of becoming a pilot. But one tragic motorcycle accident changed everything, leaving him blind and with life-altering injuries.

Rather than giving in to despair, Kijuan chose a different path: resilience.

In this candid and inspiring conversation, he opens up about waking from a coma, discovering the truth about his condition, and facing the emotional and physical toll of starting over. From rock climbing and downhill skiing to public speaking and writing a book, Kijuan proves that limits are often self-imposed—and meant to be broken.

His message is clear: don’t focus on what you’ve lost—focus on what you can still do, and do it with everything you’ve got.

👉 Kijuan’s story will challenge your excuses and light a fire under your goals.

Drop a comment below:
What’s one challenge you’ve been avoiding that you now feel ready to face after hearing this? Let’s talk about it. 👇

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It’s time to step up and build real confidence, integrity, and assertiveness. Join The Integrity Army, a private men’s community designed to help you break free from Nice Guy Syndrome and become the confident man you’re meant to be.

 Get FREE access to my Nice Guy Recovery & Confidence Building courses when you join.
 Connect with like-minded men leveling up in life, relationships, and business.
 Stop waiting—start your transformation today!

 Join now
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[#260] Blind, Broken & Still Stronger Than You: The Kijuan Amey Story

Why do so many "nice guys" struggle with confidence, boundaries, and resentment? Because they’ve been taught that anger is dangerous, shameful, or weak — and they’ve been suppressing it for years.

In this episode, I break down why repressing anger doesn’t make you a better man — it makes you resentful, anxious, depressed, and, eventually… explosive. You’ll learn how repressed anger creates passive-aggressive behavior, self-loathing, and even destructive outbursts. More importantly, I’ll show you how to express anger healthily — without hurting people, and without losing control.

Anger isn’t the problem. It’s power. It’s fuel. It’s the emotional fire that helps you stand up for yourself, set boundaries, and live with courage. And if you’ve been people-pleasing your whole life, learning to express anger is one of the most powerful transformations you’ll ever experience.

⚠️ If you feel like you’re stuck, emotionally numb, or constantly walking on eggshells, this episode will give you a way out.

👉 Let me know in the comments: How has anger shown up in your life — and what happens when you try to express it? Let's talk.

[#262] Why Repressing Anger Is Ruining Your Life (Especially If You’re a Nice Guy)

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