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In this podcast Antonia & Joel talk about “flow” and how it relates to your personality.

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In this podcast you’ll find:

    What makes an experience genuinely fulfilling is a state of consciousness called ‘flow’.
    Written by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, he uses 4 or 5 different criteria in which doing the activity gives you energy as opposed to taking energy away. In flow, the activity feels like we’re powered with a self-energizing battery.
    In order to discover what your flow is, ask yourself what is it that you love to do so much the only reason you stop is when you’re exhausted?
    Some people know how to access their flow instantly.
    There are different things that can put people in flow. Flow feels very kinesthetic.
    Each personality type has a predictable flow state.
    Knowing your flow state means knowing which mental process your brain favors above others.
    ENPs are difficult to get into flow. The exploration process has you seeing relationships that other people don’t.
    Some people only experience flow when they know they don’t have distractions.
    Knowing when and how you get into flow can explain a lot about your behavior and patterns.


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In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about the idea that what your thinker thinks – your prover will prove.

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In this podcast you’ll find:

    The mind is divided into 2 parts: the Thinker and the Prover
    The Thinker’s job is to come up with a reality; this can be extremely complex
    The Prover’s job is simple – prove the Thinker’s reality (it’s a ‘dutiful servant’)
    Can I change my reality just by changing how I think?
    How useful is a belief?
    Everyone is on autopilot; by the time you get to a decision, you already made that decision 10 decisions ago
    We can show our biases simply by focusing on some information over others
    The best we can do is ‘pre-program the GPS’
    How responsible are you for your actions?
    How we decide to program our minds and whether or not we choose to outsource our beliefs will have major impact
    “The easiest way to be brainwashed is to be born.”


What The Thinker Thinks – The Prover Proves | PODCAST 0011

In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about the Graves Model of development created by Clare Graves.

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In this podcast you’ll find:

    Developed by Clare Graves, the Graves Model focuses on Self-Actualization.
    After studying Abraham Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, Clare asked himself, what does Self Actualization mean and happens when we self-actualize?
    He asked a group of people for over 50 years – ‘how would you define a healthy person? He noticed that their responses show a pattern. People were going on different stages of growth and development. He saw a model emerging that both worked on a micro and macro level.

    Beige – Survival Level. Everything is about me and my personal survival. Examples – birth to 4 years old, people who are homeless and have little sensitivity to other people, feral children.
    Purple – Tribal Level. More about our survival as a tribe. Micro – this is where a toddler starts to identify survival as a family/group. Macro – Focused on a group. It’s important not to be kicked out of the tribe. Spiritual development can be observed (how gods impact us as humans, magical thinking).
    Red – Warlord. 15,000 – 20,000 years ago. When one or two people stand out from the rest of the group, they begin to get a lot of attention and are regarded as leaders, they move up to level 3. Goes back about getting ‘me’ again. This is where the rebellious years come. Example – Teens get into fights for no reason. They assume that they know everything and everybody else is halfwit. People learn how to stand-up for themselves. They don’t really believe that they have any right.
    Blue – Civilization. Started about 5,000 – 8,000 years ago. We learn to identify something bigger than us. When territory boundaries are created. Law and rule are made. If we all live under certain rules, we live in a better society. Civilizations create armies and better force. Because everything is in order, we’re seeing relationships between tribes that create institutions and civilizations. Example – World War II.
    Orange – Achievement. Leaders begin to emerge. Developed 150 – 200 years ago. Leaders see resources as limitless, something they can manipulate and master. This is where you find a lot of capitalism. Example – anybody who’s going through any massive achievement. We learn that there’s no reason to limit our selves. Many people keep themselves from going to this level casting limitations on themselves. Science and technology is very important for individuals who are in this level.
    Green – Ecology. 20-50 years ago. Starts to take in a much bigger territory.These are individuals who have met their goals. Example – Bill Gates. They have a more ecological perspective.They start to think in terms of community and how they can give back to the world. They’re more concerned about the impact on a holistic manner. They learn how to give back. The idea of tolerance is introduced. Individuals in this level find it very challenging to accomplish their mission because they’re busy listening to everyone’s perspectives.
    Yellow – Thought Leader – A person who has realized that not every voices needs to give the exact same honour. They are able to communicate with individuals in different levels in order to get what they want in a faster and more productive way.

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In this episode Joel and Antonia answer the question “What is intuition?”

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In this podcast you’ll find:

    What is Intuition? Intuition is a pretty abstract word. It’s something many of us rely on for quick judgments and often life-altering decisions.
    Intuition is a particular way that people learn information.
    There are two ways in which people learn new information.

    Through their 5 senses.
    Intuition – not relying on those senses in order to understand and learn new information. Therefore, relying on advanced pattern recognition.

    You can’t directly interact behind the curtain, but you can deduce what’s going on behind the curtain based on the pieces of information you get in front of the curtain.
    Sensory people are looking to find something that’s reliable and can be verified.
    Intuitives are not dependent on things that are reliable. Someone who’s using intuition to learn puts more emphasis on speed of information and depth of insight on information. They will sacrifice verifiability for speed and depth of insight.
    Intuitives are more comfortable with speculation and so they’re willing to take risks. Eventually, they’re going to become more and more proficient with it.
    When it comes to pattern recognition and speculation, intuitives are getting better of taking risks and accurate speculations.
    Although sensors may have an intuitive piece on them, they don’t become efficient with it because they’re not comfortable with its nature and process.
    75% of the population in the US are sensory and only 25% are Intuitives.
    Everyone is creative. We all have a creative element inside of us. Some of the most creative people use a sensory as a form of learning.
    The greatest artists in the world are sensors. The big difference is that Intuitives have a tendency to create something the world has never seen because they’re looking for things that can only be imagined. Sensors on the other hand, when they’re creative, have a tendency to make something new that already has a sensory platform.
    There’s no argument that both are valid ways of learning.
    Some people tend to hide their being intuitive. The Intuitives who keep going are so powerful that they end up being the people who are most celebrated.
    If you are of an intuitive learning style, the first step is to accept it. The second step is understanding its potential and doing what you can to hone it.
    Take courage, give yourself permission and you’re going to see a more different world.


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In this episode Joel and Antonia explain the difference between Introverted Intuition and Extraverted Intuition.

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    Intuition is an effectively advanced pattern recognition. It is a learning style basically speculating the train of thought following what’s behind the curtain.
    Intuitives are not the majority so the world is not designed for them.
    People who have sensory learning styles aren’t comfortable speculating. They want more information to be safe and secure.
    We don’t have enough explanation why some people see the world profoundly
    Everyone uses intuition to some degree.
    Intuition isn’t judgmental. Its nature is really just trying to understand what’s happening behind the curtain.
    Inside us, our intuition is working in conjunction with our mind’s ability to evaluate the information it takes in. All by itself, intuition is totally non-judgemental. It’s simply a process of learning.
    2 types of intuition: Introverted vs Extraverted Intuition
    Introverted Intuitive Style = Perspective. Perspectives have the ability to watch their own minds form a pattern. When they hear people talk or do something, their mind will shift into the other person’s perspective and get a sense of what’s going on.
    Perspective users oftentimes don’t reveal this kind of genius. They almost have the ability to predict future events.
    In perspectives, you are able to see how large groups of people are going to react.
    The process of learning takes some time to develop. Perspectives are very easy to be distracted. It’s almost like a fragile process sometimes. If there’s a lot of sensory input, it’s hard to stay focused because it’s a fragile process.
    When working on problem, they wouldn’t know how they arrived at the solution. If they get distracted, they might never be able to pick up the trail again.
    Out of the 25%, only 10% are using perspectives.
    Perspective people tend to have a lot of one sided relationships and so they have very unique needs.
    Because they don’t have that many people who understand how it works, it’s difficult for them to rise up to become better version of themselves.
    Extraverted Intuition = Exploration. Unlike perspectives who are slow paced, exploration on the other hand, is more about exploring the world and understanding patterns on the outside world. They tend to be very interactive and engaging.
    They’re able to understand the connections and relationships to things that other people don’t. It’s about new connections.
    Intuition is interested in speed of information and depth of insight. Both types of intuition do this but Exploration is more inclined to speed of information and Perspectives likes the depth of insights.
    The world needs both styles of intuition. Without this, we would actually stagnate.
    The more you give yourself permission and make your intuition more powerful and strong, you could be truly unstoppable in making great things.


Introverted Intuition vs Extraverted Intuition | PODCAST 0030

In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about the importance of finding intuition mentors who can help guide you in your personal development journey.

In this podcast you’ll find:

    This podcast episode talks about finding intuition mentors who can help you in your personal growth.
    Mentorship can help you accomplish what you want to achieve faster
    People/mentors matter in your life. An intuitive that grows in an environment without an intuitive mentor can get pretty unhealthy.
    It’s not just embracing your intuition and acknowledging it, it’s about recognizing that no matter who you are, you can be at various levels of health.
    If someone can come along and help guide Intuitives with their potential, it can make all the difference in their lives.
    A healthy intuitive can be a huge positive force that can make a great impact to the world. They realize who they really are and they are eager to grow.
    Health is an expression of not being totally self-consumed.
    The healthier we get, the more we’re able to see outside ourselves.
    If you don’t have a mentor you can support you, then it’s time to look for one who can support and massively change you.
    What/Who are intuition mentors?
    Intuition mentors don’t necessarily be physically in your life.
    Mentorship can come through time-binding, a hero and from people you’re intimate with.
    Intuitives have the tendency to use books and characters in TV shows as mentors.
    Health happens concurrently with growth. Most people are at an average of health and are not in abundance.
    In order to get to a healthy phase or level, you should be willing to question who you are and what you’re made of.
    With intuition comes ambition of wanting to make something significant.
    There’s a lot of mentors out there for Intuitives. Figure out the kind of mentorship you’re looking for at this phase in your life.

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In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about developing an intuition action plan.

In this podcast you’ll find:

3 important components that an intuitive can introduce to their life when developing intuition in order to be at their happiest:

    You and your intuition
    Your intuition and other people
    Your intuition and what you do in the world

You and your intuition (Personal level: How it impacts you as a person)

    Become the healthiest version of yourself as you can be.
    Self permission and self acceptance is the baseline.
    After acceptance, learn to navigate through the world and manage that component. Once done in a positive way, it makes an intuitive amazingly healthy.
    There is a need to manage intuitive energy based on your intuitive type. Make sure to do things that feel natural to you.
    For example, avoid small talks if it doesn’t come naturally for you unless the return is high and it is being done for the benefit of others.
    Make sure to do things that exercises your intuitive energy.
    If your job, family or people close to you sap your intuitive energy, do baby steps to redefine your position and slowly take your intuitive needs met.

Your intuition and other people around you

    How do you make your way through the world wherein most people learn information and think differently from you?
    Usually, once Intuitives recognize who they are, they think they are better than most people but that doesn’t increase their personal happiness.
    They need to understand that they have unique abilities that most people don’t but a part of the world needs filling in.
    They should learn to appreciate non-intuitive people (people who have Sensory learning style); what they give to the world. Giving permission to others to be who they are doesn’t mean they will give permission for you to be who you really are.
    Only you can give that permission which is self sovereignty. It is not about fairness but fundamentally on happiness. Don’t emanate resentment if the favor is not returned.
    Learn how to blend and be healthy. This  gives opportunity to express to other people one’s intuitive difference from others.
    Make sure you are having relationships with other Intuitives as well.

Your intuition and what you do in the world

    How to extend the gifts you have as an intuitive?
    Foundational needs should be met first and that includes personal relationships.
    Realization. You might be doing what you were always told that you “should do” than what is really in your heart and mind.R
    Redirection. You reapply all skills you have learned to whatever you love.
    Progression of passion, purpose and mission. Passion is the starting point. Doing the thing you love and maybe using it in earning a living. This graduates to purpose; how to keep doing the thing you love and also impact the world in a positive way? Then it becomes a mission.
    An awareness of a purpose and a strong will to make a movement that could change or lead to more positive things. Play with options and see what happens.

Exercises we recommend in this podcast

    Write down the 5 things that gives you energy as an intuitive. What is it that builds into your intuition?
    Think abbot the ways you can communicate your intuition, ways you can hold space and relate to them on your terms if they don’t think like you do.


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In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about personality types and relationships.

In this podcast on personality types and relationships you’ll find:

    Personality types and personal psychology in relationships can be a very powerful tool in communication.
    When we learn about personality types, it gives us the language to describe how we work and operate. You come to realize that you are not alone and that there are other people out there who thinks the way you think.
    The moment you have this realization that not everyone sees you the same way other people do, you realize that other people are just being themselves naturally and that there’s nothing wrong with you.
    The way we learn new information impacts all of our experience and how people respond to us.
    Are you in a relationship with someone who wants to turn you like themselves?
    Pygmalion Project – when we are attracted to somebody who is completely the opposite of us and we start to craft or turn them like us. In Greek mythology, Pygmalion was a sculptor who fell in love with a statue he had carved.
    Stereotypes have a basis of truth. If you’re somebody that doesn’t fit the stereotype, there are many ways and things you can do to sort things through your personality type.
    Based on the population breakdown of the Myers Brigs, majority of females have the ISFJ personality type.
    Personality psychology can give you a whole new perspective of how you think and how the people you are in a relationship with thinks. Moreover, it helps you identify the similarities and differences and how you can communicate with them where you’re at.
    If you are using Personality Types and Relationships to put people in a box where it dictates what and how should they behave, you’re using it the wrong way.
    An intuitive is somebody who is interacting with the world using unconscious pattern recognition. Sensors are more interested on reliable and verifiable information. So they’re using their senses to tell them through direct experience what’s going on around them.
    In any type of relationships, no matter how you give each other space and permission, issues still emerge.
    There is a certain demographic that says sensors should never be in a relationship with Intuitives and vice versa (sensors should be staying with sensors and Intuitives should be staying with Intuitives). Although this is true in the context of compatibility and that more struggles and issues may occur, it’s just a matter of making sure that you’re not using a solution that is gross over-simplified. Doing this creates a rule that ceases you to be happy.
    If you oversimplify and become dependent on the rules you created, you’re not going to lead to best relationship possible. However, if you use Personality Types and Relationships to help understand what the other person is going through, you are able to:

    Find a compatible person for you because you understand where they are coming from.
    When issues occur, you can utilize your understanding of the other person to meet them where they’re at.


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In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about the introvert advantage in a world that is becoming more and more extraverted.

In this podcast on the introvert advantage you’ll find:

    Introversion gets a lot of misunderstanding. People in general have a lot of confusion about introversion and extraversion.
    Do introverts have a disadvantage in this world? Do they have issues that are very unique to them?
    There are a lot of great performers that are introverts who can perform and speak very well.
    In business, life and social circles, people are expected to be extroverts. Public speaking, for example, is a challenge for some people.
    Introverts need time to be alone in order to recover their energy while extraverts get their energy by being in the environment and interacting with people.
    Energy is being managed differently by introverts and extraverts.
    Introverts – Inner world is the real world. When the outer world isn’t mirroring their inner world experience, they reconcile both worlds which takes too much energy.
    Extraverts – Outer world is the real world. Spending too much time alone drains their energy. In order to understand what’s really going on, they have to go outside of themselves.
    The outer world doesn’t specifically have to be people.
    When you understand people at a profound level, you can see and understand where they are coming from.
    Introverts have a great advantage to grow than extraverts.
    If you are an introvert, developing your extraverted process is the path to growth.
    Extraverts may find it more comfortable to live in an over communicated world, but it’s not helping them to develop their introverted process.
    Introverts need time to think and consider what they have to say.
    Every single personality type has a breakdown of 8 mental processes. 2 of these processes are the preferred way of navigating the world which balances human beings.
    Not all kinds extraversion is equal for all personality types. It helps if you know your personality type and the style of extraversion that is the growth path for your personality type.
    One of the best thing you can do to begin your personal growth journey is to know your personality. Knowing what kind of extraversion you’re going to grow as introvert is powerful.

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In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about the difference between modesty and humility while giving some great ideas for giving yourself permission to be awesome.

In this podcast on permission to be awesome you’ll find:

    Oftentimes we think that we wasted our time during our younger years especially if we didn’t get any return on investment.
    There are many ways for people to identify themselves, perhaps in a certain time we graduate, the times we spent before and many more.
    Make a list of the things that you experienced in order to get what you really want.
    Remember that you wouldn’t be where you are today without things you experienced in your past.
    The skills you’ve learned and things you did helped you to arrive where you are now.
    We tend to forget to be grateful for the things in our lives that has gotten us to the places we’re at. The more grateful you are, the more you accomplish and achieve.
    People who have been raised in a survival context (example – people who had terrible upbringing and faced a lot of tragedy in life) have the ability to navigate the world in a very interesting way.
    Humility VS Modesty. Humility is all about where you stand in relationship to everybody else. Modesty is about accepting your limitations and at the same time, acknowledging your skills.
    People are more inclined to trust you as a person when you provide an accurate assessment of where you stand.
    Give yourself permission to be awesome. When you accept how much power you have and all the amazing things that made you who you are now, it takes you to a new level in making a huge difference in the world.

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In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about Gary Chapman and his book The 5 Love Languages.

In this podcast on the 5 love languages you’ll find:

    Gary Chapman outlines love in 5 different ways. These love languages are very powerful and we all have different ways of expressing our love to our mate.
    We’re often unaware that we speak in different love languages. When this happens, misunderstanding occurs because you’re going to think that the person is denying or withholding love from you.
    The 5 Different Love Languages
        Words of Affirmation. Expressing love through affirming words like how proud you are of your partner or maybe a nickname that only the two of you use dearly. It could also be the way you speak highly of them in public.
        Quality Time. Spending a lot of quality time. There are people who just want being present by the quality of time they spend with their mate.
        Gift Giving. Expresses love by finding that perfect object that will make the person happy or to receive a gift.
        Acts of Service. Doing the dishes, getting the oil changed in the car. Working hard to provide for the family.
        Physical Touch. Through touching and physicality. Examples include but not limited to snogging, holding hands in public, kissing in public and giving a massage. This is more than just sex. Sex is a fundamental need and is part of Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs.
    When couples have different ways of expressing their love (example – you’re a quality time person and your mate is an “acts of service” person), misunderstanding occurs and sometimes, causing one or both partners to feel “not loved”.
    It’s a matter of finding out what’s your love language and how are you misinterpreting selfishness.
    So how are you going to find out your partner’s primary love language? Test it, try giving them gifts for example and check if it creates a big impact to them.
    Oftentimes, the language you use to give love is not necessarily the language you get from the other person.
    The way that we receive love and the way that we show love might be different. Knowing not just what you and your mate are but what your receiving and giving language is, can be very powerful.
    If somebody is expressing love in a way that’s unfamiliar to us, keep in mind that it’s an attempt for them to show love intimacy.
    The more we can see positive intent from our mate, the more we understand that they want to feel intimacy, being able to understand the love language model helps maintain the intimacy and maintain a healthy relationship.

Exercises we recommend in this podcast:

Write down the 5 love languages and rate yourself and your mate from 1-5 (1 being the highest). Invite your mate to have their own list and talk deeply about it.

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In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about how to love yourself using the four Greek words for love.

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In this episode Joel and Antonia answer a question about intuitive parents raising sensor children.

PHQ | QUESTIONS: Intuitive Parents and Sensor Children

In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about personality types and religion and unpack which personalities are more likely to leave or stay with religion.


Personality Types And Religion | PODCAST 0081

In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about the difference between introverted and extraverted energies in children.

PHQ | QUESTIONS: Introvert vs Extravert Energies in Children

In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about personalities in children and how early you can tell a child's type.

PHQ | QUESTIONS: Personalities In Children

In this episode Joel and Antonia dive deep into the needs and desires of the ENFJ personality type.


ENFJ Personality Type Advice | PODCAST 0090

In this episode Joel and Antonia dive deep into the needs and desires of the ENTP personality type.


ENTP Personality Type Advice | PODCAST 0092

In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about how each of the Myers Briggs types say "I love you."


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In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about how to manage energy based on your personality type.


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In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about the ISTP, ISFP, INTP and INFP personality types and how they look when they are healthy.

Healthy Introvert Personality Types Part 1 | PODCAST 0119

In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about the ISFJ, ISTJ, INFJ and INTJ personality types and how they look when they are healthy.

Healthy Introvert Personality Types Part 2 | PODCAST 0120

In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about developing a healthy relationship with your tertiary cognitive function (what we call the 10-year-old in the Car Model).

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In this episode, Joel and Antonia talk about using an understanding of your inferior cognitive function to figure out your best-fit personality type.

 

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