We humans love to be right. We defend our opinions. We double down on our beliefs. We dig our heels in, even when being right costs us our peace. As leaders, our attachment to rightness can quietly poison our relationships, decision-making, and emotional well-being.

In this episode, I explore the paradox of being right and why true freedom lives on the other side of letting go. I share a story about my dad, who embodies a mix of self-righteousness and self-loathing. Watching him cling to being right, even as it isolates him from the people he says he loves, has been a powerful mirror for me.

I connect this experience to leadership, to life, and to the personal transitions I am navigating right now. I share a costly patent infringement lawsuit where my desire to be right overruled my willingness to listen. I talk about my divorce and how I am intentionally choosing peace over correctness as I enter this next phase of my life and leadership.

I also dive into the concept of paradox. Two truths can be true at the same time. You can be confident and still be wrong. You can love someone and feel hurt. You can lead with strength and still change your mind. ” The ability to hold paradox is the cornerstone of emotional maturity.


Mic Drop Moments
• “The need to be right is a cage disguised as control.”
• “Freedom does not come from being right. Freedom comes from being open.”
• “When you are right, you lose nothing by listening. When you are wrong, you lose everything by refusing to listen.”
• “Two truths can be true at the same time. Emotionally mature leaders stop dying on the hill of being right.”
• “Ask yourself. Did being right today make my life better, or did it just give me a dopamine hit followed by disconnection?”

Key Takeaways
Paradox is where wisdom lives
Life is not black or white, and emotionally mature leaders understand this. Two truths can be true at the same time, and the more we can hold opposing ideas without needing certainty, the more grounded and effective we become.

Being right gives a dopamine hit, not lasting peace
Winning an argument feels good because our brains release dopamine, but the high is fleeting. Over time, clinging to rightness leads to defensiveness, disconnection, and a closed mind that keeps us stuck.

Leaders who need to be right shut down their teams
When leaders always have to be right, people stop speaking up. This shuts down ownership thinking, limits creativity, and prevents teams from challenging assumptions or offering better solutions.

The cost of being right is often hidden and high
You may win the argument but lose something far more critical, whether it is trust, money, time, or connection. When life becomes a competition instead of a relationship, the need to be right slowly erodes joy and collaboration.

Choose freedom over being right with daily practice
Freedom comes from intentional practice. Pause and get curious. Practice both/and thinking. Ask better questions. Prioritize connection over correctness. And reflect daily on whether being right actually made your life better.

A Reflection Invitation
I invite you to look at one area of your life or leadership where you might be trading your peace and freedom for the need to be right. Just one. Then experiment with letting go in that situation. Do not correct the email. Do not send the “last word” text. Do not push the point in the meeting. Let it go once and see what happens.


Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok!

Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward 
Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ 
Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/


The Paradox of Being Right

"Automate or Fall Behind" sounds dramatic, but it points to a quieter question leaders are facing in 2026: are our systems designed for how we want to lead? In this episode of Reflect Forward, I sit down with Nadav Wilf, founder and CEO of Align Coach, to explore how AI and automation can either amplify leadership clarity or reveal where teams still rely on outdated structures. This is not a conversation about chasing the latest tools. It is about building a strategic AI vision, addressing resistance to change, and creating the training cadence required for new ways of working to actually stick.

Most leaders are already experimenting with AI in some form. They have a ChatGPT subscription. They use AI to draft emails or summarize notes. Nadav draws a critical distinction between manual AI and automated AI. Manual AI creates speed in isolated moments. Automated AI creates leverage across the organization. Without that shift, companies remain stuck in fragmented experimentation rather than building scalable systems.

A central theme of this conversation is that AI adoption fails more often due to leadership behavior than to technical complexity. Leaders underestimate the importance of vision, overestimate how quickly habits change, and stop training too soon. Nadav breaks down why consistency is the determining factor. When training stops, people revert to old workflows, and leaders walk away with false proof that AI does not work.

I grounded the conversation with a real-world example from StoneAge. Instead of purchasing expensive accounts payable automation software, we built a custom GPT layered on top of our existing ERP system. In a matter of weeks, we automated manual work, accelerated internal learning, improved job satisfaction, and avoided a six-figure software spend. The win was not just technical. It was cultural. The team experienced firsthand how AI could remove low-value work and free them to focus on higher-impact responsibilities.

The episode also explores the human dynamics that quietly shape change efforts. Nadav introduces the concept of elevators, resistors, and supporters. Elevators lean in and move change forward. Supporters follow the dominant energy. Resistors, often unintentionally, can stall progress by clinging to familiar systems. Leaders who fail to name these dynamics allow resistance to run the strategy by default.

Throughout the conversation, one message becomes clear. You do not need to understand every detail of AI to lead effectively in this era. You need to take responsibility for the direction, cadence, and mindset your organization brings to it. AI is not a side project. It is an operating decision.

Automate or Fall Behind is an invitation to reflect on what you have been carrying that technology can now handle, and to move forward with intention rather than urgency. Leaders who do this well will not just be more efficient. They will create calmer teams, better work, and organizations designed for how people actually want to lead and contribute in 2026.

Connect with Nadav
 Leading AI Enhanced Teams: Download our step by step guide for leaders ready to embed AI into their core operations.
Complimentary AI Strategy Session: For those with a desire for efficiency through AI implementation book your 30-minute Align AI Strategy Session to assess ROI for becoming an AI Intelligent Company.

For AI and Automation latest news and implementation, connect with Nadav on LinkedIn

Connect with Kerry 
Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok!
Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward 
Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ 
Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/


Automate or Fall Behind w/ Nadav Wilf

Most leadership frustration begins with expectations we carry silently. Expectations that people will call us back, take initiative, own things the way we would, or move at our pace. When those expectations are not met, we often experience irritation or disappointment without stopping to examine their origins or whether they were ever articulated.

In this episode of Reflect Forward, I unpack why psychology describes unspoken expectations as premeditated resentments and how confusing expectations with standards creates unnecessary strain in leadership. I explore the difference between clear, negotiated expectations that create accountability and internal assumptions that quietly turn into control.

I share a simple yet powerful exercise that helped me separate reality from the stories I was telling myself about others. Writing down everything I expected from someone and then crossing out what they actually did forced me to confront how much of my frustration was directed at a version of the person that only existed in my head.

This episode also draws from my own leadership missteps. I discuss the desire for growth in people who did not want it for themselves, and how that dynamic failed every time. I reflect on the impact of expecting others to move at my pace and how dropping that expectation fundamentally changed our culture, improved retention, and allowed me to lead with greater clarity and intention.

Throughout the episode, I return to a core distinction in leadership. Unspoken expectations create resentment. Clear expectations create accountability. Reality creates choice. Letting go of unexamined expectations is not about lowering standards or tolerating misalignment. It is about reclaiming agency, seeing people as they are, and making grounded decisions without bitterness.

If you find yourself frustrated with individuals who are not meeting your expectations, this episode offers an alternative perspective. Not to excuse performance, but to clarify responsibility and help you lead from reality rather than resentment.

Key Takeaways
•	Most leadership frustration comes from expectations that were never articulated, not from people intentionally falling short.
•	Unspoken expectations are a hidden form of control, not accountability.
•	You cannot want growth, ambition, or pace for someone more than they want it themselves.
•	Clear expectations create accountability. Reality creates choice.
•	Seeing people as they are, not as you wish they would be, restores agency and reduces resentment.

Mic-Drop Moments from the Episode
•	“Unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments.”
•	“Expecting someone to live by your internal rules is not accountability. It is fantasy.”
•	“If someone gives you less than you need, it is not betrayal. It is information.”
•	“You cannot want it for someone more than they want it for themselves.”
•	“When you stop managing invisible contracts, leadership gets lighter.”

Connect with Kerry 
Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok!
Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward 
Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ 
Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/



The Expectations That Are Quietly Making You Miserable as a Leader

There is a specific kind of exhaustion that does not come from workload. It comes from living under an internal verdict. Not good enough. Not worthy. Not capable. Leaders can deliver results while quietly chasing approval from a story they accepted long before they had the awareness to question it. Because it often looks like ambition and high standards, we reward it. We call it leadership.

In this episode of Reflect Forward, I sit down with Curtis McCullom, CEO of Bespoke Human Potential Coaching and a clinical hypnotherapist, to explore what actually drives behavior beneath performance. Curtis introduces his Legit Mindset framework, learning, growing, expanding, and transforming. The sequence matters. Learning reveals what is running you. Growing releases emotional charge at the root. Expanding clarifies who you are becoming. Transforming requires daily reconditioning. Transformation is not a moment. It is a practice.

Key Takeaways
•	Most performance issues are rooted in subconscious programming, not lack of effort.
•	Behavior is a pattern, not an identity.
•	Regulating the nervous system is a leadership skill.
•	Responsibility restores power, not shame.
•	Lasting transformation requires daily repetition, not a single breakthrough.

We challenge one of the most common leadership myths. Most leaders are not stuck because they lack discipline or strategy. They are stuck because an old program is still running. Behavior is not identity. You are not broken. You are running a pattern. When that distinction lands, shame falls away and responsibility returns.

We also explore triggers and nervous system regulation. A trigger feels external, but it is internal information. Owning it does not excuse others. It restores agency. Responsibility is not blame. Responsibility is power. And when the body is activated, the mind is not choosing. It is executing a script. Calm the body first, then the thinking can change.

Language becomes another doorway to ownership. Shifting from “I am not enough” to “I am feeling not enough” separates identity from experience and opens better questions. Not why am I like this, but what is driving this right now and how do I want to respond.

This conversation is a reminder that goals alone do not create change. Goals planted in bad soil only grow more weeds. Without addressing the emotional root, leaders simply repeat patterns at a higher level. Real change comes from releasing what is running you and reinforcing what you choose daily.

Mic Drop Moments
•	Responsibility is not blame. Responsibility is power.
•	If you are activated, you are not choosing. You are executing a script.
•	Behavior is not identity. You are not broken. You are running a pattern.
•	Goals planted in bad soil only grow more weeds.
•	Transformation is not a breakthrough moment. It is a daily practice.

This episode is an invitation to stop executing old scripts and start choosing who you are becoming.

Connect with Curtis	
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@curtismccullom
Website: http://www.bespokehumanpotentialcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/curtis-mccullom/
Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/BespokeHumanPotential
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/curtis.mccullom.BHPC/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/curtis.mccullom/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/curtisBmccullom
TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@curtismccullom 

Connect with Kerry 
Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok!
Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward 
Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ 
Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/


The "Not Good Enough Program" and How To Rewrite It w/ Curtis McCullom

Hustle culture teaches leaders that exhaustion equals commitment and rest must be earned. But what if the constant push is not discipline at all, but fear in disguise?

In this episode of Reflect Forward, Kerry Siggins breaks down the difference between working hard and hustling, why success often increases pressure instead of freedom, and how constant self-enforcement quietly undermines leadership, health, and clarity. She shares a personal story and offers three practical shifts to exit hustle culture without losing ambition or edge.

Podcast on setting up systems to architect your life: https://kerrysiggins.com/blog/architect-your-2026/ 

Connect with Kerry 
Visit her website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok!

Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward 
Find out more about her book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ 
Connect with Kerry on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/



Exit the Hustle Culture

Executive presence is not about polish, performance, or personality. It is about trust. And trust is built long before you say the right thing.

In this episode of Reflect Forward, Kerry Siggins is joined by executive coach Nataly Huff to unpack what executive presence really is, why so many leaders misunderstand it, and how your nervous system is shaping how others experience you in real time.

This conversation goes beyond surface-level advice and into the mechanics of leadership under pressure. How you regulate stress. How you handle silence. How your body communicates confidence or instability before you speak. And how the stories you tell yourself about feedback quietly shape your identity as a leader.

Nataly shares neuroscience-backed insights on why dysregulated leaders lose access to their best thinking, how embodiment plays a critical role in leadership presence, and why authenticity, not imitation, is the foundation of trust.

You will also hear a powerful discussion on feedback and identity, including why leaders are often unreliable narrators of their own story and how to use feedback as data rather than self-judgment.
This episode is for leaders who want to be trusted, not just impressive. For executives who want to show up calm, clear, and grounded when the stakes are high. And for anyone ready to stop performing leadership and start embodying it.

Key topics covered include:
• What executive presence actually means and why it is contextual
• Nervous system regulation and leadership under stress
• Embodiment and how your body shapes perception
• Feedback, identity, and the stories leaders tell themselves
• Practical ways to build trust through presence, not performance

You can find Nataly Huff here: 
Website: https://www.inspire-forward.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/natalyhuff
Instagram: @inspirefwdcoaching 
Tik Tok: @https://www.tiktok.com/@inspirefwdcoaching
Book a Free Call: https://www.inspire-forward.com/book-a-free-call
Rewiring Your Leadership Brain https://www.inspire-forward.com/rewiring-your-leadership-brain

Connect with Kerry 
Visit her website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok!
Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward 
Find out more about her book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ 
Connect with Kerry on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/


Executive Presence Is Not What You Think w/ Nataly Huff

Most leadership breakdowns are not strategic. They are emotional.

In this episode of Reflect Forward, Kerry Siggins explores why emotional skill is the true foundation of modern leadership. As AI accelerates and complexity increases, leaders who cannot regulate their nervous systems, understand their emotional impact, and create psychological safety will quietly erode trust.

Emotional skill is not softness. It is leadership capacity.

Kerry breaks down the seven pillars of emotional skill, inspired by Zoe Kors's Radical Intimacy, and explains how they directly influence executive presence, emotional intelligence, team performance, trust, and long-term organizational success.

You’ll learn:
• Why leadership failures are often emotional, not strategic
• What intimacy really means in a leadership context
• How self-awareness and discernment reduce conflict
• Why emotional regulation is nervous system leadership
• How responsibility for impact builds trust
• Why boundaries make empathy sustainable

If you want to strengthen your emotional intelligence, build high-trust teams, and lead with depth, maturity, and influence, this conversation will challenge and broaden your thinking about leadership.
The future of leadership belongs to those who develop emotional skill.

Connect with Kerry 
Visit her website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok!

Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward 

Find out more about her book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ 

Connect with Kerry on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/




The Future of Leadership Is Emotional Skill

In this episode of Reflect Forward, Kerry Siggins sits down with Yvonne Trost, Subconscious Performance Coach and former Fortune 500 strategist, to explore how subconscious programming shapes leadership, ambition, and results.

Most leaders believe change requires more discipline and stronger habits. But what if the real constraint is not strategy or effort, but the invisible patterns driving your behavior?

Kerry and Yvonne examine:
•	How subconscious conditioning forms your leadership default
•	Why insight alone does not create lasting behavior change
•	The difference between cognitive ownership and embodied ownership
•	How neuroplasticity and memory reconsolidation can rewire limiting beliefs
•	Why overworking, perfectionism, and control are often protection strategies

If most behavior is automated by adulthood, what does true ownership require?
This conversation challenges traditional leadership development and invites you to reflect forward, not from the past, but from who you are becoming.

Connect with Yvonne
www.unlocklimitlessyou.com/free-session 

Connect with Kerry 
Visit her website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok!

Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward 
Find out more about her book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ 
Connect with Kerry on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/


Who Is Really Running Your Decisions? w/ YvonneTrost

What happens when a leader’s greatest strength becomes their identity?

In this episode of Reflect Forward, CEO Kerry Siggins explores how high-performing leaders can unknowingly tie their self-worth to how they are perceived and why feedback can suddenly feel threatening when it challenges that identity.

The catalyst was a boardroom moment. After presenting a three year strategic plan, Kerry received clear feedback: it was too complicated and lacked focus. The board was right. The strategic reset was necessary. But the real leadership lesson emerged not in revising the plan, but in confronting the subtle instinct to protect her image when explaining the change to her team.

Kerry examines how “armor” shows up in leadership through over-explanation, narrative control, and the desire to look sharp even while correcting course. Drawing on Theodore Roosevelt’s “Man in the Arena,” she challenges leaders to consider whether they are performing in the arena or allowing the arena to change them.

In this conversation, listeners will learn:
•	Why high performers often struggle with feedback
•	How identity fusion makes perception feel threatening
•	The difference between controlled performance and messy courage
•	Practical ways to detach worth from perception
•	How visible ownership strengthens team alignment and trust

This episode is for CEOs, executives, founders, and emerging leaders who want to build stronger teams, grow their leadership capacity, and operate with greater self-awareness.

Because the next level of leadership may not require a sharper strategy.

It may require less armor.


When Strength Becomes Your Identity

Most leaders assume chaos is simply the cost of growth. As companies scale, complexity increases, communication breaks down, and decisions slow. The instinct is usually to reach for a new tool, new software, or another piece of technology that promises to make everything work better.
But what if chaos is not actually a technology problem?

In this episode of Reflect Forward, Kerry Siggins sits down with Val Coin, co-founder and director of Via Technology, to explore why organizations struggle to scale without chaos, even when they know systems are necessary.

After leading more than 150 digital transformation projects across companies of all sizes, Val has seen a consistent pattern. Businesses believe they have a technology problem when in reality they have a systems problem. And very often that systems problem starts with leadership.

This conversation moves beyond software and operations to explore the deeper tension leaders experience as their companies grow. Systems require leaders to move from instinct to intentionality. They challenge the habits, control, and identity that may have helped founders succeed in the early stages of the business.

Val shares how effective organizations approach systems through three interconnected elements: people, process, and technology. While most companies focus on the technology layer, breakdowns usually begin in process and alignment. Leaders often design systems around how they wish people to behave rather than how they actually behave.

When systems account for real human behavior, organizations reduce friction and create processes that teams can consistently execute.

Kerry and Val also discuss why ownership is critical in any transformation effort. Even when organizations bring in consultants or advisors, leaders and teams must remain deeply involved in building the systems they will ultimately operate. Without that ownership, even well-designed solutions fail to stick.

If you are a founder, CEO, or executive leader trying to scale your business, improve processes, or navigate digital transformation, this episode offers a thoughtful perspective on how leadership, systems, and culture intersect.

In this episode, Kerry and Val discuss
• Why leaders often resist systems even when they know they need them
• The real reason businesses become chaotic as they scale
• Why technology rarely solves operational challenges on its own
• The relationship between people, process, and technology
• How leaders can design systems that work with human behavior
• Why ownership is essential for successful transformation
• The importance of cadence and reflection when scaling a business

Connect with Val Coin
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/valentina-coin/ 
Company: https://viatechnology.com.au

Connect with Kerry Siggins
Website: www.kerrysiggins.com 
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/ 
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Scaling Without Chaos Starts with the Leader w/ Val Coin

Sometimes leaders just want people to do their jobs.

In this episode of Reflect Forward, Kerry Siggins shares a moment from a conversation with a group of CEOs that struck a nerve with everyone in the room. After dealing with workplace drama, she said something out loud that many leaders think but rarely say: sometimes we just need people to do their jobs.

The response was immediate. Not frustration. Recognition.

This episode explores what was really underneath that moment. Leading in uncertain times creates enormous pressure. Leaders are navigating volatility, economic shifts, and constant decisions while trying to maintain strong cultures. At the same time, employees are experiencing their own uncertainty and stress. When that tension rises, workplaces can easily drift into complaint, narratives, and drama.
Over the past decade, organizations have worked hard to create more human-centered cultures built on empathy, psychological safety, and awareness of people’s lived experiences. Those shifts have been important. But in some environments, the pendulum swings too far, and accountability becomes softened to avoid tension.

When that happens, organizations lose sight of the foundation that makes work actually work: contribution.

In this conversation, Kerry explores the contract that exists between employees and organizations, why contribution restores agency in uncertain times, and how both leaders and employees play a role in building strong, healthy cultures.

Key Takeaways
•	Contribution is the foundation of the workplace contract. Employees create value through their work while organizations provide compensation, opportunity, and growth.
•	Empathy and standards must rise together. Compassion for people’s experiences should never replace accountability.
•	Contribution creates agency in uncertain environments by shifting focus toward what individuals can control.
•	Discomfort is often part of growth. Feedback, challenge, and high expectations are not harmful. They are how people and organizations improve.
•	Avoidance erodes culture faster than conflict. When accountability is delayed, resentment builds and trust weakens.
Mic Drop Moments
•	“The situation is the situation, and how you decide to show up in it is going to be your experience of that situation.”
•	“Contribution creates agency. Complaint amplifies helplessness.”
•	“In difficult seasons, the question becomes simple. Do we default to narrative, or do we default to ownership?”
•	“When uncertainty rises, the need for clarity and reliability rises with it.”
•	“Doing your job well is not small. It is stabilizing.”

Connect with Kerry 

Visit her website, kerrysiggins.com, to get more leadership resources or to book her for a speaking engagement

Find out more about her book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ 

Connect with Kerry on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/




When Leaders Just Want People To Do Their Jobs

Reflect Forward isn’t your everyday leadership podcast. This show is about exceptional leadership. Game-changing leadership. Learn from peers, experts, authors, and more on how to be an uber successful leader…one that stands out from the rest. One that inspires others to do great things. One that others want to follow. How does Reflecting Forward fit into exceptional leadership? You can only become great at what you do by deliberately creating your future by reflecting on the past and present…what you did well, mistakes you’ve made, and lessons you’ve learned.

Kerry Siggins is the CEO of StoneAge, the global leader in the manufacturing and distribution of high pressure waterjetting tooling and automated equipment. Kerry is also a member of Young President's Organization (YPO) and sits on several boards. She is a sought-after speaker, thought leader, leadership blogger and podcast host.