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021: Looks DO Matter - The Role Of Appearance And Success

In today’s episode Terri and Dom continue the conversation started in last week’s episode this time focusing on goal setting and overcoming procrastination. We all have been guilty of procrastination and Terri lets us in on when she realized she had to stop procrastinating to help reach her goals. What’s keeping you from following through and being accountable? They ask us, “what does try really mean?” and how does that affect our accomplishment of our goals. Then Terri and Dom use real life and personal examples to walk us through using SMART goals to get things done. As always, they give us some other invaluable “Pro tips and Game Changers”. Be sure to log on to the website to check out the goal setting worksheet that will put you on the path to achieving your dreams.   Quote of the Day: “I used to want the words ‘She tried’ on my tombstone. Now I want ‘She did it’.” – Katherine Dunham &nbsp; Takeaways: SMART GOALS  Specific Measurable Achievable Results-focused Time-bound  &nbsp; Resources Mentioned:  Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Goal Mapping Workbook &nbsp; Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com

Season 1- Episode 3:  How to Overcome Procrastination and Make Progress Fast

Terri is scrolling down her social media timeline and noticed everyone else’s life was lit while hers seemed stagnant. She felt overwhelmed instead of inspired. Dr. Dom reminds Terri of her #BlackGirlMagic but noted a bigger issue...what happens when we don’t reach certain adulting milestones? We tend to engage in negative social comparison (your day 1) based on the highlights of someone else’s life (their day 100). We let other people tell us what we should focus on even if it’s not bringing us fulfillment. Dr. Dom and Terri point out some of the milestones many of us are expected to achieve (the good, the hard, the annoying, the fun) and the strategies we can utilize to be comfortable in our own path. Find your fire and make your own life LIT! Quote of the Day: "Don’t set sail on someone else’s star." - African proverb &nbsp;Takeaways:  Your life is yours to create. It won’t look like anyone else’s and that’s okay. Appreciate the good things happening to you in the moment  Revisit Your Why &amp; Your Master Plan Don’t Despise the Days of Small Beginnings Realize Why Successful Black Women Should Be Celebrated Motivate Yourself &amp; Create a Game Plan   4 Ways to Stay Motivated When Everyone Else’s Life is Lit  &nbsp; "Where you will sit when you are old shows where you stood in youth." — Yoruba proverb &nbsp; Resources Mentioned: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Goal Mapping Workbook &nbsp; Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com

S1E5: Adulting Woes: When Everyone's Life is LIT and You Feel Stagnant

Ever wonder, “How did I get here? I’m not as good as everyone else here. What’s going to happen to me when they find out I’m not as smart as them?” If you answered, “yes” then chances are you have experienced Impostor Phenomenon or Imposter Syndrome. This experience was initially coined to describe the experiences of White women who believed their achievements were a result of happenstance; lived in fear of being taken as a fraud; and setting sometimes unrealistic high standards of achievement. This syndrome may be more exacerbated in people of color, particularly women, who often receive societal messages of not belonging or not good enough. &nbsp;(Cokely, K., et. al., 2013). &nbsp; In this week’s episode, join Dom and Terri as they discuss Imposter Syndrome/Impostor Phenomenon, its effects on our well-being and ways to combat it. Terri begins with a story and unintentionally ends up “on the couch” with Dr. Dom who challenges Terri to re-examine how she describes herself. Keep listening and you’ll get tips (through Dom and Terri’s own experiences) on how to check yourself and remind yourself that you are exactly where you are supposed to be.  Quote of the Day: “At the end of the day, remember this: You are here for a reason. In this job, your business, your life, you are worthy. You are better than you think you are. You are smarter than you think you are. You know more than you give yourself credit for. Remember that. Remind yourself as often as you need to.” - Megan Dalla-Camina &nbsp; Takeaways: Ways to Conquer Imposter Syndrome/Impostor Phenomenon:  Be realistic about your strengths and weaknesses Alter your narrative/Reframe your thinking Celebrate your accomplishments Recognize these feelings are normal Access your support system   Resources:  Clance, P.R. (1985). The impostor phenomenon: Overcoming the fear that haunts your success (p. 25). Atlanta: Peachtree Publishers. Cokely, K., McClain, S., Enciso, A., Martinez, M. (2013). An examination of the impact of minority status stress and impostor feelings on the mental health of diverse ethnic minority college students. Journal of multicultural counseling and development, 41, 82-95. Craig, L. (2018). Are you suffering from imposter syndrome? Ways to identify and deal with feelings of self-doubt in grad school.  https://www.apa.org/science/about/psa/2018/09/imposter-syndrome.aspx Robinson, A. (2017). Overcoming imposter syndrome. How to stop feeling like a fraud.  https://www.apadivisions.org/division-28/publications/newsletters/psychopharmacology/2017/11/imposter-syndrome.aspx?_ga=2.218253150.610534608.1538685330-364524485.1533165585 Weir, K. (2013). Feel like a fraud? https://www.apa.org/gradpsych/2013/11/fraud.aspx  &nbsp;  Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today &nbsp; Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook:  @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com

S1E12: Imposter Syndrome: How to Deal When You Feel You Don't Belong

We all know what it feels like when someone violates our boundaries but how do we know when we are the boundary violator? Have you ever... offered unsolicited advice? Gossiped? Said what you would do if you were in someone’s situation? Asked personal questions? Interrupted someone in the middle of a conversation? Touched someone’s hair? Touched someone on the shoulder? Asked a coworker where they lived? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you, like most of us, have been a boundary violator. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom take us through multiple situations (including current events from pop culture and a subscriber question) in which we may be unintentionally invading someone’s personal space and offer us tips on how to navigate those situations. &nbsp; Quote of the Day: "R-E-S-P-E-C-T...find out what it means to me!” -&nbsp;The Queen, Aretha Franklin &nbsp; Takeaways: What to do if we violate the boundaries of others  Apologize Be willing to listen Don’t take offense Ask for permission  &nbsp; Resources:  Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today &nbsp; Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook:  @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com

S1E13: Boundary Violations You Might Be Crossing That Are Impacting Your Relationships

Dr. Thema, a Minister and psychologist , describes some of the ways we get disconnected from ourselves, symptoms of disconnection, and solutions focused on psychology as one of the paths home.

Ep 1: Homesick and Disconnection from Ourselves

Dr. Thema describes the losses that are permanent and the losses we can reclaim on the journey home.

Ep 6: Releasing and Grieving

In a world that encourages and supports engaging with others on a constant basis, is there understanding for those of us that prefer to be alone? When you hear the word introvert how much does this describe you? Before you make that decision listen in as Dom dispels the myth of equating an introvert with shyness and answers whether social anxiety and introversion are equals. When, where and how you derive your energy clues you in to your introversion status. Not sure how that really applies to you? Terri and Dom will explain what the introversion/extroversion spectrum looks like and provide examples from their lives of where they fall on the continuum. Lady, you think you know Terri and Dom, but you might be surprised by how they rate their level of introversion. Stay tuned for information that you can reference for later use and tips on how to navigate being an introvert in an extroverted world. If you are more extroverted, this episode will help you understand your introverted sisters and remind you to not dim your light for the comfort of others. We are dynamic and varied in how we show up in this space. There. Is. Room. For. All. Of. Us. &nbsp; Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls&nbsp; Psychology Today &nbsp; Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/

S3E6: How to Thrive as an Introvert in a World Built for Extroverts

Dr. Thema unpacks the meaning of rejection from family, friends, partners, and professional positions.

Ep 10: The Truth About Rejection

Our relationship with money has an impact on our quality of life. Having a million dollars in the bank does not automatically make us happy nor does being “poor” equal unhappiness. This week we have a special guest that will help us all think about what changes we need to make in our lives to not only get our finances in order but shift our family dynamics to what best serves us. Constance Carter, the CEO of Catalyst Real Estate Professionals joins Terri and Dr. Dom to share with us her journey to healthy financial wellbeing. This is not your ordinary interview about finances. Lady, we guarantee there is some aspect of Constance’s story in which you can relate. Quote of the Day: "When you say things like, “I’m broke” you're telling the universe to keep you in the state of lack and you’re programming your mind to keep you there. Your words are powerful and prophetic, and what you say becomes real. If you want to have more, you have to speak it into existence." - Constance Carter &nbsp; Takeaways: Constance’s tips on changing your mindset:  GTS: Google That Sh*t Just Do It Laugh&nbsp; Lavish in the journey Find the good in everything  “Balance is a myth but harmony is a must.” -Lisa Nichols Relevant episodes: S3E3: 5 Tips to Help You Get Back On Track and Find Your Passion S2E12: Oh You Bougie, Huh? Resources: Constance Carter’s books recommendations: 1. The Secret to&nbsp; Breaking the BROKE&nbsp; Code: 5 Steps to Growth, Abundance &amp; Overflow https://amzn.to/2Sn0XW0 2. Keeping Score: What You Need to Know to Make Your Credit Score Grow https://amzn.to/2Zt3n6N&nbsp; 3. Secrets of a Millionaire Mind https://amzn.to/36pIsV0 &nbsp; Where to Find Constance: Website: Constance Carter Weekend of Wealth Retreat Facebook:  Nobodyworksharderthanconstancecarter Instagram: AskConstanceC Twitter: AskConstanceC &nbsp; Melanin and Mental Health  Therapy for Black Girls&nbsp; Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC &nbsp; Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook:  @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/

S5E2: Are You Tired of Being Broke? Manifest Abundance Today with Constance Carter

In a world where black women are often underrepresented and misunderstood, we need more safe spaces to just… be. Every Friday, join Dr. Dominique Broussard, a college professor and psychologist, and Terri Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker, as they initiate authentic conversations on everything from fibroids to fake friends.

If you’re a black woman or woman of color looking for an extra dose of inspiration on the go, pull up a seat and join us on the H.E.R. (Healing, Empowerment, Resilience) Space podcast. Episodes are published every Friday on iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, and Soundcloud.

We can’t wait to meet you, sis!

S3E6: How to Thrive as an Introvert in a World Built for Extroverts

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