A Father's Pain" is a raw and hauntingly emotional song that delves into the despair and longing of a father estranged from his children. Through vivid imagery and powerful lyrics, it explores themes of love, sacrifice, and heartbreak, painting a portrait of a man fighting to hold onto hope amidst the crushing weight of abandonment. With a heavy, somber tone, this song resonates with anyone who has faced the agony of being forgotten by those they cherish most.

LYRICS:
(Verse 1)
I wanted to guide them, to help them grow,
To be the light they’d always know.
But I’m just a ghost in their fleeting days,
Shadows consume me as they fade away.

(Pre-Chorus)
Every laugh I’ve missed cuts deep inside,
Every tear unseen, I’ve swallowed my pride.

(Chorus)
I’m screaming in silence, I’m drowning in pain,
A father forgotten, left out in the rain.
I gave them my heart, my soul, my fight,
But the darkness whispers, “You’ll lose tonight.”

(Verse 2)
I’ve sold my life for every smile,
Every cent sent kept me alive for a while.
But love’s not enough when you’re locked outside,
Replaced and erased, with no place to hide.

(Pre-Chorus)
Their laughter haunts me in dreams I can’t keep,
Their faces fade in the void where I weep.

(Chorus)
I’m screaming in silence, 
I’m drowning in pain,A father forgotten, 
left out in the rain.I gave them my heart, my soul, my fight,
But the darkness whispers, “You’ll lose tonight.”

(Bridge)
If I fall, will they know I tried?
Will they remember the tears I cried?
The weight of love, it’s breaking my back,
And I’m slipping further into the black.

(Chorus)
I’m screaming in silence, I’m drowning in pain,
A father forgotten, left out in the rain.
I gave them my heart, my soul, my fight,
But the darkness whispers, “You’ll lose tonight.”

(Outro)
Every breath I take feels heavier now,
But I’ll hold on, though I don’t know how.
For every embrace I’ll never feel,
I’ll fight to prove my love was real.

(Chorus)
I’m screaming in silence, I’m drowning in pain,
A father forgotten, left out in the rain.
I gave them my heart, my soul, my fight,
But the darkness whispers, “You’ll lose tonight.”

A Father's Pain

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Arrangement: Ibrahim Merel.

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