Sunlight warming our skins breathing the warm awareness of Compassionate Presence, earthing and grounding and anchoring into some safety. 

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Whole-body emerging ….. sensing each other in communing and connection, a togetherness.  Just checking in with your needs, what is important to you this very moment, and checking in with your feelings as an indicator for your needs…. Freedom, learning growth, ease, fun and play, connection, friendship community, space and boundaries, privacy, love and closeness….

Compassionate Presence is the hallmark of NVC and very often, we are dealing with the ‘Jackal’ (unconscious repetitive patterns on autopilot, otherwise known as the inner critic).  They keep repeating themselves ‘You are no good’ etc ……. The Jackal is pretty relentless, and its doing its best to meet your feelings and needs.  Just how do we ‘receive’ the Jackal (the inner critic) that allows for safety and containment avoiding overwhelm and being smothered by emotion, that invites the unmet need, a fresh edge into a new way of behaving and being – wholeness and balance and a way of life that we can live from – this quality of Compassionate Presence.
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Nonviolent Communication Longings of the Heart and other Reflections and Meditations

Become the flower, become available through Beauty and attract all you need in a natural and organic way.
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When the Flower Opens the Bee Comes Invitation

Rest in your Still Centre Focusing Attunement

Rest in Your Still CENTRE For Equanimity In Movement Focusing Attunement

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How does change REALLY happen? Find relief from STUCK Fear Anxiety Sadness Anger Hurt etc

The Body is invited to reclaim it's own sovereign nature of Being, from its own perspective.  A rich journey of resourcing and resilience creating safety and creatively meeting challenges and learning to rest deeply in the storm as well as meeting your needs for safety, balance and wellbeing whatever the conditions.
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Deep Cool Waters Of Healing The Sovereign Nature of the Body Reclaims itself Meditation

“Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us act, just once, with beauty and courage. Perhaps everything that frightens us is, in its deepest essence, something helpless that wants our love.”   Rainer Maria Rilke

Meet frightened, anxious, angry etc parts of yourself tenderly with kindness and care.  

All inner critics and emotional patterns have a positive intention.  How are they permitted to let themselves go into a new fresh edge and shift into their newness. Every part within us has its own healing mechanism, all we need to do is offer relationship on the basis of ‘letting be the way it wants to be’ rather than reject or attack so they can morph into their fresh edge and wellness.

Limitless Mindfulness Meditation.  Something can be constricted, cramped, raw, tender, vulnerable – in and of themselves they are fine, the question is how do we relate to them?  Are we held hostage or are we in relationship with them so they can express themselves fully for being fully received.  We are not trying to force change or fix something, it’s a bit like pouring water onto a seed, its an organically flourishing process which just takes care of itself within the context of Presence. Perhaps you have a place where resting is easy, sunbathing on a beach, a forest perhaps or somewhere else where an exquisite sense of safety makes itself known to you.  Inviting a sense of care and warmth in the body.

Inner Critic Relationship for Self Tenderness Kindness and Care for Raw Vulnerable Meditation

The open and connected dimension of Being.
Something can sense the intimacy of connecting right now. Like the tree is available to all the birds that land on it—available to the sky above, and the clouds that float by, to the rain, to the wind that dances the leaves. That tree is firmly rooted and grounded, just like us in Presence.

The felt sense then runs through the whole of this—it’s life connecting everything up, as it is. And the nexus of the felt sense could be in the heart, tummy, or chest somewhere, or more amorphous. Just sensing what is alive here—how is it living through the sensing?

And maybe, making room for the timelessness in Presence, the infiniteness in Presence, and the life that runs through it!

The felt sensing does not belong to anyone in particular—it just seems to course through us. But that shared sense of the felt sensing—if we just pause right now, and just be quietly available in a very ordinary way, to each other—it’s as if there is a shared felt sensing going on. It does not belong to you or me exclusively. Something in us knows there is a bit more going on here, and it seems to be shared.

So I am inviting your body to sense how it is for it—its living experience in the sharedness. This felt sensing, this field, this matrix, this mutuality, this dance, this correspondence, this unity—it can rest in itself. As it does so, something can just be with it, and notice the quality of it from its own perspective.

We are just playing with the mystery of intimacy, of connection.

Often we are not receptive to this shared quality. And here, we invite permission for availability to come forward—to open the gates, to open the portals to this sharing, into the mutuality of sharing that creates its own portal. Resting with this, to sense how it is.

If you like, something in you can open to the portal to all of those around you, to all the sentience beyond—into a felt sensing of all that. Subtle, yes, it can invite itself to know itself more fully from availability in Presence, letting it rest in itself.

And as it does, you might notice the qualities of it—at least a sense of something here. What are the qualities of this sharedness? Perhaps more owned by itself—a sense of sharedness. What’s this like, this shared element? What’s it like in itself, even?

My sense of all this, from a felt sense perspective, is that this—the shared intimate felt sense—brings true wellbeing and healing, and is a portal into the mystery itself that knows its own truth, whatever that means!

And you could say that there is a lot of rest and peace in this sharedness, this mutuality, this mystery. There’s a lot of rest—something can rest deeply here—a lot of nourishment. And if I dare push the boat out, it’s almost timeless, infinite, limitless in its own way.

Of course, there will be parts that may shrink or contract. However, this shrinking and contraction can take place in the breadth of it all.

Timelessness and Infiniteness In Presence Focusing Attunement

So self-empathy in compassionate connection, compassionate communication, is a radical, life serving and transformative evolutionary, deeply healing process we can learn, rather than judging and blaming, anger, criticism, blame and despair and the spiral down into despair, hopeless, or worked up into fury, frenzied anger and rage – all these are hallmarks of reactive elements withing us.  Self-empathy, empathy in presence.  Here we are learning to say hello and welcome reactive and habitual responses in ourselves, parts in ourselves which gives them a healing space, space to release, a space to breathe, not to be determined by them or hostage to them  We are back  to the pause as the first step, in a transaction with someone, in events, in our daily lives, in overwhelm for example. Just take time out, pause, drop down to where the feet meet the ground let things find their natural place in the universe, an organic natural settling, body in the body, hearing in the hearing, quite quickly we can come to our senses.  Then we can begin to notice, yes there is something down in my tummy, a clenching, settle, to allow an organic natural unfolding. Grounding will bring some degree of safety and containment. You can place your hand on your chest or tummy, sensing into what is there, something vague, intense, nebulous, we invite an intention and sense of gentleness, of softness, of compassion. We invite this warm awareness to flood around the parts, to offer support and care. And perhaps the part in you is ready for you to say hello, letting that part be the way it wants to be, we are very interested in full expression.  Coming alongside and sitting with in a gentle and warm accompaniment from the sensing body and saying hello in a gentle kindly and soft way. 

Compassionate communication invitation to entertain presence.  Presence being the foundation and centre and heart of compassionate communication – connection. Compassionate communication main premise is heart connection, not head connection, i.e. the one that judges analyses, compares and blames, criticises, abstractises. Coming from thinking directly, in general is disconnecting, it’s conceptual, it’s the narrative – its talking about experience that has been, probably and whilst useful at times, it’s not the heart of connection.  The heart of connection can be in silence, a silent empathic presence which we can offer to our inner worlds with compassion, care.  So, we just pause, resting in this moment, suspending as we invite a more sensory based experience to emerge, of course its already here in its fullness, but something may not be so available to this whole experience.  It can begin to emerge into its fullness by settling, and beginning to notice by softly noticing, softly including, like the sun rising on the horizon warming and illuminating with equality, nothing is left out.  Sensing the feet on the ground, sensing touching and contact, the settee or bed, or earth. Sensing softly and gently, warmly if you like as the body begins to sense itself more fully, radiating out and awareness into and beyond the room, out into the sky, into the milky ways, into the swirling infinite starry night with all the starlight beaming down touching our hearts. Making room for what is inside here, the inner Universe, this complexity, this mystery within. Approaching with compassion, softness, sensing what would like empathy or to be held to be supported and connected with. We approach with love and respect giving plenty of space, and closeness if appropriate.

The Heart of Connection and Sun Rising NVC Attunement

The Deer, the Forest, and the Tiger

It's a bit like sitting next to a deer that comes out of a forest. You come down on your haunches and you wait. You see that deer. You don't run at it. You don't say, "Oh, there's a deer!" and run at the deer. It's like—oh my God, the deer runs off. Well, why wouldn't it? It knows something's there.

So we sit down. We wait. The deer comes close. The deer goes, "Oh, this is safe." And then it may finally come and lie down by you. And you go... you put your hand on the deer. Well, you might not. But there's a lot of beauty in this.

And then comes out a tiger. And we go, "Oh..." and then we really feel the ground. I mean, you look down slightly because you don't want to freak the tiger out, right? And we see its beautiful shape. It's a beautiful creature. Very, very beautiful. It's 500 pounds of sheer power and beauty, and it comes weaving over. It too sits down by the deer and by you. And you put your hands on both of them.

And you say: Welcome. That is presence.

Then the tiger gets up and wanders off. And you go, "Okay. It's cool." It's all me, in a way. 

Now there's a deep sigh because it recognizes the complexity of all that. And the beauty of befriending our monsters and our magicians, you know? And how they're not really there to attack us. They're there to serve us, really, underneath it all—if we take time to let them be and sit by them.

But we need to be in presence. We need to be grounded. That's the difference. Once we're there, whatever we do or say will be connecting.

And then Comes a Tiger

Guided Presence and Embodiment Practice
Introduction to Embodied Communication
Self-awareness, it's implied, but certainly any practice which brings presence is really key to non-violent communication.
No awareness of the body, no awareness of emotions, you can't really communicate. You're coming from the head. We really need to be alive to what's alive in us, and what's alive in someone else. So these are tumors are about checking in with your life, really.
In a way that's safe.
So here we go, guys. It's only about 5 minutes, 3 minutes, maybe? You know. So it's really quite short. M.
Beginning the Practice
Yeah, so you can feel free to close your eyes. And you're quite safe here. And, but we just pause into… this shared space.
Arrival and Settling
Yes, and… It's beginning to arrive. Settling.
Grounding Through Physical Contact
Sensing your feet on the ground. Reading the contact. At the soles of your feet, on the earth. Or, your body on the seat, or settee, or… Whatever it's touching.
Resting in contact. Where the body meets the earth. This is… A key visceral point. connection.
Inviting Embodiment
Inviting embodiment. Just sensing… From the body's sense of itself. It can do that. It can sense clothing on the skin, The soft fabric. You can sense the shape of itself.
The heartbeat, maybe? Breath. Tingling with life. Vibrating with life. It can be warm and cool. Moving and still.
Yeah, just pausing… and sensing.
Expanding Awareness Outward
And perhaps taking a moment to scent outwards. Sensing the room.
And sensing beyond the room, Into the open air. Fast moving towards autumn. The leaves are already changing color into their golds, and… Reds… Browns, curling slightly, maybe.
Connecting with the Natural World
Sensing beyond the canopy of trees. Big blue… Along the clouds, maybe. Up into the stars. Who's… Diamonds and pearls. keeping us company. in infinity.
All this spaciousness in our bodies. Okay, sense. Accompanied by the stars.
Recognizing Our Interconnectedness
Here we are with each other. In our houses, with our families, maybe, or on our own. Local community, neighbors. Cities, or towns, or countryside. Extending around the globe. beings. sentience. human animals, non-human animals.
Life. Being breathed by the universe. All at the same time.
Internal Check-In: Emotions and Feeling States
I'm just taking a moment to check in what's alive and you today? what mood?
Maybe… emotions, or… Feeling tones in the body there.
Sensing where they are in the body. And also.
Exploring Universal Human Needs
Elias are telling us we have needs natural on that. Needs for safety, for care. Love. Closeness. Peace. Freedom. With Zilli. Play and fun. connection. Or healing and wholeness, or growth and learning.
Intention Setting and Life Purpose
Just checking in with what brings you here. What's your intention? What is your… hearts longing. Would make your life more wonderful.
Bring… A richer meaning, and fullness, and fresh edge and flow. Into your life.


What would bring you into your Fullness NVC Attunement

NVC Self Empathic Receiving Wellbeing

Compassionate Communication Meditation
Welcome and Introduction to Presence
Welcome. This is about compassionate communication, an invitation into presence.
Very often, I guess, we're in some quality of absence.
So what is absence?
Understanding Absence: The Jackal Mind
Absence is the propensity to live in the head. We often talk about being stuck in our heads.
So absence is really summarized by the symbol, the jackal. And the jackal represents unconscious, autopilot, habitual habits - especially to do with emotions and language.
These are patterns of being which can be frustrating, constricting, oppressive, if you like. When we're held hostage, and ruled by these patterns, these somethings... Even overwhelmed by them.
Nonviolent Communication and Presence
So NVC, nonviolent communication, begins with the premise of presence.
That is epitomized by the word "awake."
Awake to the sensing. Alive, vibrant. Alive to the nuancedness of feeling and emotion and thought.
All in the context of the sensing, living in an embodied way.
Effectively, it's a conscious life in which choice... choosing presence... inviting a healing forward movement at any given time.
Guided Body Awareness
As the body senses the ground, its own shape. Sense of its whole self. Beginning to rest and settle here. As we pause.
Sensing outwards to include each other. And beyond each other, to include all beings on this planet.
Sensing into the ether. Sensing into that eternity. The stars.
Integration: Inner and Outer Awareness
And the whole of this. And sense inwardly to the inner universe.
Tender and gentle with whatever is present here.
Saying hello to it all as it rests in itself.
Resting here.

Awaken Attunement

From "I Am" to "Something in Me": A Meditation on Self-Relationship

The Challenge of Identity-Level Statements
It's very hard for us to have a relationship with ourselves, or with others, when we come from an "I am."
I am angry. I am enraged. I am jealous. I am frustrated.
These "I ams" are identity-level statements, and they're all-consuming and leading to overwhelm, often. Because an "I am" is the whole of you.
Moving to Awareness and Accuracy
And if we're more honest, these somethings in us are...
Something in me is enraged. Something in me is angry. Something in me, down there, is anxious, or jealous, or...
And as soon as the awareness comes to be accurate to our experience, i.e., it's an experience in me.
This experience is a part of me.
The Practice: Sensing and Experimenting
So I just invite you to sense your body.
Sense your body.
And just experiment with your experience. Say to yourself, oh, I am bored. I am angry. I am... whatever your emotion is, say I am. I am it. I am irritated, or... I am curious, or I am happy.
Now try this. Now go inside yourself there, and notice the feeling tone.
Something in me feels like that. Something in me is angry. Something in me is peaceful.
Befriending What's Inside
Let's go and befriend that. So we can put our hand on our chest or our tummy.
And say, oh, I'm really here to meet you inside. That's something that... it's like that, right now.
In this way, we learn to welcome, to acknowledge.
Is it okay for me to come closer to you, or do you need more space right now?
What kind of empathy would you like from me right now?
Warm and kind, perhaps?
Offering Compassionate Presence
So I'm coming and sitting either side of you. I'm keeping you company. Is there something here in me?
And of course, I'm quietly curious, behind it all, what your unmet need is, or met need is.
You can offer that in your own time. It may take a minute, or it may take 20. It might take a week.
Coming alongside you and keeping you company. As a way of welcoming.
The Transformation: From Overwhelm to Relationship
Moving from an "I am" to a "something in me" for relationship. So a "something in me" means I can have relationship with you.
In a way that's kindly, caring, and compassionate.
Assisting with you in this compassionate, warm way.
Inviting forward movement, healing, and freshness.

Healing Forward Movement and Freshness Attunement

Finding Oneself 2 by Laurence Freeman OSB
Meditatio Talks Series 2017 D Oct-Dec
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Finding Oneself 2

The Experience of Being Known

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Two Kinds Of Intelligence

Access your STILL POINT and  live from tranquility and calm amidst the chaos and overwhelm of your inner and outer life.

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