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AUTUMNAL  SELF NOURISHMENT ATTUNEMENT 
Welcome.
There's this pre-autumnal feeling. I think in a few days' time. If I'm not mistaken, the 22nd. is… autumn. officially.
And yet the leaves are beginning to turn. And the air is fresher, and there are, well, high winds.
THE NATURE OF TRANSITION
Change, it's a time of transition. Very much a characteristic of Focusing. transition.
Transition without trying to make the transition in a funny way. It's an organic transition, just as leaves dropping off a tree mark the move towards winter through autumn.
DRAWING INWARD - THE WISDOM OF HIBERNATION
Kind of withdrawal into the cool essence.
And creatures will begin contemplating hibernating. Drawing into the warmth of the earth for rest. And also, renewal. Healing time. Hedgehogs and other creatures.
THE PARADOX OF PRESENCE
And just so... When we come into presence by pausing, resting.
Paradoxically, we're both withdrawing and expanding. Our awareness is expanded into an open place. It includes the stars.
SPACE AND INTIMACY
Space itself is a quality of being - expanded, and yet... There's an intimacy in the closeness within.
It's, coming home. Sensing the universe within.
GOING INTO THE INNER WARMTH
We go there. Into the warmth. Into the spaces. The heart.
And we just keep them company. With compassion, with a warm awareness, if you like.
CULTIVATING THE RIGHT ATTITUDE
Or at least with an attitude, even if we don't have that kind of awareness. You can go in with an attitude of, Okay. I'm going to go in there. Or something is going to go in there.
Be with these parts in a caring, gentle way. Even if feelings are sometimes a bit rough.
GROUNDED WHOLENESS AND NURTURING
And in this way. From this grounded, whole sense of ourselves. We nurture.
Let's see... Nurture the warmth of the inner world. Wants and love.
FINDING SAFETY AND CONNECTION
Just as... The hedgehog finds warmth. Happens a lot of safety. With love.
Breathing life into hurt parts, or ostracized parts, or… Distant parts. Inviting… connection.
MEETING NEGLECTED PARTS
Reviving the freshness for maybe parts which have not had any care at all for a long time. Who knows?
Meet them in the light. Saying hello when ready to be said.
CLOSING AND RENEWAL
Yeah, it's like that. When you're ready, you can... watch. The light of spring.


Autumnal Nurturing Attunement

Creating a SAFE SPACE Focusing Attunement

Guided Meditation: Universal Awareness and Grounding
Welcome and Universal Connection
Yes, welcome.
The universe welcomes us at all times.
Always, of course, into universal senses the elements presenting itself in its totality.
Sensing the Majesty of the Universe
Sensing... And the majesty of the universe is seamless.
Becoming available these sensing portals.
Like walking into Doctor Who's TARDIS, It appears normal. However... it is extraordinary, as well.
Ordinary and extraordinary.
Grounding Through the Feet
That's the feet. Sense the Earth. And the Earth senses the feet.
Sensing contact.
Perhaps sensing in the body come alive. And it's grounded awareness.
Being and grounding.
Expanding Awareness Outward
From the feet sensing the ground and the earth, resting here with these sensations.
Sensing can sense space in the room. On the room.
Into the infinity of things.
Well, as it were, sensing itself?
Into the starriness of things.
Celestial Imagery
Canopy of Jewels.
Sensing their light. More directions... Star-studded now.
Perhaps the eye can see in a sense, of wonder ,mystery, awe 
Integration: Grounded and Spacious
Grounded and spacious.
In sensing the spaciousness within... what's present there.
The jewels, the stars, shining their light, all the way to the inside.
Making Space and Offering Presence
Making room for what's here. I mean, alongside, or giving more space.
Offering a little hello. What's there.
Keeping company.
As we keep this company.
Resting here.


Grounded and Spacious Starriness of Things Attunement

Focusing Attunement Practice
Introduction
This is focusing attunement.
I generally hesitate to call them meditations.
I think because... it doesn't have the structure, you could say, of your classical mindfulness approach.
And it's based on the felt sense.
Rather than, let's say, on focusing on one particular thing, or doing anything as a technique.
So hopefully this is honouring our natural self.
And I really value that.
Honouring how we are in the moment.
Without constructing anything.
So that's my vision, I guess, of presence, really.
It's a natural, organic way of being.
Setting In
So, yes, feel free to sit, lie.
Invite your attention to my invitations, or place your attention wherever you like.
So, yes, I think the word here is natural.
Organic, emergent.
By invitation.
Sensing
And as we sense inwards, perhaps.
Or just sense.
The sensing can also be, as it were, outwards.
Sensing how your body is sensing.
Already.
What is it noticing?
Grounding
And perhaps there's a degree of noticing the earth beneath your feet.
The seat.
Perhaps you're lying.
Underneath you, or in front of you.
On your side...
So, contact and touch.
Where gravity meets the body.
This is natural.
Organic.
Already happening.
Perhaps just resting briefly with these sensations.
Body Awareness
And there's more.
The shape of your body senses itself, perhaps.
A bit more fully.
Clothing, fabric on the skin.
Warmth and cool.
Tingling sometimes.
Pulsing...
Breathing.
Just letting it be the way it wants to be.
Expanding Outward
Of course, the body can sense the room.
Space.
Perhaps familiar.
Sounds... near and far.
Perhaps those distant sounds take you outside.
Perhaps there's some nature, some trees, some grass, hedges.
Into the Cosmos
Beyond the treetops.
Through the clouds... perhaps into the big blue vault.
Star-studded skies.
Into that infinity.
No end to stars.
Keeping us company.
Connection with All Life
Giving the planet company, and all beings, all of nature.
All of the elements, the seas, the lakes.
Forests... coastal plains.
Swamps and bogs.
Mountain ranges.
Cities and towns, villages.
All of life.
We are inextricably connected.
Sensing What's Alive
As we hear breathing.
I'm making a bit of space to sense inwards what's alive here.
Lighting it warm.
Caring awareness, if you like.
What's there?
Something wanting tender company... or more space, maybe.
Settling
Just settling.
Landing.
Being in presence.
Letting it all rest in itself.
Closing
Just taking your time, really, to emerge.

Resting in the Relational: A Journey from Thinking to Being

Opening Invitation
Yeah, welcome to this passionate connection.
Attunement, attuning, connecting.
An invitation into presence.
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Autumnal Scene
It's a rather gorgeous day.
It's autumnal… freshness.
The leaves are being offered.
Reverently, received by the earth.
In their various colours — yellows, oranges, and reds.
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Garden and Stillness
And the Buddha sits patiently under the tree at the bottom of my garden.
Sunning himself.
It’s quite still.
There is a gorgeous blue sky.
And a clear light.
It's clear and warm.
I can hear the hum of bees in the background — the worker bees around a certain evergreen.
For some reason, they seem to love it there.
It’s nature at work.
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Time of Transition
This is a time of transition.
A submission of the old.
And an invitation into some rest, gestation, hibernation.
A holding space, really.
Even though the buds of spring are already here, if you look closely — like on the trees.
So just waiting, a holding space here as we settle.
Me too.
A kind of mini hibernation.
Gestation, healing, and restoration period.
Letting the old sublimate into rest and renewal.
And the birds call.
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Earth as Alchemist
Sensing the rich earth beneath us.
The great alchemist — that earth, that soil.
Just like the body is the great alchemist.
Resting in the body, resting.
Softening, if you like.
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Inner and Outer Unity
Available to the inner, the apparent inner and the apparent outer.
Perhaps sensing their unity.
Resting in the space that extends infinitely…
In a sea of diamonds and pearls.
And a sea of diamonds and pearls within.
Caverns and caves, mountains.
Spaces.
Treasures.
And demons and monsters, sometimes.
Making room for it all, in the whole of this.
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Needs and Feelings
Sensing feeling tones here in the body.
They’re telling us we have needs — met and unmet, of course.
For safety, security, rest, space.
For well-being and healing.
For restoration… the emergent life.
Connection, closeness, love.
Intimacy will blossom.
Warmth.
Freedom and ease.
Contentment.
Play and fun.
Learning and growth.
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Transformation
And these feelings are rather like leaves.
At some point, they spend themselves.
Turning different colours and shades of themselves.
Into something new.
In presence — transformation.
Into gold.
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Closing
Resting here.

Restore Renew Refresh Golden Leaves of Autumn Attunement

Focusing Meditation
Welcome and Invitation
Welcome, everyone.
So this… focusing… Experience.
And… Yeah.
This is an invitation into…
Quality of being, a quality of presence, if you're inspired to be available to this.
Settling and Beginning
I was just kind of hovering… settling… pausing…
I'm just beginning to perhaps entertain
A sense of the whole body.
Let's so… Being sensitive to… Myriad and complexity.
Of this sensing experience.
Just start noticing.
And the body responds to this invitation.
Noticing Life
Yeah, noticing the life.
That's apparent here.
Life in Sensation.
Life in touch.
A life in sounds.
space.
being available.
this living… moment.
Emerging Wholeness
Perhaps the whole shape of the body Can begin to emerge.
In its full complexity.
and wholeness.
Perhaps sensing beyond the room.
Where does this wholeness actually end?
As it heads out towards the stars.
Grounding and Inner Landscape
Sensing Mother Earth beneath the body.
I'm sensing the contours and shapes within
Maybe an expansive sense of the inner world, or… more constricted.
Well, neither or Both.
Integration
Available to the life.
Being offered in its fullness.
Both inwardly and outwardly.
Perhaps allowing them… to join up.
To a continuous whole.
Just rest in itself.
Closing
just resting.
As the universe breathes this body.
This body breathes the universe.

Where is the Life? Breathed by the Universe Life Attunement

Presence Deep Rest Meditations and Reflections inspired by Focusing, Mindfulness and Nonviolent communication Embodied Relational Presence training and personal coaching.  https://www.living-presence.co.uk/

Autumnal Nurturing Attunement

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