Do you find yourself easily triggered by your partner’s actions or tone? 

Perhaps he or she really did something offensive, or maybe that’s just how you perceived it.  

Do you feel disconnected, unsupported, lonely, and unsafe sharing and communicating what you are feeling?

Sometimes, you don’t even understand why you’re upset and it’s not getting easier, it’s getting harder.

Triggers are letting you know you have unhealed wounds that need attention, and these came from your childhood.

Deeper intimate relationships serve a deeper purpose, and they are here to teach you emotional healing and spiritual development. You learn so much more about yourself in a relationship than you could on your own. 

Reparenting is needed or otherwise known as inner child work and this is the act of giving yourself what you didn’t receive as a child. (Not looking at your partner to give this to you) Learn what the  5 Steps to Begin Reparenting are.

I support people in developing skills to improve their lives and their relationships.

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Heal Relationship Triggers

How do you know if your relationship is healthy?
You respect each other, trust one another, communicate well as a couple, you’re both committed to the relationship, you are kind to each other, you enjoy each other’s company, you support each other’s goals, you make decisions together, and you feel supported and cared.  

There are many areas that make up a healthy relationship and I will give you some ideas to reflect on your own relationship and what you can do differently.

Love each other.
Fight for each other.
Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride.
And it’s so worth it!

I support people to develop skills to improve their lives and their relationships.

Counselling, Coaching and online programs. https://powerofchange.com.au

What's a Healthy Relationship

I watch firsthand the breakdown of relationships as couples stop planning together, and communicating together and in time it’s too far to come back from.

If you’ve lost your spark and are feeling disconnected and frustrated about the state of your relationship, but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, then opening up the conversation is crucial.

If you’re wanting more intimacy in your marriage, it’s important to have shared goals. When you share goals, you agree on the most important things that you want for each other and for your marriage as a team. This creates emotional intimacy which leads to physical intimacy. Having effective communication and knowing how to resolve conflict will support you in creating shared goals.

10 types/areas of shared goals to help your marriage get stronger, work together is essential.  These will help you talk about issues that are important to you both and open up opportunities for dreaming about your future together which brings in closeness and connection.

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Goal Setting in Marriage is Essential

There is no longer any fun, connection, sex, or closeness, and you’re lonely and stuck in your marriage. You are tired of it and not sure how to change it. You’ve been married for two years, five years, fifteen years, or 25 years?

This podcast gives you 8 terrific, down-to-earth ways to bring back some life into your intimate relationship. 

Giving your relationship the priority and time, it needs to ignite and get the spark back.

Suppose you’ve lost your spark, and are feeling disconnected, and frustrated about the state of your relationship, but want to avoid separation and/or divorce. In that case, opening up the conversation is crucial. This podcast will give you some ideas to build a happier, healthier marriage and relationship filled with passion, desire, and fun. 

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From Lonely to Loving in your Marriage

Let’s take the rose-coloured glasses off and talk about sex and the intimacy needed for sexual intimacy which combines the physical act of sex with emotional closeness and trust.

What you want and what is reality can be very different and the myths you tell yourself to keep you looping in your head (your drama cycle) like:

My partner should know what I want
My partner should know how I feel
Sex should be spontaneous
Men want sex all the time
Women don't like sex
Myths can create a lot of pain and a breakdown of communication in your relationship. This episode gives you a Place to Start.

Become Curious which leads to Conversations which leads to Connection which leads to Closeness.

A powerful exercise involving the Ideal World and the Actual World, the good-enough world.  

I have seen couples take their relationship from little sex and disconnect to a close, strong, loving, intimate relationship with regular sex. Intimacy is very closely linked to sex and if you want more sex there needs to be more conversations and communication that create intimacy.

At the end of the day, getting the sex life and intimacy you want in your relationship is up to you.

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Want more Intimacy and Sex in your Relationship?

You may be in a relationship where you’re like 2 boats passing in the night, or two housemates with little emotional and intimate connection and the communication has broken down.

Perhaps you are lonely and not sure where to begin to bring your relationship back to life.

You didn’t wake up one day and just decide, "I’m not that into my partner anymore".

You want to ignite the spark and feel a closer connection again.

Communication is vital for a relationship. Blaming, attacking, criticizing, and accusing is aggressive communication and sadly very common.

All couples have differences and disagreements. Happy couples do not avoid disagreements

Understanding how your past impacts your present relationship, and how to make it work for you rather than against you is important.  This podcast will give you some ideas as to how to improve your relationship with yourself and your partner.

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How to Fix the 3 Biggest Mistakes in Marriage

It is so important to remember that you are important in your marriage. You are not less than your partner, and you are not there to serve them. I know it can be easy to get caught up in making sure your partner is happy and comfortable, but you have to make sure that you are happy and comfortable too. It is so important to take care of yourself and to put yourself first sometimes. If you don't, you will end up resentful and unhappy.

Make sure that you schedule some time for yourself, even if it's just a half hour every day to do something that you enjoy. It doesn't have to be anything big or expensive, just something that makes you happy. Taking care of yourself is not selfish, it's necessary. If you're happy and healthy, you will be able to be a better wife and a better partner overall. So don't forget to put yourself first sometimes, it's important for your marriage!

One of the most important things to understand in marriage is what your needs are. Everyone is different, so it's vital to spend time getting to know yourself and your own needs. Only then can you start to communicate these needs to your partner. It's important to remember that needs can change over time, so it's an ongoing process.

If you take the time to understand your needs, you will be in a much better position to create a happy and fulfilling marriage. Don't be afraid to talk about your needs with your partner - communication is key!

Email helen@powerofchange.com.au for the pdf Dynamic Wheel of your Needs.

Understand the 24 areas of your life: Primary relationship, Fun and recreation, Confidence, Health and fitness, Esteem, and Friends to name a few.

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When Will You put Yourself First

Discover the tools and shifts that will allow you to take your vision for your marriage and develop the Empowered Marriage you dream of. I’m sharing where to put your focus, and what needs to change so you create your ideal marriage now and into the future.

The 6 Pillars is proven over and over to create the relationships and empowered life you have always dreamed of.

My unique system is integral to the success of your journey. Finding your voice, and reclaiming your power with a set of tools for you to create your ideal marriage and the life your wildest thoughts dream of.

Pillar One: Care of Yourself
This Pillar is the first instalment of a 6-part series in helping you take care of yourself in the face of other people's needs that pull on you. What’s under you not taking care of yourself? Why do you not make your self-care a priority?  How would you begin to take care of yourself?

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How to Care for Yourself in Your Marriage - Pillar One

Discover the tools and shifts that will allow you to take your vision for your marriage and develop the Empowered Marriage you dream of. I’m sharing where to put your focus, and what needs to change so you create your ideal marriage now and into the future.

The 6 Pillars is proven over and over to create the relationships and empowered life you have always dreamed of.

My unique system is integral to the success of your journey. Finding your voice, and reclaiming your power with a set of tools for you to create your ideal marriage and the life your wildest thoughts dream of.

Pillar Two: Healthy Boundaries
This Pillar is the second instalment of a 6-part series in helping you set boundaries in your relationship. Is there anxiety and fear your partner will reject you? Are you walking on eggshells trying to keep the other person from being angry?  Do you know what your core values are?

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How to Have Healthy Boundaries in your Marriage - Pillar Two

Discover the tools and shifts that will allow you to take your vision for your marriage and develop the Empowered Marriage you dream of. I’m sharing where to put your focus, and what needs to change so you create your ideal marriage now and into the future.

The 6 Pillars is proven over and over to create the relationships and empowered life you have always dreamed of.

My unique system is integral to the success of your journey. Finding your voice, and reclaiming your power with a set of tools for you to create your ideal marriage and the life your wildest thoughts dream of.

Pillar Three: Assertiveness
This Pillar is the third instalment of a 6-part series in helping recognise manipulation and it’s important to recognize how to stop tolerating this. Your lack of assertiveness is it affecting your self-confidence? Is it damaging the balance of power in your relationship?

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How to Have Assertiveness in your Marriage - Pillar Three

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How to Have Assertiveness in your Marriage - Pillar Three

Power of Change By Helen Harrison