Every time you “win” an argument as a leader, you actually lose influence. In this episode I reveal why arguments sabotage trust, how to spot the ego traps that bait you in, and a proven redirect playbook to turn conflict into collaboration. You’ll leave with scripts, questions, and practical tools to lead with calm authority instead of loud authority. &nbsp; What you will learn:   Why winning debates is always a leadership loss   The hidden costs of ego-driven conversations   How to spot your physical and emotional triggers   A question-led redirect playbook to cool down heat   Real-world examples for peers and direct reports   Why silence and curiosity are the most underrated leadership tools   &nbsp;  Timestamps 00:00 – Opening hook and show intro 04:10 – Why arguments destroy trust and long-term influence 09:00 – Ego traps and the hidden cost of short-term wins 14:25 – Common missteps: interruptions, showdowns, public arguments 19:30 – Why compliance is not buy-in and the myth of silence 24:20 – Personal story: healthy debate vs. workplace arguments 29:00 – Physical tells: signs you’re about to take the bait 33:40 – Redirecting with questions instead of counterattacks 38:05 – Silence, mirroring, and shared goals as leadership tools 42:00 – Wrap-up, checklist, and closing actions &nbsp;  Links: 📘 Download the Free eBook:&nbsp; 🌐&nbsp;Explore Our Leadership Programs:&nbsp; &nbsp;  Join our mailing list to receive our team's latest news and updates. Don’t worry; your information will not be shared. &nbsp;We hate SPAM. We will never sell your information for any reason.   Contact&nbsp;&nbsp;for a Free Consultation  &nbsp;

From Arguments to Shared Goals

Vaughn is the co-founder of Results-Driven Leadership. He is a leadership development expert, podcaster, and author. His methods are brought from his real-world experience working on the front lines and living the role of being a results-driven leader and manager.

There is no theory, just common-sense advice, and direction from someone who developed the team that scaled a $2 Billion business with 3000 employees. CarMax is the world's largest and most respected auto industry companies and is a Fortune 100 Best Places to Work.

Vaughn's mission is to improve the impact of executives and other managers by increasing their knowledge, skills, and abilities. His motto is "No matter what business you're in; you're in the people business."

From Arguments to Shared Goals

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