In the fantasy series "The Prince of Nothing" and "The Aspect Emperor" by R Scott Bakker, we are introduced to a concept called The Darkness that Comes Before. This describes the unknown place from where our urges and drives and decisions come from, that subconscious part of the brain that really calls the shots.
In this podcast episode, I explore what occurs in that darkness, and how other people get into your mind to control you. We look at how to be sceptical about your own thoughts and feelings and beliefs, in such a way that ensures you make better long-term decisions and prevent others from manipulating you.

[#239] The Darkness That Comes Before: Managing the Manipulation from Your Own Mind

Dan Munro outlines his Philosophy of Integrity in full for the first time.

This philosophy emphasizes individual self-discovery and the absence of rigid rules. Integrity is defined as consistency and honesty, while confidence is described as a deep-seated belief in oneself. The philosophy posits that increasing integrity leads to greater confidence and a better life.

Munro identifies core values as subjective principles guiding your behavior in a way that will improve your confidence and the lives of those around you, such as honesty, courage, and responsibility. He stresses the importance of aligning your everyday actions with your values, continuous adaptation of your values, and the rejection of instant gratification for long-term benefits.

Munro also highlights the influence of various philosophers and thinkers on this philosophy.

At the end, you will get a step by step practical guide for living by with integrity:

Action Items
[ ] Identify your core values.
[ ] Create a guiding principle or definition for each value.
[ ] Test and measure how well you are living by your values, and refine them as needed.
[ ] Treat each day as an opportunity to experiment with living more by your values.
[ ] Use the 3x model of curiosity, honesty, and respect to continuously enhance your wisdom about living with integrity.

[#253] The Philosophy of Integrity: Finding the Meaning of Life Through Confidence Building

Emotional pain is unavoidable—but how you handle it determines your confidence, resilience, and overall well-being. Most “Nice Guys” have been taught to suppress their emotions, thinking that sadness, anger, or anxiety make them weak. But real strength comes from facing these feelings head-on without letting them control you.

In this video, I break down how to stop fearing emotional pain and start using it as a tool for personal growth. You’ll learn:

Why suppressing emotions creates suffering (and how to stop)
A simple technique to process feelings without overthinking them
How to turn emotions like anger, sadness, and fear into productive action
Why labeling emotions can make them worse—and what to do instead
By the end, you’ll have a clear roadmap for handling emotional pain in a way that builds confidence and self-respect, rather than keeping you stuck in Nice Guy habits.

💬 What’s the hardest emotion for you to deal with? Drop a comment below—I read every one and would love to hear your thoughts!

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[#256] How to Handle Emotional Pain Like a Man (Without Suppressing It)

Most Nice Guys think anger is a problem—something to suppress or feel ashamed of. But what if anger is actually the key to confidence, assertiveness, and a meaningful life? In this episode, we dive deep into the hidden power of anger and why suppressing it leads to depression, resentment, and passive aggression.

You’ll learn:
🔥 Why Nice Guys struggle with anger and how it sabotages their self-respect
🔥 The real reason you feel stuck, frustrated, or unmotivated
🔥 How to channel anger into confidence, courage, and boundary-setting
🔥 The difference between healthy anger and destructive rage

If you've ever felt like a pushover, struggled to stand up for yourself, or exploded after holding things in too long, this video is for you. Anger isn’t the enemy—it’s your greatest untapped resource. Watch until the end to learn how to express it in a powerful, constructive way.

👉 Comment below: What’s your relationship with anger? Do you suppress it, explode, or use it effectively? Let’s talk.

[#257] You’ve Been Lied to About Anger—How to Use It to Build Confidence

If you constantly feel anxious at work, overloaded with tasks, or stuck in a cycle of people-pleasing—this video is for you. Many Nice Guys struggle with setting boundaries, both in the workplace and with family. The result? They get walked all over, burned out, and feel like they’re never good enough.

In this episode, we break down:
✔️ The real reason your boss keeps piling work on you (and why you can’t say no)
✔️ Why people-pleasing makes you less respected, not more
✔️ How manipulative or critical parents keep you stuck in self-doubt
✔️ Practical strategies to set boundaries and regain control of your life

The hard truth? If you don’t change your approach, people will keep taking advantage of you—because they can. But once you start prioritizing yourself, everything shifts. You’ll gain respect, reduce stress, and finally start living life on your own terms.

💬 QUESTION FOR YOU: Where do you struggle the most—at work or with family? Drop a comment below and let’s talk about it!

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[#259] Why Your Boss and Family Don’t Respect You (And How to Fix It)

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In this powerful episode of the Brojo podcast, Dan Munro sits down with Kijuan Amey, a U.S. Air Force veteran whose life took a dramatic turn on May 5, 2017. At just 25 years old, Kijuan was thriving—building a career he loved, starting a business, and chasing his dream of becoming a pilot. But one tragic motorcycle accident changed everything, leaving him blind and with life-altering injuries.

Rather than giving in to despair, Kijuan chose a different path: resilience.

In this candid and inspiring conversation, he opens up about waking from a coma, discovering the truth about his condition, and facing the emotional and physical toll of starting over. From rock climbing and downhill skiing to public speaking and writing a book, Kijuan proves that limits are often self-imposed—and meant to be broken.

His message is clear: don’t focus on what you’ve lost—focus on what you can still do, and do it with everything you’ve got.

👉 Kijuan’s story will challenge your excuses and light a fire under your goals.

Drop a comment below:
What’s one challenge you’ve been avoiding that you now feel ready to face after hearing this? Let’s talk about it. 👇

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[#260] Blind, Broken & Still Stronger Than You: The Kijuan Amey Story

In this episode, we break down why the popular phrase “happy wife, happy life” is silently destroying relationships — and eroding men’s confidence in the process. What starts as good intentions often turns into self-abandonment: saying yes when you mean no, hiding your opinions, tolerating disrespect, and prioritizing her happiness at the cost of your own integrity.

We explore how this people-pleasing dynamic kills attraction, creates resentment, and ultimately leads to emotional disconnection. You’ll learn why your partner doesn’t actually want a yes-man, how trying to fix her emotions backfires, and what it really means to be a confident, grounded man in a long-term relationship.

If you’re tired of walking on eggshells, constantly trying to keep the peace, or wondering why your relationship feels off — this conversation will help you take your power back.

👉 Watch now to reclaim your integrity, speak your mind without guilt, and rebuild the respect you’ve lost — both from her and from yourself.

What’s one moment where you realized you were prioritizing her feelings over your values? Drop it in the comments — let’s open up a real conversation around confidence, honesty, and self-respect in relationships.

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[#261] The Death of “Happy Wife, Happy Life” — And the Rise of Confident Masculinity

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Why do so many "nice guys" struggle with confidence, boundaries, and resentment? Because they’ve been taught that anger is dangerous, shameful, or weak — and they’ve been suppressing it for years.

In this episode, I break down why repressing anger doesn’t make you a better man — it makes you resentful, anxious, depressed, and, eventually… explosive. You’ll learn how repressed anger creates passive-aggressive behavior, self-loathing, and even destructive outbursts. More importantly, I’ll show you how to express anger healthily — without hurting people, and without losing control.

Anger isn’t the problem. It’s power. It’s fuel. It’s the emotional fire that helps you stand up for yourself, set boundaries, and live with courage. And if you’ve been people-pleasing your whole life, learning to express anger is one of the most powerful transformations you’ll ever experience.

⚠️ If you feel like you’re stuck, emotionally numb, or constantly walking on eggshells, this episode will give you a way out.

👉 Let me know in the comments: How has anger shown up in your life — and what happens when you try to express it? Let's talk.

[#262] Why Repressing Anger Is Ruining Your Life (Especially If You’re a Nice Guy)

Red Pill ideology claims to reveal the “truth” about women, dating, and masculinity — but does it actually work?

As a confidence coach who’s worked with men for years, I’ve seen firsthand how Red Pill beliefs destroy relationships, lower self-esteem, and lead to bitterness and isolation. In this video, I break down the 10 core claims of Red Pill philosophy — from hypergamy and “high value men” to frame control, emotional suppression, and the belief that all women are manipulative — and I test each one against science, psychology, and real-life results.

This isn’t an emotional rant or a hit piece. It’s a rational, evidence-based challenge for men who feel stuck. If you’ve tried Red Pill and still feel lost, angry, or alone, this might be the perspective shift you need.

You’ll also learn healthier, more honest alternatives — ones that build real confidence, deepen relationships, and lead to genuine peace of mind.

👉 Question for you: Have Red Pill beliefs helped you… or held you back? Be honest. Share your experience in the comments — I read every one.

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[#263] Escaping the Red Pill Trap: A Confidence Coach Breaks It Down

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Most people live under comforting illusions about psychology, motivation, love, and even hope. But after 20+ years of coaching, probation work, and studying real human behavior, I’ve learned that the truth is much darker—and much more liberating once you face it.

In this video, I break down the dark truths about human psychology that nobody wants to hear. You’ll learn why psychology isn’t really a science, why people aren’t motivated to succeed (only to repeat themselves), and why “love” isn’t a feeling at all but a pattern of behavior. I’ll expose why your thoughts and feelings don’t define who you are—your actions do—and why free will may not be what you think it is.

We’ll also look at the big picture: why hope often crushes more than it helps, why humanity can’t be saved, and why that shouldn’t stop you from living a powerful, meaningful life right now.

This isn’t about pessimism—it’s about clarity. When you see people as they really are (including yourself), you stop wasting energy on illusions and start building integrity, confidence, and resilience.

👉 Question for you: Which of these dark truths hit you hardest—and why? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

[#264] The Dark Truths About Human Psychology That Nobody Wants to Hear

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