محمد الأحمد السديري | يا سراجي الوضَّاح في كل مسراي ويا غايةٍ عندي سوت كل غاية

محمد عبده - اسمع رسول اشواق قلبي يناديك عود

جلسة استوديو مجددة

طلال مداح - عندك امل عندك - جلسة استوديو مجددة

خادع ومخدوع عبدالكريم عبد القادر

يميني صورته لكن يمينه مدت بعادي

بدر بن عبدالمحسن أبعتذر .... عزف نادر لمحمد عبده

It’s really hard to stop yourself from helping someone out, doing it for them, giving your time and energy, saying what you said you wouldn’t do again, or diving in head first to a partner – especially when chemicals take over. Because that’s who you are! A giving and loving person! It can feel almost like a commitment to being true to yourself, because when you have all the understanding of someone’s voids – you feel compassion. And even if you didn’t want to try to make them happy or fix something, you feel obligated – mostly by yourself you’re your own inner voice. It’s also because you like them so much and you want to make them happy. 

To fight against this habit will feel wrong, unnatural. And super uncomfortable – and it makes others so happy. It’s a confusing dilemma – to NOT follow your instincts will make you might feel like you’re not being yourself. You want to be loving and give your best for someone you love. It’s a catch-22. And so the flip side of this is you end up doing it all: you’re the saver who comes to the rescue and others will continue to disappoint you on a loop. Like you’re surrounded by children. You end up feeling resentful toward others for not giving you the love and care and THANKS you deserve, but you can’t stop yourself from being there for them and helping them live better lives. It feels good to be helpful.

This end result leaves you and whoever else you are stuck to in life, fighting or empty – battling for love and care and attention. And you’re not asking so much at all – just for a tiny bit of love and support at SOME time in life. Or just for them to not be so destructive. 

This one’s for Ty – great topic! Thank you!

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Ep 78: Codependency: I Need to Find Someone Who Will Make Me Whole

الشوك - ياسر التويجري

طلال مداح - حفلة درة العروس جدة

ماتقول لنا صاحب - حفلة جدة

لا خطاوينا وراها لِقى..

البوم الحب وانت وانا رقم ( 70 )

البوم رقم 70 / الحب وانت وانا

طلال مداح - سهرانين - البوم الحب وانت وانا

خذني لا تخلّيني، ذبحني الشوق احييني!

Help Me Be Me is an emotional toolkit for creating positive change in yourself. I like to think of it as self-help for people who hate self-help. I'm Sarah May, coach/mom/all-around happy person, and these are the tools that work for me in my life. For all of my offerings you can check out YayWithMe.com What I share is my personal opinion. It's not a diagnosis for treatment or a substitute for professional help. If you're suffering, please reach out to your local emergency services or call 9-1-1. Music theme created by www.BookerHillMusic.com