Hey Joy Seekers — welcome back to Find the Joy with Jenn. I’m so glad you’re here. Today, we’re unpacking something that will shape every relationship you have — not just in your marriage or divorce, but in parenting, friendships, work, and any relationship you’ll ever build in the future.

It’s the energy you bring: are you showing up to serve or to strive to get?

This is part of your healing journey through divorce — learning how to grow better, not bitter. Because how you show up now will echo into every relationship you build later.

And before we dive in, let me say this: if you recognize yourself in the “get” side of things, you will have absolutely no judgment from me. I want you to hear that. There is no shame in noticing where you are. The natural human tendency is to ask, “What do I get out of this?” That’s normal. We all start there. But I’m here to show you how to take that natural instinct and grow beyond it — how to step into the best version of yourself through service.

If you’re walking through divorce — whether you’re still deciding, in the middle of the legal and emotional process, or already living life after — this message will help you grow better, not bitter. Because how you show up in relationships during this season shapes the kind of relationships you will build in the future.

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192. Serving vs. Striving: The Energy Shift That Heals After Divorce

Hey Joy Seekers — welcome back to Find the Joy with Jenn! I’m so glad you’re here with me today. Every week, I get to sit down with you and talk about how to find joy, peace, and healing — especially in life’s hardest moments.

Today’s episode is one that has been on my heart for a while, and honestly, I think it’s one of the most important topics we can talk about when we’re going through divorce, heartbreak, or any major life challenge.

We’re going to talk about the difference between learned helplessness and learned hopefulness.

Here’s the big idea: if we can “learn” helplessness — which many of us have without even realizing it — then we can also learn hopefulness. And when we’re facing something as difficult as divorce, that’s not just a good idea… It’s survival.

So stick with me, because by the end of this episode, I want you to walk away with three practical ways you can start retraining your mind for hope instead of helplessness.

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193. From Helplessness to Hopefulness- Choosing Joy in the Hardest Seasons

Hey friends, it’s Jenn—welcome back to Find the Joy with Jenn. 💛

In today’s episode, I’m sharing a special replay from my very first Divorce Hotline Live Q&A. This is where I answer real questions from men and women walking through the challenges of divorce—questions about healing, co-parenting, faith, dating, confidence, and everything in between.

If you’re new here, the Divorce Hotline is my way of giving you a little Jenn Juice—that dose of hope, encouragement, and direction you need to keep moving forward. My goal is to help you partner with God in your healing and find joy again, no matter where you are in the process.

Let’s jump into a few of the powerful questions we discussed live…

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• Thank you so much for listening to this episode! I’m honored and excited to be on this journey to healing and personal growth with you. If you enjoyed the podcast, I’d love to ask you to take 2 minutes to leave me a 5-star review on your podcast app; that way, we can help even more men and women find joy in their divorce journeys. You can win a $100 AMAZON GIFT when you do! Just send a screenshot of your review to jenn@jennzingmark.com. Make sure you put "Podcast Review" in the subject line. XO-  Jenn


194. Divorce Hotline #1 - Finding Hope and Healing When Everything Has Changed

Hey Joy Seekers — welcome back to Find the Joy with Jenn! I’m so glad you’re here with me today. Every week, I get to sit down with you and talk about how to find joy, peace, and healing — especially in life’s hardest moments.
Have you ever felt completely brought low — like life stripped away everything familiar? In this episode, Jenn shares what she learned from Doctrine and Covenants 112:3 about being abased, and how the Lord uses those humbling seasons to refine and rebuild us.
 If you’re walking through divorce or heartbreak, this episode will remind you: being abased isn’t punishment — it’s preparation for something greater.
🎧 Listen to hear:
The true meaning of “abased” in scripture
What the refining process looks like after divorce
How God’s grace lifts us when we feel broken

Keywords:
LDS divorce, healing after divorce, Doctrine and Covenants 112, refining process, faith after heartbreak, Christian divorce healing, humility and grace

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Sign up for a FREE Reclaim Your Joy Strategy Session — a private, faith-filled space to explore where you are, clarify where you want to go, and leave with a practical tool to help you move forward with confidence and joy.
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• Thank you so much for listening to this episode! I’m honored and excited to be on this journey to healing and personal growth with you. If you enjoyed the podcast, I’d love to ask you to take 2 minutes to leave me a 5-star review on your podcast app; that way, we can help even more men and women find joy in their divorce journeys. You can win a $100 AMAZON GIFT when you do! Just send a screenshot of your review to jenn@jennzingmark.com. Make sure you put "Podcast Review" in the subject line. XO-  Jenn


195. How God Uses Hard Seasons to Refine and Heal Us

Desire, Divinity, and Finding Joy After Divorce (Part 1) – with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

In this first half of my powerful two-part conversation with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, we dive into the connection between desire, divinity, and emotional honesty—and how these principles can help you heal and grow after divorce.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, author of That We Might Have Joy: Desire, Divinity & Intimate Love, and host of the Room for Two podcast. Her wisdom and clarity are life-changing for anyone navigating heartbreak, faith, or rebuilding self-worth.

You’ll learn how to:
💛 Reconnect with your true self after divorce
💛 Understand the divine purpose of desire
💛 Release shame around love, intimacy, and spirituality
💛 Begin finding joy through truth, courage, and growth

This conversation is honest, faith-filled, and full of light.
Be sure to tune in next week for Part Two, where we’ll go even deeper into desire, healing, and finding joy in the refining process.

✨ Order Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s new book: That We Might Have Joy: Desire, Divinity & Intimate Love HERE:https://www.finlayson-fife.com/book

•Connect with Dr. Finlayson-Fife using the following links: https://www.finlayson-fife.com/

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Sign up for a FREE Reclaim Your Joy Strategy Session — a private, faith-filled space to explore where you are, clarify where you want to go, and leave with a practical tool to help you move forward with confidence and joy.
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• Thank you so much for listening to this episode! I’m honored and excited to be on this journey to healing and personal growth with you. If you enjoyed the podcast, I’d love to ask you to take 2 minutes to leave me a 5-star review on your podcast app; that way, we can help even more men and women find joy in their divorce journeys. You can win a $100 AMAZON GIFT when you do! Just send a screenshot of your review to jenn@jennzingmark.com. Make sure you put "Podcast Review" in the subject line. XO-  Jenn

196. Desire, Divinity, and Finding Joy After Divorce — with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife- Part 1

We’re back for Part 2 of my powerful conversation with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, LDS relationship and sexuality coach, author of That We Might Have Joy: Desire, Divinity & Intimate Love, and host of the Room for Two podcast.
In this episode, we go deeper into the themes of desire, faith, and emotional honesty — exploring how to find peace and purpose after divorce while deepening your relationship with God and yourself.
You’ll learn how to:
 🌿 Heal the relationship you have with yourself and with God
 🌿 Reclaim desire as a divine and sacred force for growth
 🌿 Move from guilt and shame into peace and self-compassion
 🌿 Discover how joy is born in truth, not perfection
Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s insights are both faith-affirming and deeply liberating — a reminder that God’s plan for you is never on pause, even after heartbreak.
If you haven’t listened to Part 1 yet, be sure to start there first — it sets the foundation for this incredible, hope-filled discussion.
✨ Listen now to Episode 197: “Desire, Divinity, and Finding Joy After Divorce (Part 2)”

✨ Order Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s new book: That We Might Have Joy: Desire, Divinity & Intimate Love HERE: https://www.finlayson-fife.com/book

•Connect with Dr. Finlayson-Fife using the following links: https://www.finlayson-fife.com/

• Join my exclusive Life Coaching and Divorce Mentoring Program, Faith Filled Divorce HERE: httpshttps:https://www.findthejoywithjenn.com/program-details

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• Thank you so much for listening to this episode! I’m honored and excited to be on this journey to healing and personal growth with you. If you enjoyed the podcast, I’d love to ask you to take 2 minutes to leave me a 5-star review on your podcast app; that way, we can help even more men and women find joy in their divorce journeys. You can win a $100 AMAZON GIFT when you do! Just send a screenshot of your review to jenn@jennzingmark.com. Make sure you put "Podcast Review" in the subject line. XO-  Jenn


197. Desire, Divinity, and Finding Joy After Divorce (Part 2) – with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Hey there, Joy Seeker! 💛 Welcome back to Find the Joy with Jenn — the space where we grow through what we’re going through and learn to see God’s fingerprints in every chapter of our lives.
Today we’re talking about something subtle but life-changing: the scripts you’ve been following — the ones you didn’t even realize were directing your thoughts, emotions, and choices.
•Join me for my next Divorce Hotline Live Q&A THIS WEEK, November 13th at 12:00 PM Mountain Time / 2:00 PM Eastern and get your divorce questions answered live! Register here: https://calendly.com/jennzingmark/the-divorce-hotline-with-jenn

• Black Friday came early this year — Every single course inside the Faith-Filled Divorce Course Library is 50% off through November 30th when you use the code JOY50 at checkout. Get yours here: https://www.findthejoywithjenn.com/courses

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• Thank you so much for listening to this episode! I’m honored and excited to be on this journey to healing and personal growth with you. If you enjoyed the podcast, I’d love to ask you to take 2 minutes to leave me a 5-star review on your podcast app; that way, we can help even more men and women find joy in their divorce journeys. You can win a $100 AMAZON GIFT when you do! Just send a screenshot of your review to jenn@jennzingmark.com. Make sure you put "Podcast Review" in the subject line. XO-  Jenn


198. The Hidden Script That’s Been Controlling Your Life (and How to Rewrite It with God)

Hey there, Joy Seeker — it’s Jenn, and welcome back to Find the Joy with Jenn!
This is my 200th podcast episode yall! 200 episodes- thank you for being here with me! I do this for you! I’d love to hear from you if this podcast has encouraged, helped, or supported you in some way. Please tell me! Share this episode on social media and tag me, or go to the bottom of your podcast APP right now and leave me a five-star rating and review! 
Today’s episode is a little different. We’re talking about three moments that define everything else that follows — the last ten pounds, the first thousand dollars, and the next six months of your divorce journey.
Each of these represents a critical threshold — a place where what you do next has a bigger impact than you realize.
So if you’re walking through divorce, rebuilding your life, or just trying to figure out what comes next… lean in. Because what you do in this next season will set the tone for your healing, your peace, your relationships, and even your family legacy for years to come.
• Black Friday came early this year — Every single course inside the Faith-Filled Divorce Course Library is 50% off through November 30th when you use the code JOY50 at checkout. Get yours here: https://www.findthejoywithjenn.com/courses

• Join my exclusive Life Coaching and Divorce Mentoring Program, Faith Filled Divorce, HERE: httpshttps:https://www.findthejoywithjenn.com/program-details

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• Thank you so much for listening to this episode! I’m honored and excited to be on this journey to healing and personal growth with you. If you enjoyed the podcast, I’d love to ask you to take 2 minutes to leave me a 5-star review on your podcast app; that way, we can help even more men and women find joy in their divorce journeys. You can win a $100 AMAZON GIFT when you do! Just send a screenshot of your review to jenn@jennzingmark.com. Make sure you put "Podcast Review" in the subject line. XO-  Jenn


200. The Last Ten Pounds, The First Thousand Dollars, and The Next Six Months

Hey friends, it’s Jenn — welcome back to Find the Joy with Jenn! 💛

Today’s episode is extra special because I’m sharing the replay from our second Divorce Hotline Live Q&A. If you’re new here, the Divorce Hotline is where I answer real, heartfelt questions from men and women walking through all the stages of divorce — from heartbreak and healing to co-parenting, rebuilding confidence, and learning how to trust and love again.

These conversations are raw, faith-filled, and full of practical guidance. My goal, as always, is to help you partner with God through your healing and find peace and purpose right where you are.

And of course, I’m here to give you some Jenn Juice — that dose of hope, encouragement, and direction to keep you going when the road feels heavy.

So grab a notebook, take a deep breath, and let’s jump into some of the powerful questions we talked through live during Divorce Hotline #2.”

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Sign up for a FREE Reclaim Your Joy Strategy Session — a private, faith-filled space to explore where you are, clarify where you want to go, and leave with a practical tool to help you move forward with confidence and joy.
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• Join my exclusive Life Coaching and Divorce Mentoring Program, Faith Filled Divorce, HERE: httpshttps:https://www.findthejoywithjenn.com/program-details

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• Thank you so much for listening to this episode! I’m honored and excited to be on this journey to healing and personal growth with you. If you enjoyed the podcast, I’d love to ask you to take 2 minutes to leave me a 5-star review on your podcast app; that way, we can help even more men and women find joy in their divorce journeys. You can win a $100 AMAZON GIFT when you do! Just send a screenshot of your review to jenn@jennzingmark.com. Make sure you put "Podcast Review" in the subject line. XO-  Jenn


199. Divorce Hotline Q&A - How to Let Go, Heal, and Trust God After Divorce

Hey there, Joy Seeker — it’s Jenn, and welcome back to Find the Joy with Jenn!
Regret is one of the biggest reasons people stay stuck after divorce — stuck in fear, stuck in indecision, stuck in shame, and stuck replaying the past instead of believing in the future. In today’s episode of Find the Joy with Jenn, I’m diving deep into how regret destroys your self-trust and how you can finally make peace with your past choices so you can move forward with confidence, courage, and faith.
You’ll hear the story of a client who carried years of regret over decisions he made during his marriage — regret that kept him frozen and afraid to make any new choices. But when he learned how to release the shame, view his past with compassion, and trust himself again, everything changed. His transformation is a powerful reminder that God can work with any decision we make when our hearts are willing to grow.
Inside this episode, we’ll explore:
• Why regret keeps you stuck in fear
• How self-judgment destroys your confidence
• A spiritual lens for understanding your past choices
• What God actually expects of you (hint: it’s NOT perfection)
• A step-by-step framework to release regret and rebuild self-trust
• How to move forward even when consequences are still unfolding
This episode is filled with hope, scripture, truth, and practical tools to help you stop using your past against yourself. If you’re ready to choose your future with clarity and courage, this episode is for you.
Keywords: LDS divorce, letting go of regret, healing after divorce, rebuilding self-trust, finding confidence again, faith-based divorce support, moving forward after regret, Latter-day Saint divorce, emotional healing, personal growth after divorce, LDS healing, divorce recovery tools, Christian divorce support, overcoming shame, choosing peace, trusting yourself again, Faith Filled Divorce coaching.
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• Thank you so much for listening to this episode! I’m honored and excited to be on this journey to healing and personal growth with you. If you enjoyed the podcast, I’d love to ask you to take 2 minutes to leave me a 5-star review on your podcast app; that way, we can help even more men and women find joy in their divorce journeys. You can win a $100 AMAZON GIFT when you do! Just send a screenshot of your review to jenn@jennzingmark.com. Make sure you put "Podcast Review" in the subject line. XO-  Jenn


201. Releasing Regret: Healing Your Relationship With Yourself

Hi there, I'm Jenn,

I am an experienced, certified professional Latter-day Saint life and divorce coach who mentors men and women in challenging times to find joy through faith-filled coaching. I can help you find the joy in your journey!

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