Tools for regaining a sense of autonomy and self-confidence if you find that you are clinging and overly sensitive to the opinions of others. So if you are in a codependent relationship or you feel trapped in that fear-based loop that can happen when you are too consumed by a relationship, and you feel small and powerless, this is an episode for you. These are exercises – both physical and written- to do in order to condition your mind and body to resume a more empowered headspace.  Strong. Self-assured. If you are feeling reliant on someone else or something else – like your value is somehow dictated by that thing, try starting here. I did these steps myself recently and found them to be re-centering and enlightening.

Help Me Be Me

Ep 145: Regaining Confidence and Autonomy When Feeling Clingy + Small

Soaring mountains, lush landscapes, and roguish adventures –  Richard Strauss’s the tone poems capture it all, an uses an enormous orchestra to depict them. Listen for changes in scene and weather in An Alpine Symphony as well as for the transformation of the mischievous motifs that accompany the pranks of the clever peasant Till Eulenspiegel. Alec Baldwin is your host.

R. STRAUSS:               An Alpine Symphony  

R. STRAUSS:               Till Eulenspiegel’s Merry Pranks  

Lorin Maazel, Conductor

Lorin Maazel Conducts an All-Strauss Program

September 2018: Only the Best Study & Deep Focus Collection

Tranquil Meditations

Thom Knoles discusses the state of fearlessness, how all fear is based on something unreal and how to learn to transcend fear and yet be fully participating in life.  Living a life in fear is worse than death.  Fearlessness is the pinnacle of the development of human consciousness.  Through the regular practice of Vedic Meditation, we achieve it spontaneously.

Produced by Eric Cahan

Fear and Fearlessness

This is an episode for if you have a painful obsession with an ex or a pervasive habit of fixating on relationships: they’re more important than job, personal time, family and friends. And often that relationship is one you know isn’t great – but you still obsess about that person, and it consumes your life. This might be especially painful during quarantine because you’re unable to distract yourself and do something about it.

This is about putting yourself in ridiculously desperate positions, clinging to a relationship – even when you know it isn’t right for you. And that gush of fear, terror, loneliness, pain that overwhelms you and causes you to feel like you’d do ANYTHING to get someone to come back to you. It can make you act in crazy and degrading ways – but the pain of not having a person is too great. This was a request from a few different people (some of whom requested it quite a long time ago - so hopefully this is still helpful)!!

The two books I mention in this episode are here:
https://amzn.to/2SOD9d2
https://amzn.to/35IuJsU

For more of my work and to make a donation, head to YayWithMe.com xo!

Ep 130: Clinging Desperately to Relationships – Even When They’re Not Great

Bio Exit

Bio Ext

One of the hardest things to do is give up or accept a loss, even if we are unhappy and have been for a really long time. This is for anyone stuck in ambivalence over a decision to create a change in their life. 
Sometimes this happens when you are in a long relationship and you feel you can’t leave it – even though you are not happy and you don’t feel in love. Another common scenario is when you are in a field you don’t love but you have been to school for x number of years so you feel like you can’t leave now. It’s so scary to trust the feelings you have when you know they can sometimes change – especially when weighing this against something that is valuable in the eyes of the world. 

The book I referenced by Dan Ariely is here:
https://amzn.to/2DwW9bl

 
This episode is brought to you by Better Help: online therapy with licensed counselors, available around the globe. If you want to help out this podcast, use our code and get 10% off your first month of therapy, visit TryBetterHelp.com/HelpMeBeMe

Ep 133: Stuck + Ambivalent: When You Can’t Make a Decision or Let Go

How being overly identified with what others think is tied to a lack of self-love.  This is for anyone who doesn’t trust themselves and generally doesn’t feel they’re a quality person. If you act in really selfish and self-destructive ways – maybe you betray others and lie or cheat. Or you feel really heavily identified with your body or your appearance, or the attention of others – but you don’t feel there’s much more that’s good about you and who you are, then this is for you. This is about beginning the process of understanding why this is happening and also starting to build up faith that you are a good person. The mindfulness books I mention in this episode are here:
https://amzn.to/3izGVla
https://amzn.to/32jI371
https://amzn.to/2RkNBHY

This episode is sponsored by Better Help: online therapy with licensed counselors, available around the globe. To get started and also help out this podcast, use our code and get 10% off your first month of therapy. Visit TryBetterHelp.com/HelpMeBeMe

Ep 135: Empty on the Inside - Attention-Seeking on the Outside

This is a power-up (shorter) episode for anyone who has been living in a purely reactive state where they are going through the motions/dealing with thousands of to-do’s. It’s really easy to forget what is good and fun in your life and with that, we start expecting/seeing only the serious and dire around us. It’s also easy to forget what makes you You, and what makes that self-awesome. This is a little energy-setting reminder. 

This episode is sponsored by Better Help: online access to therapists, around the globe. If you want to support this show, use our code for 10% off your first month of therapy. Head to TryBetterHelp.com/HelpMeBeMe

Don’t Forget Yourself: Keeping Lightness in Your Life

Belonging. Human connection. Vulnerability. Failure. Perseverance. On this episode, Brené Brown discusses the highs and lows of her creative journey—and the essential elements of a life lived bravely.

Design Matters From the Archive: Brené Brown

Help Me Be Me is an emotional toolkit for creating positive change in yourself. I like to think of it as self-help for people who hate self-help. I'm Sarah May, coach/mom/all-around happy person, and these are the tools that work for me in my life. For all of my offerings you can check out YayWithMe.com What I share is my personal opinion. It's not a diagnosis for treatment or a substitute for professional help. If you're suffering, please reach out to your local emergency services or call 9-1-1. Music theme created by www.BookerHillMusic.com