Sometimes, we let ourselves off the hook too easily. Other times, we let those we love off the hook. Neither action helps develop character. Bold, honest engagement with self and others will help us cultivate character that influences others well.

Episode 20 - Holding Self & Others Accountable

Change happens over time, through a series of gentle shifts. Sometime, they are so subtle that we may need help to see them. That's one of the reasons why inviting a helper into our lives may be key! Listen to hear more about gradual changes adding up to big outcomes.

Episode 30 - The Gradual Art of Change

One client anecdote helps weave understanding about how interconnected wellness is. Being an adult means discipline, making informed decisions, and weighing next steps based on accurate information. Take a listen!

Episode 44 - Ignorance Is NOT Bliss: Be an Adult

Something that is familiar to us and has been normalized may, in fact, be contributing to unhealth. We need to explore our stories and get comfortable unlearning some of our normal and replacing it with health.  Let's normalize fighting for health and healing.

Episode 46 - It May Be Our Normal; That Doesn't Mean It's Healthy

Here is an introductory list of some red flags that, when they show up in new relationships, should give us great pause. In fact, "abort mission" should be our response.

Episode 57 - Red Flags are Waving! Proceed with Caution

For some, poor identity formation is due to parents and authority figures not inviting kids appropriately into adulthood. When this happens, people often experience mental health distress. Need a more formed identity? There is some work to be done!

Episode 63 - A Poorly Formed Identity Means There Is Work to Do!

This is not about victim blaming. This is about pushing back against the troubling statistics of revictimization. Take a listen. Share with someone who needs to hear this!

Episode 174 - When You're Done Being A Victim

Through an illustrative story, take a trip through the exhaustion that can happen during a reconstruction phase. It takes a while to recreate. That's normal. That's ok.

Episode 239 - It Takes A While

Incompatible? Outright disliked? What is our responsibility and role when that happens?

Episode 246 - When You're Just Not Liked

How we language our story will heavily influence the ways we navigate life. Are we telling a clear story? A helpful story? 

Episode 260 - The Stories I Tell

What happens when best practices and real experiences are mismatched? Take a listen!

Episode 261 - The Iguana & The Cat

Do the skills you have build match what the situation needs? Take a listen!

Episode 267 - Skills to Communicate When Uncomfortable

In an extended analogy, take a listen for why fear shows up when we "try again"

Episode 274 - Understanding over time As My Fear Center Works Overtime

A key piece of identity development is how we choose to talk about the things that we are practicing. Take a listen!

Episode 279 - The Declaratives Matter

It takes intentional effort to put things into helpful sequencing. When we take time to do it, though, it can push back against anxiety in significant ways!

Episode 280 - Sequencing for Anxiety Reduction

Establishing life priorities and creating plans that allow us to walk them out is a key piece of intentional and healthful living. What are the priorities?

Episode 281 - Establishing Life Priorities

Intentional living will always require sacrifice. Perhaps we aren't always clear what we are signing up for. Maybe that's the way it is supposed to be!

Episode 282 - The Next Little Step & Sacrafice

As we engage intentional living, it takes a while to get each domain of life developed. If DOES take time. And each area of life is important. Let's explore this together!

Episode 283 - It's a Lot It; Takes a While

I barely have words. These words only form questions. No answers. How have we arrived here? 

Episode 284 - How? Only Questions Right Now

It's true that we do not have to confront our pain, clean up our inner landscape, and work on healing. It is also true that there is a cost - and not just to ourselves. 

Episode 285 - Immeasurable Cost

Most gains we make are on the other side of sacrifice and on the other side of submission. Are we willing to let go to see what else might emerge?

Episode 286 - Submit to the Process

Identity emerges with committed action over time! 

Also, please forgive the static and the cut/splice! I was able to salvage only some content with the audio file glitched!

Episode 287 - Identity Emerges over Time

Asking some questions about self and others can help propel a deeper understanding when relational ruptures happen. 

Episode 288 - Curiosity to Process Confusion

Even when we are ready to make the change, the emotions will need to be experienced as we go. 

Episode 289 - We Can Prepare but Not Preprocess

When we take aim, the short term and the long term should be oriented in the same direction. Take a listen for the bidirectionality of goal setting. 

Episode 290 - Two Goals, Same Direction

When failure is a part of life, and we don't handle it well, it may cost us! Take a listen for encouragement around navigating failure. 

Episode 291 - Whoops! What Now

In a companion episode to last week, how are we talking to ourselves when weak spots emerge? Whether it's failure or not-yet-developed skills, we can find pathways through . . . and trying again is an option. 

Episode 292 - Try Again

The struggle is where the growth happens. This beautiful metaphor helps illustrate how vital the growing pains are for us to become who we desire to be. Pairing committed action with struggle develops us in intentional ways. 

Episode 293 - Eclosion: Life-giving Growth In the Struggle

Listen for how these two elements help up develop clearer relational boundaries. It doesn't enforce a boundary - but it can help us language and add precision to what we are asking. 

Episode 294 - Consent and Context

Part 1 of 5: Locus of control as a starting point for boundary setting. Take a listen to how we can begin to get clear on what our boundaries through values clarifications. 

Episode 295 - Playing the Game I Condition For

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