Join me on the podcast this week to discover how engaging in high-value activities will bring more elegance into your life. I’m sharing the importance of your reasoning behind these activities, and what you can do to take what I’m sharing today and make them part of everything you do. Get full show notes and more information here:

225: 5 High-Value Activities of Elegant Women

Discover how to put a red velvet rope around your life. I’m sharing how to start this work by setting boundaries and expectations with yourself, and what will change when you start being more discerning about what and who is allowed in your personal VIP room. &nbsp; Get full show notes and more information here:

254: A Red Velvet Rope Policy

Discover how to discern the risks that will evolve you and your self-image, and how to develop the courage to start taking them. I’m sharing where I’ve done this in my own life over the past couple of years, and what will change when you can do the same work in your own life. &nbsp; Get full show notes and more information here:

258: How to Become a Risk Taker

How do we change our identity? Tune in this week to find out. I’m sharing all of the details from my own shift in identity over the years, and the four steps you need to follow in order to do this transformative work in your own life. &nbsp; Get full show notes and more information here:

266: How to Change Your Identity

Discover how to meet yourself with compassion, and show up, even when it feels impossible. This isn’t about ignoring reality; far from it. I’m showing you how to process what’s going on around you in difficult times, and uncover your compelling reasons for showing up, so you can be a light in the world during chaos and uncertainty. &nbsp; Get full show notes and more information here:

275: Showing Up When It's Hard

Discover the secret to cultivating a winning attitude. I’m sharing why it’s so easy to get stuck in a loser’s mentality, and how to help yourself come around by uncovering what you want to work toward, embodying the belief that you are a capable, amazing human, and you’re here to win. &nbsp; Get full show notes and more information here:

277: A Winning Attitude

Tonya Leigh has set a goal to assist 5,000 women in creating their "after" and documenting the process. She considers the reviews left by listeners on iTunes as a form of "after" because they share how the podcast has impacted their lives. The host expresses gratitude towards the listeners who have left a review and encourages others who have benefited from the podcast to do the same. In this episode, the concept of be actions versus outcome actions is discussed in detail. Tonya explains that most people struggle to achieve their goals because they focus solely on the outcome they want, rather than the person they need to become to achieve that goal. She emphasizes the importance of focusing on one's identity or "being" rather than just the outcome or "getting." The host gives examples from her own life, such as struggling with weight loss and money, where she would take outcome actions such as going on a diet or trying to work out, but would ultimately sabotage herself and go back to her old state of being. She realized she needed to focus on becoming the person she wanted to become, rather than just achieving the outcome.&nbsp; By focusing on 'be actions', the outcome will become effortless, and once the outcome is achieved, it will be easier to sustain because the person's identity has already changed to match what they want. By focusing on creating small wins and little bits of evidence every day that she is a fit woman, the host is able to shift her focus from the outcome to her self-image. She creates new neural pathways that confirm her new identity, and as a result, her outcomes change. Tonya emphasizes that changing one's identity is the key to achieving desired outcomes, not the other way around. [00:02:25] Be actions vs. outcome actions. [00:05:02] Overcoming limiting beliefs. [00:08:45] Changing identity for effortless outcome. &nbsp; Quotes:&nbsp; When I think about myself having a fit body, then who is she? How does she identify? What is her self-image? We create our extraordinary goal, which is the outcome that we want. But then we look at who do we need to become to achieve that goal, to achieve that outcome. The reason why the majority of people struggle in achieving their goals is because they are taking action for an outcome versus taking action for a new state of being. We focus on changing our identity so that the outcome literally becomes effortless. Useful Resources: &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Join Now!&nbsp;  &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;FREE Download:  &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Join us at SOSI South!:  &nbsp; &nbsp; Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Website:  &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Instagram: &nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Facebook:  &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;TikTok: &nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;YouTube:  &nbsp; &nbsp;

339: Outcome Actions vs. Be Actions

Creating Your Couture Life: The Power of Dream Fittings! &nbsp; In this episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the concept of a "couture life" custom-made to fit our souls. She introduces the idea of "dream fittings" and emphasizes the importance of pursuing our dreams.&nbsp;  Tonya also discusses the significance of working on one's identity and self-image. She points out that many people neglect this aspect of personal development, which can lead to feeling stuck and self-sabotage. By not working on our identity, individuals may struggle to create the life they truly want.  Tonya emphasizes the need to prioritize this aspect of personal development encourages listeners to explore their true desires and aspirations and explores the&nbsp;importance of tangible experiences, trying things on to test out dreams and goals. She encourages individuals to actively engage in real-world situations to gain a better understanding of what truly aligns with their passions and values. Enjoy this insightful 'Dream Fittings' episode&nbsp; &nbsp; Episode Details: 02:26 Appreciating the ordinary.&nbsp; 05:58 A couture life.&nbsp; 09:23 Fear of failure and confidence.&nbsp; 13:48 Finding a fitting dream.&nbsp; 8:00 Dream fittings and exploration.&nbsp; 20:31 Blessings in disguise.&nbsp; 30:47 Join to learn more. &nbsp; Quotes: "Because when you really appreciate the ordinary, that's when it becomes extraordinary." &nbsp;"It's why so many people sabotage themselves because they don't work on the number one thing that is determining the quality of their life." "It's believing that no matter what's going to happen, you're going to be okay." "I'm someone who's willing to fail." "You're so afraid of being called flighty or flaky that you're not willing to experiment." "You're going to have to go out there and try it on." "Testing your dreams out in little ways to see how they fit is the key to living a couture life." &nbsp; Useful Resources: &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Join Now!  &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;FREE Download:  &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Join us at SOSI South!:  &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Sign up for the&nbsp; Weekly&nbsp; Edit! &nbsp; &nbsp; Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Website:  &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Instagram: &nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Facebook:  &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;TikTok: &nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;YouTube:  &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;

353: Dream Fittings

Cultivating Everyday Magic: Simple Practices for More Beauty, Joy, and Wonder &nbsp; In this episode, Tonya Leigh shares her beliefs around creating everyday magic. She discusses the upcoming event, SOSI South, which aims to help participants live a charmed life. Tonya believes that this kind of life is available to everyone with certain skills and shifts in mindset. She encourages listeners to attend the event and spend two and a half days focusing on their charmed life and learning how to create and experience it. &nbsp; Show Details: &nbsp; 02:24 Creating everyday magic. 17:15 Creating a charmed life. 37:11 Fearless creativity.. 43:39 The soirees. 46:26 Slowing down for a charmed life. 50:01 Deciding your intentio 53:15 You are the magic. &nbsp; Quotes: 03:04 - "And the other is as though everything is a miracle." 34:06 - "I am the magic." 34:38 - "My life is way more magical when I put this away and I get into life and I experience it." 39:30 - "You're going to fascinate the world when you start fascinating yourself." 41:37 - "And I've never seen such energy and support and celebration of one another as I do within the School of Self-Image community." 44:25 - "And remember, a charmed life requires that you stop waiting and you step into the magic of new experiences." &nbsp; Useful Resources: &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Join Now!  &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;FREE Download:  &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Join us at SOSI South!:  &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Sign up for the&nbsp; Weekly&nbsp; Edit! &nbsp; &nbsp; Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Website:  &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Instagram: &nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Facebook:  &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;TikTok: &nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;YouTube:  &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;

356: Creating Everyday Magic

In this episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the importance of slowing down and savoring the slow life. She shares her morning routine and emphasizes the need to create space and not rush through life. Tonya reflects on the desire to slow down and the sense of slowness often missing in our everyday lives. She explores the question of how to combine ambition with ease. Tune in to discover Tonya's insights on embracing a slower pace and finding balance in life. &nbsp; Episode Details: &nbsp; 00:01:18 Savor the slow life 00:06:55 Embrace the present moment 00:17:32 Slow down, focus, schedule 00:20:59 Savor the slow life 00:28:30 Embrace and savor the slow life &nbsp; Quotes: "It's that feeling of being in flow." "It's that feeling of being so present that time becomes irrelevant." "And I have just witnessed personally, so many people struggle with this, fight it, and when they finally embrace it, that's when things take off for them." "I am, two most important words you will ever speak, because you're claiming it as your identity, and you will always work to prove your identity true." "Through weekly classes and coaching, you'll learn powerful techniques on how to elevate the quality of your mindset, style, and surroundings to change how you see yourself and create extraordinary results in your life." "At what point are we all going to wake up as women and realize that we must take care of ourselves in order to better serve, to take care of other people?" &nbsp; &nbsp; Useful Resources:   Join Now!    FREE Download:    Sign up for the weekly Edit!&nbsp;    &nbsp; Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: &nbsp;   Website:    Instagram:    Facebook:    TikTok:    YouTube:

361: Savoring the Slow Life

Transforming Your Self-Image: The Power of Visualizing Best-Case Scenarios  In this episode, host Tonya Leigh challenges listeners to shift their mindset from playing devil's advocate to becoming their own angel's advocate. She encourages them to focus on best-case scenarios and discusses the importance of thinking about positive outcomes. Tonya also shares her own experiences with making big changes in her business and how embracing the best-case scenario mindset can be both exciting and challenging. This episode serves as a reminder to shift our mindset and spend more time exploring positive possibilities.  Episode Details:  02:09 Managing our minds 05:19 Pain pleasure principle 09:06 Visualizing a magnificent future 15:47 All roads lead back to self-image 17:32 Believing in best-case scenarios 23:03 Being Your Angel's Advocate Quotes:  "This is the role of looking for, finding and focusing on best-case scenarios."  "Your expectations shape your future."  "That is why it's so important, my friends, that we give time to our best-case scenarios."  "Because of who I've become, I now can allow people into my life at this level."  "It's within our daily journal practice, really thinking about how you want to think and show up on purpose." Useful Resources:   Join now - and get access to the Your Extraordinary Year workshop:    FREE Download:    Sign up for the weekly Edit:    Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website:   Instagram:   Facebook:    TikTok:     &nbsp;

367: Finding Best-Case Scenarios

Finding Fulfillment Through Trusting Your Intuition Do you struggles with not trusting intuition? Tonya Leigh knows exactly what that feels like and how it has impacted her&nbsp; life. Throughout this episode, she emphasizes the benefits of following intuition. Listening to intuition can lead to a more fulfilling life and make decision-making easier. Intuition is described as an inner compass connected to one's true self and higher purpose. Tonya encourages listeners to pay attention to their bodies and not ignore the signals they receive. Ignoring intuition can lead to suffering and keep individuals in a state of scarcity. Being overly cognitive and overthinking things can override gut feelings and lead to decisions that are not in true service of oneself. To reconnect with intuition, Tonya suggests asking oneself questions and tuning into the inner voice. "If my highest self could speak, what would she say?" and then imagining the wisest self advising. By removing outside opinions, societal expectations, and the influence of others, individuals can tap into their own inner knowing. Tune in to discover how you can make decisions that align with your values and priorities and experience a greater sense of flow and fulfillment in life. &nbsp;  &nbsp; Episode Breakdown: 01:09 Overriding that gut knowing 06:32 When intuition is nudging you 09:35 Getting off track 14:09 Listen to your body 19:29 The power of intuition 23:21 Following your inner compass 26:36 Intuition versus fear 33:32 What do I know deep down? 36:04 Elevating the quality of mindset Quotes: "Albert Einstein said, the intuitive mind is a sacred gift, and the reflective, rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift." "Showing up and sharing and helping and serving and offering value is the greatest way to sell anything." "They can be saying all of the right things, they can be smiling in your face, on paper they can look like the perfect person for you, but your gut is saying run." "Learning to listen and decode your intuition is going to lead to a greater, more fulfilling life." "Sometimes it's pursuing a career path, even though you feel it does not genuinely align with your interests, your soul, or your strengths." "Intuition usually isn't panicked. It's just this very calm, gentle, subtle voice." "But what I do know is that you know, and that answer is found within your body, not your mind, but within your body." "Listening to your intuition requires space. It requires time to just be with yourself." &nbsp; Useful Resources:   Join the membership now:    FREE download:    Sign up for the weekly Edit:    Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website:   Instagram:   Facebook:    TikTok:    &nbsp; &nbsp;

373: What Not Listening to My Body Has Cost Me

Learning from the Past and Creating Your Future  &nbsp;  Have you ever considered how amazing it would be if you chose to learn from the past intentionally?&nbsp; How this might create a better future? Welcome to this week's episode of School of Self-Image podcast with host, Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh.&nbsp;  Tonya is all in on the concept of a monthly reset and shares her personal experience of starting a new morning routine. She encourages listeners to tune in to their future selves and take action towards their goals, even if they feel off track. She reassures them that it's never too late to make a change and improve their lives.&nbsp;&nbsp;  Hitting that monthly reset goal is such a part of self-image work and in shaping experiences and outcomes. By changing how individuals perceive themselves, they can create new evidence and transform various areas of their lives, including relationships, finances, and personal growth. This is the power of the monthly reset.&nbsp;&nbsp;  Episode Details:  00:02:46 Never too late to reset 00:06:33 How you see yourself 00:10:15 Monthly reset and review 00:14:08 Celebrating wins and dissecting failures 00:19:07 Creating new evidence of success 00:22:06 The power of self-reflection Quotes:  "Every moment is a chance for a U-turn."  "I'm a woman who creates her life on purpose."  "Every moment is truly a blank slate, yet we bring all of our old baggage into this moment."  "I already know that the obstacle that I am going to encounter is my own brain."  "Without a mind that is intentional, that is focused, that is disciplined, you're going to struggle in life." Useful Resources:   Join the membership now:    FREE download:    Sign up for the weekly Edit:    Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website:   Instagram:   Facebook:     TikTok:

374: The Monthly Reset

Stepping into the Spotlight: Embracing Your Superpower of Visibility What is fear of being seen? Host and Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh gives valuable insights on the fear of being seen and the impact it can have on women. She shares personal experiences and highlights the societal pressure for women to blend in and not rock the boat. Tonya emphasizes the importance of embracing authenticity and stepping into the spotlight of our lives. She offers tools and strategies for overcoming the fear of being seen, including acknowledging the fear, starting small, building a support network, shifting the narrative, challenging the inner critic, taking action, finding inspiration, and remembering one's why. She also encourages women to celebrate their milestones and to be willing to be judged and fail in order to reclaim their stories and voices. She concludes by reminding listeners that they are worthy, powerful, and meant to be seen.  ____________________________________________________________________________ &nbsp; Episode Details: 01:01 Fear of being seen 04:54 Blending In 09:45 Harnessing the superpower of visibility 13:22 Imposter syndrome&nbsp; 19:16 Celebrating small milestones and progress. 23:54 Fear of being judged. &nbsp; Quotes: "When I think about going after extraordinary goals, one of the things that is required is that you're seen on some level." “I got over my fear of being seen. I was willing to be judged. I was willing to be ridiculed." "Remember, and this is really important, visibility isn't about validation." "What I have known to be true is the more imperfect I am, the more vulnerable I am, the more I share the ins and outs of my life, the more people can connect to that." "Fear has no control over you in this part of your life. When you're willing to be judged, when you're willing to get it wrong, when you're willing to be imperfect, when you're willing to look stupid, when you're willing to fail, all of a sudden the fear is gone." &nbsp; Useful Resources:   Join the membership now:    FREE download:    Sign up for the weekly Edit:    Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website:   Instagram:   Facebook:    TikTok:       &nbsp; &nbsp;

376: The Fear of Being Seen

Raising the Bar: How to Set Higher Standards for Self-Love What is your self-love standard? This week Tonya Leigh discusses the importance of self-love standards and how they can impact our lives. Self-love is not just about fluffy feelings, but about setting expectations for how we treat ourselves. So, how do we raise our self-love standards? By examining how we talk to ourselves, how we treat our bodies, and how we expect to be treated by others. Tonya shares personal experiences and examples to illustrate the power of self-love standards and how this manifests in our self-image. Tonya encourages listeners to align their standards with their future self-image and create a life that reflects their highest potential. Episode Details:  03:24 The power of self-talk 07:32 Raise the standard of self-love 09:19 Self-love and body image 14:49 Alignment and synergy 17:09 Reevaluate current standards 21:35 Elevating your self-image Quotes:  "I am so proud of you for trying. I am so proud of you for putting yourself out there. You are smart. You are kind. You are beautiful. You have what it takes. Go get it, girl."  "As someone who used to be so mean to the reflection in the mirror, I just refused to do that anymore because nothing good came out of it. It just made me feel terrible, which then led me to take terrible actions that just kept me perpetuating terrible results, truly."  "You will always prove to yourself how you see yourself."  "If you're constantly comparing. to either past versions of yourself or other people, you will not see your own."  "If you don't love yourself, madly, ridiculously, unapologetically, this world will run all over you."  "It is time for you to create your own 'powerfully ever after'." Useful Resources:   Join the membership now:    FREE training: &nbsp;   FREE download:    Sign up for the weekly Edit:    Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website:   Instagram:   Facebook:    TikTok:     &nbsp;

377: Self-Love Standards

Unlocking the Lessons of Aging: Embracing Your Journey with Gratitude Embracing your age with joy, purpose, and gratitude at every stage of life is a powerful mindset shift that can lead to a more fulfilling and enriching experience. In the podcast episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the importance of loving your age, regardless of where you are in life. She emphasizes the need to appreciate the present moment and find beauty in every stage of life. One key point highlighted is the significance of reframing aging from being seen as a burden to being viewed as a blessing. Aging is not a disease but a privilege, offering opportunities for growth, learning, and new experiences. By shifting our perspective on aging, we can approach each stage of life with a sense of gratitude and excitement for what it has to offer. Join&nbsp; Tonya as she dives into breaking free from societal aging expectations and embracing your unique identity at every age, so&nbsp; you can cultivate a sense of empowerment and self-expression.  ____________________________________________________________________________ Episode Details: 00:39 Loving Your Age 08:27 Reframing aging as a blessing. 12:26 Intergenerational friendships. 15:18 Creating age loving environments. 19:10 Dressing for desired energy. 25:38 Choosing Positive Aging Narratives. 27:25 Embracing new experiences. 31:37 Overcoming people pleasing and approval. Quotes: "You can't help getting older, but you don't have to get old." "I'm not going to waste time wishing I was 20 again, because I'll never be 20 again." "Aging is not a disease. It is a privilege, a privilege truly of a lifetime." "Push against what you've been told older folks can supposedly do or can't do. I mean, who decided that?" "I love what Iris Eiffel says. She's like, style has no age. It's an attitude, not age." "I want to chase less and enjoy more." "I used to think happiness was a fairy tale, forever just out of reach." &nbsp; Useful Resources:   Join the membership now:    FREE training:      FREE download:    Sign up for the weekly Edit:    Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website:   Instagram:   Facebook:    TikTok:

378: Loving Your Age

Ditching Apologies: Cultivating Self-Love and Confidence Over-apologizing can become such a habit we don't even realize we are repeating the behavior.&nbsp; School of Self-Image host Tonya Leigh discusses the tendency for women to over-apologize and the impact it can have on their self-esteem and confidence. She explores why women tend to over-apologize, including societal expectations and the desire to please others. Tonya emphasizes the importance of recognizing when apologies are unnecessary and offers strategies for breaking the habit, such as replacing "I'm sorry" with "thank you" and focusing on solutions instead of apologies. She encourages women to take ownership of their space, needs, and voice without feeling the need to apologize constantly.  Tune in to discover how over-apologizing can impact your daily life and learn how to break free from this ingrained behavior.  Episode Details: 00:51 Over-apologizing in daily life 05:32 Apologizing for things beyond control 10:41 Recognizing over-apologizing habits 13:44 Swapping "sorry" for "thank you" 17:52 Refusing to apologize for being you Quotes:  "I'm so sorry I'm crying. I'm like, why are you apologizing for feeling your human emotions? We should never apologize for having emotions."  "When you apologize for things that aren't your fault, you're basically saying, I'm sorry for having needs. I'm sorry for taking up space. I'm sorry for needing support."  "You have valuable thoughts and ideas to share. You are deserving of taking up space. You are worthy of support and love."  "I am all for taking responsibility when it's my responsibility. But I was taking on the world's responsibility when I was over-apologizing."  "The last suggestion I can offer you is to begin to ask questions with confidence instead of apologizing because sometimes, sorry just becomes a crutch to get someone's attention." Useful resources: Useful Resources:   Join the membership now:    FREE training:      FREE download:    Sign up for the weekly Edit:    Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website:   Instagram:   Facebook:    TikTok:    &nbsp;

379: What Are You Apologizing For?

The Power of Self-Appreciation: 5 Steps to Delight in You Inspired by a quote from Anais Nin, Tonya Leigh reflects on the concept she has adopted that is centered on delighting in oneself.&nbsp; Tonya shares her experience of a delightful day spent alone and discusses the importance of analyzing and journaling about such days to create more moments of joy. She offers five ways to delight in oneself, encouraging listeners to take pleasure and satisfaction in who they are. By prioritizing self-care, nurturing self-relationship, and appreciating one's own value, individuals can cultivate a deeper sense of joy, fulfillment, and self-love. These practices not only benefit personal well-being but also have a positive impact on external relationships, work, and overall quality of life. Embracing these aspects can lead to a more fulfilling and delightful existence, where individuals can truly thrive and experience the fullness of life.  ____________________________________________________________________________ Episode Details: 00:49 Delighting in yourself 06:52 Prioritize self-care 09:35 Making time for joyful activities 15:31 Being your own best friend 20:14 Quality alone time 21:51 Cultivating a deeper relationship with yourself Quotes: &nbsp;"My mission, should I choose to accept it, is to find peace." “A joyful woman is a magnet for her desires. Energy is always looking for its equal match. Delighting is an energy. It is a vibration that you put out into the world.” "You are the longest commitment you will ever have in your life. Make the choice to lovingly commit to yourself." &nbsp;"What if you just decided you're never going to beat yourself up again? Instead, you're going to be your own best friend, your greatest cheerleader." "You are worth that time. You are valuable enough to delight in yourself." "There's nothing wrong with you. You are not broken. But your approach probably is." Useful Resources:   Join the membership now:    FREE training:    FREE download:    Sign up for the weekly Edit:    Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website:   Instagram:   Facebook:    TikTok:

380: 5 Ways to Delight in Yourself

Embracing 'No': The Key to Living a Life Aligned with Your Values Saying no is a powerful tool for setting boundaries and taking back control of your life. In the podcast episode, Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of establishing boundaries to prioritize your well-being and align with your values and goals. Here are some key points to consider when it comes to setting boundaries through saying no:   Prioritizing Your Well-being: By saying no to commitments or requests that do not serve you, you are prioritizing your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Empowering Yourself: Saying no is a way of empowering yourself and demonstrating self-respect.&nbsp;   Taking Control of Your Life: Without boundaries, you may feel like you are being run over by the demands and expectations of others.&nbsp;   Living in Alignment: Setting boundaries through saying no allows you to live in alignment with your decisions, goals, and values.&nbsp;   Building Self-Image: Saying no can positively impact your self-image and self-esteem.&nbsp;   Saying no is not just about declining requests; it is a powerful act of self-care and self-empowerment. By setting boundaries through saying no, you can take control of your life, prioritize your well-being, and live in alignment with your values and goals. Join Tonya as she delves into the power of saying no, inspired by quotes from Steve Jobs and Paulo Coelho, and explores the importance of listening to our gut feelings and setting boundaries by saying no when necessary to avoid feeling overwhelmed or drained. &nbsp;  ____________________________________________________________________________ Episode Details: 00:01:25 - Embracing Joyful Yeses 00:01:57 - Mastering the Art of Saying No 00:03:11 - Free Guide to Saying No 00:04:14 - Societal Pressures and FOMO 00:05:08 - The Consequences of Yes 00:06:33 - The Jar Metaphor 00:08:10 - Identity and Priorities 00:12:36 - The Upside of Saying No 00:15:16 - The Clarity of Prioritizing Yes 00:18:30 - Elegance and Quality Over Quantity 00:23:53 - The Pleasure of Saying No 00:25:28 - The Invitation to Say No &nbsp; Quotes: "Innovation is saying no to a thousand things." "No is my new favorite word." "When you say yes to everything, you live someone else's life." "I prioritize my wellbeing to demonstrate that I am worthy and I am confident in who I am." "The power of no lies in saying no to the junk, to the low quality." "I lived a large part of my life lying to everybody. Not on purpose, but to me, when you say yes to something that you don't really want to do, it's like you're lying." "The power of no after years of being afraid of it, I can tell you it's one of the best two-letter words in my vocabulary." Useful Resources:   The Power of No FREE Guide:&nbsp;    Join the membership now:    FREE training:    FREE download:    Sign up for the weekly Edit:    Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website:   Instagram:   Facebook:    TikTok:

381: The Power of No

Unveiling Your Inner Queen: The Power of Self-Respect and Self-Care  Giving yourself a royal treatment involves creating a personalized plan for self-care and self-respect. In this School of Self-Image episode, host, and master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of treating oneself like royalty and prioritizing self-care. She shares the story of a client named Sarah who transformed her life by implementing a royal treatment plan tailored to her needs. This plan included setting boundaries at work, taking lunch breaks, exercising, and engaging in hobbies she enjoyed. The concept of a royal treatment goes beyond superficial indulgences like spa days and manicures. It is about connecting with one's true nature, listening to internal cues, and establishing a strong inner kingdom. By tuning into one's body and soul, individuals can determine what they need to feel their best and align with their natural rhythm. This process involves building a strong relationship with oneself based on love, respect, and self-worth.  Tune in to learn why every woman needs to prioritize herself and treat herself like royalty.  Talking Points:   00:00:00 - Introduction to the Royal Treatment   00:05:30 - The Consequences of Self-Neglect   00:10:16 - Overcoming Excuses for Self-Care   00:13:05 - Increased Confidence through Self-Care   00:17:32 - Attractiveness and Energy   00:21:31 - Unveiling Your True Nature   00:24:34 - Building a Strong Inner Kingdom   00:26:19 - Invitation to the Royal Treatment Workshop   Quotes:  "When are you going to start treating yourself like a queen?"  "Confidence is something that you create with your thoughts, with your mind. It is a belief in your abilities."  "I've done those things, and it creates this deep trust in myself. This feeling of like, girl, I've got you."  "Would you rather attract rusty old nails or shiny gold coins? I'm guessing your answer is shiny gold coins."  "It is going to have the most beautiful cascading effect into every area of your life." Useful Resources: &nbsp; &nbsp; The Royal Treatment Workshop:  &nbsp; &nbsp; Join Now!  &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;FREE Download:  &nbsp; &nbsp; Sign up for the&nbsp; Weekly&nbsp; Edit! &nbsp; &nbsp; Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Website:  &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Instagram: &nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Facebook:  &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;TikTok: &nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;YouTube:   &nbsp;

382: Why Every Woman Needs a Royal Treatment

From Negative to Neiman: Upgrading Your Thought Wardrobe  To enhance your life and mindset, it is essential to intentionally select and upgrade your thoughts to higher quality ones. In a podcast episode, Tonya Leigh stresses the significance of being mindful of the thoughts we entertain daily. She classifies thoughts into different levels, ranging from "Goodwill thoughts" inherited from past experiences to "Neiman Marcus thoughts" that are of superior quality and more empowering. Tonya urges the audience to evaluate their current thought patterns and beliefs, highlighting that negative or outdated thoughts can hinder individuals and impact their overall well-being. By deliberately choosing thoughts that align with their values, dreams, and desires, individuals can cultivate a more positive and empowering mindset. Join Tonya as she takes you thorugh her thought clloset and inspire listeners to&nbsp;consciously select empowering beliefs and shed outdated or limiting ones to cultivate a more positive, resilient, and fulfilling mindset.  Talking Points:  03:02 Personal style transformation. 05:04 Choosing thoughts intentionally. 10:35 Upgrading your thoughts. 16:15 Couture thoughts. 20:45 Thoughts about myself. 22:11 Embracing Your Uniqueness. 29:44 Thoughts about money. 32:56 Money mindset transformation. 38:51 Life as a game. 42:59 Feeling bad cannot stop magic. 45:09 Thoughts on love and relationships. 48:46 The Royal Treatment.  Quotes:  "Girl, I am feeling like yesterday's fries."  "I'm going to bloom where I'm planted. I'm going to really show up in this position, in this role, and I'm going to give it my all because it matters."  "Money is fun, which is in my thought closet. And money doesn't solve the problems that people are trying to use money to solve the problem for."  "I love believing that failure is what dreams are built upon."  "It was a thought that I decided to return, and I upgraded for a better thought." Useful Resources:   The Royal Treatment Workshop:    Join the membership:    FREE Download:    Sign up for the weekly Edit:    Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website:    Instagram: &nbsp;&nbsp;   Facebook:    TikTok: &nbsp;&nbsp;   YouTube:     &nbsp;

383: Shop My Thought Closet

How Your Environment Shapes Your Self-Image  Let's delve into the psychology of space and how our environments can shape our self-image. Tonya shares personal experiences of how different homes she has lived in reflect her inner world and how she uses her spaces to evolve her own self-image. She discusses the importance of using our spaces intentionally to change how we feel and see ourselves. By making small changes in our homes, we can align our spaces with who we want to become. She also emphasizes the power of using our spaces as tools for personal growth and transformation. Overall, the episode highlights the significance of our environments in influencing our self-image and provides practical tips for using our spaces to support our personal development journey.  Talking Points:   00:00:00 - Introduction to the Psychology of Space   00:05:30 - Reflecting on the Story of Different Homes   00:10:38 - Personal Style and Home Decor Preferences   00:15:04 - Using Spaces to Change Self-Image   00:18:39 - Bridging the Gap Between Current Space and Desired Self-Image   00:22:17 - Blooming in Your Current Space   Quotes:  "Our environments are shaping us and we shape our environments."  "Our homes are more than just physical spaces. They are literally mirrors that reflect our inner world."  "Red is very fiery, very passionate. And let me tell you, that was me. And not in a good way."  "If you want to see yourself as a woman who is fit and healthy, imagine what her kitchen looks like. Imagine what her pantry looks like." "I'm going to clean this up and I'm going to organize it. And I'm going to keep it that way to send the message to my brain of this is who I am." Useful Resources:   Join The School of Self-Image Now:    FREE Download:    Sign up for the weekly Edit:    Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website:    Instagram: &nbsp;   Facebook:    TikTok: &nbsp;   YouTube:    &nbsp; &nbsp;

384: The Psychology of Space

From Stuck to Unstoppable: Strategies for Personal Breakthroughs  To overcome feeling stuck, it is crucial to provide your brain with clarity and direction. In this podcast episode, Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of giving clear instructions and goals to your brain. She shares that when she felt stuck while recording the episode, it was because she lacked the direction and clarity needed to move forward.  Tonya also stresses the significance of setting extraordinary goals to combat feeling stuck. Many individuals struggle with this because they have not determined what they truly want. By establishing clear and specific goals, individuals can give their brains a sense of purpose and direction, enabling them to progress and break free from feeling stuck.&nbsp;  Tonya highlights how perfectionism can hinder progress and steal time. By letting go of the need to be perfect and focusing on taking action, individuals can overcome the fear of imperfection, make decisions, and move forward in their personal and professional lives.  Join Tonya as she delves into why we get stuck and how to move forward with purpose and intention.  Talking Points:  01:24 - Clarity and Direction for Getting Unstuck 02:18 - Choosing an Extraordinary Goal 03:42 - Discomfort of Change&nbsp; 07:21 - Acceptance and Authenticity 08:03 - The Trap of Perfectionism 09:07 - Embracing Where You Are 10:00 - The Analogy of Water Skiing 11:46 - Letting Go of the Rope 13:22 - Creating Desired Feelings 14:48 - Moving Towards Desired Emotions   Quotes:  "You don't know what you're trying to create. And the reason why the majority of you don't know is because you're afraid of the answer."  "Perfectionism will not only steal your time, it will steal your life."  "But if I've learned anything, the world doesn't want the perfect version of you. They want the real you."  "The way to get unstuck is to let go of the rope. Let go for a minute and just relax."  "Done is better than perfect" Useful Resources:   Join The School of Self-Image Now:    FREE Download:    Sign up for the weekly Edit:    Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website:    Instagram:    Facebook:    TikTok:    YouTube:    &nbsp; &nbsp;

385: How to Get Unstuck

Illuminating Your Path: The Decision Switch in Action  Making decisions is essential for moving forward in life and creating change. In the podcast episode, Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of making decisions to break free from feeling stuck and to propel oneself towards desired outcomes. She discusses how indecision can keep individuals in a state of paralysis, preventing them from progressing in life. She also highlights that decisions, whether big or small, play a crucial role in shaping the trajectory of one's life and influencing the overall experience.  This episode underscores the transformative power of making decisions and highlights how each choice, no matter how small, can have a significant impact on one's life journey. By embracing the decision-making process and being willing to step into the unknown, individuals can break free from stagnation, create positive change, and ultimately shape a more fulfilling and purposeful life.  Talking Points:  00:42 - The Decision Switch Concept 02:22 - Reasons for Decision Paralysis 04:38 - Overthinking and Perfectionism in Decisions 05:45 - External Pressures Impacting Decisions 07:53 - Worry and Business 08:15 - Breaking Connections with Old Self 09:41 - Team Dynamics and Decision Confidence 11:59 - Stop Self-Criticism 14:38 - Personal Decision to Build a House 17:50 - Clarity After Making Decisions 18:12 - Relationship Decisions: Stay or Go 19:05 - Comfort in Indecision 19:37 - Removing Right or Wrong from Decisions 23:00 - Investing in Personal Growth  Quotes:  "People fear losing things more than they get excited about gaining things."  "I literally said out loud, I am no longer available to worry about my business. It is not even an option."  "What is the decision switch that you need to make in your life right now?"  "It was like, oh, now I am a homeowner. Now I am adulting officially. And it was the best feeling."  "Either way, just switch the light on. That's what decisions do. They turn the light on so you can see what your next steps are."  "There is no right or wrong decisions that we will make from a place of wanting the best for ourselves."  "It is done. Now, can you learn something from it? 100%."  Useful Resources:   Join The School of Self-Image Now:&nbsp; https://schoolofselfimage.com/join   FREE Download:    Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial   TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial    &nbsp;

386: The Decision Switch

Unlocking Lasting Peace with Your Body  Success should be judged beyond the scale and dress size. This episode emphasizes the importance of redefining how we measure success with our bodies. Host and Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh highlights that relying solely on the scale or dress size as indicators of success can be detrimental to our overall well-being. Instead, she encourages listeners to shift their focus towards how they feel emotionally and physically.  Tonya shares her personal journey of struggling with weight and body image issues, where she found herself trapped in a cycle of using external measurements to determine her worth. She explains that tying success to a number on the scale can lead to feelings of discouragement, fear, and obsession. By shifting the focus to how we feel each day and how our bodies feel, we can create a more sustainable and fulfilling approach to body success.&nbsp;  Join Tonya as she delves into finding beauty and joy in life, beyond the numbers on a scale.  Talking Points: 02:25 Finding peace with your body. 10:18 - Rethinking Body Success Measurement 15:28 - Creating Intrinsic Body Success 18:10 - Embracing Imperfection and Gratitude 21:01 - Choosing Definitions of Body Success Quotes:  "If you even look at the definition of the word slim, it's to rid of the excess, to slim down."  "We have a limited amount of energy and how much of yours is going into obsessing, hating, resisting, trying so hard to lose weight?"  "I have this belief that we're successful even when we fail, if we use those failures to grow us."  "You'll never feel better when you've set up your world and your paradigm that you can only feel good if you look a certain way."  "Wait, W-A-I-T, leads to wait, W-E-I-G-H-T. It's time to stop waiting to feel better."  "You're not here to be perfect. You're here to enjoy your life, to enjoy your body, to learn and to grow."  &nbsp; Useful Resources: Sign Up for the Slim Secret Webinar: https://schoolofselfimage.com/secret Join The School of Self-Image Now:&nbsp; https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial &nbsp;

Ep 387: Body Success Beyond the Scale

Getting everything done while still managing to find time for yourself seems like a pretty impossible task. It seems like no matter what you do or how you reorganize your schedule, you never have time for leisure or even relaxation. The woman who effortlessly finds her balance between leisure and hustle can pretty much achieve any and EVERY thing she sets her mind to. And while effortlessness is a trait we all wish we’d been blessed with at birth, sometimes we need to learn how to work smarter instead of harder so that effortlessness is second nature. With that being said, here’s how I managed to hustle leisurely…

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How a Lady of Leisure Hustles

Sometimes we get so wrapped up in improving large parts of our lives (careers, relationships, etc.), that we forget the little things matter too. Not doing so can have you feeling like you’re living a double life where you’re the chic, put-together professional out in public, but look like a homeless beggar when you’re alone at home. Whether it’s the old slippers we like to wear around the house, the quality of the food we shop for, or even the way we organize our closets, we should pay attention to those “small” things and focus on improving them as well! Here’s how I decided to rid myself of the double life I was living…

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Are you living a double life?

While Americans are busy writing out their 5-year visions and checking off their to-do lists, the French culture places a lot of value on the details of life. More specifically, they focus on 3 areas of their daily life. My experience has been that when you pay attention to these 3 areas, everything else in your life works so much better. What are these 3 areas? Check out this episode to find out.

3 Areas that Deserve Your Daily Attention

Do you constantly feel overwhelmed?  Is time something you never seem to have enough of?  Are you not taking care of yourself?  In this episode, Tonya shares how the French culture inspired her to start taking time for leisure.  And, when you do, the world doesn’t fall apart.  If anything, it becomes more rich and full.  Ready to take the challenge?

Become a Lady of Leisure

If you’re struggling or feel like you can’t create results in your life, learning to cultivate elegance is key, because elegance is a mindset. 

Learn 3 truths that Tonya learned from women who came into her life at the right time to teach her core principles that changed her life. 

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FREE VIDEO TRAINING: The 3 Truths of Elegant Women

In this episode, Tonya shares what she considers the “worst day of middle school.” She tried a style experiment that failed miserably. The humiliation and self-loathing that ensued created years where she ignored her desire to be a stylish woman. Today, Tonya is revisiting her 12-year old self to give her a love letter that is applicable to all women who want to make the world their runway and be their best selves. 

Get the full show here: http://tonyaleigh.com/how-to-recover-from-a-style-disaster

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How to recover from a style disaster: A love letter to my 12-year old self

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NEW COURSE | Introducing “Charm The Room”

Have you ever tried so hard to achieve something that you made yourself completely miserable in the process? Perhaps so miserable that the entire journey didn’t even feel worth it by the end? In this episode, I’m sharing five steps you can take to retrain your brain and take a new approach to weight loss. Retraining your mind and thinking new thoughts isn’t an easy undertaking, but it’s one of the most worthwhile things you’ll ever do in your life. Get full show notes and more information here:&nbsp;https://frenchkisslife.com/149

149: Elegant Weight Loss

At French Kiss Life, we believe that personal development should be fun and exciting.  We like to live our lives with substance and style.  In Tonya’s approach, she believes there isn’t a problem that can’t be solved through French Kissing Life.  Gone are the days of trying to beat yourself into success and pushing harder to get results.  You are about to learn what it means to live with ease, elegance and style, no matter what lies before you.  

In a world that compels you to GO BIGGER, HARDER, FASTER, Tonya has an enticing alternative: 
Slow down. Touch pause. Make memories. Live richly. Tend to the details of your life. Luxuriate in everything that’s good & right. Live artfully & well. French Kiss Life!  

When you do, Tonya (and the movement of ladies from around the globe) promise you this:  The world will not fall apart.  Quite the opposite, in fact.  As you saunter through your life, luxuriate in your own success & master the Art of Living, you’ll bring new  inspiration & energy to everything you touch.

In this podcast Tonya will share with you personal stories and experiences and opinions about how to live with more style, substance and joie de vivre…. in order to inspire you to do the same.

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