tohellwitit

They told me dream it, scheme it, see it clear in your head
Build a vision board, paste gold on the edges of red
But every dream I ever had was stitched from yesterday
Old fears in a tuxedo, just dressed a better way
I tried to plan the miracle, predict the surprise
But you can’t draw a map to a place beyond your eyes
If all I know is all I know, then I’m locked in a room
Calling comfort “the future,” calling limits “truth”

So I loosened my grip on the steering wheel
Let the road decide what’s real

May my dreams not come true
May my hopes fall apart
If they’re only reflections
Of a frightened old heart
Take me further than plans
Further than what I can see
Give me something better
Than my dreams for me

They sell manifestation like a vending machine
Put in the right thought, get the life of your dreams
But imagination’s a cage when it’s built from the past
Just recycled desires wearing futures in masks
I don’t want what I want if it keeps me the same
Just rearranging furniture inside the pain
I’ve seen control dressed up like faith before
Knocking on heaven’s door with a shopping list for God

So I laid my blueprints in the firelight
Let the unknown rewrite my life

May my dreams not come true
May my hopes fall apart
If they’re only reflections
Of a frightened old heart
Take me further than plans
Further than what I can see
Give me something better
Than my dreams for me

I don’t know what I need
And that’s the freedom
I don’t know what’s best
And that’s the wisdom
When the mind steps back
Something deeper arrives
Not what I imagined
But something alive

Hands open, nothing to prove
I trust the current, I trust the move

May my dreams not come true
If they keep me confined
To the borders and fences
Of this small human mind
Take me out of the known
Out where mystery breathes
Give me something holy
That I never could conceive

Something better than my dreams
Something I couldn’t plan
I don’t need to manifest
When I’m held by the hand

Better Than My Dreams

Creating The Life You Haven't Lived Yet In the last FMQ, I talked about the idea that there’s a book inside you. In this episode, I take that idea further. Because here’s what I truly believe… You’re already writing your life. One page at a time. One day at a time. The question is — are you writing it consciously? In this episode I guide you through a creative visualisation process that helps you:   Step out of “life just happening”   Stop letting other people write your chapters   Feel your future before it physically exists   Align your unconscious mind with what you truly want   Take one small, powerful step forward   This isn’t about pretending the past didn’t happen. It’s about deciding what happens next. And you don’t have to be 100% ready. You just have to start.  What We Do Together In This Episode I guide you into a relaxed, curious state. You sit at a desk. There’s a book in front of you called: My Life, My Adventure. The past chapters are written. You acknowledge them. You thank them. And then… You begin writing the next chapter. Not perfectly. Not dramatically. Just intentionally. You float outside yourself. You see yourself writing. You feel support from the people who care about you. You see yourself through loving eyes. And then you ask one powerful question: What small step can I take now? Because the magic isn’t in dreaming. It’s in deciding.  What I Want You To Take From This   You are not stuck.   You are not finished.   You are not defined by previous chapters.   Responsibility is not blame — it’s power.   Your future starts now.   And remember… Even if you do nothing differently today — you’re still writing a page. So why not write it on purpose?  If This Resonates Subscribe. Share this with someone who needs it.  And take one small step. Have more fun than you can stand. Wallow in pleasure. Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from . And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism &nbsp; &nbsp; Hey, so welcome back. It's Longer Dive, creating the life you haven't, you haven't lived yet. &nbsp; And there's a few things that surround what I'm going to be talking about. It's like my intention and a few observations I've made about the subject. And looking as if you were looking down on this subject, my thoughts were, this starts now. &nbsp; It starts right now. And you don't have to be ready, by the way, you don't have to be ready. You just have to start now. &nbsp; And what I want to tell you is, you know, this is your choice. Of course, it's your choice. But you get the right to choose. &nbsp; And the thing is, I believe in you. I believe in you. I want to support you in this. &nbsp; Yeah, bit hammy, isn't it? But...

#475 Creating The Life You Haven't Lived Yet

HYPNOSIS Creating The Life You Haven't Lived - Yet I thought it would be nice to take the process from the longer podcast and remix it to a deeper and even more comfortable way to connect with your Unconscious mind and sow the seeds of what you dream of for you in the future. So please enjoy with my compliments And........ Let me know what you need now to ensure they happen bigger, better and quicker than you could imagine&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;:o) Get your unique link here:&nbsp;  Oh! You will also find a further 65+ more complimentary deep hypnosis tracks and NLP processes Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:   Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from . Music by  from . Music by  from . &nbsp; Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Here's A new Hypnosis track from #475.1 Creating The Life You Haven't Lived Yet

Empathy Sucks (Unless It's With Yourself) I said it. Empathy sucks. Now before you unsubscribe and send me a strongly worded email… hear me out. In this episode I’m diving deep into something that most people believe is a virtue — feeling other people’s pain. And yes, empathy can be beautiful. But if all you do is absorb the emotions of others, carry their struggles, and ignore your own… that’s not kindness. That’s self-neglect. Here’s what I explore in this episode:   Why absorbing other people’s pain drains your emotional energy   How empathy can become a way of avoiding your own feelings   Why suppressed emotions don’t disappear — they generalise   The difference between empathy and compassion (and why it matters)   How to process your own emotions so they stop running your life   Simple processes to turn emotional overwhelm into emotional strength   I truly believe this: If you deal with your stuff first, you help people better. When you stop hiding from your own emotions and learn from them instead, something shifts. You become grounded. Present. Powerful. And far more able to support others without drowning in their experience. This episode includes practical processes to:   Work with difficult emotions   Discover the positive intention behind them   Stop suppressing and start learning   Shift from emotional sponge to compassionate supporter   Because compassion sustains. Empathy without boundaries drains. And if you’re going to feel deeply… start by feeling for yourself.  This Episode Is For You If:   You feel emotionally drained by other people   You often absorb the moods of those around you   You struggle to process your own emotions   You consider yourself “an empath” but feel overwhelmed   You want stronger emotional resilience   You want to help others without losing yourself    A Simple Practice From This Episode Before helping someone else this week, ask yourself: “Am I grounded… or am I hiding?” Then sit with one emotion of your own. Ask:   What are you trying to teach me?   What are you protecting me from?   What can I learn from you?   Learn the lesson. And watch what shifts.  Share The Love If this episode resonated with you:   Subscribe   Share it with someone who gives too much of themselves    Leave a review   Let’s help more people become emotionally strong instead of emotionally overloaded. And as always… Have more fun than you can stand. Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from . And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey, welcome to the five minute quickie, the seed that I sow for a longer podcast. And hopefully you'll find if you, if you have an issue, by the way, if you have an issue and they're not,...

FMQ527 Empathy Sucks!

What's at Stake

Empathy - A Way That Works Without The Pain In the FMQ527 I said something that probably made you blink. Empathy sucks. And I meant it. Not because caring is wrong. Not because helping people is wrong. Not because being sensitive is wrong. But because absorbing other people’s pain is not helping them — and it’s definitely not helping you. In this deeper dive, I show you:   Why emotional dumping drains you   Why empathy often becomes a hiding strategy   The crucial difference between empathy and compassion   How to stay grounded when people offload on you   And how to become truly empathetic… with yourself   Because here’s the truth: If you feel everyone else’s pain, you’ll drown. If you stay grounded and compassionate, you can actually help. And the real work? It starts with self-empathy.  What We Explore 1️⃣ Why Empathy Can Be Harmful   Emotional dumping and energy drain   Why taking on others’ pain doesn’t serve them   How empathy can become a badge of honour   How it can also become unconscious avoidance of your own emotions    2️⃣ The Shift: Empathy ➜ Compassion Empathy = I feel your pain. Compassion = I recognise your pain — and I can support you without absorbing it. Compassion allows you to:   Stay grounded   Sustain your energy   Think clearly   Offer real support   Stay emotionally stable   It’s the difference between drowning with someone… or throwing them a rope.  3️⃣ Process One – Sitting With Your Emotion Instead of pushing emotions away:   Sit with the feeling   Acknowledge it   Ask:   What are you trying to do for me?   What are you protecting me from?   What are you trying to teach me?     Every emotion has a positive intention. When you learn the lesson — the emotion doesn’t need to shout anymore.  4️⃣ Process Two – Compassion Without Merging (Visualisation) I guide you through:   Grounding yourself   Breathing deliberately   Creating a subtle protective boundary   Supporting someone without absorbing their pain   You remain:   Present   Steady   Caring   Strong   And when you walk away? You’re still yourself.  5️⃣ Process Three – Deep Self-Empathy Installation This is the powerful one. You:   Place the emotion in front of you   Speak to it with curiosity   Thank it   Discover its intention   Ask what it needs   Create a better strategy for that intention   Future pace the change   You keep the intention. You release the pain. That’s self-empathy.  The Core Takeaway Before you help anyone else… Check in with yourself. Am I grounded? Am I breathing? Am I compassionate? Or am I merging and hiding? One emotion. One learning. Then it can let go. That’s how you help yourself. That’s how you genuinely help others. And that’s how empathy finally works.  Key Quotes From This Episode  “Empathy absorbs. Compassion supports.”   “Every emotion has a positive intention.”   “Learn the lesson — and the emotion doesn’t need to stay.”   “Help yourself first. Then you’re truly available to others.”   If This Resonated… Subscribe so you don’t miss the next FMQ seed and deeper dive. Share this with someone who:   Is emotionally drained   Always takes on other people’s pain   Or thinks empathy is the only way to care    and don't forget the video  Let’s move from drowning together… to lifting each other properly. Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to...

#476 Empathy - A Way That Works Without The Pain

Blaming the universe, but deep down knowing you chose this version of yourself

Saturn Made Me Do It

A quiet reflection on accountability, this song traces the weight of what was left undone—and the choice to begin again. Not with promises or perfection, but with one honest step at a time.

***** Lyrics *****

Verse 1
There’s a list I keep folded
Of the things I try to hide
Every name a debt I carry
From the times I let things slide

Chorus 1
I’m learning slowly
What I should’ve done
Can’t repair what’s gone
So I’ll start with one and
See it through till it’s done

Verse 2
Some won’t hear me if I try
Some doors closed without a sound
The weight of what I left there
Rests on me and compounds

Chorus 2
I’m learning slowly
What I should’ve done
Too late for me back then
So I’ll start with one,
And face what I did— not run

Verse 3
You were there, I kept my distance
Said I’d stay, then let you down—
Now your silence says it clearer
Than any words I never found—

Chorus 3
I’m learning slowly
What I should’ve done
I see it clearer now
So I’ll start with one
And finish as time allows

Verse 4
I am back, and I’ll stay this time
Listening as you tell your dreams
Facing all the things I missed
Not disappearing in between

Bridge
This won’t heal in just one moment
Things don’t come back the same
But I can stand here in the damage
And finally take my blame

Final Chorus
I’m learning slowly
What I can still do
No, I can’t erase the past
But I’ll start with one
And keep going till the last.

Outro
I am learning slowly
What I can still do
I’ll finish one amend
And see the next one through

My List

SHIFT OR SLIDE — 5 WAYS

This track breaks down a simple truth:
you’re either adjusting… or you’re getting left behind.

Five angles. Five perspectives. One message.

No forcing. No preaching. Just observation.

If it hits, it hits.

If it doesn’t… it wasn’t for you.

—

This is part of the EMERGE / EVOLVE transmission series.

Some sounds don’t entertain. They regulate.

Let it run. Let it work.

SHIFT OR SLIDE - 5 WAYS

Yahsinniuniversity.net

Yahsinni is the vessel. BOQ Energy is the current.

If you can feel this, you're already tuned in.

Her sound is forged from copper, breath, and rhythm — a fusion of fire and water, soul and science, earth and ether.

Every lyric carries intentional alchemy. Every note holds a healing vibration. Every beat reflects ancestral wisdom awakening in modern form.

“I don’t just sing — I conduct energy.”

Founder of SimplyStoned Sacred Adornments, Yahsinni creates wearable prayers — jewelry designed to harmonize energy flow — now expressed through sound as radiant, melanated frequencies.

Her music is ritual.
Her voice is an element.
Her aura is an instrument.

✨ Genre: Metaphysical Soul / Mystic R&B / Sound Alchemy
✨ Vibe: Radiant • Melanated • Breathing
✨ Mantra: “Where sacred metal meets living frequency.”

🎥 Watch the transmissions on YouTube — Yahsinni In Da House
👉 https://youtube.com/@yahsinniindahouse3591

“Step into the frequency. Stay as long as you vibrate.”
— BOQ Energy: The Copper Frequency Awakens ⚖️

Yahsinni University (YU) is her LLC-based learning platform — a living Study Hall and digital library where people stabilize, learn, and rebuild themselves through practical, teachable systems.

💜 Greetings to all of my dear Listeners. I have 4 new songs for you this week.,  Next week I will be releasing the three individual songs that comprised the Triune that released recently. The triune is found in my Spotlight area. Thank you for listening and being so supportive. I appreciate each and every one of you! God Bless you all. May you have blessed and meaningful Easter season.

Trying to leave this little old world and the people I meet in a better place then when I first met them.

Who am I and what do I do?………Paul Clough.

I now love helping making changes in people and guiding them to create the life they really want.
 
A personal look at me:
 
The above sentence was not always the case and being the best in the financial realms of the building industry was my aim and getting there by any means. I now know this is, and was, the worst way ~ even if I did make director of one of the largest building companies in Cambridge by the age of 30.
 
One of the major realisations came on my first ever training in hypnosis. I found that it’s not a win lose world and that a win win is only a low basis to live.
 
Being true to your beliefs and coming from a place of integrity where service is paramount. This understanding together with lots of NLP skills helped create my last partnership in the building industry grow from a turnover of £800k to £16m in less than twelve years and that can only be done with giving more than expected.
 
Another shaping of me came from two traumatic events in my life that happened within six months of each other which created a number of major changes in me and by beliefs in what is possible. I have written about my experience and how I dealt with it but more importantly it really showed me my love for my three boys and theirs for me and resulted in the step up to become a trainer of NLP (which I never intended) and my close and exciting work with two of my sons. In supporting Joseph and help create change in people in our training’s and his wonderful life changing ‘Be your potential weekend’ and with Luke the continuing development of Cambridge Hypnotherapy and Hypnosis processes. My relationship with my third son Daniel just keeps getting better and better too.
 
Not knowing how good I had become in change work in the beginning I generally studied, practiced and saw clients then things started to happen when I started to work following just my instincts. Two clients come to mind both in effect dying from the effects of what was happening to them and the way they felt and within one and two sessions respectively not only won the will to live they changed virtually in front of my eyes and being apart of that process was and is the best feeling alive.
 
The above are just three of many brilliant learnings I have had in my life.
The more formal bit

 
Paul Clough

I am a Trainer and Master Practitioner of NLP and Hypnosis and am passionate in assisting those who want to reach their full potential and his special skills form a unique foundation for success. I constantly seek and develope new skills and learning’s – through advanced levels of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Time Line Therapy ™, Hypnosis and to improve everyone I work with.

I have an understanding of the mind/body connection which enables me to create in my clients the difference that makes the difference ~ from excellence to outstanding.

For those that want qualifications:

Certified Trainer and Consultant of Neuro-Linguistic Programming

Certified Master Practitioner of NLP & Time Line Therapy

Certified Master Hypnotist and Hypnotherapist

Together with Luke and Joseph I have consistently strived and succeeded to create ways to improve peoples lives and give new beliefs of what’s possible. Our potential is without limits ~ infinite in every way.


Mum to two teens, tarot reader, pet lover based in UK

From the serene landscapes of his photography to the mystical depths of his music, Maz Mahjoobi is an artist whose work is a confluence of visual and auditory beauty. His music is a journey into the spiritual and mystical aspects of life and the pursuit of higher consciousness.

Maz's musical journey began in his teenage years, deeply inspired by the timeless melodies and profound lyrics of the Beatles. It was more than just music for him; it was a refuge, a means to cope with life's challenges and a channel to express his creative energy. This early love affair with music ignited a passion that led him to explore various genres, ranging from classical and world music to pop, rock, and jazz.

At university, Maz delved into widely differing musical styles, weaving them into a unique tapestry that reflects his diverse influences. His music is not confined to one genre but is a vibrant mix that resonates with the universality of human emotions. His compositions, deeply rooted in mystical and spiritual qualities, are a reflection of his journey towards understanding and expressing the higher aspects of existence.

Maz's work is not just about creating melodies but about spreading the energies of divine love. His songs are a testament to his belief in the power of music as a transformative force, one that can uplift, heal, and inspire. His humble approach to music, coupled with his rich and varied background, makes his work accessible and relatable to a wide audience.

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