EPISODE 197

Failure is the social concept of not meeting a desirable or intended objective, and is usually viewed as the opposite of success. 

In many instances, failure is based on one or more underlying fears.

Failure is an inevitable part of life, but it doesn’t have to define you. 

Instead, failures can serve as a powerful catalysts for growth, innovation, and success in your own life.

The concept of failure can be dissected into several key components that contribute to its occurrence and impact, in your own life.

Understanding these elements of failure and others can help you analyze the failures that occur in your own life effectively and create strategies to prevent future failures.

How do you overcome failures in your own life?  

Use the Triple-A Approach

Using the Triple-A Approach, Acknowledging, Analyzing and Adapting, helps you overcome failures and create a positive impact in your own life.

Out There on the Edge of Everything®…

Stephen Lesavich, PhD

Copyright © 2024 by Stephen Lesavich, PhD.  All rights reserved.

Certified solution-focused life coach and experienced business coach.

Overcome Failure With The Triple - A Approach

EPISODE 213
Frank Shorter was the Olympic Gold Medalist in the marathon race (26.2 miles) in Munich and the Silver Medalist in the Montreal in 1976. On July 12, 1987, I ran the Chicago Distance Classic as part of the AT&T running team. I beat Frank Shorter in that race. That was a magical experience in my life. How can you create magical experiences in your own life.

The Day I Beat Olympic Champion Frank Shorter

EPISODE 214

A traumatic event is defined as “a distressing experience that causes significant emotional, psychological, or physical harm.”

Examples of traumatic events include such things as a car accident, a death of a loved one, a breakup, a loss of a job, or an ongoing series of events, like a chronic health problem, continuous physical, emotional or sexual abuse. 

These traumatic events typically trigger a range of intense feelings and emotions, including fear, helplessness, and a sense of being overwhelmed. 

Post-traumatic growth (PTG) is defined as “positive psychological changes that emerge as a result of struggling with adversity and trauma.”

PTG includes the idea that individuals can not only recover from a trauma but also experience significant personal development and personal transformation from it.

PTG involves changes in understanding oneself, others, and the world, and can include increased personal strength, appreciation for life, and a significant shift in priorities. 

How can you use PTG to overcome any traumas you have experienced in your own life?

Traumas are life’s hardest moments, but can be the very thing when viewed as just a temporary setback that propels you into a new stronger version of yourself and create a significant positive impact in your life.  

Out There on the Edge of Everything®…

Stephen Lesavich, PhD

Copyright © 2025 by Stephen Lesavich, PhD.  All rights reserved.

Certified solution-focused life coach and experienced business coach.

Get Back Up: Using Setbacks as Springboards

EPISODE 215

Your attachment style, is a psychological blueprint that influences how you relate to others.

Attachment theory was developed by British psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, John Bowlby and later expanded by American-Canadian developmental psychologist, Mary Ainsworth.

Attachment theory is based on how you bonded with your primary caregivers (e.g., your mother, grandmother, aunt, father, etc.) which tends to mirror how you bond with others as an adult.

There are four types of personal and professional attachment styles: (1) secure; (2) anxious; (3) avoidant; and (4) disorganized.

Attachment style is very important in your personal life.

Attachment style plays a surprisingly powerful role in your professional life as well.  

Your professional attachment style influences leadership, communication, collaboration, negotiation, and even how you handle success or failure.

How can you change your current personal or professional attachment style?

Creating a new attachment style by rewiring your own emotional habits allows you to create healthier connections and build new relationships in a new way to create a positive impact in your own life.

Out There on the Edge of Everything®…

Stephen Lesavich, PhD

Copyright © 2025 by Stephen Lesavich, PhD.  All rights reserved.

Certified solution-focused life coach and experienced business coach.

What is Your Attachment Style?

EPISODE 215

On May 21, 2025, in Game 1 of the 2025 NBA Eastern Conference Finals, the Indiana Pacers rallied from a 14-point deficit with under three minutes remaining in regulation to defeat the New York Knicks in overtime,   The Pacers were down 14 with 3:14 left in the fourth quarter. Aaron Nesmith, with six 3-pointers in the final five minutes, fueled the comeback. 

Taking and making 3 point shots in a game also offers a number of reward outcomes that are not available by taking and making only 2 point shots.  The reward outcomes are only available by taking, “3 > 2” risk actions in a basketball game.

You will face adversity many different times in your own life.

You can win more often personally and professionally in your own life by taking 3 > 2® risk actions.

How can you win by taking “3 > 2®” risk actions in your own life?

I am a 3 point shooter in my life. How about you?

Out There on the Edge of Everything®…

Stephen Lesavich, PhD

Copyright ©2025 by Stephen Lesavich, PhD.  All rights reserved.

Certified solution-focused life coach and experienced business coach.

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A Winning Attitude - Why 3 is greater than 2

EPISODE 217

Let me share another true story with you.

A painful one.

A couple of years ago, as I was closing my car door with my left hand in the parking lot a local business, I got distracted and I slammed the car door with my left hand on all four of my fingers on my right hand, trapping all four of my fingers on my right hand in between the car door and the car body, with the car door locked.

Ouch!

It was immediately extremely painful and was an instance of adversity in my own life.

Sometimes a situation in your own your life "slams the door" on you, causing you unexpected pain or an obstacle that leaves you momentarily trapped or is a setback in your life.

You feel your access to progress in your own life is blocked by a locked door.

When you find yourself in such a situation in your own life, how can you pickup your keys and unlock the door that is blocking you?

Life will slam doors on you from time-to-time.  You always have the keys in own pocket to unlock such doors.  You my drop your own keys.  Even in such a situation when you do, you can bend down, pick them up, unlock that door and keep going and create a positive impact in your own life.

Out There on the Edge of Everything®…

Stephen Lesavich, PhD

Copyright © 2025 by Stephen Lesavich, PhD.  All rights reserved.

Certified solution-focused life coach and experienced business coach.

The Keys Were in My Pocket

EPISODE 218

Swim Through It

What can swimming and water teach us about resilience and letting go?

How can you use water to get into a flow and stay into a flow your own life?


Let the water teach you what you already know, you can make a positive impact in your life by staying in the flow. You’re stronger, more adaptable, and more buoyant than you think.

Out There on the Edge of Everything®…

Stephen Lesavich, PhD

Copyright © 2025 by Stephen Lesavich, PhD.  All rights reserved.

Certified solution-focused life coach and experienced business coach.

Swim Through It

EPISODE 219
When we think about health and fitness, we often focus on strength, flexibility, or endurance.

There’s one foundational element that quietly supports them all: physical balance. Balance is essential to everyday life, and its benefits reach far beyond simply avoiding a fall.

I urge you to, challenge your balance!

“Challenge Your Balance”

Stephen Lesavich, PhD

When we think about health and fitness, we often focus on strength, flexibility, or endurance.

There’s one foundational element that quietly supports them all: physical balance. Balance is essential to everyday life, and its benefits reach far beyond simply avoiding a fall.

How can your train yourself to be in physical balance in your life?

What are some easy ways to add physical balance to your life?

Are You in Balance?

EPISODE 220

You have been there. Stuck in a problem, tangled in emotions, or unsure of what’s really going on.

Friends may offer helpful insights, mentors might spot your problem instantly. Yet to you, it feels like wandering in a fog.

Why?

It’s hard to see the bigger picture when you’re standing in the frame.

This simple statement captures a profound truth. When you’re too close to something, your perspective is limited.

Whether it’s a career decision, a relationship issue, or a personal struggle, being “in it” makes it difficult to “observe it” objectively.

It’s only with distance and a change in your point of view that clarity begins to emerge.

Learn Why You Struggle to Step Back.

Tools to Step Out of the Frame.

Changing your perspective by stepping out of the current frame of your life and viewing the larger picture will help you create a positive impact in your life.

Out There on the Edge of Everything®…

Stephen Lesavich, PhD

Copyright © 2025 by Stephen Lesavich, PhD.  All rights reserved.

Certified solution-focused life coach and experienced business coach.

Its Hard to See the Bigger Picture When You are Standing in the Frame

EPISODE 221

Summer carries a certain magic. The days stretch long and golden, the evenings hum with warmth and nature bursts into fullness.

It’s a season that invites you to pause, breathe and savor.

Yet, how often do you let it pass by in a blur of plans, busyness, or distractions?

This summer, what if you chose to slow down, just enough to fully experience the joy that’s right in front of you?

What can summer teach you?

How can you let your intuition lead you this summer?

Embracing the summer season will allow you to create a positive impact in your life.

Out There on the Edge of Everything®…

Stephen Lesavich, PhD

Copyright © 2025 by Stephen Lesavich, PhD.  All rights reserved.

Certified solution-focused life coach and experienced business coach.

Savoring the Season

EPISODE 222

Are you bored are work? How often have your heard from your children and other people that they are bored.

In the age of constant notifications, motivational hacks and our productivity culture, boredom has been cast as a villain, something to avoid at all costs.

What if Strategic Boredom is actually an untapped superpower you can use in your personal and professional life?

What is Strategic Boredom?
How Can Strategic Boredom Benefit You?
How Does Strategic Boredom Work?
Why Does Strategic Boredom Work?
How Can You Practice Strategic Boredom in Your Personal and Professional Life?

By practicing Strategic Boredom, you create the mental breathing room that lets you hear your deepest insights, rediscover curiosity, and make choices from a place of calm. clarity instead of constant stimulation to create a positive impact in your personal and professional life.

Out There on the Edge of Everything®…

Stephen Lesavich, PhD

Copyright © 2025 by Stephen Lesavich, PhD.  All rights reserved.

Certified solution-focused life coach and experienced business coach.