Rape is a crime that shatters lives, leaving profound trauma, fear, and isolation in its wake. Survivors endure not only the physical and emotional scars of the assault but also face a sinister phenomenon—victim blaming and shaming. These harmful attitudes, deeply rooted in societal responses to sexual assault, often compel survivors to suffer in silence instead of seeking healing and justice. This blog post will illuminate this critical issue, drawing from personal stories and emphasizing the urgent need for change.

Understanding Victim Blaming and Shaming

Victim blaming is a troubling phenomenon that shifts the focus of responsibility from the perpetrator of a crime to the victim themselves. This misguided practice often manifests in various forms, one of the most pervasive being the scrutiny of a victim's clothing choices or personal behavior. For example, individuals may argue that a victim’s attire was provocative or that their actions somehow invited unwanted attention, thereby suggesting that these factors significantly contributed to the assault. This line of thinking not only distorts the reality of the situation but also perpetuates harmful stereotypes that suggest individuals can be held accountable for the actions of others based on their appearance or conduct.

Furthermore, victim blaming can have profound psychological effects on those who have experienced trauma. Survivors may internalize this misplaced blame, leading to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-doubt. This can create an environment where victims feel they must justify their actions or choices, which can discourage them from seeking justice or support. The implications of victim blaming extend beyond individual cases; they can contribute to a broader culture that minimizes the seriousness of crimes, particularly sexual violence, and fosters an atmosphere of silence and stigma.

On the other hand, victim shaming takes a different but equally damaging approach. This practice involves demeaning or ridiculing individuals who have suffered harm, often through derogatory comments or judgmental questions. Expressions such as “you should have known better” or “why did you go there?” not only trivialize the victim's experience but also serve to further alienate them from their support networks. Such attitudes can be particularly devastating, as they impose a heavy veil of shame over survivors, making them feel isolated and reluctant to come forward to report their experiences or seek help. The fear of being judged or shamed can result in many victims choosing to remain silent, which ultimately perpetuates a cycle of suffering and injustice.

Both victim blaming and victim shaming are rooted in societal attitudes that often prioritize the perceived morality of the victim over the accountability of the perpetrator. This dynamic can have far-reaching consequences, not just for the individuals directly affected but for society as a whole. By fostering an environment where victims are scrutinized and shamed, we risk perpetuating a culture that condones violence and undermines the very principles of justice and support that survivors desperately need. It is crucial for communities to challenge these harmful attitudes and to create a more compassionate and understanding environment that empowers survivors to speak out and seek the help they deserve.

Breaking the Silence: The Urgent Need to Address Victim Blaming and Shaming in Military Sexual Trauma/ Rape Cases


Healing from trauma, especially sexual assault, often feels like climbing a mountain. Each step forward can feel daunting, yet each one is vital. For some survivors, choosing a men-free life becomes a crucial part of this healing journey. It's more than just avoiding pain; it's about claiming personal safety, comfort, and empowerment. This choice is a profound statement of self-worth, affirming the importance of feeling secure in one's life.

In this post, we will explore the motivations behind this choice and offer insights and examples that resonate deeply for those on similar paths. Remember, every survivor’s experience is distinct, so consider this not as a prescription but as a perspective to reflect on.

I Choose a Men-Free Life for My Healing and Empowerment

Does President Trump comprehend the gravity of sexual violence and its consequences for survivors? For many, the response is unclear, leaving room for considerable debate and concern. Trump's history of controversial comments regarding women, including remarks that have been interpreted as dismissive or derogatory, has raised significant doubts about his awareness of the seriousness and the multifaceted nature of such crimes. These statements, which often trivialize the experiences of survivors, can contribute to an environment where their voices are not only marginalized but also silenced, leading to a culture that may inadvertently perpetuate the cycle of violence.

In examining Trump's rhetoric, one cannot ignore how his words may influence public perception and societal attitudes toward sexual violence. When a prominent figure like the President makes comments that downplay the severity of sexual assault or harassment, it sends a message that such behavior is acceptable or, at the very least, not taken seriously. This can deter survivors from coming forward, fearing that their experiences will not be validated or understood. The implications of this are profound, as it affects not only individual survivors but also the collective societal response to sexual violence.

Furthermore, Trump's connections to individuals like Jeffrey Epstein have led to intense scrutiny and criticisms regarding his understanding of the complexities surrounding sexual abuse. Epstein's notorious history of sexual exploitation and trafficking casts a long shadow over anyone associated with him, raising questions about the moral and ethical implications of those relationships. Critics argue that such ties may cloud Trump's comprehension of the intricacies of sexual violence, potentially leading to a lack of empathy or an inability to grasp the full impact of these crimes on victims. This association not only complicates his personal narrative but also raises concerns about how these relationships might influence his policy decisions and priorities in office.

Questions linger about whether these connections to individuals with questionable moral standings impact Trump's policy decisions, ultimately affecting advocacy for the rights of survivors. Many advocates worry that a leader who does not fully appreciate the ramifications of sexual violence may enact policies that are insufficiently supportive or even detrimental to survivors seeking justice and healing. The consequences of such policies can be far-reaching, influencing everything from legal frameworks to funding for support services aimed at helping those affected by sexual violence. As such, the need for a leader who genuinely understands and prioritizes the needs of survivors is paramount in fostering a society that not only acknowledges the severity of sexual violence but also actively works to combat it.

The Unseen Consequences of Presidential Silence on the Epstein List

In a world increasingly striving for gender equality, it is profoundly troubling to see how many women continue to live under the shadow of violence and abuse. Despite the significant progress made in various sectors towards achieving equal rights and opportunities for all genders, the grim reality remains that countless women around the globe still face the threat of violence in their homes, communities, and workplaces. This violence can take many forms, including physical, emotional, and psychological abuse, often leaving deep scars that can last a lifetime.

Recent political events have brought a harsh truth to light: some leaders not only ignore but openly support behaviors that violate fundamental human rights. This alarming trend is not merely a reflection of individual attitudes but a systemic issue that permeates political institutions and societal norms. In many cases, these leaders embolden perpetrators by failing to hold them accountable, thereby perpetuating a culture of impunity. The consequences of this tolerance are dire, as it sends a chilling message to victims that their suffering will go unacknowledged and unpunished.

This post explores the alarming implications of leaders who show tolerance for rapists and those involved in human trafficking. The ramifications extend far beyond the immediate impact on victims; they erode the very fabric of society. When leaders dismiss or condone such heinous acts, they undermine the rule of law and the principles of justice that are essential for any functioning democracy. Furthermore, this tacit approval can lead to an increase in violence, as potential offenders may feel emboldened to act without fear of retribution.

The normalization of violence against women also has profound social and economic implications. Women who are victims of violence often find it challenging to participate fully in society, whether that be in the workforce, in education, or in political engagement. This exclusion not only stifles individual potential but also hinders overall societal progress. Economies suffer when half of the population is unable to contribute effectively due to fear or trauma.

Moreover, the support for such violent behaviors by political leaders can create an environment where misogyny thrives. This can manifest in various ways, including derogatory language, discriminatory policies, and the perpetuation of harmful stereotypes about women. When leaders fail to challenge these narratives, they inadvertently reinforce the idea that women are lesser beings, deserving of violence or exploitation.

In conclusion, the implications of leaders who tolerate violence against women are far-reaching and multifaceted. It is crucial for societies to recognize the importance of strong, principled leadership that actively condemns such behaviors and promotes a culture of respect, equality, and justice. Only then can we hope to create a world where all women can live free from the threat of violence and fully realize their rights as equal members of society. The fight for gender equality must not only be about policy changes but also about changing the hearts and minds of those in power, ensuring that they stand firmly against all forms of abuse and exploitation.

The Cruel Reality of Leadership: When Support for Rapists Reveals a Broken System

In today’s world, we are bombarded with news media and political chatter that often feels more chaotic than informative. For many, including a brave Navy veteran advocating for survivors of military sexual assault, stepping away from the noise becomes a vital act of self-care. The painful experiences of betrayal and neglect drive this individual to embrace silence, deliberately choosing to shield themselves from disheartening headlines and unfulfilled political promises.

Choosing Silence: A Veteran's Journey Beyond News Media and Political Betrayal

Experiencing trauma can leave profound marks on both our minds and bodies. For many, the effects of trauma extend beyond mere thoughts and feelings; they infiltrate physical sensations and disrupt daily lives. One effective approach to addressing these deep-rooted effects, particularly in the case of PTSD, is through the practice of embodiment. This method involves reconnecting with our bodies and their sensations, paving the way for healing and reclaiming a sense of self. In this post, we will explore how to harness embodiment as a healing tool, offering practical steps and valuable insights.

Understanding PTSD and its Effects

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) can manifest after experiencing a traumatic event. Symptoms include flashbacks, intense anxiety, nightmares, and persistent thoughts about the incident. In fact, studies show that about 7-8% of the population will experience PTSD at some point in their lives. 

Not only does PTSD affect mental health, but it also alters how individuals interact with their bodies and emotions. Emotional dysregulation is common and can lead to a significant sense of disconnection from oneself. This disconnection frequently translates into physical symptoms such as chronic pain, muscle tension, or fatigue. Recognizing the relationship between trauma, emotional response, and physical manifestation is critical in effectively addressing PTSD.

What is Embodiment?

Embodiment refers to engaging with the body on a sensory level, enhancing awareness of bodily sensations in a profound and meaningful way. This approach encourages individuals to experience feelings in real time instead of suppressing or ignoring them, promoting a holistic understanding of oneself that integrates both mind and body. By focusing on the sensations that arise within the body—such as tension, warmth, or even emotional responses—individuals can foster a deeper connection with their physical selves. This mindful engagement with bodily sensations can lead to increased self-awareness, allowing individuals to recognize and process their emotions more effectively. Techniques such as mindful breathing, body scanning, and movement practices like yoga or tai chi can serve as gateways to this heightened state of awareness, enabling individuals to tune into their physical experiences and cultivate a greater appreciation for their bodies.

Embodiment stands in stark contrast to dissociation, a psychological mechanism that is often a common reaction to trauma. Individuals experiencing dissociation frequently report feelings of detachment from their bodies or emotions, which can lead to an altered sense of self and a disconnection from reality. This dissociative state can manifest in various ways, including feelings of numbness, a sense of being an observer of one’s life, or even memory gaps related to traumatic events. By cultivating a conscious connection with their bodies through embodiment practices, people can begin to re-establish their identities and sense of agency, which are essential steps in moving beyond trauma. This reconnection allows individuals to reclaim their bodily autonomy and fosters a sense of safety within themselves. Engaging in embodiment can be empowering, as it encourages individuals to acknowledge and validate their experiences, thus facilitating healing and personal growth. Through this process, individuals can learn to navigate their emotional landscapes, confront past traumas, and ultimately foster resilience, leading to a more integrated and fulfilling life experience.



Embodiment and PTSD: Moving Beyond the Trauma Response

Experience the powerful fusion of poetry and music with "Shut Up and Listen to Survivors," a poignant song by Navy Veteran and Sound Alchemist Julie Jules Smoot. Originally penned as a heartfelt poem in 2016, this track emerged from the frustration of being overlooked by the US Senate Armed Forces Service Committee, echoing the voices of countless veterans who have faced Military Sexual Trauma. With the transformative touch of JS Worldbridger, this song invites listeners to confront the harsh realities of military life, where no one enlists to endure the horrors of rape, retaliation, or emotional abuse. It’s a call to action, urging society to listen, empathize, and advocate for change. Alongside this impactful song, explore Julie's inspiring books, including "The Boulders in My Life that Shaped My Journey," "The Journey Back to Myself: A Book of Healing Poetry, Second Edition," and "Songs of Survival: Healing Poetry for Warriors," all available at fine book retailers. Join the movement to raise awareness and support survivors—because their stories deserve to be heard.

Available for purchase on my website https://www.juliejulessmootsoundalchemist.com/

Shut Up and Listen to Survivors

Discover the transformative power of "Grief and Rising," a poignant poem that marks a significant milestone in the healing journey of its author, who penned these heartfelt verses after leaving the Boulder Crest Retreat Center. This deeply personal work delves into the complexities of facing pain, embracing emotions, and articulating one's truth, all while navigating the challenges of living with Post Traumatic Stress. 

The poem, now song, serves as a powerful anthem of resilience, celebrating the courage it takes to become a warrior for oneself and for others. Accompanied by the evocative music of fellow Navy Veteran JS Worldbridger, this collaboration enhances the emotional depth of the piece, inviting listeners to connect with their own experiences of healing and empowerment. "Grief and Rising" is not just a poem; it is a call to action for anyone seeking to confront their struggles and rise above them, making it an essential addition to the collection of those who value art as a means of personal and collective healing.

Original poem: 

Grief and Rising 

Missing the innocent girl I was
Miss the trusting girl I was
I miss the girl who chased her dream to serve
her country
Thinking that the six guys and chain of command had
killed her,
Just go through the motions
Afraid to trust
Afraid to feel
Dissociate because that is what she was taught
Sometimes I have thought, “why did you not fight them and make them kill you, why did you just lay there, why did you not jump when you had the chance”
Sometimes I have wanted to get rid of this body, to hide this body
so that men would not look at me or hurt me again
But the belief it happened because of what I was wearing and that
I was too drunk came from society, not me.

It is time to unlearn everything that society has taught me,
Time to learn to feel, to stay present, to cry, to be angry, to laugh, to sing,
to dance, to dream, to tell my truth.
I am learning every day that there are more threads to me
That I have been rising and changing, rediscovering who I am
becoming who I want to be
putting the broken pieces back together and becoming an arrow
continuing to rise into the light.
Shining light on the things that I have never told anyone
letting go of old habits, old ways of doing things
I will become who I want to be and the world is going to hear me, ROAR!!

I will speak my truth, and they will hear me.
I do not care what they think
No more excuses! No more abuse
I am back! I have the little girl back. She is stronger
She is beautiful. Yes she is changed, but she is complex, caring,
compassionate, understanding and she is faultless

She has brought with her: Patience, Truth, Anger, and Empowerment
She is not alone and together we will rise.

Grief and Rising

Discover the transformative power of Betrayal, a powerful poem by Navy Veteran, Sound Alchemist, and Song Writer Julie Jules Smoot. Set to moving music by JS Worldbridger, this evocative piece takes you on an emotional journey through Julie's profound words from her book, The Journey Back to Myself: A Book of Healing Poetry, Second Edition. It's beyond time that survivors of military sexual trauma are listened to. Let the resonant vibrations and heartfelt lyrics guide you toward healing and wellness, helping to reduce stress, ease pain, and heal grief. Explore Julie Jewels Smoot's world of sound healing and feel the embrace of her compassionate artistry.

Available for purchase on my website https://www.juliejulessmootsoundalchemist.com/

Betrayal

Waves, a poem I wrote while I was serving in the US Navy. I wrote this while I was on deployment in 2006. It talks about what happened to me. This song talks about my chain of command. This song talks about the victim blaming/shaming, emotional abuse and retaliation that I went through. There is no place for rape in the US military or in society. It's beyond time that this stop.  

You can read more about my story in my book, The Boulders in My Life that Shaped My Journey. I am joined by my dear friend and fellow Navy Veteran JS Worldbridger.  

Waves

Julie Jules Smoot, a Navy Veteran whose journey of healing has been profoundly shaped by the therapeutic powers of sound, poetry, and guided meditation. As a dedicated Sound Alchemist and Song Writer Julie has harnessed her experiences to create a rich tapestry of auditory experiences that resonate deeply with listeners seeking solace and tranquility. Her latest album, "Inhale Peace, Exhale Anxiety," serves as a beacon of hope, inviting individuals to embark on a journey of self-discovery and emotional release. With her extensive portfolio, which includes 13 published books and over 1,300 videos, Julie has established herself as a multifaceted creator, committed to promoting mental well-being through the arts.

Available on 30 platforms, Julie's music transcends traditional boundaries, offering a unique blend of soothing sounds and poetic narratives designed to foster inner peace and resilience. Each track in "Inhale Peace, Exhale Anxiety" is meticulously crafted to guide listeners through a meditative experience, encouraging them to let go of stress and embrace a state of calm. Julie's work not only reflects her personal healing journey but also serves as a powerful tool for others navigating their own challenges. By integrating her military background with her passion for sound therapy, Julie Jewels Smoot has created a sanctuary of healing that resonates with a diverse audience, making her contributions invaluable in the realm of mental health and wellness.

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