You think love is hard work, you are so used to it being unequal, unfair and down right frustrating at times. In fact, you might be tired of feeling like you're stuck in a never-ending cycle of drama and pain in your relationships. Do you feel like you're always searching for love, but end up attached instead? If so, you need to tune into this podcast episode about Attachment Drama and The Great Equalizer!

In this episode, you'll learn about the crucial differences between love and attachment, and how attachment can be incredibly unfair and draining for the attached person. You'll gain a deeper understanding of the world of pain that attachment can bring, and how to recognize the signs of attachment in your own life.

But it's not all doom and gloom! You'll also discover the power of choosing love over attachment, and how to take baby steps to get there. You'll learn about the importance of awareness and taking action, and how to start living a life of love and fulfillment.

With engaging anecdotes and practical tips, this podcast episode is the perfect guide for anyone who wants to break free from attachment and start living a life of love. So don't miss out – tune in now to discover the great equalizer and how to choose love every time!

#695 Attachment Drama and The Great Equalizer!

Attachment and love are opposite countries. Embark on a transformative journey as Tracy delves into the profound nature of attachment in this captivating podcast episode. 

Drawing upon decades of experience in dealing with insecure attachment, energy work, and psychic sessions, we explore the spiritual side of attachment and how to get out of its clutches. Discover the power you hold to break free from the cycle of pain and insecurity and create a life filled with love, abundance, and joy.

Through emotionally-provocative examples, we unravel the connection between attachment and karma, showcasing how releasing attachment can lead to profound personal growth and fulfilling relationships. With insights and guidance, you'll gain awareness and tools to speak your truth, liberate yourself from suffering, and embrace the love that you truly deserve. Are you ready to break free from attachment hell and embark on a journey towards emotional freedom and self-discovery? Tune in now and start your path to an empowered and meaningful life.

(Note: This podcast episode explores the spiritual aspects of attachment and provides guidance on breaking free from pain and insecurity. It is recommended for those seeking personal growth, transformative experiences, and a deeper understanding of the self.)

#708 Attachment Is Not What You Think It Is; Instead Learn How To Get What You Want From Love

Having your soulmate may seem impossible or that it could happen, but with conditions. This episode shines a light on how the ego gets in the way because of its fierce pursuit of survival while spinning illusions of specialness. You ever notice how you make someone special when you are attached to the idea of them? You ever notice how you need to be special too? Yeah, its not love, it's ego. Tracy shares her personal journey to taming the ego, revealing a path to genuine love (not attachment) and inner peace.

Whether it's a fulfilling love relationship, financial prosperity, or internal harmony you seek, in this episode, Tracy provides practical steps towards self-awareness to redirect your energy towards your true north star.

No more hiding or forcing—embrace a sincere journey towards self-discovery, freedom, and joy. Tune in to find the path to having your soulmate through your authentic vibe to attract your desires.

#717 Taming Your Ego to Have Your Soulmate

This podcast discusses attachment theory in infants (Bowlby), children (Ainsworth) and adults (Hazan and Shaver).

Attachment Theory - Overview

Shannon Algeo is a psychotherapist, author, and teacher. He is also a Soul Coach, Yoga Nidra teacher, and the founder of Soulumination Meditation. Shannon works with clients to heal patterns of trauma so they can show up in the world with presence, purpose, and peace.  His work has been featured in Rolling Stone, ABC news, and Yoga Journal. Shannon came to Esalen in December of 2024 to lead a workshop on smartphone addiction. Together we spoke about attachment theory and how it figures into technology addiction, what it feels like to be in Big Sur, detached from your phone, and the digital personas we create and how we attempt to live up to them. 

https://www.shannonalgeo.com/

Shannon Algeo: Smartphone Addiction, Digital Detox, and Healing the Self

In this episode Joel and Antonia talk with relationship expert Bruce Muzik about attachment theory in relationships.



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Welcome to LOVE SNOB, a podcast by seventeen year old matchmaker, Annie-Louise LeMonnier, on modern romance in the swipe app age, loathing, anxiety, and attachment theory. Next episode: sunday 7/30

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In today's special installment of #WiseGirl Conversations, I chat with Dharma Punx NYC​'s guiding teacher @Josh Korda talk about his new book, Unsubscribe, which I couldn't get through fast enough and highly recommend! We get into how he came into mindfulness and meditation, how we can use ancient wisdom teachings to live better, what significant life event cracked his heart wide open, and how, at the end of the day, we're social creatures and need each other.

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Sometimes I read a book and it seems like the author lives inside my head. 

Reading “Attached” was one such experience. 

Attached is about attachment theory -A field of study that concerns itself with how people behave in romantic and intimate relationships. 

Specifically it deals with different patterns of attachment between parents and their children, and how these patterns of attachment tend to play out later in our romantic relationships. 

I was fascinated by this book. It explained so much about how I tend to be in romantic relationships, and it explained the prevailing dynamic between Kati and I over the first 5 years of our relationship. 

Attachment theory defines a few flavors of attachment: Avoidant, Anxious and Secure. 

Avoidant people tend to want more space in relationship. They tend to feel smothered, and try to move away from their partner. (Often but not always this is due to early childhood enmeshment by their opposite sex parent if they are heterosexual, or the same sex parent if they are homosexual). 

If you had an opposite sex parent who was in your business as a kid, it’s more likely you’ll end up avoidant in relationship later in life. 

Conversely, Anxious people tend to want more closeness in relationship. They tend to feel abandoned and try to move closer to their partner. (Often this is due to early childhood abandonment by the opposite sex parent if heterosexual or same sex parent if homosexual) 

If you had an opposite sex parent who was never around as a kid, it’s more likely you’ll end up anxious in relationship later in life. 

And the last attachment flavor is Secure. Secure people tend to be able to withstand both closeness and distance. This of course is the healthy flavor of attachment. And Levine and Heller say about 50% of the population are secure. 

And for those of us who identify as more anxious or avoidant, the way to become secure (according to the book) is to i) be available for your partner, ii) don’t interfere (ie. smother) your partner, and iii) support and encourage your partner. 

Secure sounds nice, but in reading the book I definitely identified more with the avoidant attachment style. And Kati identified with the anxious attachment style. 

I was surprised to read that avoidant and anxious people tend to gravitate towards each other, as a way to endlessly relive (in the worst case) or heal (in the best case) their childhood attachment injuries. 

There’s even a diagram in the book that shows the drama circle that anxious and avoidant couples go around over and over again if they don’t become secure. I read Attached in 2016 and the book perfectly described Kati and my dynamic at that time.

Anyway, reading this book helped me to see that my avoidant tendencies weren’t actually part of ME, they were a result of my experiences growing up. And I saw how destructive they were in my life. 

After I finished Attached I vowed to myself to become secure, and that kicked off a multi-year quest that continues to this day.  

Push & Pull is a song I wrote for Kati before I left for Bali in 2016. I wanted to bring some peace and hope to our relationship by identifying our avoidant-anxious dynamic, and painting a picture of what it would be like on the other side if we were both able to become secure. 

(Actually, Levine and Heller say only ONE partner needs to be secure to stamp out the drama cycle and I found that encouraging!)

So Push & Pull is a song about attachment theory. It’s a song about Kati and my relationship. And it’s a song about my relationship to relationships, and my desire to change. 

And I imagine it’s a song that will resonate in any relationships where one person tends to feel more avoidant and one person tends to feel more anxious.

And at a deeper level it’s a song about preserving and honoring love. If avoidant people can heal themselves and enjoy closeness, and anxious people can heal themselves and enjoy distance, love has a greater chance to flourish.

William Sage - Push & Pull (a love song about attachment theory)

L O V E … what better way to end Season 2 than discussing what made this podcast possible! 🥰 This week on Work Bae, Naana and Obie recap how they celebrated Valentine’s Day weekend and jump into what love means to them and how it’s manifested in their lives. What influences your capacity to love and how you express that love? 🤔 Join the Work Baes for a little Psych 101 as they explore the 5 Love Languages® and dive into the fascinating theory of attachment styles. 🧠 Thank you ALL for riding with us this season! We’re going to take a little break as we prepare for a bigger and better Season 3. Thank you for tuning in each week, sharing the podcast and most importantly for all the LOVE 💕🙏🏿

Cheat Sheet:
5 Love Languages® Quiz - tinyurl.com/y4nwytlr
Attachment Style Quiz - tinyurl.com/ydbmonq4
The Attachment Theory: How Childhood Affects Life - tinyurl.com/sznhu2o
Learn the Different Types of Love (and Better Understand Your Partner) - tinyurl.com/ydy6ouyg

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Singer, songwriter, producer and multi-instrumentalist William Sage was born and raised in the Beaches area of East Toronto, Canada. He learned piano first, and later guitar with other more exotic instruments like Guitalele and Handpan joining his repertoire years later.  William's musical odyssey has taken him all over the world. He's performed along side Grammy Award winning artists in New York City to pop-up concerts in Black Rock City. From Bali to Boulder, Nicaragua to China his mission has remained the same: to spread songs and stories of love and healing through music. William writes songs from the heart to connect us with our vulnerable selves: His love songs bring us together, while his instrumental tracks take us inside to discover new realms of understanding and compassion.

LOVE SNOB: a podcast revolving around modern romance, loathing, and anxiety written and produced by a seventeen year old matchmaker and harry styles enthusiast

A lot of us live in our head, disconnected from our feelings and intuition. This podcast touches on releasing insecure attachment, accepting your authentic self and getting “unstuck” by connecting to how you FEEL instead of how you THINK. I’ve been there, and discuss sensitive subjects using my own experiences with a lot of laughs and even more empathy… because we’re all flawed humans.

Please come along! As of April 2019, #WiseGirl has rebranded as #ReRooted and can now be found with new podcasts posted every other Friday on Ram Dass's Be Here Now Network at:  https://beherenownetwork.com/category/francesca-maxime/
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My podcast still sits at the intersection of mindfulness, psychology, neuroscience, the creative arts and social justice.  ReRooted: Unearthing Our Natural Radiance, And Remembering The Roots We Share

Welcome to the ReRooted Podcast with Francesca Maximé, trauma-sensitive mindfulness meditation teacher and poet. Together we’ll take a closer look at approaches to transforming trauma with insights from psychology, neuroscience, spirituality, social justice and the creative arts. Join Francesca and her guests for an exploration of our shared connection and how we can cultivate greater compassion for ourselves and for others.
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About me: Brooklyn-based TV personality, certified  mindfulness meditation teacher, and wellbeing and life coach: Creating Space for Wellbeing & Mindful Brooklyn.  Journalist, poet/author/writer. Haitian-Dominican Italian-American. Harvard. Cats. Tennis. Yoga. Gratitude. Love.

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