From "I Am" to "Something in Me": A Meditation on Self-Relationship

The Challenge of Identity-Level Statements
It's very hard for us to have a relationship with ourselves, or with others, when we come from an "I am."
I am angry. I am enraged. I am jealous. I am frustrated.
These "I ams" are identity-level statements, and they're all-consuming and leading to overwhelm, often. Because an "I am" is the whole of you.
Moving to Awareness and Accuracy
And if we're more honest, these somethings in us are...
Something in me is enraged. Something in me is angry. Something in me, down there, is anxious, or jealous, or...
And as soon as the awareness comes to be accurate to our experience, i.e., it's an experience in me.
This experience is a part of me.
The Practice: Sensing and Experimenting
So I just invite you to sense your body.
Sense your body.
And just experiment with your experience. Say to yourself, oh, I am bored. I am angry. I am... whatever your emotion is, say I am. I am it. I am irritated, or... I am curious, or I am happy.
Now try this. Now go inside yourself there, and notice the feeling tone.
Something in me feels like that. Something in me is angry. Something in me is peaceful.
Befriending What's Inside
Let's go and befriend that. So we can put our hand on our chest or our tummy.
And say, oh, I'm really here to meet you inside. That's something that... it's like that, right now.
In this way, we learn to welcome, to acknowledge.
Is it okay for me to come closer to you, or do you need more space right now?
What kind of empathy would you like from me right now?
Warm and kind, perhaps?
Offering Compassionate Presence
So I'm coming and sitting either side of you. I'm keeping you company. Is there something here in me?
And of course, I'm quietly curious, behind it all, what your unmet need is, or met need is.
You can offer that in your own time. It may take a minute, or it may take 20. It might take a week.
Coming alongside you and keeping you company. As a way of welcoming.
The Transformation: From Overwhelm to Relationship
Moving from an "I am" to a "something in me" for relationship. So a "something in me" means I can have relationship with you.
In a way that's kindly, caring, and compassionate.
Assisting with you in this compassionate, warm way.
Inviting forward movement, healing, and freshness.

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