Marriage is hard. That may not sound spiritual, but it’s certainly biblical. From the moment sin entered the garden, marriage has been both a battlefield and a blessing. And if you’ve ever tried to love someone as much as you love yourself, you know the cost. That’s why this book matters. In Marriage or Mayhem?, I oﬀer more than principles—I oﬀer a framework, a theology, and a map. With years of experience counseling couples in crisis and equipping churches to disciple well, I learned a few things about getting beneath the surface. I name the real problems—idolatry, self-centeredness, functional theology—and bring the only real solution: Christ at the center.

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Chapter 1: Marriage or Mayhem: Marriage Asunder

This lecture is a talk given at the 5th Saint Anselm conference, sponsored by the Institute for Saint Anselm Studies at Saint Anselm College in April 2014.

I discuss Anselm's views on marriage, conjugal love, sexual desire, activity, and pleasure.  Anselm lives and writes just before a flowering of monastic writing upon marriage and conjugal love, and has only fragmentary discussions of these topics, but his broader moral theory -- as we can find it not only in his treatises, but also in his Letters, Prayers, the De Similitudinibus, and the Dicta Anselmi -- actually has much to tell us about these subjects

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St. Anselm on Marriage, Conjugal Love, and Sexual Desire - Sadler's Lectures

What do you think needs to happen for you? What are you waiting on? We seek out so many avenues that supposedly lead us to happiness, thinking that “happy” is what we’re after. We believe the lie that situations, things, and the “perfect” life would make us happy. What we really need is to find Jesus—and a place of contentment in the life He has given us. This isn't to say that we settle or just accept whatever we’re given, but we need to find the purposes of God being fulfilled in our lives. With that, true contentment—an overwhelming happiness” may be closer than you think. 

Ep. 179 - I’d Be Happy If…..

The Church should be the most pro-marriage institution on earth.
Let's chat about a theologian that tried...and failed.... to get it to be that way.

What we read:
https://www.newadvent.org/summa/5064.htm
https://desertcatholic.substack.com/p/your-marriage-does-not-need-sex

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Sex&Marriage:  How Aquinas Failed to Fix Things

Singer/Songwriter Rowans Bryans, in his first album "The Ties That Bind". Each song an emotional journey into themes of family, devotion, love, and faith. We all come from somewhere, and there are always ties that can lead us back to where we came from.

The Ties That Bind

Missing You

May be complexities in relationships in married couple after over 20 yeras together

Beatport

Medipsy_-_What_Shall_We_Do_(radio_mix)

Medipsy_-_What_Shall_We_Do_(original)

'Chilling, atmospheric' Sunday Times

'Vivid and haunting' Emilia Hart

'Blisteringly brilliant' Anna Mazzola

Will she be damned by flame… or cursed by magic? 

 Innsbruck 1485

Helena should be doing what every other wealthy young wife is doing: keeping her husband’s house, bearing his children. But when their footman is found dead, Helena is accused of killing him. Worse, she is accused of being a witch.

Imprisoned with six other women, Helena is plunged into a world of terror. When a cursed witch totem is smuggled into the prison, the prisoners attempt to use it to escape only to unleash a malevolent spirit which places all their lives in danger.

Does Helena risk her life and the lives of others by standing up to the terrifying witchfinder and risk death at the stake if found guilty? Or is the real threat the world beyond this one…?

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Readers LOVE The Last Witch:

"A phenomenal read” ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

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"I must be in my witch phase, and this author has me hooked” ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

"Another cracker by C.J. Cooke. I loved this one from beginning to end, rarely putting it down” ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

The Last Witch, By C.J. Cooke, Read by Olivia Vinall

Peter Kay returns with his most entertaining autobiography yet!

The Collector’s Edition: The first hardback print run will feature an exclusive foiled board design. Order now to avoid missing out! 

 ‘Think of this autobiography as a twelve-month subscription to my memories and meanderings across the calendar year. With each month reflecting a different phase of my life, complete with dodgy decisions, bizarre plot twists and more than a few laugh-out-loud moments.’ 

Peter Kay is back – and funnier than ever – with his most heartfelt and hilarious autobiography yet. Take a whistlestop journey through his life, in a year. From hitting the gym in January, falling in love in February and a nostalgic trip to Ireland at Easter, to buying his first house in May. Then it’s summer holidays at Butlins, a September wedding and, before you know it, he’s packing away the Halloween decorations and sipping a glass of Bailey’s in front of the Christmas telly.

With his trademark warmth and wit, Peter offers a unique take on the calendar year – in a way only he can – cementing his place as one of Britain’s best-loved comedians and a true national treasure.

Peter Kay’s Diary: The Monthly Memoir of a Boy from Bolton, By Peter Kay, Read by Peter Kay

Don’t miss the next captivating page-turner from Sunday Times bestseller Susan Lewis! 

 Book 3 in the Cristy Ward series

A dead husband. A missing wife. Will they find her in time?

Romy Kaplan has vanished from her home.

Or has she?

When Romy begins posting on her social media accounts asking everyone to stop looking for her, the police are certain she is safe. But Romy's nearest and dearest are far from convinced.

Her husband died in the bath under inconclusive circumstances six weeks ago. And Romy would never disappear without telling someone where she is going.

As true crime podcast host, Cristy Ward, picks up Romy's case… she has the whole world asking…

Where is Romy now?

Never Look Back, By Susan Lewis, Read by Kristin Atherton, Mark Meadows, Oliver Hembrough, Lucy Price-Lewis and Catrin Walker-Booth

Podcast #43  Working on Our Why

Many people think that divorce is the best solution to thier soured relationships. Is it really? If it was true love that made you to get married in the first place, that love cannot just die like that. So, the best option will be to "STAY MARRIED, NOT DIVORCED".

Mountains Must Move

01 Stay Married, Not Divorced

Sometimes, no matter how much you love someone, they can fall out of love with you. No matter how much you love them, they just don't feel the same way anymore... making reconciliation an uphill battle all the way. This song discusses that one-way street in a tender, hopeful way.

When Did You Know

This song is a poignant ballad about unwavering love and commitment in the face of illness, chronicling a couple's journey from diagnosis through treatment and into their later years, emphasizing themes of support, renewal of vows, and enduring companionship.

Our Thanksgiving Love

On Everything

We continued with our "Love Life" series with Pastor Doug teaching what it looks like to respond to conflict in a relationship.

How To Win A Fight (Pastor Doug)

Monday is when real life happens. The weekend's over and you're back to work, parenting together, trying to keep your marriage alive, and somehow making it all work. We get it - Mondays can feel overwhelming.
We're here to have real conversations about marriage and family. We'll talk about money, fighting, raising kids, intimacy, and all the stuff that doesn't feel "massively spiritual" but is actually really important.

If you've ever felt alone in your marriage or parenting journey, or if you're just trying to figure out how to do life God's way - you're in the right place.

New episodes every Monday - because that's when you need hope most.

What No One Told Us About Needing Space in Marriage

The Goal of Marriage

I'm Marlene. I and my man Mark have been married for many (41) years, and we want to share ways to make marriage more mmmm, mmmm, amazing! I am moving toward my graduate degree, teaching English in our community, and making time for our Grandchildren!

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Mercules is a software engineer by day, diving deep into code with unbridled enthusiasm. By night, he's a passionate music lover channeling his daily grind, inner thoughts, fears, bold attitudes, and unfiltered opinions into raw, introspective tracks. If you want to truly know Mercules? Hit play—his music tells the story words alone can't capture.

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I write songs for the haunted, the hopeful, and the ones who still ache. These aren’t tracks—they’re testimonies. If you’ve ever loved and lost, scroll no further.

Rooted in emotional clarity and cinematic depth, I create music not for the charts, but for the moments in between—when silence begs for understanding and melody carries the words we can’t quite say. Every track is written with intention, produced with nuance, and shaped by a relentless pursuit of honesty. No gimmicks, no templates—just songs built to resonate long after the final note.

From timeless orchestral movements to progressive rock textures, I don’t follow trends—I follows truth. And when the world gets loud with noise, my work leans into stillness, offering solace to anyone still listening with both ears and heart.

Welcome to the other side of music—the side that means something.

A marriage and family podcast hosted by Eric and Natalie Morris.

Country music artist. Husband and Father, Poet Lyricist, God and Family First.

Publishers of award-winning fiction and non-fiction audiobooks for adults and children. Listen to exclusive clips from our books and free audioook extracts here on Soundcloud.

Rick launched the Life Over Coffee global training network in 2008 to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. His primary responsibilities are resource creation and leadership development, which he does through speaking, writing, podcasting, and educating.

In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and, in 1991, a BS in Education. In 1993, he received his ordination into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master's University. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).

We are a community of hope welcoming people home.

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