We hear about boundaries a lot, and sometimes, what we hear is correct and accurate. Unfortunately, sometimes, the term is used as a weapon for bullies to say what they want to say without any pushback from anyone else. These are not boundaries.
We have weaponized the statement, "I don't feel safe," and it's time we walk back from the brink.

244. What are Boundaries? How do they Help Us?

When life shifts, we like to think we’re being tested, but most of the time, we’re being revealed. Change doesn’t create your character; it exposes it. In this episode, we’ll talk about how turmoil shows what’s really driving you, and how to use those moments to grow instead of spiral. You’ll walk away with practical steps to examine your reactions, identify what’s under them, and start shaping the kind of character that holds steady no matter what’s falling apart. 
You’ll learn these eight steps:
1. Observe Your Default Reactions
2. Ask the “Why” Question—Twice
3. Identify Your Anchors
4. Look for Repeating Patterns
5. Invite Honest Feedback
6. Choose a Character Target
7. Practice Reflection, Not Regret
8. Anchor Change in Daily Habits



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