Understanding Focus: The RAS Have you ever noticed that once you buy a new car, suddenly that model seems to be everywhere? Or you hear a new word and then it pops up all the time? That’s not magic – it’s your Reticular Activating System (RAS) at work. In this Five Minute Quickie, I’m breaking down the RAS in plain English. It’s the part of your brain that decides what to notice – and it’s powered by emotion. The good news? You can train it to look for opportunities, positivity, and success. The bad news? If you’re stuck in negative emotions, it will keep showing you reasons to stay stuck. So let’s flip the switch. Learn how to focus on what serves you rather than what drags you down. Because when you understand your RAS, you can use it to fuel your goals, dreams, and everyday happiness. &nbsp;And keep listening – in the next longer episode I’ll guide you through a process (with a bit of hypnosis) to help your unconscious mind focus deeply on what you truly want. You could start by focusing on sharing. Here is a link to this episode   Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from . &nbsp; And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism  &nbsp;  Have you ever noticed that when you buy something, say for example a car, or another way, you hear a word that you think, do you know what, that is a brilliant word. I love that word. &nbsp;  Or there's somebody you start, you hear and you go, oh, that's a, they're really, really, a really good person. So interesting. And then suddenly the whole world is full of that, those cars that you thought was so special. &nbsp;  That word that you thought was so interesting. That person seems to be everywhere. But where the bloody hell were they just a little while ago? You see, there's a thing called the reticulating activating system. &nbsp;  And I want to put that into plain English because it's a natural phenomena that we use, your body uses to notice things, focus on things. And the thing is, because you're in an emotional state, when you buy that car, you feel so good. You hear that word, oh, it's so interesting. &nbsp;  Or that person was so, so captivating. You're in an emotional state and your unconscious mind and your reticulating activating system, or some people just call it RAS, A-R-S, looks for it because you're in that emotional state, thinks it's good. But also here's the downside. &nbsp;  Here's the downside. If you're in a negative state, you're feeling down, feeling depressed. You're feeling, I don't know, fear of missing out, FOMO. &nbsp;  You've got that social anxiety. You know, you've got imposter syndrome, any, you feel in the bloody bank. I'll say that again. &nbsp;  And I'll even still swear again. You...

FMQ 514 Understanding Focus - the RAS

How to achieve your Dreams and Goals Want real results — not hype? In this episode of Personal Development Unplugged Paul Clough shows you how to move from wishful thinking to action that works. We dig into practical goal-setting, the feeling of the wish fulfilled, how to use your mind (RAS + visualization), and small, actionable steps that create momentum. Expect NLP-informed tips, a short guided hypnosis process to embed success in your unconscious, and direct coaching you can use today. Key takeaways   Define success specifically: the clearer the goal, the faster the result.   Use feeling of the wish fulfilled + physiology + inner dialogue to “act as if.”   Employ the Reticular Activating System—focus your mind and notice opportunities.   Build micro-steps (tiny wins) and schedule regular reviews to stay on track.   Align goals with your values — ensure they’re ecological (good for you, others, planet).   Quick practical guided hypnosis included — make this a daily habit.   Share with one person who needs permission to step up today. Have more fun than you can stand.  Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , &gt;, Music by  from , Music by  from , And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism &nbsp;   &nbsp;   Diving deeper into success A little while ago I did a 5 minute quickie Amuse, that smaller episode And that was called Spicing up Success And I said then, I promised I would do a longer or deeper dive Getting more specific And then do a process A little bit of hypnosis So you can put it into Into your unconscious mind Because When you get it in the unconscious mind You are doing it just right Really are So Question Have you ever heard Or seen this? Someone saying And it's generally on social media Oh, I'm living the dream And they write underneath the pictures You know, I'm living the dream Yeah, I'm doing all of this You know what? You're bloody not, you're not living the dream We know you're not living the dream You're fudging it, you're faking it Because It's all about Being honest True All that stuff, and when people are doing that On social media, they're not They're trying to pretend You know, and that doesn't do anything for anybody Does it? Doesn't do anything for anybody So, I don't want you to Say you're Oops, say you're living the dream I want you to Live the adventure The adventure of being successful Success, whatever that means to you It's got to be The feeling of success Because if you think about it It doesn't matter what you do If you have the feeling of success Man, you're being Bloody successful, aren't you? You're being successful, and that's all I want So, the thing about success is We need to define What you want So, what is Success to you? What is success to...

#463 How to achieve your dreams and goals

How To Consistently Do Your Best How often do you really do your best? Honestly? In this short 5-minute quickie, we dive into a simple but powerful way to consistently show up at your best — without pressure, without overthinking. It’s all about the magic of the pause. Just a few seconds between tasks can reset your focus, break negative carry-over from the last thing you did, and set the intention for doing your best on the next. You’ll learn:   Why your “best” should be your baseline, not an exception   How a 2-second pause can change the quality of your whole day   The role of feelings and intention in achieving your personal best   A quick reflection practice to avoid carrying stress from one task into another   It’s not about constant improvement. It’s about consistency. And when you do this, life feels better, easier, and more rewarding. Give it a try today — and share this with someone who could use a reminder to hit their best more often.    Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from . &nbsp; And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism  Hey, welcome back to the five minute quickie, Amuse. Amuse, just for five minutes. &nbsp;  On today, how can you, me, constantly do our best? Consistently do our best. Constantly, consistently, both the same. Got to do our best. &nbsp;  I was thinking about it. I was journaling about it. Because I looked back over yesterday and realized, yeah, I didn't quite do my best. &nbsp;  And it's not the, can I? Constant and never-ending improvement, which means doing better than your best. But it means just doing your best. Because we can't, or we could, we could always do 1% more. &nbsp;  But if nothing else, surely our best should be the bottom line, the minimum bar. We should be able to get above that. We certainly should hit it more times than enough. &nbsp;  And then when I was looking back, I looked back over yesterday, didn't quite do it. Didn't quite do it. Some things I did, and some things I didn't. &nbsp;  And I bet if you just looked over your day, say yesterday, did you do your best on everything you did? Bloody difficult, isn't it? It is bloody difficult. So what do we do? What do we do? It's how to think. How to think. &nbsp;  So I want to know how I can do my best through the day. Because the day is split up into little compartments, isn't it? Each one is a different thing. We're doing different things. &nbsp;  We've got different aims, different goals for each one. So how are we going to do it? How are we going to remember? Because I think we need something like a pattern interrupt. And what's one of those? Well, you interrupt the pattern. &nbsp;  And the pattern is, we just flow sometimes from one to the...

FMQ 515 How To Consistently Do Your Best

No Regrets - Just Do It -Here's How Have you ever caught yourself holding back, waiting for the “perfect” moment, and later felt that sting of regret? The truth is, regret weighs far more heavily than failure ever could. Failure teaches you something. Regret leaves you stuck, wondering “what if?” In this longer episode of Personal Development Unplugged, I take you deep into how to break free from hesitation, silence that self-doubt, and finally step forward with courage. This isn’t about recklessness — it’s about learning how to live boldly, make choices you’re proud of, and stop letting fear dictate your life. You’ll discover:   Why regret is heavier than failure (and how to free yourself from it)   Simple mindset shifts to move from hesitation to momentum   The one question that reframes fear and unlocks action   A step-by-step hypnosis process to help you just do it — so you don’t just think about change, you actually experience it   This is more than a conversation — it’s an opportunity to work with your unconscious mind, shift your patterns, and take meaningful action today. If you’ve ever said “I wish I had…” then this episode is for you. Share it with someone who needs that nudge forward, and don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode packed with practical tools, mindset shifts, and powerful processes.   Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from . And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism &nbsp;  So welcome back. Longer podcast, yeah? With me, Paul. &nbsp;  And no regrets. No regrets. Have you had regrets? I think we've all had regrets about not doing things. &nbsp;  Have you had this though? When you have this belief, I believe I'm not good enough. I don't belong here. I'm bloody stupid. &nbsp;  What else? Because I think we've all had those negative beliefs, or sometimes we call them limiting beliefs because they do bloody limit us, don't they? What other limiting, negative beliefs do you have? And if you want to really think about it, I know you do, think of things that you've wanted to do but you swerved them. You didn't take that step, you backed away. Think of one of those. &nbsp;  Don't do them all at once because you'll be overwhelmed. But just think of one thing that you wanted to do and you didn't do it. You swerved it, you made an excuse. &nbsp;  What did that feel like? And to get to that feeling, you know, remember that time just as you were making that decision. You were choosing not to do something. And see yourself there. &nbsp;  And just notice the voice in your head. What were you saying to yourself? You know, was it things like, ah, you're never going to make it. I shouldn't be here. &nbsp;  I don't...

#464 No Regrets - Just Do It -Here's How

Acting As If Without The Fake Welcome back to another Five Minute Quickie! You’ve probably heard the phrase “fake it till you make it”—but let’s be honest, it feels like a lie, doesn’t it? That’s because it is. When you try to copy someone else—how they walk, talk, or behave—you’re not acting as if, you’re acting as them. And deep down, you know it. You can’t fool yourself. So what’s the real power behind acting as if? It’s stepping into the version of you who has already achieved your goal. Not pretending, not faking—just allowing that future you to live in the present. That’s when you tap into the physiology and psychology of success. In this short FMQ, I’ll share why “acting as if” works, why faking never does, and how to make it real so you can accelerate your goals, your dreams, and your enjoyment of the journey. 🚀 Why not share it with a friend  Have thoughts or questions about this? Email me:&nbsp; Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from . And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism  &nbsp;  Welcome back to amusing, a five minute quick amusing. Acting as if, but acting as if without fake, because it sometimes feels a fake and I'm going to tell you why it feels a fake, and how to make it real, real. You see, acting as if is one of the most powerful, I mean it, the real most powerful ways of achieving your goals. &nbsp;  To achieve your goals, not only to achieve them, but to achieve them quicker, bigger, better, and enjoy them. Because there's one thing about getting what you want, it's enjoying the journey, enjoying the adventure. Becoming who you really are in that adventure, in the journey, not just the start and the end. &nbsp;  And if you want to get ahead of the others, get ahead of the game, be in that top percentile that achieves their goals, above and beyond, quicker than anybody else, then acting as if is a thing. And I'm going to tell you now why it feels fake. You see, if you try copying somebody, copying their mannerisms, the way they speak, the way they move, as a copy, it's not you. &nbsp;  It's them, and you're not bloody them. And it will feel fake, because you cannot fool yourself. You know, in effect, you're lying to yourself when you're trying to act that way. &nbsp;  Because it's like acting like them, not acting as if. It's copying, and you're not a copy. Yes, you can model people, modeling is a different thing, it's a different art, it's not copying. &nbsp;  Modeling is getting into someone's mind and noticing the strategies they use, and then using the strategy, not just a copy. And that's why it feels like fake, because you're lying to yourself. But the thing is, how do you act as if? Well, I'm going...

FMQ 516 Acting As If Without The Fake

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🌙 How to prepare for sleep like a baby (and why overstimulation keeps you awake)

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How Do I Get Results How often do you find yourself hearing the same advice again and again—through podcasts, books, conversations, or even a random TikTok—and thinking “I know this already…” but then quietly adding “…but I’m not doing it.” That’s exactly what this episode is about. I’ll share with you:   Why repetition matters (and why advice keeps showing up until you take action).   The real secret to results: showing up, doing the reps, and letting go of perfection.   How “practice makes permanent,” not perfect.   Why intention and consistency beat intensity every single time.   A simple way to choose one thing that could change everything in your life.   This isn’t about waiting for motivation. It’s about turning up, committing to the process, and making deposits in your “success bank.” Some days will feel great, others won’t—but both move you forward. At the end, I’ll even share how you can use my free hypnosis resources to build confidence, consistency, and unstoppable momentum. Listen in—then ask yourself: what’s the one thing you’ll commit to showing up for over the next 10 days? and share the hell out of this episode  👉 And if you’d like to go deeper, or if something’s blocking you (fear, doubt, past experiences), email me at  Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from . &nbsp; And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism  #465 How Do I Get Results  Hey, welcome back to a longer episode, but it's not going to be that long. It's not going to be that long because it's just going to be about a question to you. &nbsp;  A bit more than a question, and maybe an odd swear word. I let them slip occasionally. As you see, this is a longer podcast, where we're going to muse a little bit this time. &nbsp;  It's like a longer five minute quickie. Because the question I have for you is, do you ever experience this type of thing? Being reminded of the things that you either know about already, or reminded about the things you're not doing, or continue to hear that same advice that you're not taking. And it comes in different places, different forms. &nbsp;  And if you took that advice, if you did it, it would make a world of difference. And the type of things I'm thinking about is, you know, you could be listening to a podcast, and you hear something, and you go, well, I know that. But in brackets, and you don't say it to yourself too much, but I'm not doing it. &nbsp;  And then you listen to another podcast a little bit later on, a different one. And there's the same type of message. And then you might read a book. &nbsp;  And you go, damn, it's repeating. And then something else comes along. Or someone in conversation says...

#465 How Do I Get Results

How to Really Be Successful Ever heard people bang on about mindset — and thought, “Yeah, but what about the rest of me?” This Five-Minute Quickie goes beyond the buzzword. Because success isn’t just in your head — it’s in your body too. In this short but mighty episode, we explore:   Why mindset alone isn’t enough — and what “body-set” really means   How to align your physiology and psychology so your goals feel inevitable   Simple ways to tap into your “future you” — breathing, posture, tone, gestures — to unlock real, embodied confidence   Cloughie breaks it down in his trademark way: fun, grounded, and totally usable. When you bring your body and mind into alignment, you don’t have to fake success — you become it. Takeaway: Success is a feeling you live, not just an idea you think. Act, move, and breathe like you’ve already achieved it — because that’s how you’ll get there quicker, bigger, and better. Please share and see others grow too:  Oh! And there's a video of me recording this too  Got feedback, a question, or a win to share? Email:  Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from . And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism       &nbsp;          Hey, welcome to the five minute quickie where we're going to muse about something, muse about mindset. Muse against mindset because so many people talk about getting the right mindset, getting that super mindset. But what is the right mindset? And what about the body set? Body set, Paul? Yeah. &nbsp; You see, mind and body are connected, aren't they? And we're going to muse about this for the moment, just to give you an idea of where the mind and body have to come together. Because if you just have supposedly the right mindset and the body is not following, you've got a misalignment. You're not congruent. &nbsp; You'll even have, you know, some friction going on, some conflict going on. And we don't want conflict, do we? We want alignment. We want integrity. &nbsp; We want authenticity. We want every bloomin' word you can think of like that. So what am I thinking about? I'm thinking about goals, achieving your goals. &nbsp; And this is not goal setting. This is just thinking about, imagine this, imagine this. Imagine stepping into your goal. &nbsp; I'm not just noticing what it's like emotionally, because we talk about the feeling of the wish fulfilled, finding that feeling, feeling what it would be like in the goal, to have achieved the goal, the successful completion of the goal. But it's not just that, is it? I want you to know what it would be like physically, physically to have your goal. Because when you put the two together, you will be unstoppable. &nbsp; So if you were now just...

FMQ 517 How to Really Be Successful

How To Make Sure You Get What You Want Ever feel like you’re doing everything right toward your goals… and still somehow missing the mark? In this short and powerful 5-Minute Quickie, I'll get you thinking differently — about the real key to success. It’s not about doing more, it’s about choosing what really matters and owning it with absolute certainty. You’ll explore:   Why most people get overwhelmed and give up on their goals.   How to simplify your path by writing everything down and seeing it clearly.   A sneak peek into the longer, deeper episode to come — complete with a hypnosis process to make success feel inevitable.   This FMQ is your seed for something bigger — a simple mindset shift that can change everything. Start now: write down what you truly want, rate what’s most important, and get ready to make sure you actually get it. Listen now. Think deeply. Then be ready for the next one. And share with your friends:  And as always the video link  Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from . And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism  FMQ 518 How To Make Sure You Get What You Want  Okay, welcome back to the 5-Minute Quickie, the FMQ, or the Personal Development Unplugged podcast, with me, Paul. And today, on this episode, this shorter episode, it's all about getting what you want, and getting it more often, and even better than you want. &nbsp;  And this is, in effect, just for you to muse, to think a little bit, to get a little bit more curious, to begin to think of the things that you really want to have happen. Big goals, small goals, random. You could just list them out, all the different things you want, because I'm going to go through a process with you of making it easy. &nbsp;  But that's going to be on a deeper dive, a deeper dive with a longer episode, and probably there'll be a process contained in it, because I love my hypnosis, or NLP processes. So we'll find something that goes with it as well, so we make that longer podcast something of real, real benefit to you. But the thing is, how many have you, how, say another way, have you ever been on a goal-setting work, workshop, a goal-setting course, anything, online, in person? You see, I find so many people miss the mark on this, they miss the key, they miss the key of being able to get it, get your goal, because, and I'll tell you why, there's so much to do. &nbsp;  You forget how much in your life you have to do, you forget the overwhelming amount of steps along the way to achieve your goal. And when you do that, we tend to go, it's a bit like New Year's resolutions, we're just, they're just so much, so big. Sometimes we plod through them, sometimes we get to that plateau, and we...

FMQ 518 How To Make Sure You Get What You Want

Help Me Make a Difference Hey, it’s Paul here, and this episode is a little different. I want to ask for your help — because I really want to make a difference. For years I’ve been putting out two episodes a week — a Five-Minute Quickie and a longer one — and to be honest, it’s been tough to keep up. More than that, I’ve realised I want to go deeper. I want to spend more time on the stuff that really matters — the stuff that helps people change for good. So, from now on, I’ll be doing one episode a week. Sometimes it’ll be a short FMQ to plant a seed, and sometimes a longer one where we dive deep — with hypnosis, NLP, and all the good stuff that helps you change from the inside out. But here’s the thing… I can’t do it on my own. We all have our struggles, right? The things we keep bottled up because we don’t want to seem weak, or we don’t know who to talk to. I’ve seen too many people suffer in silence — and I don’t want that to happen anymore. So I’d love your help. Tell me what’s really going on for you — or maybe for someone you know. What’s the thing you or they are struggling with? And just as important — how would you like to feel instead? That’s where the real change begins. When you can imagine what it’s like to feel better, to feel free, confident, peaceful — then we can start making that happen together. Please share this message  You can email me (anonymously if you like) at  I’d be so grateful to hear from you. Let’s make this podcast something that doesn’t just help you — but helps others too. Let’s make it a real community of change. Thanks for being here, for listening, and for being part of this. Shine brightly, Paul  And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Help me make a difference Hi, how you doing? I don't think we ask that enough, do we? How are you doing? And mean it. Sometimes I think we have to ask at least three times to the same person. Really? How you doing? Really? How you doing? And what am I talking about? What am I talking about? Well, I'm going to change the format of the Personal Development Unplugged podcast. &nbsp; For the last years and years and years and years and years, I've been cracking out two podcasts a week, five minute quickie and a longer version. And it's taken its toll a little bit because I find it really difficult to fit it all in. And my mind is that there's important things to talk about where we need to go into depth, find processes that really make a difference, approach the difficult subjects. &nbsp; And I think to do that, I'm only going to do a weekly podcast. And one of those will be a seed, a five minute quickie still, but it'll be a seed for a longer podcast so I can get you to think. Think and get ready for something deeper. &nbsp; But the whole point is I want to help people. I want to help people more than I've been doing. And to do that, again, I say we've got to approach these subjects, which are a little bit not taboo, but maybe they're not spoken about quite so much. &nbsp; And I'm noticing it happening a bit more now. You know, guys opening up, being strong and saying they need help. Unfortunately, there's one or two that we've seen in the news that don't. &nbsp; Damn, we miss them. It's too big a shame and we need to do something about it. And that's just not guys. &nbsp; It's everyone. We all have our struggles. And sometimes these struggles can seem so much because they're all inside, aren't they? They're in our bloody head and we seem to think that we have to deal with them by ourselves because it's weak to tell anybody about it. &nbsp; Or find the right person. Or I can't afford to get the therapy I need. I can't even admit I need therapy. &nbsp; And that's no fucking good to anybody. So what I want to do is to get deeper into subjects. Take a little time to get things right. &nbsp; I...

Help Me Make A Difference

Trying to leave this little old world and the people I meet in a better place then when I first met them.

Who am I and what do I do?………Paul Clough.

I now love helping making changes in people and guiding them to create the life they really want.
 
A personal look at me:
 
The above sentence was not always the case and being the best in the financial realms of the building industry was my aim and getting there by any means. I now know this is, and was, the worst way ~ even if I did make director of one of the largest building companies in Cambridge by the age of 30.
 
One of the major realisations came on my first ever training in hypnosis. I found that it’s not a win lose world and that a win win is only a low basis to live.
 
Being true to your beliefs and coming from a place of integrity where service is paramount. This understanding together with lots of NLP skills helped create my last partnership in the building industry grow from a turnover of £800k to £16m in less than twelve years and that can only be done with giving more than expected.
 
Another shaping of me came from two traumatic events in my life that happened within six months of each other which created a number of major changes in me and by beliefs in what is possible. I have written about my experience and how I dealt with it but more importantly it really showed me my love for my three boys and theirs for me and resulted in the step up to become a trainer of NLP (which I never intended) and my close and exciting work with two of my sons. In supporting Joseph and help create change in people in our training’s and his wonderful life changing ‘Be your potential weekend’ and with Luke the continuing development of Cambridge Hypnotherapy and Hypnosis processes. My relationship with my third son Daniel just keeps getting better and better too.
 
Not knowing how good I had become in change work in the beginning I generally studied, practiced and saw clients then things started to happen when I started to work following just my instincts. Two clients come to mind both in effect dying from the effects of what was happening to them and the way they felt and within one and two sessions respectively not only won the will to live they changed virtually in front of my eyes and being apart of that process was and is the best feeling alive.
 
The above are just three of many brilliant learnings I have had in my life.
The more formal bit

 
Paul Clough

I am a Trainer and Master Practitioner of NLP and Hypnosis and am passionate in assisting those who want to reach their full potential and his special skills form a unique foundation for success. I constantly seek and develope new skills and learning’s – through advanced levels of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Time Line Therapy ™, Hypnosis and to improve everyone I work with.

I have an understanding of the mind/body connection which enables me to create in my clients the difference that makes the difference ~ from excellence to outstanding.

For those that want qualifications:

Certified Trainer and Consultant of Neuro-Linguistic Programming

Certified Master Practitioner of NLP & Time Line Therapy

Certified Master Hypnotist and Hypnotherapist

Together with Luke and Joseph I have consistently strived and succeeded to create ways to improve peoples lives and give new beliefs of what’s possible. Our potential is without limits ~ infinite in every way.


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