Most of us believe that anxiety is caused by something that happens in life – a stressful situation, worry about a loved one, concern that you’re not doing things well enough. Things like that.  

But at the same time, many of us know that you can actually feel anxious without having any external reason or cause for that feeling. That even if everything in your external world looks pretty great, you can still feel anxious.  

We usually focus on trying to eliminate the triggers of anxiety, but what really causes it in the first place? 

In this episode, we talk about what causes that feeling of anxiety from frequency perspective, why it’s more widespread right now and how to best address the root of anxiety. 

The Group Frequency Calibration® (GFC) associated with this episode will help you begin to come further into your center, to take some of the edge off of that anxiety.  

Without clearing these layers of distortion patterns, you can spin out of control in more and more anxiety. 

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Episode 248 - The Unexpected Root of Anxiety Revealed

Wool and Wires

Reflections on Water

Drifted Memories

Cloud Memory

Fireplace Fade

We all have bad days. You try, you push, and nothing works — your mood crashes, frustration builds, and your confidence takes a hit. In this video, I share the exact method I use to reset my mind, calm my nervous system, and boost my dating confidence: bilateral stimulation.

Bilateral stimulation is a simple yet powerful technique to activate both sides of your brain, release emotional baggage, and feel grounded fast. It can help you in your dating life by making you calmer, more confident, and less outcome-dependent — and in your daily life by reducing anxiety and breaking negative cycles.

You will learn:
• How to use bilateral stimulation to calm anxiety in minutes
• Why this brain technique can boost your dating confidence
• How to uncover and release old emotional triggers
• Practical steps to stop wasting time, money, and energy on the wrong people
• How to combine emotional stability with dating goals for long-term success

Whether you are stuck in anxiety, battling toxic shame, or feeling low after dating setbacks, this video gives you a proven way to regain your centre and show up at your best.

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#472 - Reset Your Mind on a Bad Day: Bilateral Stimulation for Anxiety and Dating Confidence

Sitting with What’s There

For emotions, cravings, or any state of mind - a hypnosis to observe without judgment, and find calm in simply being.

This extended hypnosis meditation helps you gently sit with whatever arises - emotions, cravings, or thoughts - without labelling them as good or bad. Instead of resisting or struggling, you’ll learn to notice them as simple sensations that come and go, while reconnecting with the steady calm within you.

What you’ll experience:

A long, relaxing induction

Gentle hypnotic guidance to observe without labels

A practice of allowing thoughts and urges to pass naturally

Suggestions to strengthen your inner calm and self-trust

A flexible ending to drift into sleep, or return awake and refreshed

Ideal for anyone navigating recovery, managing urges, or seeking emotional balance.

Sitting With Whats There

Head To Heart Drop

Raw acoustic meets trap pulse—a confessional from the edge that chooses the center. Written in the in-between hours where thoughts race and the mirror flickers, this isn’t an exit song; it’s a survival mantra. Quiet over chaos. Breath over panic. Heartbeat over noise. Draw the line. Stay. Say it with me: I’m alive.

(Yeah… breathe.)
I’m not checking out—just checking in.

I’m not suicidal, I’m not tryna say goodbye
I just want a night of quiet where my storms all pass me by
Every day I fight that shadow, every day I draw the line
I’m not leaving, not today—say it with me: I’m alive

Clock says 3 AM, thoughts do parkour off the walls
Every “what if” doing laps inside these narrow halls
Got a smile for the daylight, got a thunder for the night
Got a playlist full of maybes that keep asking me to fight
Bills stack, heart cracks, past claws at the door
I been patching all the leaks with every song I ever wrote
If the devil leaves a voicemail, I delete it on repeat
I’m still lacing up my hope, I’m still walking on my feet

I ain’t looking for an exit, I’m looking for a breath
I’m looking for the quiet that can out-sing all the rest
If the darkness wants a duet, I’ll change the melody
Turn a gravestone to a cornerstone—watch me breathe

I’m not suicidal, I’m not tryna say goodbye
I just want a night of quiet where my storms all pass me by
Every day I fight that shadow, every day I draw the line
I’m not leaving, not today—say it with me: I’m alive

I’ve been carrying a furnace that was handed down as “home”
Taught to laugh with empty pockets, turned the hunger into poems
Taught to love like I mean it, even shaking in the bones
Taught to answer when the midnight tries to take me off the road
Yeah, my head a crowded hallway—voices all in different keys
But I learned to be the chorus that can bring ‘em all to peace
If I stumble, I will tumble into arms I’ve yet to meet
Into friends who text at 2 AM like, “Say it back—you’re staying, please.”

I ain’t praying to an answer, I’m praying for the dawn
For the coffee in the kitchen and a reason to go on
If the mirror looks like static, I’ll refocus, zoom it in
Name the colors on my knuckles: that’s the proof I’m born to win

I’m not suicidal, I’m not tryna say goodbye
I just want a night of quiet where my storms all pass me by
Every day I fight that shadow, every day I draw the line
I’m not leaving, not today—say it with me: I’m alive

I keep a list beside the bed:
three names I’ll text before the dread,
two breaths I’ll take, slow in, slow out,
one promise: I don’t bow out.
If I can’t find light, I’ll be a spark;
if I can’t find strength, I’ll borrow hearts.
Tonight I build a softer place—
no exit signs, just here, just grace.

(Still here.) (Still breathing.) (Still me.) (Still healing.)

I’m not suicidal, I’m not tryna say goodbye
I just want a night of quiet where my storms all pass me by
Every day I fight that shadow, every day I draw the line
I’m not leaving, not today—say it with me: I’m alive

Here to stay. Here to stay. Here to—stay.

Here to Stay

A deep, weightless ambient journey — slow drifting synth pads, soft sub-bass, gentle harp echoes, minimalist piano, and a calming female voice floating in the distance. Nature sounds lead the composition, creating a quiet, spacious world where the mind can breathe. Meditative, hypnotic, warm, and deeply grounding — perfect for sleep, anxiety release, yoga, massage, deep focus, or peaceful late-night listening.

Ocean Violin & Wave Sounds

A dreamy summer-night ambience — open window, glowing fireflies, soft moonlight, gentle breeze, and a quiet enchanted forest. Calm, magical, intimate, warm, and soothing. Perfect for sleep, focus, relaxation, journaling, or unwinding before bed.

Whispers of the Wind -  Relaxing Ambient for Mindfulness

A soundscape specifically designed for the overactive mind and nervous system. This video merges the authentic, swirling sounds of wind with soothing, minimalist classical music. This unique blend creates a "cognitive anchor" – providing just enough structured melody to focus a wandering mind (ADHD), while the natural wind sounds calm the nervous system to lower cortisol, relieve stress, and guide you into a deep, restorative sleep.

Nocturne of Calm — Classical Music for Deep Sleep

🎧 SUTRA OF STILLNESS: 5 Minutes of Non-Reaction
[✨ Silence the Cycle. Dissolve the Affliction. Pure Healing Chant.]

"Sutra of Stillness" is a sacred sonic prescription drawn from the wisdom of Patañjali's Yoga Sutras (I.2, I.15, II.33, II.40). It is dedicated to those who wrestle with intrusive thoughts, anxiety loops, and the relentless urge of compulsion. This is your anchor against the storm of the mind.

🧘 Therapeutic Focus: Defeating the Obsessive Loop
This composition is specifically engineered to target and dismantle the patterns of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and chronic anxiety:

The Counter-Thought Anchor (Pratipakṣa Bhāvanam, II.33): The chant is structured to be the sonic counter-balance to intrusive Vitarka (disturbing thoughts). It trains the mind to actively choose a constructive response instead of falling back into a reactive cycle.

Non-Attachment (Vairāgyam, I.15): The soft, flowing modulation of the music teaches the listener to tolerate the anxiety spike without submitting to the compulsive action, breaking the cycle of dependence on relief.

The Ultimate Goal (Citta-Vṛtti Nirodhaḥ, I.2): The sustained, calm energy of the 4-minute track guides the mind back to its natural state of peace—the cessation of mental fluctuations—where obsessions simply lose their power to command.

✨ Spiritualized Audio: The Imprint of Purity
This is not merely ambient music. "Sutra of Stillness" has undergone our specialized process of Audio Spiritualization, receiving an Energetic Imprint (Darshan) of Śauca (Purity) and Unshakable Resolve.

The subtle, evolving tones of the Deep Bass Pads and the intricate melodies of the Sitar and Bansuri are charged with the intention of:

Purifying the Mental Field: Clearing the energetic debris left by recurring negative thoughts.

Restoring Inner Control (Indriya-Jaya): Empowering you to reclaim mastery over your senses and reactions.

Use this track daily to establish a state of peace, reinforce therapeutic practice, and remind yourself that your true nature is stillness, untouched by the storm.

Sutras of Stillness

Xak Stahl: Alchemist of Sound, Architect of Emotion

Xak Stahl is a genre-blurring music artist, sonic storyteller, and relentless experimenter. Every track he creates is a new world—a kaleidoscope of indie folk, alt-pop, electronica, and global flavors—infused with raw emotion and boundless curiosity. Xak’s music isn’t just heard; it’s felt.

From Shadow to Spotlight

For Xak, music is metamorphosis. His journey began in the shadows, transmuting heartbreak and struggle into songs that glow with hope. Early anthems like “Neon Dreams” and “Rising Through the Darkness” invite listeners to find their own light. His newest project, Major Arcana, channels the mysteries of the Tarot—each song an archetype, each lyric a step along the path from the Fool’s first leap to the wisdom of The World.

More Than Music: A Multisensory Universe

But Xak isn’t confined to sound. As a visual artist and writer, he crafts immersive stories that spill across genres and languages—sometimes haunting, sometimes playful, always honest. Whether he’s conjuring lush soundscapes, weaving bilingual lyrics, or creating striking visuals, Xak’s art dares you to feel deeper and dream wilder.

An Invitation to Transformation

Join Xak Stahl on a sonic odyssey that blurs borders—between genres, between artforms, between you and the music. Each release is an invitation to explore, to heal, to become. For Xak, every song is a spell, every album a universe. The only question is: are you ready to step inside?

My name is Gary Gunn, and in this podcast, I will save you thousands of hours of pain, frustration and isolation in your dating life.

I will give you tried and tested dating advice that will make you a more confident, more attractive and a more desired man. 

I will show you how to transform your dating life, one podcast episode at a time, and more importantly, have some fun on your journey.

In each episode of this podcast we explore how frequencies shape our world and begin to remove the patterns that keep us stuck so we can realize our greatest potential.

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