Acting As If Without The Fake Welcome back to another Five Minute Quickie! You’ve probably heard the phrase “fake it till you make it”—but let’s be honest, it feels like a lie, doesn’t it? That’s because it is. When you try to copy someone else—how they walk, talk, or behave—you’re not acting as if, you’re acting as them. And deep down, you know it. You can’t fool yourself. So what’s the real power behind acting as if? It’s stepping into the version of you who has already achieved your goal. Not pretending, not faking—just allowing that future you to live in the present. That’s when you tap into the physiology and psychology of success. In this short FMQ, I’ll share why “acting as if” works, why faking never does, and how to make it real so you can accelerate your goals, your dreams, and your enjoyment of the journey. 🚀 Why not share it with a friend  Have thoughts or questions about this? Email me:&nbsp; Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from . And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism  &nbsp;  Welcome back to amusing, a five minute quick amusing. Acting as if, but acting as if without fake, because it sometimes feels a fake and I'm going to tell you why it feels a fake, and how to make it real, real. You see, acting as if is one of the most powerful, I mean it, the real most powerful ways of achieving your goals. &nbsp;  To achieve your goals, not only to achieve them, but to achieve them quicker, bigger, better, and enjoy them. Because there's one thing about getting what you want, it's enjoying the journey, enjoying the adventure. Becoming who you really are in that adventure, in the journey, not just the start and the end. &nbsp;  And if you want to get ahead of the others, get ahead of the game, be in that top percentile that achieves their goals, above and beyond, quicker than anybody else, then acting as if is a thing. And I'm going to tell you now why it feels fake. You see, if you try copying somebody, copying their mannerisms, the way they speak, the way they move, as a copy, it's not you. &nbsp;  It's them, and you're not bloody them. And it will feel fake, because you cannot fool yourself. You know, in effect, you're lying to yourself when you're trying to act that way. &nbsp;  Because it's like acting like them, not acting as if. It's copying, and you're not a copy. Yes, you can model people, modeling is a different thing, it's a different art, it's not copying. &nbsp;  Modeling is getting into someone's mind and noticing the strategies they use, and then using the strategy, not just a copy. And that's why it feels like fake, because you're lying to yourself. But the thing is, how do you act as if? Well, I'm going...

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Have you ever gone to bed feeling full, not just from what you’ve eaten, but from everything you’ve taken in throughout the day?
 
From the constant stimulation, the emotions you’ve absorbed, and the never-ending to-do list running through your mind?

In this episode, Simone explores what it really means to digest your day,  emotionally, mentally, and energetically. She shares how the things we consume (news, conversations, social media, responsibilities) leave imprints in our bodies and affect our sleep, mood, and overall sense of ease.

You’ll learn four simple, science-backed and soulful ways to support your body and mind to “metabolise” life so you can unwind fully, rest deeply, and wake feeling lighter and more at peace.

In this episode:
🧠 Why “downloading your brain” before bed can transform your sleep and calm your mind

🌙 How to prepare for sleep like a baby (and why overstimulation keeps you awake)

💗 What it means to metabolise your emotions — and why emotional constipation is real

🌿 Simple nervous-system regulation practices to weave through your day

If you’ve been feeling overstimulated, restless, or unable to switch off, this conversation will help you reconnect with your body’s natural rhythm of digestion and release.

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How to Digest Your Day

How Do I Get Results How often do you find yourself hearing the same advice again and again—through podcasts, books, conversations, or even a random TikTok—and thinking “I know this already…” but then quietly adding “…but I’m not doing it.” That’s exactly what this episode is about. I’ll share with you:   Why repetition matters (and why advice keeps showing up until you take action).   The real secret to results: showing up, doing the reps, and letting go of perfection.   How “practice makes permanent,” not perfect.   Why intention and consistency beat intensity every single time.   A simple way to choose one thing that could change everything in your life.   This isn’t about waiting for motivation. It’s about turning up, committing to the process, and making deposits in your “success bank.” Some days will feel great, others won’t—but both move you forward. At the end, I’ll even share how you can use my free hypnosis resources to build confidence, consistency, and unstoppable momentum. Listen in—then ask yourself: what’s the one thing you’ll commit to showing up for over the next 10 days? and share the hell out of this episode  👉 And if you’d like to go deeper, or if something’s blocking you (fear, doubt, past experiences), email me at  Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from . &nbsp; And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism  #465 How Do I Get Results  Hey, welcome back to a longer episode, but it's not going to be that long. It's not going to be that long because it's just going to be about a question to you. &nbsp;  A bit more than a question, and maybe an odd swear word. I let them slip occasionally. As you see, this is a longer podcast, where we're going to muse a little bit this time. &nbsp;  It's like a longer five minute quickie. Because the question I have for you is, do you ever experience this type of thing? Being reminded of the things that you either know about already, or reminded about the things you're not doing, or continue to hear that same advice that you're not taking. And it comes in different places, different forms. &nbsp;  And if you took that advice, if you did it, it would make a world of difference. And the type of things I'm thinking about is, you know, you could be listening to a podcast, and you hear something, and you go, well, I know that. But in brackets, and you don't say it to yourself too much, but I'm not doing it. &nbsp;  And then you listen to another podcast a little bit later on, a different one. And there's the same type of message. And then you might read a book. &nbsp;  And you go, damn, it's repeating. And then something else comes along. Or someone in conversation says...

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How to Really Be Successful Ever heard people bang on about mindset — and thought, “Yeah, but what about the rest of me?” This Five-Minute Quickie goes beyond the buzzword. Because success isn’t just in your head — it’s in your body too. In this short but mighty episode, we explore:   Why mindset alone isn’t enough — and what “body-set” really means   How to align your physiology and psychology so your goals feel inevitable   Simple ways to tap into your “future you” — breathing, posture, tone, gestures — to unlock real, embodied confidence   Cloughie breaks it down in his trademark way: fun, grounded, and totally usable. When you bring your body and mind into alignment, you don’t have to fake success — you become it. Takeaway: Success is a feeling you live, not just an idea you think. Act, move, and breathe like you’ve already achieved it — because that’s how you’ll get there quicker, bigger, and better. Please share and see others grow too:  Oh! And there's a video of me recording this too  Got feedback, a question, or a win to share? Email:  Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from . And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism       &nbsp;          Hey, welcome to the five minute quickie where we're going to muse about something, muse about mindset. Muse against mindset because so many people talk about getting the right mindset, getting that super mindset. But what is the right mindset? And what about the body set? Body set, Paul? Yeah. &nbsp; You see, mind and body are connected, aren't they? And we're going to muse about this for the moment, just to give you an idea of where the mind and body have to come together. Because if you just have supposedly the right mindset and the body is not following, you've got a misalignment. You're not congruent. &nbsp; You'll even have, you know, some friction going on, some conflict going on. And we don't want conflict, do we? We want alignment. We want integrity. &nbsp; We want authenticity. We want every bloomin' word you can think of like that. So what am I thinking about? I'm thinking about goals, achieving your goals. &nbsp; And this is not goal setting. This is just thinking about, imagine this, imagine this. Imagine stepping into your goal. &nbsp; I'm not just noticing what it's like emotionally, because we talk about the feeling of the wish fulfilled, finding that feeling, feeling what it would be like in the goal, to have achieved the goal, the successful completion of the goal. But it's not just that, is it? I want you to know what it would be like physically, physically to have your goal. Because when you put the two together, you will be unstoppable. &nbsp; So if you were now just...

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How To Make Sure You Get What You Want Ever feel like you’re doing everything right toward your goals… and still somehow missing the mark? In this short and powerful 5-Minute Quickie, I'll get you thinking differently — about the real key to success. It’s not about doing more, it’s about choosing what really matters and owning it with absolute certainty. You’ll explore:   Why most people get overwhelmed and give up on their goals.   How to simplify your path by writing everything down and seeing it clearly.   A sneak peek into the longer, deeper episode to come — complete with a hypnosis process to make success feel inevitable.   This FMQ is your seed for something bigger — a simple mindset shift that can change everything. Start now: write down what you truly want, rate what’s most important, and get ready to make sure you actually get it. Listen now. Think deeply. Then be ready for the next one. And share with your friends:  And as always the video link  Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from . And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism  FMQ 518 How To Make Sure You Get What You Want  Okay, welcome back to the 5-Minute Quickie, the FMQ, or the Personal Development Unplugged podcast, with me, Paul. And today, on this episode, this shorter episode, it's all about getting what you want, and getting it more often, and even better than you want. &nbsp;  And this is, in effect, just for you to muse, to think a little bit, to get a little bit more curious, to begin to think of the things that you really want to have happen. Big goals, small goals, random. You could just list them out, all the different things you want, because I'm going to go through a process with you of making it easy. &nbsp;  But that's going to be on a deeper dive, a deeper dive with a longer episode, and probably there'll be a process contained in it, because I love my hypnosis, or NLP processes. So we'll find something that goes with it as well, so we make that longer podcast something of real, real benefit to you. But the thing is, how many have you, how, say another way, have you ever been on a goal-setting work, workshop, a goal-setting course, anything, online, in person? You see, I find so many people miss the mark on this, they miss the key, they miss the key of being able to get it, get your goal, because, and I'll tell you why, there's so much to do. &nbsp;  You forget how much in your life you have to do, you forget the overwhelming amount of steps along the way to achieve your goal. And when you do that, we tend to go, it's a bit like New Year's resolutions, we're just, they're just so much, so big. Sometimes we plod through them, sometimes we get to that plateau, and we...

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Help Me Make a Difference Hey, it’s Paul here, and this episode is a little different. I want to ask for your help — because I really want to make a difference. For years I’ve been putting out two episodes a week — a Five-Minute Quickie and a longer one — and to be honest, it’s been tough to keep up. More than that, I’ve realised I want to go deeper. I want to spend more time on the stuff that really matters — the stuff that helps people change for good. So, from now on, I’ll be doing one episode a week. Sometimes it’ll be a short FMQ to plant a seed, and sometimes a longer one where we dive deep — with hypnosis, NLP, and all the good stuff that helps you change from the inside out. But here’s the thing… I can’t do it on my own. We all have our struggles, right? The things we keep bottled up because we don’t want to seem weak, or we don’t know who to talk to. I’ve seen too many people suffer in silence — and I don’t want that to happen anymore. So I’d love your help. Tell me what’s really going on for you — or maybe for someone you know. What’s the thing you or they are struggling with? And just as important — how would you like to feel instead? That’s where the real change begins. When you can imagine what it’s like to feel better, to feel free, confident, peaceful — then we can start making that happen together. Please share this message  You can email me (anonymously if you like) at  I’d be so grateful to hear from you. Let’s make this podcast something that doesn’t just help you — but helps others too. Let’s make it a real community of change. Thanks for being here, for listening, and for being part of this. Shine brightly, Paul  And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Help me make a difference Hi, how you doing? I don't think we ask that enough, do we? How are you doing? And mean it. Sometimes I think we have to ask at least three times to the same person. Really? How you doing? Really? How you doing? And what am I talking about? What am I talking about? Well, I'm going to change the format of the Personal Development Unplugged podcast. &nbsp; For the last years and years and years and years and years, I've been cracking out two podcasts a week, five minute quickie and a longer version. And it's taken its toll a little bit because I find it really difficult to fit it all in. And my mind is that there's important things to talk about where we need to go into depth, find processes that really make a difference, approach the difficult subjects. &nbsp; And I think to do that, I'm only going to do a weekly podcast. And one of those will be a seed, a five minute quickie still, but it'll be a seed for a longer podcast so I can get you to think. Think and get ready for something deeper. &nbsp; But the whole point is I want to help people. I want to help people more than I've been doing. And to do that, again, I say we've got to approach these subjects, which are a little bit not taboo, but maybe they're not spoken about quite so much. &nbsp; And I'm noticing it happening a bit more now. You know, guys opening up, being strong and saying they need help. Unfortunately, there's one or two that we've seen in the news that don't. &nbsp; Damn, we miss them. It's too big a shame and we need to do something about it. And that's just not guys. &nbsp; It's everyone. We all have our struggles. And sometimes these struggles can seem so much because they're all inside, aren't they? They're in our bloody head and we seem to think that we have to deal with them by ourselves because it's weak to tell anybody about it. &nbsp; Or find the right person. Or I can't afford to get the therapy I need. I can't even admit I need therapy. &nbsp; And that's no fucking good to anybody. So what I want to do is to get deeper into subjects. Take a little time to get things right. &nbsp; I...

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How To Achieve Your Goals Easily There’s an easier way to achieve your dreams and goals — one that actually feels good and keeps you motivated the whole way through. In this episode, I share a simple but powerful approach to goal setting that most people miss: starting from the last step — that moment when you’ve already achieved your goal — and using that feeling to drive you forward. You’ll discover how to find your true why, anchor your motivation, and create a plan that’s realistic, energising, and deeply aligned with what you want. And there’s more — I’ll also guide you through a special hypnosis process designed to connect your conscious and unconscious minds, so the path to your goals becomes effortless and natural. This isn’t about grinding harder or forcing success. It’s about feeling your way into it — knowing exactly what success looks and feels like so you can enjoy every step along the way.  In this episode:   The often-overlooked final step that makes all the difference in goal achievement   How to find and anchor your true motivation (your why)   Why traditional goal-setting keeps you stuck and how to flip it   The role of your unconscious mind in creating success   A guided hypnosis process to help you align and take inspired action    Takeaway: When you start from the feeling of already having achieved your goal, and anchor that emotion, everything changes. Obstacles shrink, motivation grows, and the steps become natural.  Listen now — and let’s make your goals easier, more joyful, and truly yours. Then let's share it with others  Shine Brightly 🌟 Oh! And the video link  Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from . And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism  #467 How To Achieve Your Goals Easily  . Hey, welcome to the Lungar podcast. How to achieve your goals the easy way. &nbsp;  And yes, there is an easy way. And if you think about it, everyone talks, gives advice, maybe gives a workshop, give masterclasses in goal setting. And so many just go through the steps. &nbsp;  But some forget that visualisation of the last step. And the last step is not the last step just before you get it. The last step is having already got your goal. &nbsp;  You've achieved it. You're just about to move on. And you see, when you know that that's the step and you have it, so you know the step, you have that step, things just seem so good. &nbsp;  You feel so incredible. You feel so motivated. You feel so confident because you've already achieved it. &nbsp;  It's as if you have already achieved it. And I do this in so many ways in my trainer's training. I had to visualise not getting the certificate because that wasn't it for me. &nbsp;  It was sitting alone on...

#467 How To Achieve Your Goals Easily

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Talking's Over It's Time To Change In this slightly-longer FMQ, we’re taking a gentle but powerful step toward real change. No more talking about the issue. No more cycling through the same thoughts. This episode is all about shifting your focus to what actually creates transformation — how you want to feel. So many of us get stuck talking, thinking, analysing… and nothing changes. Why? Because talking doesn’t always touch the unconscious mind — the place where these patterns were created in the first place.  In this FMQ, I share: The real difference between empathy and compassion (and why empathy can overload you) Why talking about problems rarely changes them Where real emotional change really happens The simple, powerful pre-work for next week’s longer deep-dive episode How focusing on “how I want to feel” can quietly shift things even before you do any formal process  This episode is your gentle setup — your seed — for the bigger, deeper process in next week’s longer podcast. And it’s beautifully simple.  ✅ Your 7-Day Challenge (The Seed for Next Week) Each day, take 2–3 quiet minutes and write down: How would I like to feel? Not the issue. Not the problem. Not “what’s wrong”. Just: How do I want to feel instead? Do it in different contexts if you want:   With people   At work   Alone   In difficult moments   In good moments   Then… let it simmer. Let your unconscious mind start doing what it does best. Next week, we’ll take everything you’ve written and go deep with a full process to help make those feelings part of your natural way of being.  Why This Matters Because talking doesn’t always change anything — but educating the unconscious mind does. And this tiny step gets you ready for a huge one.  Share It Share this FMQ with someone who needs to feel better, think differently, or get ready for some genuine positive change. You might kickstart something wonderful for them.   Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from . &nbsp; And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism  FMQ 519 Talking's Over It's Time To Change &nbsp;  Welcome to the five minute quickie podcast with a slight difference. Slight difference is I want you to think about things. &nbsp;  So on a longer podcast, we can dive deeply into the subject and also with processes that allow you to change your issues. But what is it today? What is it today? Well, compassion or empathy. You see, I have real trouble with empathy. &nbsp;  You see, empathy, if I can say it right, seems to be that you have to feel the feelings of that person to understand them. And I know some really nice people who are mega empathetic. And the thing is, I don't think it does them any good,...

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I Feel Sh*t So Let's Change This Episode in a Nutshell In this deeper dive of Personal Development Unplugged, we get real about feeling stuck, low, anxious or just “not ourselves” — and what to actually do about it. No more endless talking, analysing or looping the same bloody thoughts. This is about changing how you feel at the unconscious level, where these issues were created… and where they can be changed. If you’ve ever struggled to remember what “good” even feels like, or wondered why you can’t just think your way out of the cycle, this episode gives you a gentle, powerful way to move forward — using your imagination, memory, and your very real inner resources.  What You’ll Learn • Why “talking about your issue” rarely creates real change Talking keeps you in your conscious mind — the part that didn’t create the problem. So it can’t resolve it. • Why your unconscious mind is the key Your unconscious created these feelings to protect you. It just chose a bad strategy. So we go back to that level to educate it and update it. • How to discover how you actually want to feel (Not as easy as people pretend. But we make it easy.) • How to use memories to unlock feelings you thought you’d lost If you can imagine the feeling, you have felt it before — we just need to uncover the counter-examples. • A step-by-step method to go from “how I feel now” → “how I want to feel” Including the powerful “middle feeling” bridge that stops your brain panicking and makes real change doable. • How to create experiences in your future that your unconscious mind believes are real And therefore starts acting on them now.  Why This Matters Because you deserve better than living with old, outdated emotional programmes. Because you are more than the issue you’re experiencing. Because feeling good, calm, confident or safe isn’t a fantasy — it’s a memory inside you waiting to be brought forward. And because change doesn’t require force, pressure or reliving the past. It requires permission, imagination and simple steps.  Your Simple Action Steps   Write down how you feel now. Be honest. No judgement.   Write down how you want to feel. This is the feeling you’d choose if everything was just right.   Find the halfway feeling. The emotional stepping stone.   Use your imagination: Visualise yourself feeling the way you want to feel, in the exact context where you currently struggle.   Drop into a memory: Let your unconscious find a time you actually felt this way before.   Blend them. Bring that old feeling into the imagined future — your brain doesn’t know the difference.   Repeat with curiosity. It’s simple. It’s gentle. And it works.    Cloughie’s Notes (The Heart-to-Heart Bit) You are not broken. You don’t need fixing. You simply learned a way of coping that doesn’t serve you anymore. And just as you learned it, you can unlearn it. And relearn something far better. This episode is my way of guiding you to the place where you can make that change — easily, naturally, gently. Because you matter. And because I know what it’s like to feel lost. And I know what it’s like to find the way back.  Useful Links • Free Hypnosis Library: paulcloughonline.com/podcast • Episode Mentioned: #78.1 – "My Qualities" • Instagram &amp; Email: If something comes up, message me. We’ll explore it in future episodes.  Call to Action If this episode touched you, helped you, or even nudged you a little — please share it with someone who might need it. And subscribe, because the next episodes are going even deeper with real processes that create real change.  ‎ Have more fun than you can stand. And remember: Change isn’t magic… but it is magical. Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You...

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Trying to leave this little old world and the people I meet in a better place then when I first met them.

Who am I and what do I do?………Paul Clough.

I now love helping making changes in people and guiding them to create the life they really want.
 
A personal look at me:
 
The above sentence was not always the case and being the best in the financial realms of the building industry was my aim and getting there by any means. I now know this is, and was, the worst way ~ even if I did make director of one of the largest building companies in Cambridge by the age of 30.
 
One of the major realisations came on my first ever training in hypnosis. I found that it’s not a win lose world and that a win win is only a low basis to live.
 
Being true to your beliefs and coming from a place of integrity where service is paramount. This understanding together with lots of NLP skills helped create my last partnership in the building industry grow from a turnover of £800k to £16m in less than twelve years and that can only be done with giving more than expected.
 
Another shaping of me came from two traumatic events in my life that happened within six months of each other which created a number of major changes in me and by beliefs in what is possible. I have written about my experience and how I dealt with it but more importantly it really showed me my love for my three boys and theirs for me and resulted in the step up to become a trainer of NLP (which I never intended) and my close and exciting work with two of my sons. In supporting Joseph and help create change in people in our training’s and his wonderful life changing ‘Be your potential weekend’ and with Luke the continuing development of Cambridge Hypnotherapy and Hypnosis processes. My relationship with my third son Daniel just keeps getting better and better too.
 
Not knowing how good I had become in change work in the beginning I generally studied, practiced and saw clients then things started to happen when I started to work following just my instincts. Two clients come to mind both in effect dying from the effects of what was happening to them and the way they felt and within one and two sessions respectively not only won the will to live they changed virtually in front of my eyes and being apart of that process was and is the best feeling alive.
 
The above are just three of many brilliant learnings I have had in my life.
The more formal bit

 
Paul Clough

I am a Trainer and Master Practitioner of NLP and Hypnosis and am passionate in assisting those who want to reach their full potential and his special skills form a unique foundation for success. I constantly seek and develope new skills and learning’s – through advanced levels of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Time Line Therapy ™, Hypnosis and to improve everyone I work with.

I have an understanding of the mind/body connection which enables me to create in my clients the difference that makes the difference ~ from excellence to outstanding.

For those that want qualifications:

Certified Trainer and Consultant of Neuro-Linguistic Programming

Certified Master Practitioner of NLP & Time Line Therapy

Certified Master Hypnotist and Hypnotherapist

Together with Luke and Joseph I have consistently strived and succeeded to create ways to improve peoples lives and give new beliefs of what’s possible. Our potential is without limits ~ infinite in every way.


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