One of the ways we can change what we believe is possible for ourselves is to "borrow belief" that others have in us or that others have about what is possible. When we see what others have done, we can choose to believe "it is possible for me to achieve this" or "this person believes I have the potential". Listen as Heidi teaches how to look to others or look to our past achievements to fuel our future changes. Borrowing belief is often the first step to creating a new future.

Ep. 117 Borrowing Belief

Learning how to say no when someone requests something of us is a critical skill.&nbsp; This skill anchors and steadies us as we stay in our lane and take more control of our life. Listen to episode 176 (a replay of episode 9) to learn:  Importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing time Reasons why people struggle to say no Awareness of the consequences of saying yes to everything Strategies for politely declining requests Emphasis on taking responsibility for time management Importance of being honest with oneself and others The significance of clear communication and setting expectations Examples of saying no graciously and firmly Discussion on the responsibility of commitments once made Avoiding blaming others for one's own choices Importance of self-care and valuing one's time Respectfully declining requests for money or other favors Prioritizing tasks based on personal values and integrity Admiration for those who effectively manage their time and commitments Importance of self-worth and self-confidence in saying no  A confident mother is the greatest gift to her family! To set up a free consultation for coaching, go to https://heidibenjaminsen.as.me/consult/

Ep. 176 (Best Of) How To Say No

We all want to be liked.&nbsp; It's a human survival desire. It feels good when people like us. BUT we all encounter people who don't like us.&nbsp; Our brain thinks this is a problem.&nbsp; This isn't a problem!&nbsp;&nbsp; If someone likes us, this represents their brain and their lane - not us! Listen to this "best of" episode to learn how to manage what you think, feel and do when someone doesn't like you. Let other people be wrong about you. Our job is to focus on what WE think about OURSELVES and build OUR self-esteem. This focuses our attention on our lane and helps us show up as people we WANT to be. A confident mother is the greatest gift to her family! &nbsp;

Ep. 177 (Best of) When Someone Doesn't Like Me

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Summary    In this episode, I discuss the tendency common to everying - wishing others were different from who they are. It's something I've noticed in the people I coach, and it's a struggle I've faced in my own relationships with family and friends. Throughout the episode, I explore how these wishes create barriers between us and the people we care about, hindering our ability to truly understand and appreciate them. I challenge the notion that others need to change for us to feel differently, emphasizing the power of changing our own thoughts to shape our emotions. I provide listeners with practical tools to dismantle these barriers and foster deeper connections with others.    Examples:  I share examples of common wishes, such as wanting a partner to be more handy around the house or wishing for more frequent communication from a parent. I discuss the challenges of accepting children for who they are, including desires for them to be more outgoing or neurotypical. And more!    Lessons Learned:  I encourage listeners to examine their beliefs about why certain traits are perceived as better than others. I emphasize that our emotions are shaped by our thoughts, not by the actions of others. I urge listeners to embrace discomfort and take responsibility for their own emotions rather than expecting others to change. I highlight the importance of recognizing and appreciating both strengths and weaknesses in ourselves and others. I advocate for a focus on personal growth while simultaneously accepting and loving others for who they are.

Ep. 117 Borrowing Belief

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