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Just arriving, then, at this focusing session.
Focusing is really a continual arriving.
It's a freshness, an openness to experience as it presents itself.
Ideally, we're coming from a whole sense of ourselves, a grounded quality of presence, which creates stability, wholeness, safety—the ability to hold all kinds of emotions, feelings, and sensations in context so they can be felt and sensed.
So they can continue flowing rather than being atomized, compartmentalized, judged, blamed, analyzed—effectively, not really coming into much of a relationship.
Those are default relationships, autopilot, the reactive quality of mind.
Focusing is living at the forefront, surfing life—you could say, surfing the tsunamis, surfing tiny, rolling waves.
You could even say it's a bit of a thrill—living life from this vitality, from this richness.
Appreciating the full meaning of feelings, emotions, energies running through the body.
Resonating with nature, with the birds, with the trees, with the sky and the clouds, resonating with your loved and cherished friends, partners, animals.
Resonating with the moon and the stars.
Resonating with each breath, in and out—precious life.
As this is being offered right now, we sit on the forefront of 13.8 billion years of the creation of the solar system.
This planet—we're a product of that.
In a way, it's a blink compared to all that time, if that.
Such an amazing coincidence to have this life.
As it senses the ground, sensing the space around the body that goes up into the stars.
Sensing the shape of the body from the skin's perspective as it breathes in harmony with the vastness of things.
And up to 13.8 billion years—what has it got inside it?
What's alive here?
What has it produced? What's the effect?
Just checking in with all of that in you.
Something there, something wanting, some care, some attention, some acknowledgment.
Something tired, something vital.
Something just as it is—no label.
In the forefront of this universal creativity.
Surfing the universe in this way.

Surfing the Tsunamis Healing and Liberation The Thrill of the Felt Sense Reflection

Identity and the Mystery of Language
I want to come back to this word: identity.
It seems to me to be the crux of so many issues in the world — and in our own worlds, too.
It’s not just the world — it's the bounding off, the compartmentalization, the fixing.
Healthy on a certain level, yes. But in Focusing, there’s an invitation:
Who am I?
What am I?
Am I a man? A woman? Neither, or both?
Am I defined by the group, by another individual, by something in me?
Would a rose be just as sweet if it were called something else?
How does the label define the identity, and how does the identity define the label?
Language and experience — it’s a very curious mystery.
"Terrorist" or "freedom fighter" — what is this?
There are no true "nounings" — there are some, but predominantly, experience is verbing.
A sense of this-isness rather than "I am," "you are," "we are going to do."
Fixed identity — the "I Am" — creates a rigid duality. Then the problems start:
My nation, your nation. My goods, your goods. What's yours is negotiable; what's mine is mine.

Identity What defines you and At the End of the Map What then

A Welcoming from All Directions
Welcoming yourself.
Welcoming each other.
The sky welcomes us.
The daffodils, the birds, the trees, all the wildlife welcome us.
Even this rickety Gothic building, with all its quirkiness, warmth, and beauty, welcomes us.

The Bird’s Song of Freedom: A Poem by Hafez
This poem by Hafez is called She Responded:

The bird’s favorite songs you do not hear,
for their most flamboyant music takes place
when their wings stretch above the trees,
smoking the opium of pure freedom.

It is healthier for the prisoner to have faith
that one day they will move freely again,
feel the wondrous grit of life less structured,
find all wounds, debts, stamped, canceled, paid.

I once asked a bird, "How do you fly
in the gravity of this darkness?"
She responded, "Love lifts me."

The Lift of Love and Music
Yes, love lifts me.
Music.
In some shape or form, we are being invited into this lift —
into this open space where we can breathe, move, dance,
be spontaneous.

Pausing Together into Presence
We pause into this place together,
allowing whatever is here to be as it is.
Being available to the loving, to the lift,
honoring the truth of this experience as it is.

Tender Sensing of the Body
Inviting the body to sense, with tenderness,
the experience of touch, the shape of itself,
the clothing wrapped around the skin,
the warmth and safety it brings.

Feet on the ground, perhaps sensing the chair,
the room, the space, the high ceilings,
the blue sky perfuming the air,
the hidden yet present stars.

Communing with the Larger Whole
Each of us sensing each other,
sensing ourselves as a community,
sensing the communities beyond —
the forests, the rivers, the oceans,
all beings.

This whole of Life, humming, buzzing, resonating.
We are relationship.

Tender Inner Sensing
Tenderly checking within the inner universe
of complexity and simplicity —
available with kindness, warmth, care.

What’s present here?
What’s calling?
What’s pushing?

Being held within the whole,
perhaps needing just a hello,
a glance, more space, or closer presence.

Honoring What Brought You Here
Making room for the parts that brought you here.
What’s life serving about being here right now?
What wishes want to be honored?
What freedoms are ready to be explored?
Where is the life in all of this?

Trusting the Knowing Within and Beyond
Something in us knows.
Being receptive to what knows about these forward movements —
these openings into healing, wholeness, freedom.

Something outside of us knows too.
Resting in this shared knowing,
resting in availability,
resting in presence.

Love and Nature Lifts Me

Creating a Space of Comfort and Wholeness
We’re just beginning to invite a space of comfort—a place where we can restore and heal, a place that welcomes wholeness. This is a place of refuge, if you like—somewhere safe, meaningful, peaceful. These are not things we always find in the world, necessarily. But here, we are beginning to sense a safe haven, a home—a place of ease.
Something in us already knows about these qualities. Something deep, dependable, faithful. A place where we can stand our ground. Where we can rest. A sense of coming home. Whatever the world is offering us right now, we can still come home.
The Universal Home
And of course, the universe is also a home. We sense outward, beyond the room, into the space, into our universal home—the sky, the stars. A trillion stars keeping us company as well. It’s a home for the birds, the animals, and the fish, the whales, and the dolphins. The plants and the trees. And all the other human animals, too.
We’re sharing the richness of life with each precious breath, being breezed. Being breathed by the universe—even the universe breathes.
Settling Into the Body and Earth
We’re just beginning to settle, landing in the company of life. Sensing the earth beneath the body, and maybe finding rest, comfort in the touch and contact. Comforting. Soothing. Calming, even—maybe.
The whole shape of the body can begin to emerge, and all the sensations present can offer themselves in their own unique way. Inviting a quality of presence—a whole sense of the body, sensing, breathing.
Welcoming Inner Life
And in all of this, something within—some life there, some life here, some mood, feeling tone in the chest or tummy or throat, or elsewhere. It's making room for all of that. Maybe inviting a quality of warmth and care in the receiving, and just saying, "Hello."
Dang! Hello! Saying hello from all the stars! From the animals. Saying hello from the birds, from the sky. Saying hello—from care and compassion.
Companioning What’s Here
Keeping company with whatever’s here in this way. Just taking your time to emerge.


The Exquisite Creation You Are Trilogy Attunements

The Deer, the Forest, and the Tiger

It's a bit like sitting next to a deer that comes out of a forest. You come down on your haunches and you wait. You see that deer. You don't run at it. You don't say, "Oh, there's a deer!" and run at the deer. It's like—oh my God, the deer runs off. Well, why wouldn't it? It knows something's there.

So we sit down. We wait. The deer comes close. The deer goes, "Oh, this is safe." And then it may finally come and lie down by you. And you go... you put your hand on the deer. Well, you might not. But there's a lot of beauty in this.

And then comes out a tiger. And we go, "Oh..." and then we really feel the ground. I mean, you look down slightly because you don't want to freak the tiger out, right? And we see its beautiful shape. It's a beautiful creature. Very, very beautiful. It's 500 pounds of sheer power and beauty, and it comes weaving over. It too sits down by the deer and by you. And you put your hands on both of them.

And you say: Welcome. That is presence.

Then the tiger gets up and wanders off. And you go, "Okay. It's cool." It's all me, in a way. 

Now there's a deep sigh because it recognizes the complexity of all that. And the beauty of befriending our monsters and our magicians, you know? And how they're not really there to attack us. They're there to serve us, really, underneath it all—if we take time to let them be and sit by them.

But we need to be in presence. We need to be grounded. That's the difference. Once we're there, whatever we do or say will be connecting.

And then Comes a Tiger

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You Saw The WHOLE of The MOON Mindfulness Deep Calm & Soothing Meditation

“Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us act, just once, with beauty and courage. Perhaps everything that frightens us is, in its deepest essence, something helpless that wants our love.”   Rainer Maria Rilke

Meet frightened, anxious, angry etc parts of yourself tenderly with kindness and care.  

All inner critics and emotional patterns have a positive intention.  How are they permitted to let themselves go into a new fresh edge and shift into their newness. Every part within us has its own healing mechanism, all we need to do is offer relationship on the basis of ‘letting be the way it wants to be’ rather than reject or attack so they can morph into their fresh edge and wellness.

Limitless Mindfulness Meditation.  Something can be constricted, cramped, raw, tender, vulnerable – in and of themselves they are fine, the question is how do we relate to them?  Are we held hostage or are we in relationship with them so they can express themselves fully for being fully received.  We are not trying to force change or fix something, it’s a bit like pouring water onto a seed, its an organically flourishing process which just takes care of itself within the context of Presence. Perhaps you have a place where resting is easy, sunbathing on a beach, a forest perhaps or somewhere else where an exquisite sense of safety makes itself known to you.  Inviting a sense of care and warmth in the body.

Inner Critic Relationship for Self Tenderness Kindness and Care for Raw Vulnerable Meditation

The open and connected dimension of Being.
Something can sense the intimacy of connecting right now. Like the tree is available to all the birds that land on it—available to the sky above, and the clouds that float by, to the rain, to the wind that dances the leaves. That tree is firmly rooted and grounded, just like us in Presence.

The felt sense then runs through the whole of this—it’s life connecting everything up, as it is. And the nexus of the felt sense could be in the heart, tummy, or chest somewhere, or more amorphous. Just sensing what is alive here—how is it living through the sensing?

And maybe, making room for the timelessness in Presence, the infiniteness in Presence, and the life that runs through it!

The felt sensing does not belong to anyone in particular—it just seems to course through us. But that shared sense of the felt sensing—if we just pause right now, and just be quietly available in a very ordinary way, to each other—it’s as if there is a shared felt sensing going on. It does not belong to you or me exclusively. Something in us knows there is a bit more going on here, and it seems to be shared.

So I am inviting your body to sense how it is for it—its living experience in the sharedness. This felt sensing, this field, this matrix, this mutuality, this dance, this correspondence, this unity—it can rest in itself. As it does so, something can just be with it, and notice the quality of it from its own perspective.

We are just playing with the mystery of intimacy, of connection.

Often we are not receptive to this shared quality. And here, we invite permission for availability to come forward—to open the gates, to open the portals to this sharing, into the mutuality of sharing that creates its own portal. Resting with this, to sense how it is.

If you like, something in you can open to the portal to all of those around you, to all the sentience beyond—into a felt sensing of all that. Subtle, yes, it can invite itself to know itself more fully from availability in Presence, letting it rest in itself.

And as it does, you might notice the qualities of it—at least a sense of something here. What are the qualities of this sharedness? Perhaps more owned by itself—a sense of sharedness. What’s this like, this shared element? What’s it like in itself, even?

My sense of all this, from a felt sense perspective, is that this—the shared intimate felt sense—brings true wellbeing and healing, and is a portal into the mystery itself that knows its own truth, whatever that means!

And you could say that there is a lot of rest and peace in this sharedness, this mutuality, this mystery. There’s a lot of rest—something can rest deeply here—a lot of nourishment. And if I dare push the boat out, it’s almost timeless, infinite, limitless in its own way.

Of course, there will be parts that may shrink or contract. However, this shrinking and contraction can take place in the breadth of it all.

Timelessness and Infiniteness In Presence Focusing Attunement

How do we have relationship with parts of ourselves, and not be held hostage to strong feelings of overwhelm?.  The Jackal, NVC's reactive mind, is living from those parts, not having a relationship with the part, or with the story.  When the reactive mind is living from itself, classically its narrative is from an ‘I am’ (I am angry, bad, sad) its merged and associated language, it gives no space for relationship.  I Am’s are not just descriptive, but prescriptive, it’s a command to the subconscious to0 tacitly to continue.  How do we say hello to the parts using Embodied Relatio0nal Presence through the Pause.  What’s it like to say Hello to the part?  Waiting to hear back from the part….. I am coming along side you in a kindly and compassionate way.  We are not trying to fix it, manipulate it, just coming along side it, keeping it company in a kind and gentle way!

A bit of time for you, a bit of space to entertain a whole sense for yourself, so we just pause, the pause is a portal into Presence and very often there is a quality of absence, not being particularly connected.  There is a vast richness in Presence that can be very nourishing, healing and meaningful. Just letting be. Dropping down just being sensitive from the body’s sense of itself, it might notice under thee feet, the chair, the seat, the mattress, sensing contact and touch, grounding and earthing, always available at all times. Inviting safety, balance and centredness. Sensing outwards beyond the room up into that sea of jewels into that infinity of the cosmos.  Inviting a calming and comforting.

Self Compassion Short reflection and Guided Self Comfort & Wellbeing NVC

Precious time set aside for you... Perhaps something from home or work is with you. We're marking a space, a boundary, maybe even something sacred, being available to the universe, both inner and outer. In today's world, preoccupied with shopping and the internet, this space is an opportunity for something more real. It's an invitation to the clear light of reality, offering healing, growth, wellbeing, and creativity—all here in the relational field of being.

We pause, being available to the soothing ocean of being. Perhaps you sense the earth beneath your feet or body—through the chair, settee, or ground. This point of contact is always available, grounding you in balance and solidity, whether walking, sitting, or lying. Coming home to a foundation of balance, terra firma, and briefly resting with these sensations. From here, sense more broadly—the relational field of the body, the sensations offered: touch, taste, pleasure, pain, neutrality, pulsing, and breathing.

This relational field extends beyond—into the space around you, above the treetops, through clouds into the clear open skies, and beyond, into the star-studded infinity we sit in. Grounded yet spacious and open, as if being breathed by the stars themselves. Perhaps breathing into those parts of you that need extra care, permeating every cell, cleansing, healing, vitalizing, connecting with each in-and-out breath. The starlight floods through the body, inviting kindness, gentleness, comfort, and peace.

If there's anything less than peaceful, that's okay too. We welcome these parts, supported by the whole relational field of being. The connection with others and all life sits with us, offering safety, power, and care. As we rest in the whole-body breathing—grounded, kindly, starlight breathing, flowing in and out. Resting. If there are thoughts, that's okay—giving them the space they need, while also inviting the body to sense the earth, sensing its whole self in the infinite space it inhabits. There's plenty of room for everything here, even thoughts—just letting them be, letting them find their place. Returning to the visceral sense of beingness in the relational field, which supports itself in its own balance and wellbeing.

Perhaps you notice a warm awareness in the body, a slight glow, an ember, or a spark—like a bud opening in the chest. Soft, warm petals of kindness emanate outward, or perhaps a sun rising in the chest, flooding warmth and care through your body. This light extends beyond you, touching the hearts of those near you, wishing them well. Quietly, this light radiates out, further into the world, wishing harmony and peace to all beings—plants, animals, and humans alike. Beyond the planet, into the great sea of diamonds, who knows what's out there? May all life find peace and happiness in its own way.

We sit here in this relational field of peace and care. Each cell in your body holds within it a thousand suns, radiating outwards. Letting everything be as it wants to be, from this grounded, warm sense of self—or whatever sense of self feels true. Honoring its truth, inviting a deepening sense of joy, peace, freedom, naturalness, playfulness, and abundance. And we rest here.

Starlight Breathing Healing Relational Field Mindfulness Meditation

I’m inviting some time here to land to come home to yourself a little, so just settling, arriving, maybe you have had busy days.  Just inviting a kindly openness, availability to what wants to show itself, to land with you.  Inviting your body to sense the ground beneath your feet, feeling the comfort of the earth, the solidity, the grounding…. Sensing the seat beneath you, just gently landing, arriving. Perhaps your whole body can begin to sense the shape and fulness of itself.  Maybe noticing the fabric of clothing on your skin here and there, whole body grounding sensing earthing, breathing. Perhaps sensing outwards into space, any sounds, just letting then be in this sense of spaciousness, beyond the four walls out into the open up into the sky, up into that sea of diamonds and pearls glittering keeping us company, bathing in starlight as we sit together.  Just making room for what might be here for what might to show itself. Inviting a gentleness a softness so we can receive these parts, somethings aspects of our nature, sensing them there maybe they are mild, intense, spacious, or cramped, contracted or open, just as they are, offering them the space they need or closeness they need in a way that works for you, and maybe offering a Hello, if that feels right, maybe they are not ready for a hello just yet.  Keeping ourselves company in this way.

Gentle and Soft Accompaniment to our Heart Focusing Attunement

So I was asking you—how do you know when you're moving into a healing mode? And how do you know when you're not?
What's happening inside of you? What's going on in there?
How do you know?
Do you know? 
Because sometimes I say to myself, when there's an edge, when it's a bit challenging: Where's the healing edge in all of this? Is it in the whole thing? All of it? Because I'm not quite sure where it is. So I just ask: Where's the healing edge in all of this?
And I wait, you know.
Sometimes, it comes back and gives me something—maybe a certain shape in the body.
Sometimes, it doesn’t. But it's like—oh, it's like that.
It’s like that in there.
That’s the healing edge. Oh, okay. And then I can say hello to that, right?
So it's an open curiosity rather than an interrogative, pointed question. See what I’m saying?
For me, the question is: Where does the felt sense begin? And where does it end?
And I'm asking you with curiosity—where does the felt sense begin, and where does it end?
Just drop into that. Ask your whole body—what does that mean to it?
Does it begin in the heart area? The tummy? The throat? The face?
And where does it end? Around the shape of the heart? In the torso?
Does it begin in the sternum? Or is it more intense there?
Wherever it might be—does it radiate outward?
Does it end where the feet meet the ground?
Where the body meets the chair, or the bed?
Does it end at the skin, with the sensation of clothing?
Or does it extend to the shape of the room, or even beyond?
Where is it alive?
And if there’s something going on—say, a bird chirping or sunlight on your face—is that part of the felt sense? Or not?
What do you mean by the felt sense?
This is really important when it comes to healing.
Because—what’s the point of it?
I mean, maybe it’s heresy to ask—why do we have a felt sense?
I mean, it’s so mechanistic. But if you did ask, it’d be interesting to see what answer comes back—if anything comes back.
And if it did, it wouldn’t be a definitive answer.
I don’t think it would be. It would probably be quite complex.
Or maybe the answer would come through a gesture, or a sound, a symbol or metaphor
So—is the felt sense static? Or dynamic?
Is it in one place? Or many places?
Can you sense it in the whole experience? Or just in a part of it?
All these curiosities—along with many others—are questions.
And they all relate to the meaning of healing.
Because—well, what is healing?
And how does something know how to offer freshness from the old?
How does it know how to do that—especially with something that’s been stuck for 10 or 20 years?
And then, suddenly—there’s a surprise when you feel that melting into something genuinely different.
There’s a freshness appearing.
Where does that appear in a felt sense?
So—those curiosities.
Yeah. I’m wondering how that lands with you—without coming so much from your head.

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Tsunami Surfing, Healing, Liberation and the Thrill of the Felt Sense Reflection

Breathing in Harmony with the vastness of the Universe Focusing Attunement
On the forefront of Universal Creativity, surfing the universe in this way!
Just arriving, then, at this focusing session.
Focusing is really a continual arriving.
It's a freshness, an openness to experience as it presents itself.
Ideally, we're coming from a whole sense of ourselves, a grounded quality of presence, which creates stability, wholeness, safety—the ability to hold all kinds of emotions, feelings, and sensations in context so they can be felt and sensed.
So they can continue flowing rather than being atomized, compartmentalized, judged, blamed, analyzed—effectively, not really coming into much of a relationship.
Those are default relationships, autopilot, the reactive quality of mind.
Focusing is living at the forefront, surfing life—you could say, surfing the tsunamis, surfing tiny, rolling waves.
You could even say it's a bit of a thrill—living life from this vitality, from this richness.
Appreciating the full meaning of feelings, emotions, energies running through the body.
Resonating with nature, with the birds, with the trees, with the sky and the clouds, resonating with your loved and cherished friends, partners, animals.
Resonating with the moon and the stars.
Resonating with each breath, in and out—precious life.
As this is being offered right now, we sit on the forefront of 13.8 billion years of the creation of the solar system.
This planet—we're a product of that.
In a way, it's a blink compared to all that time, if that.
Such an amazing coincidence to have this life.
As it senses the ground, sensing the space around the body that goes up into the stars.
Sensing the shape of the body from the skin's perspective as it breathes in harmony with the vastness of things.
And up to 13.8 billion years—what has it got inside it?
What's alive here?
What has it produced? What's the effect?
Just checking in with all of that in you.
Something there, something wanting, some care, some attention, some acknowledgment.
Something tired, something vital.
Something just as it is—no label.
In the forefront of this universal creativity.
Surfing the universe in this way.

Breathing in Harmony with vastness of the Universe Attunement

At the End of the Map What then

Identity 'I Am' 'Something in Me' Who are you? Existential Focusing Reflection

Love Lifts Me Attunement

Wholebody in Nature Focusing Experience

Creating a Space of Comfort and Wholeness

We begin with the felt sense and the quality of safety in the body.
So just landing... pausing... and landing again.
Taking space, arriving here in this context to explore Gene Gendlin's Focusing.
The felt sense is at the heart of Focusing.
That sense is, of course, more than a feeling.
It's a whole bodily sense of something.
Generally, it lies around and behind the feelings—so the feelings are included.
But that’s not where the buck ends.
There’s a whole lot more going on.
All in good time around exploring that.
Perhaps most significantly, there’s the sensing through which the felt sense permeates.
So just pausing into some availability around the body.
Maybe just sensing what’s on your skin—clothing, or temperature, or pressure, or touch.
A very felt experience.
Very nuanced as well—very often, feet on the ground.
And there’s more.
A kaleidoscope of experience.
A whole matrix of experience.
Sensing the space around the body, extending out into your room.
Letting it rest in itself... and beyond the room, of course—into the evening, maybe into the blue sky.
Extending infinitely.
To include a trillion universes and diamonds.
Sensing each other... and perhaps sensing the sentience of the field, animals...
...whole life.
The web of life. The web of living felt sensing.
And in all of this, there’ll be something inside of you—some mood, emotion, something alive.
What’s that like from the sensing’s perspective?
Making space for that there in you—something contracted, something spacious.
Or maybe neither... or both.
Approaching with care and warmth—maybe.
If you like, offering a little hello to that there in you.
Coming alongside whatever’s there.
Maybe saying hello to a door.
I’m keeping you company in this way.
Grounded, aware presence.

The Web of Living Felt Sensing Invitation

So I just invite you to close your eyes for a moment. Here, we could just call this contemplating the felt sense—or even befriending the felt sense. Getting to know the felt sense.

And from the get-go, I would say we’re not just talking about feelings. But without a feeling, we don’t have a felt sense. Normally, in our culture, we’ll either stick our head in the feeling and get overwhelmed—whether that's with joy and pleasure or with grief or sadness—or we’ll push it away, try to mask it, or freeze. Those are the three default settings in our relationship to feeling. It’s just the way we’ve been brought up. We haven’t been taught to relate to the complexity of our inner world. It’s just too much. It's too complicated. And so it’s easy—so easy—to rely on those default settings.

As we entertain this process of getting to know the felt sense, it initially means getting to know the sensing. Getting to know the sensing is really pausing. Pausing, and being available in a very gentle, soft, open way—a gentle, soft, open way.

It’s a bit like opening your hand, and there are butterflies around. They are very beautiful—these butterflies—purple ones, swallowtail ones, small ones, big ones. If you look at the wings of a butterfly, with those very beautiful scales on them—exquisite design, exquisite colours—it's like a fine Persian carpet on the wings. It doesn’t take much to smudge them. So very delicate. It’s a work of creation to the highest degree. And there it is, on your hand, slowly opening and closing its wings.

And as it does that, sensing your body on the chair, feet on the ground, sensing the sounds around you. And something inside of you—is there some dull ache? Some sharp feeling? Something contracted? Something expansive? Some not-knowing? Something bland? So much complexity within. Just being available to it as you would be available to that butterfly—from the whole body. Whole-body sensing. Spacious sensing. Gently inwards.

It’s not a smash and grab. Let it come to you. Let the butterfly come to you. Sometimes it can take five, ten, twenty minutes, right? Sometimes it can take me a whole day just to be available to something in me that wants to settle, to show itself. But sometimes, it happens very quickly.

There are the obvious feeling tones, and then the whole sense of that. And then you have a story—not the story. Come back into the body. Sensing the around, the behind, the not-knowing behind that. There’s the knowing and the not-knowing. The cusp of the knowing into the not-knowing. It’s where we can become available. Availability—I call it. Just sitting and coming alongside whatever’s there. It doesn’t need a label. It doesn’t need a word. It just needs to be the way it is.

Being with ambiguity. That’s not always easy, and there may be parts that reject that—so let them be there too. Or parts that are excited—we let them be there as well. And if you like, at some point you can just say to whatever’s there, if it works for you: a very kind and gentle "Hello. Hello." "It’s like that for you in there, right?" "I’m coming alongside you just as you are." "I’m not trying to change you. I’m not trying to manipulate you, push you away, or make you get bigger." Just as you are—just as that butterfly opens and closes its wings and pirouettes—with appreciation. And maybe gratitude.

When something’s difficult, perhaps those ones are not so available. We nonetheless include whatever is here. One of the core principles in Focusing is letting things be the way they want to be, in their totality, for as long as they want to be here. And I know that may be a challenging principle. It’s highly healing and satisfying to entertain it, though. Because eventually, it will find a home—in its own time and in its own place.

Exquisite Felt Sense Creation Butterfly Attunement

Sitting with the Felt Sense
The felt sense comes alive when we sit alongside something and be with it just as it is. This is perhaps the most challenging thing a human can do. On one hand, you don’t want to be with it. On the other, how do you be with it? And what is it, anyway? Many things come up around that. Yet when one entertains it, I believe it can be incredibly inspiring. Something in you will catch it and go, “Right. Okay.” It’s like one’s whole universe potentially shifts. When one is entertained by the felt sense, it's like Lyra, Philip Pullman's character with the subtle knife. She cuts through the air and enters another reality. I think that’s exactly it. The Edge of the Map
There’s a deep sigh of recognition about what’s heard here. It’s continually reminding itself of that, because it’s not a habit. It can’t be. That’s the beauty. It’s on the borderline of habit and non-habit. It’s at the edge of the map. You come to the edge of the map, and then what? It’s freeform. It’s like finding a whole new map. But the map can be different every time. A whole new place. Multi-dimensional. And it can only be a map in retrospect. You can’t have the map to begin with—it’s not there. Map is linear. This is more multi-dimensional. The map runs out, and you look back and go, “Oh, now I have a new map.” You can’t look forward with that map. It’s a new kind of way of being.

Metaphor, Creativity, and the Limit of Language
It’s very nourishing just to chat about it. Something in me gets it. It’s like that. It can only ever be a “like that” from this perspective. In a way, it’s another map—a metaphor or symbol. Like a pair of wings, like a surfboard. I talk about surfing. But maybe you have your own metaphor that fits better. This is where true creativity happens. It’s the place of the artist, the creative to create. And if someone is creating from a map, they’re not truly creating.

Shifting Paradigms
It’s a different paradigm. It’s liberating. I was talking to a friend. I used the phrase "going south." We’re a bit far north—let’s go south. It’s tough. Then they talked about being below the waterline—what’s happening there? We recognize that from different traditions. In a sense, we’re coming to the same point. And then the whole conversation calmed. And it was like—that’s it.

All We Have Is Relationship
Relationship. That’s it. We’re not having a relationship—we are relationship. We are interaction. We’re not having an interaction. The relational field is always alive. When you stop thinking about people as fixable objects—relationship emerges. What brought me into this was wanting a better relationship with my wife. Then I realized I needed a better relationship with what’s going on in here. It turns out all we have is relationship. When you get there—it’s all relationship.

Felt Sense as Portal to Living
The felt sense is a portal into the “thisness” of direct living. You could say direct intuitive living, though intuition can be misunderstood. Korzybski, the Polish semanticist, said “the map is not the territory.” We need maps. But we don’t need to be fooled by them. The left brain is a map. People are fooled because they believe them. They believe dichotomous ways of seeing the world as absolutely true—when they are just maps. Language is a map. A belief is a map. But ultimately, it’s not true.

Perspective and the Limits of Knowing
There’s always another view. My teacher spoke of this: look at the Plough, your favorite constellation. It’s beautiful. But if you called someone on Mars and said, “The Plough’s out, can you see it?” they’d say, “What are you talking about?” From their view, it doesn’t exist. If you go toward it—after 30 billion light years—you’d be inside it, and it wouldn’t look constellated. What we take as real is relative. It’s only real from the perspective of the seer.

End of the Map and Felt Sensing Beyond  - Reflection

Pausing and Entering Presence
Just pausing right now.
Yes, I guess we're in mid flow, right? Life, mid flow, flowing, moving.
And this invitation into presence, in a way, is honoring the flow, yet becoming more aware of it.
And perhaps entering it more deeply.
Maybe some stillness in the flow, some flow in the stillness.
Making Room for Arrival
And just making room for where you have come from — maybe busy, quiet —
entering this portal, this space.
Landing.
Being available to your sensing.
Body-Based Listening
Dropping into yourself more fully.
Listening from the body's perspective.
Noticing any more subtle, more nuanced experience —
perhaps a breathing —
as the body lands on earth, sensing the ground.
Sensing the chair, or whatever you're on.
Wholeness and Expansion
So a sense of emerging, becoming more whole.
Sensing outwards into sounds and space —
the relative space of your room,
and the infinite space beyond it,
into the stars, that sea of pearls.
It’s as if we’re being breathed by these stars, by the universe.
Feet on the planet. Here on the eastern edge of the Milky Way.
Breathing together.
Something Alive Within
And in all of this, something alive in you —
something in the tummy or chest, throat,
or maybe more — something amorphous, more subtle.
Or something really obvious, bounded.
Perhaps both.
The universe beholds it. The senses hold it.
Welcoming What Is Felt
Perhaps moving in closer.
Or offering more space.
Is it ready for a little hello?
Hello!
How might it like you to be with it?
Emboded Relational Presence
Embodied relational presence?



In the Universal Flow Focusing Attunement

A lively discussion including contributions from Manvir Hansra and Raffi Campbell. 

The felt sense is a bit like a precious pearl in the ocean, and the narrative is a bit like—what could it be? It’s like a big trawler’s fishing net, you know, that’s really thrown out far and wide, pulling up all kinds of debris. But the real felt sense, that’s—the narrative is the trawler and the net. The felt sense is the pearl. And she sits quietly there. It’s like that. It’s a metaphor, right? But you get what I mean by the trawler.

It's gonna feel very real. Yes. We've got all this stuff in the net. Oh, what have we got? Oh, we got an old dustbin. Oh, we caught a dolphin. Need to put that back, right? And—yeah—maybe I'm doing a disservice to the narrative. But maybe it has a place to do a bit of a disservice to it, that’s trying to run the show, is trying to steal from the ocean right in this kind of way. Maybe the ocean itself is sensing in its fullness.
The Call of the Heart and the North Star
• Focusing offers a vital path to authenticity — following “the North Star of your heart.”
• It invites openness where we’d typically close down, setting us apart with empathic presence and humility.
• Both focusing and meditation rest on the Mystery — not mechanical methods, but a living relationship with inner freedom.

Mindfulness: Dharma vs. Method
• Mindfulness is not meditation; it is Dharma — a liberating relationship with reality.
• Breath counting and body scans reduce mindfulness to mechanical practice, mistaking means for ends.
• The true heart of mindfulness points to dignity and inner freedom, not control.

The Pitfall of the Fixed Self
• Much mainstream mindfulness implies a fixed self that must control experience.
• Terms like “body scan” reduce us to machinery; “bring it back” creates an inner dualism.
• This model implies failure if thoughts stray, reinforcing judgment and tension.

The Organic Way: Focusing as Meditation
• Focusing is emergent, inclusive, and organic.
• No “bringing back” — just allowing what’s already here to unfold.
• The body senses itself. Stories are welcomed. There is no central controller.

Presence Instead of Meditation
• Presence carries fewer preconceptions than “meditation.”
• It can arise anywhere — at a bus stop or in bed.
• It’s about letting the body notice, not doing something to it.

Cosmic Context and Imaginal Sensing
• The body can sense the stars — not through sight, but through imaginal awareness.
• This cosmic felt sense brings vastness and belonging.
• There is something in us that quietly knows this larger context.

The Meaning Body
• Beneath emotion is the felt sense — a meaning-laden, pre-verbal sensation.
• It streams knowing not through thought but direct bodily experience.
• This “meaning body” is:
o Where intuitive knowing lives.
o A portal to wisdom and compassion.
o Life sensing itself in wholeness.

The Pearl and the Net
• The felt sense is a precious pearl in the ocean.
• The narrative is a trawler’s net — often pulling debris, sometimes treasure, but rarely the pearl.
• Mistaking the net for the ocean blinds us to the subtle truths within.

Focusing as Resting in Itself
• Focusing is the whole self resting in itself — not effort, but natural unfolding.
• There may be gentle intentionality, but even that fades.
• The process eventually looks after itself.

Sensing as Portal
• Sensing is not the end — it’s the portal to the "more" that knows its truth.
• It bypasses conceptual frameworks like duality or non-duality.
• The evaluating mind cares for labels; the body simply is.

Beyond Non-Duality
• Chasing “non-dual experiences” often leads to mental tangles.
• The body doesn’t care for duality or its absence — it just lives truthfully.
• Presence offers a refuge beyond all categories.

Focusing Meditation and The Dharma Discussion

Welcome to this presence invitation.

As I look up, I see a blue sky—clear and open—and the canopies of many trees, their leaves rich with vibrant tones of green. Swifts, swallows, or house martins flit about, dancing in the sky.

I can really feel my feet on the grass. In a way, that’s a metaphor for presence—grounded and spacious, clear, bright, and open.

A Sky Dance

There’s a dancing in the sky, a pirouetting, a frolicking, just like those house martins and swifts.

Now, we may not start there, but we can be available—just available—to the fineries of sensing.

Awakening the Senses

Perhaps noticing some fabric on the skin—brushing close, or firmer, tighter—keeping the body safe and protected, maybe warm, maybe secure.

And the more obvious sensations where the body meets gravity, meets the earth. Resting in that touch, in the sensation of contact.

Held by the Earth

Inviting the body to adjust, to respond to this contact. Being held. Being supported. Being loved, if you like, by the earth—always available at all times.

Subtle Space

And then, the sensation of space—more subtle. Often synonymous with sound. Sounds and space extending out to the infinite, embracing all the diamonds and pearls and gems in the sky.

In between the stars and us, the birds. We are being breathed by that very same sky.

What’s Alive in You

And making room for what’s alive here in you—something subtle, something more obvious, something contracted, something spacious—or neither. Or both.

A Gentle Welcome

Making room to welcome, or give space, or come alongside.

Offering a little hello. Hello!

Keeping company with care, with warmth and compassion.

Resting here.

Birds pirouetting in the Blue summer sky Focusing Attunement

Presence and Truth
Coming into presence.
A presence that knows its own truth. It really is not a cognitive thing.
Life manifesting into its fullness. Of course, it's already in its fullness.
Perhaps it's more the availability manifesting to this fullness.
Nature's Participation
And all the creatures join in. I can certainly hear lots of birds here doing their evening song.
And the sun is bowing down, offering its light between the leaves—
A golden hue, the soft warmth.
Evening prayers to the universe.
Here, on the eastern edge of the Milky Way, the eternal prayer—
Bathing us in light and warmth and love.
Body and Earth Connection
And the body responds.
Sensing its connection with the earth through the feet or seat, or otherwise—
An easy contact.
And perhaps the body can sense its shape, fizzing, tingling, pulsing warmth or cool pressure, movement, stillness—
At the experience.
A kaleidoscope of experience, shifting, flowing, emerging.
Flowing Aliveness
Winding.
Meandering.
And yet infinite and eternal at the same time—
As the body senses space beyond the confines of its shape into the shapeless—
That simply knows itself to be true.
Relational Wholeness
Keeping the stars company.
Keeping all the animals and creatures and plants and trees, rivers, oceans and lakes company.
As we too are kept company.
Breath and Inner Life
Being breathed by it all.
And breathing it, or—
Making room for any life, motion, mood, inside.
Welcoming the Inner
Something there—
Wanting to come home, perhaps,
Or just to be celebrated,
Or otherwise to be healed,
To be enjoyed,
To be loved.
Resting in Presence
Resting in presence.

Sun Prayer Focusing Attunement

The Loop of Overwhelm and Story
When we're faced with overwhelming emotions or narratives, the tendency might be to play into the story. “They’re a bad person,” or, “I’m a bad person,” or, “They’re bad because...,” followed by the impulse, “I’m going to tell them what for.”
Or we might internalize it: “I’ve done something wrong, and I deserve to be punished.” These feelings arise and confirm the story, and then the story reinforces the feeling — creating a kind of loop.
Grounding and WholenessHow does the principle of grounding and welcoming help us come back to our humanity, our sense of wholeness?
It allows us to have an inner relationship — one where we are not dominated by the overwhelm.
The Power of Pausing
We pause. We literally stop. This stopping isn’t about stopping our thoughts or feelings — we can’t do that — but it’s about becoming aware around them, nonjudgmentally and with kindness.
Even while walking, we might stop or sit down. We don’t have to, but the pause is an invitation to check our intention.
Checking Intention
Where are we coming from? Are we acting from anger, hurt, frustration? Or can we acknowledge that and bring in compassion and space?
We can say, “Okay, I’m now inviting a sense of softness and care as I be with myself,” with the intention to be kind.
Grounding Through the Body
We pause, check intention, and settle — letting things settle.
We let the body sense the ground: feeling our feet on the floor, our body on the seat, the bed, the earth — feeling contact.
Letting the body take refuge there, enjoying the neutral sensations of touch and contact.
Whole-Body Sensing
We rest there, sensing the body as a whole, breathing and being.
We might notice the feeling of fabric on the skin.
This is grounding through whole-body sensing.
Welcoming What’s Inside
We might sense something stirring inside — something overwhelming. We can put a hand on our chest, our tummy, or both, and begin to welcome it.
We may not be ready to fully welcome, but we can acknowledge it: “Oh, you're there inside of me.”
We come alongside from a grounded, spacious being.
Spaciousness and Hello
Spaciousness means sensing the space around the body — beyond the four walls, up into the stars.
All this space, grounded, entertains what’s inside.
We say a gentle “Hello” to it — “Hello to you inside there.”
Coming alongside with kindness and care.
Permission and Connection
We might ask: “Is it okay for me to say hello to you?”
If it is, we say, “Hello. Hello.”
A soft greeting, with warmth and care, to that part or quality inside.
Listening for Response
We might notice how the body responds. It might not respond, and that’s okay.
We just keep saying, “Hello. Hello.”
Sitting alongside with kindness and care.
Recognizing Needs
We recognize that these feelings point to needs — met or unmet:
Needs for care, safety, peace, love, closeness, healing, fun, play, well-being, freedom, connection, friendship, authenticity, truth, flow, naturalness, deep rest.
Letting Needs Emerge
We sense what needs are important to these parts right now — if they’re available.
It may take time for them to emerge and be known.
What’s most important is simply being unconditionally here for those parts.
Allowing Without Fixing
We allow the parts to be just as they are, without trying to fix or change them.
In doing so, they’re effectively coming home.

NVC Meeting my Vulnerable parts compassionately

Arrival and Opening
Welcome to this focusing experience.
As we land in the pause.
And then the pause… just inviting a quality of availability—being available.

Whole-Body Awareness
Sensing from the whole body.
Being receptive. Open.
Don't try too hard. It can just happen by itself.
The body is rather magic.
It can just respond with sensitivity—
To the sound of a bird,
To the sense of space,
To contact with the ground.

Aliveness and Grounding
Coming alive.
It’s already alive.
Got it.
Really taking in that contact with the earth.
Grounding and everything.

Tree Metaphor
Rooting like a tree, burrowing its roots deep down into that rich, organic soil.
Nutritious, nourishing.
Safe.
Stabilizing, balancing.
And the tree trunk extending up into the sky, its branches proliferating.
Bending to the winds, but not breaking.
Reaching up into the big blue—
With a star-studded night sky.
Friends with the stars.

Embodied Belonging
We, too—grounding, earthing, balancing.
Finding agency in connection—
In the earth, in relationship.
Sensing inwards from this empowered whole sense of self.
Holding what needs to be held.
Offering a safe space to all.
Coming alongside in this way.

Inner Contact
Perhaps a little hello to whatever is there—
With a quiet compassion.
Coming home?

Coming Home Grounding like a Tree Focusing Attunement

Welcoming the Felt Sense
Welcome to this focusing session.
The felt sense — that slippery fish, that elusive diamond treasure… that portal.
How do we entertain that? Or how does it entertain us, even?
Just settling, pausing, and settling.
Just letting things be.
The felt sense is really an emergent quality in our experience, as it is — always available at all times.
It’s a bit like the sun rising, the flower blooming, or the wings of a butterfly as it emerges from the cocoon — slowly, slowly opening, perhaps shyly.
Or the deer coming out of the forest, tentatively…
Landing in the Body
As the body arrives in itself more fully — sensing the earth beneath its feet, the pull of the chair…
Noticing whatever contact the body offers the earth, and resting there.
Briefly savouring, perhaps, the sensations.
Being held. Supported. Earthy and grounding.
These senses can be alive to the space around you.
To all the different sounds — maybe beyond the four walls…
Above the treetops… into the great blue or starry night, where a trillion diamonds hover.
And in this hovering — here we are on planet Earth.
With each other, with all beings, all sentience, plant and animal.
And all the elements.
Making Room for What Arises
In all of this, something presents itself in us.
Something tender.
Something raw.
Something shaky.
Maybe something confident, spacious. Open.
Something humorous. Something serious.
Just making room.
Landing. Keeping company.
And perhaps quietly welcoming — in your own unique way — befriending, saying: “Hello… Hello…”
Or maybe it’s not ready for that just yet.
Deepening Curiosity and Inquiry
Of course, there’s the obvious sense of feeling.
And we’re curious: what’s around that?
What’s behind that?
What’s the whole of that about, really?
No demand.
Just a kindly curiosity.
A soft awareness.
Resting here.

Rising Sun Felt Sense Focusing Attunement

The Heart of Presence and Compassion NVC invitation

The Feather on Water Attunement
Opening and Arrival
So, welcome everyone to this practitioner session community session.
Yes, they're just arriving, all those parts of us bubbling away. Maybe one part particularly present, or maybe there's just a whole equanimous sense of self.
Or maybe a whole sense of self holding the various elements here.
Exploring the Heart of Focusing
So here we are exploring the heart of focusing together.
And what is the heart of focusing?
How does that beat?
What is it for you?
Settling and Landing
I'm just making space to settle.
Settling.
Landing.
Very gentle, soft, landing, like a feather landing on a still lake, very subtle concentric rings like going out on that lake.
We, too, are landing.
Soft Awareness and Connection
So, a soft awareness, a soft and warm availability, if you like.
Softness of breathing as soft as the infinite sky.
Softly landing
Sensing the feet softly, it's or wherever they are touching.
And the body it's controls connected to the earth in some shape softly nestling, yes.
Universal Connection
Breathed by this same universe.
Soft fragrance, the stars twinkling, joy like gladness.
The body emerging as a visceral whole experience and tingling maybe.
What's alive in you?
Holding and Curiosity
Something needing to be held.
The Body is responding with curiosity. Maybe.
Universal Communication
What might the stars say to this one in you? There's something there.
What would all the animals say?
What might the Mighty oceans communicate.
Full Moon.
The feather Landing on the lake?
How would that be available?
As I say, what the animals say, Mumjack, calling in the distance calls.
The cry of the world.
Closing and Rest
Resting here.
And taking your time, taking a lead from your whole sense of self.
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Feather landing on Lake Soft Feeling Attunement

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So, and maybe just reflecting on why you signed up to this program. You signed up for this program, this initiative, this vision, this dance, this celebration.
What comes to you when you maybe invite some space around that? And how it's changed.
The Vision and Context
And of course, the vision that I was willing to present really was Eugene Gendlin's focusing and the heart of the felt sense. But in context—I wanted to make it contextual to the world that we're in, to our communities, to the global context.
All the beautiful things, but also the edges that we face—probably quite unique in the history of humankind. To be honest, sentient beings are facing unique challenges.
Notable.
Living and Influencing
So the vision of how we engage in the world and live a rich life, but also how we can be positively influential to effect changes which we're happy about, to be honest.
This quality of Being, and also what we might do, you know.
So the environmental perspective, the sentient perspective—the impact of what's going on in the world and the challenges that all sentient beings face right now.
How are we meeting that? And how does focusing play perhaps a pivotal part in that, to be honest?
And how we might share that, you know, which is what we've been exploring a bit.


Two Elements: Global and Spiritual
That's one element—the environmental global situation, the societal situation, our broader communities.
And the other element is more, if I dare call it—if I dare utter the word—the spiritual element.
Maybe it has another name, you know: deeply human, deeply human qualities, deeply sentient qualities. I don't want to lose out on the animal kingdom and the plant kingdom at all.
I want to always include them.
So we move away from this anthropomorphic way of relating to the world, which is more—I'll use this word—sentiomorphic in all our actions. And awareness is that element of what's deeply meaningful to us.
Core Questions
What makes us move really, you know, at the heart of it all? What are we drawing from? What well are we drawing from?
Is there a well? What ocean are we swimming in?
What jungle? What ecosystem are we traversing?
What celestial, starry night are we flying through, or do we aspire to touch the stars in some shape or form?
Our Condition as Sentient Beings
All of that has a direct bearing really on who we are as sentient beings.
Without that which we would be—well, I dare say we'd be in trouble.
I think, to some extent, we are in trouble as sentient beings experiencing this world, but that's my judgment, so I'll own that perspective.
Present Moment Invitation
So there it is. And here we are, landing here in this precious time-space moment.

Yeah, together—together facing these things and together hopefully thriving. And of course, as needs must, surviving at times.
So it's in this context I invite sharing from the heart of your universe, this universe, to speak or to move, or to stay silent—whatever feels right in this relational field.


Practitioners program 2026 - 2027 Vision in Context

Setting the Atmosphere
It's quite sultry here today, quite kind of hot. Oddly enough, the sun's not really been out - sticky. So hopefully this presence invitation will bring fresh experiences, freshness.
Landing and Arriving
So landing and arriving. In a way, it's always new. You can't walk across the same river twice, I believe, if that's Heraclitus. There's a freshness already here in the invitation.
Checking Intention
I'm just checking with your intention very gently. Is it inspired to be more open and curious, or is there something a bit closed, bit cramped, or even overwhelming? Even then you can offer a very gentle intention. We can invite it. Something softer or tender, something a bit bigger than feeling tone, perhaps.
Body Awareness
One thing - gently acknowledging feet, or the body on the ground. Sensing balance of the whole body. Maybe where the center of gravity might be. Being available to the shape of your whole body in a very gentle way. The fabric of clothing on the skin here and there.
Expanding Awareness
Sensing outwards. Quality of space around you. Extending beyond the clouds. That majestic sky. Maybe it's star studded, maybe not. Trillions of diamonds there, offering a sovereign majesty.
Inner Sensing
Just taking a moment to sense within. What's here right now? What's presenting itself? Something obvious, something more subtle, complex. Something with a clear shape, something more amorphous. Yeah, making space for all of that. How does it want to be held even?
Acknowledgment and Connection
A little acknowledgment of what's there? Maybe a little hello. Kindly. Gentle holding into a quality of relational presence, even embodied relational Presence.


Sovereign Majesty Focusing Attunement

Muntjac night time call in its natural habitat 

Whilst I Live I shall Shine: Muntjac Call to Humanity



Welcome to this presence Invitation.
The Universe is inviting Connection, presence.
What speaks and what hears? indeed.
Availability and Opening
And the word availability arises here - available.
Opening.
Tender sensing.
It's an invitation to be available from the whole self, the whole sensing.
What Arrives
And as such, what arrives?
This is an awareness in a broadness you could say.
What's making itself known, felt, sensed?
Grounding and Space
Perhaps the feet, the seat, the chair, bed, earth.
Perhaps the space around the body is calling with some particular sound - a bird or another sound.
What else?
It's arriving, emerging.
Body Sensing
The shape of the whole body, sensing, filling itself up with sensations - soft touch.
Warmth, cool….. Tingling.
On an out breath, sensing outwards – from the shape of the body and the shapeless beyond.
The Shapeless Beyond
Here, on the eastern edge of the Milky Way - shapeless beyond, shapeless.
Universe breathes the body.
Inner Landscape
And there's more - maybe thoughts, mood, emotions.
Something within, seemingly.
Space for all of that there in you, in the body.
What kind of space would serve these parts? Something spacious , closer space, tender space.
Space of celebration.
Colours and Symbols
How long might that space be if it were a colour?
What shape?
Metaphor or symbol might come from there.
Maybe there's an archetype - warrior, lover, king, Magician, Queen?
Allowing and Settling
Coming alongside, companioning, just as it is – maybe a not knowing, an ambiguity, shapelessness, maybe chaos - letting it be the way it wants to be as it settles, this settling.
Finding its place in the natural order of things in its own way and own time.



Presence and Archetypes King Queen Lover Magician Warrior Attunement

Find deep and natural rest in your innate quality of Being.

Vastness and Liberation Dimensions of Deep Resting Attunement

How do you get through stuckness and blocks in relationships?  What is the sweetspot?

The Sweet Spot in Relationships

Welcome to… this… Whole body… And focusing session.
The joy of the senses.
Session 4.
Initial Grounding & Transition
And so… Just coming into the pause.
Arriving into some space.
Perhaps just sensing… Where you've arrived from.
Busy day, or… spacious day, what activities you've been doing just prior to this.
As we come into this… place of… rest
Time to nourish.
Restore…
rounds…
Invite balance and wholeness.
Cultivating Agency & Authentic Presence
So, yes, inviting agency.
It's like an authentic knowing.
Quality of intention.
To come from, as it were, our power… our integrity.
A sense of rightness.
Well, letting these things arrive, gently.
There's a sense of imbalance, or… lack of wholeness.
or scatteredness.
Earth Connection & Grounding Practice
Perhaps allowing the Earth to greet us under our feet.
another seat, or settee, or… Whatever we're in contact with.
On the earth.
Resting… In the grounding.
Spaciousness Awareness & Cosmic Connection
available to… space.
In your room, or wherever you are.
Sensing… Spaciousness.
Being breathed by this spaciousness.
Which extends out beyond the four walls.
Above the treetops and clouds.
With a starry night or blue sky.
You can get company by a trillion diamonds.
Stars and moons and suns.
Body Sensing & Internal Awareness
Again, allowing the body to sense its fullness.
perhaps subtle sensations.
Skin and clothing.
Shape.
And… something inside.
A Feeling tone, emotion, or mood.
In space, in a compassionate, gentle way.
Received by the stars.
Either space. Either body.
It's like that in there.
Creating Safety & Presence
Space, or coming closer.
inviting a sense of safety around it, maybe?
round… Sort of a whole sense of the body.
Earthing and grounding.
Maybe a little hello?
Hello to that there.
And company in this way.
Closing Qualities
Grounded, aware, compassionate, presence


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GAP Self Compassion Meditation Being with Vulnerable Tender Raw Feelings for Comfort and Safely

Our 'inner critics' can often be merciless with their negative judgements, blaming and labelling, which can be disconnecting and overwhelming.  This meditation offers a way of interpreting our inner critics, with compassionate understanding and empathy to reveal the underlying needs wanting.
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Self Compassion & Inner Critic Meditation; Connecting With Needs

Meet your inner vulnerable hurt sad down parts with compassion for deep healing.

Self Tenderness Meditation

Life and front line interactions can be demanding and stressful - often with times of anxiety, fear, overwhelm etc being a result. Here are some ready and available resources to meet needs for Resilience, Deep Rest, Grounding, Presence, Balance, Restoration, Sustainability, Connection, Respite, Ease, Peace, Resources for times of action and inaction. 
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Soothing Meditation for anxiety and fear & other strong emotions

Presence Deep Rest Meditations and Reflections inspired by Focusing, Mindfulness and Nonviolent communication Embodied Relational Presence training and personal coaching.  https://www.living-presence.co.uk/

Simon McKibbin Presence Meditations & Reflections

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