Josh Harris as the author of the hit book "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" was a very beloved figure in conventional Christian circles. In turn, he was not the most celebrated when he came out as deconstructing.

In this episode, we talk about how Josh came to terms with the negative parts of his story, how he has integrated those into positive parts today and how we as we deconstruct can do the same thing.

You can follow Josh at https://www.instagram.com/harrisjosh
Or check out his site at https://www.joshharris.com

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106 - Joshua Harris - Navigating The Harm Our Beliefs Have Caused

In this video, I talk about the phenomenon that is the Deconstructing Christian. It seems everyone and their mom has an opinion about this hot topic right now. But what I've found is most opinions are just that. Opinions. They aren't very rooted in reality. 

Deconstruction, as experienced by the community of those leaving conventional Christianity, is not to be conflated with the philosophy of Jacques Derrida nor is it to be conflated with the dictionary definition of just taking down a building. There is a lot more nuance at play and it is important we understand what Deconstruction is both if we are going through that process and if we are not!

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107 - Understanding Deconstruction - What Is Deconstruction

When talking about faith deconstruction there are a lot of myths around why people do it. But what's the truth? What does the hard data point to? Why do people end up deconstructing their faith?

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109 - Understanding Deconstruction - Why Do People Deconstruct

Dr Tina Schermer Sellers is a sex therapist and family therapist. She has worked extensively with those emerging from purity culture to find a healthy embodied approach to sex and freedom from the shame their faith has built around sex.

You can find out more about Tina at https://www.tinaschermersellers.com
You can follow her at:
https://www.instagram.com/drtinashameless

And keep an eye out for her upcoming book "Shameless Parenting"

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110 - Dr Tina Schermer Sellers - Shameless Parenting

Everyone and their mom seems to have an opinion on deconstruction and that often comes with a concept of reconstruction. But what we don't tend to look at what drives this and why with the best of intentions leaders in this area can enter into some very questionably unethical behavior as they discuss this stuff.

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111 - Understanding Deconstruction - Let's Talk About Reconstruction

They're back it's Adrian Gibbs and Josh Link who are the Dirty Rotten Church Kids. In this episode we talk about how Easter traditions have changed in deconstruction, handling our mistakes while in the spotlight and I ask the uncles about building community among those who are deconstructing.

You can check out their fantastic podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dirty-rotten-church-kids/id1487820978
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114 - The Return Of The DRCK - Easter, Deconstructing Publicly & Building Community

More Q&A today we have:

04:26 Is deconstruction just a slow road to becoming an atheist?
13:31 Navigating guilt/shame around sex.
23:37 I want the church to burn to the ground… is that wrong?
35:43 What would a healthy church look like?
47:43 Was it all a waste of time?

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131 - Understanding Deconstruction - Q&A3

One of the most frequent questions I get is if there is anywhere I share my story of faith and deconstruction. I am frequently asked about it on podcasts but usually give just a 5 minute overview and so I figured for this 100th episode milestone I'd sit down with my wife and we'd talk about my journey. 

(If you give her some love I might be able to talk her into coming on and telling her story at some point!)

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100 - Phil Drysdale ft. Tilly - My Personal Deconstruction Journey

He's back! Brian Peck is a co-founder of the Religious Trauma Institute and equal parts lovely human and religious trauma genius! In this episode we talk through some of the questions submitted by you the viewers about religious trauma.

You can find out more about Brian at https://www.roomtothrive.com​ or the Religious Trauma Institute at https://www.religioustraumainstitute.com​

And the Instagrams are https://www.instagram.com/roomtothrive​ and https://www.instagram.com/religioustraumainstitute

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102 - Brian Peck - Answering Your Religious Trauma Questions

She's back and she's answering all your questions about how life post-purity culture.

Her podcast is https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-positive-christian-feminists/id1549622305
You can find her FB group where she does free trainings and all sorts of amazing stuff here -https://www.facebook.com/groups/1136815826514918/
Her instagram is - https://www.instagram.com/rachel.alba.coaching

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103 - Rachel Alba - Navigating Dating and Intimacy Post-Purity Culture

Join Trace Bell and I as we dive into some of the nuances of growing through the Spiral Dynamics and waking up to awareness.

If these terms aren't familiar to you I strongly recommend you first watch my overview of spiral dynamics on Jon Steingard's podcast here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JVUTtHnR4fQ

If you want to go deeper into Spiral Dynamics you can find my 15hr series on the topic here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BKCLyiNjESo&list=PLZbIA5qmklwP1BwD3sxV_ttOz_eudjq7P

You can follow Trace on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/tracebelll
His website is https://www.tracebelll.com
And you can book onto the Saturday School he is running with his dad Rob Bell here - https://robbell.com/portfolio/saturday-school/

Apologies for the audio quality... my microphone really died on me and I didn't realize until after the call unfortunately. Hopefully I cleaned it up enough that you could enjoy the conversation all the same it's a good one!

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104 - Trace Bell - Spiral Dynamics, Growing Up and Waking Up

Helping those losing their faith find something new.