I never thought I could be chosen, I thought I always had to be the one performing, showing I was worth it....until I chose me.

Are you tired of constantly waiting for someone else to choose you? Do you feel like you're always stuck in the waiting game, hoping and praying that the other person will finally pick you? In this episode of our podcast, we're diving deep into the difference between commitment and attachment, and exploring how waiting for someone else to choose you can leave you feeling empty and in pain. But the good news is that you don't have to wait for somebody to choose you. You can choose yourself and start making healthy, happy choices for your life.

We'll also explore the role of self-awareness in making positive changes in relationships and provide practical tips and tools for listeners who are ready to take control of their lives. So if you're tired of feeling stuck and want to start choosing yourself, tune in and join the conversation!

#697 Please Choose Me; Stop Chasing Being Special--Just Be You

“He said he loves me! Okay, so why doesn’t he act like it!!” Oh man, the pain and agony of insecure attachment, even when your partner says those three little words. In this episode, we dive into the idea of attachment and unrealistic expectations that come with it. From focusing on struggle to telling ourselves stories and little white lies about what "I love you" or any meaningful statement, “I love how you drink your beer!” means, so that we can continually be in a state of pain and yearning. 

This episode will challenge your assumptions and help you take responsibility for your choices in relationships. By becoming aware of your thoughts and questioning your expectations, you can break free from the conditioning of attachment and start loving yourself. Don't miss out on this eye-opening discussion about the power of what your partner or date says and what it really means.

#700 They Said They Love Me! Why Don’t They Act Like it?!

In this captivating episode of the "Moving On" podcast, Tracy introduces us to the incredible Dr. Fleet Maull. A renowned growth mindset teacher, meditation guru, and social entrepreneur, Dr. Maull's journey of self-discovery and transformation is nothing short of awe-inspiring.

From his childhood to his spiritual journey, Dr. Maull shares how he overcame numerous challenges and developed an unwavering sense of discipline, focus, and inner strength. His time in prison was a pivotal moment, where he embraced a disciplined life of a prison monk and devoted hours each day to meditation, study, and service.

But Dr. Maull's journey didn't end there. He has developed a groundbreaking approach to healing attachment issues using neuro-somatic mindfulness and regenerative self-parenting. He believes that true healing begins with reconnecting with our hearts and becoming more heart-centered, a mission that he carries out through his Heart Mind Institute.

Join Tracy as she dives into the life and teachings of Dr. Fleet Maull, and discover how we too can cultivate a growth mindset, transform our lives, and find our inner strength. This is an episode not to be missed!

#706 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Dr. Fleet Maull

Attachment and love are opposite countries. Embark on a transformative journey as Tracy delves into the profound nature of attachment in this captivating podcast episode. 

Drawing upon decades of experience in dealing with insecure attachment, energy work, and psychic sessions, we explore the spiritual side of attachment and how to get out of its clutches. Discover the power you hold to break free from the cycle of pain and insecurity and create a life filled with love, abundance, and joy.

Through emotionally-provocative examples, we unravel the connection between attachment and karma, showcasing how releasing attachment can lead to profound personal growth and fulfilling relationships. With insights and guidance, you'll gain awareness and tools to speak your truth, liberate yourself from suffering, and embrace the love that you truly deserve. Are you ready to break free from attachment hell and embark on a journey towards emotional freedom and self-discovery? Tune in now and start your path to an empowered and meaningful life.

(Note: This podcast episode explores the spiritual aspects of attachment and provides guidance on breaking free from pain and insecurity. It is recommended for those seeking personal growth, transformative experiences, and a deeper understanding of the self.)

#708 Attachment Is Not What You Think It Is; Instead Learn How To Get What You Want From Love

This episode dives deep into the topic of exchanging anxiety energy for love. Tracy sheds light on how anxiety is born from fear and signifies an insecure attachment, and she offers powerful strategies to shift that energy towards love, generosity, and happiness. 

Discover the importance of real feelings and effective communication in relationships, as Tracy guides you towards becoming free from the grip of anxiety. If you find yourself repeatedly attracting the same types of relationships, Tracy's expertise can help you uncover the root cause and manifest a healthy, happy connection. 

In addition to Tracy's insightful guidance in this episode, she offers transformative programs and coaching to support individuals on their journey to overcoming attachment anxiety and finding true fulfillment in relationships. Tracy's programs are designed to provide personalized support and tools tailored to each individual's unique needs. Whether you're seeking one-on-one coaching or prefer the dynamic of a group setting, Tracy's expertise and compassionate approach can help you break free from the grip of anxiety and create the loving, harmonious connection you desire. 

To learn more about Tracy's transformative programs and coaching offerings, be sure to visit tracycrossley.com. Take the first step towards a happier, more secure future by exploring the resources and guidance available to you through Tracy's empowering programs.

#709 Exchanging Anxiety Energy for Love

Most everyone on the planet has heard of the law of attraction.

How about the law of attraction and insecure attachment? 

Well, you are always attracting the people, places and things to your life that you currently are experiencing today.

Looking at who you are attached to or fear being engulfed by gives them more power over you, than you have of yourself in making choices that you want. Your attachment style may say “yes” to pain and “no” to happiness. Who you attract and how you act are reflected in why you magnetize what you do. And for some of us we look at the person we are attached to and feel some magic brought him or her to our lives.  Join Tracy as she unveils the secrets to changing your attachment style and attracting the love and fulfillment you truly desire. 

If you're ready to break free from the patterns of insecurity and create a life of love and abundance, tune in to gain invaluable insights, practical strategies, and the inspiration to transform your attachment style.

#711 Change Your Attachment Style to Attract What You Want

Join us as we dive into the world of spiritual awakening with Rachael Jayne Groover, founder of The Awakened School and bestselling author of "Powerful and Feminine." Rachael takes us on a transformative journey, recounting her path towards inner peace and outer purpose. Discover the pivotal moments that led to her multidimensional seeing experience, as she courageously surrendered her image and followed her instincts. 

Through profound insights, Rachael unveils the profound ways her life has been reshaped since her spiritual awakening, and how she now guides others on their own spiritual paths through her work at The Awakened School. Unveiling the power of awakening to purpose, spirituality, and potential, this podcast will inspire you to become more receptive to the present moment and embark on your own awakening journey.

#712 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Rachael Jayne Groover

Your attachment to that person or finding yourself hitting repeat on the kind of relationships you attract? Perhaps it's more than just conditioning?

Let’s uncover the hidden gems within attachment issues— they're not just conditioning, —they're actually opportunities for personal growth and transformation. Once we release the idea that attachment is everything, a whole new world of emotional and spiritual freedom opens up to us.

Picture this: your soul contract is like a guiding light throughout your entire life, presenting you with contrasting situations that are designed to help you grow and discover the true essence of love. It's time to move beyond blame and shift our perspective. When we do that, attachments start losing their hold on us, and love becomes the ultimate game changer. Listen into the podcast to learn more. 

Ready to embark on this life-altering journey? Start by nurturing your awareness and consider exploring our mind-blowing metaphysical breakthrough sessions. They're like a compass, providing you with invaluable insights and guidance along the way. 

Come join us on this adventure of attachment and unlock the incredible power of soul contracts to create a life that's truly fulfilled, happy, and overflowing with love. Let's do this together!

#714 Attachment is Not Just Conditioning; Check Out the Soul Contract

Having your soulmate may seem impossible or that it could happen, but with conditions. This episode shines a light on how the ego gets in the way because of its fierce pursuit of survival while spinning illusions of specialness. You ever notice how you make someone special when you are attached to the idea of them? You ever notice how you need to be special too? Yeah, its not love, it's ego. Tracy shares her personal journey to taming the ego, revealing a path to genuine love (not attachment) and inner peace.

Whether it's a fulfilling love relationship, financial prosperity, or internal harmony you seek, in this episode, Tracy provides practical steps towards self-awareness to redirect your energy towards your true north star.

No more hiding or forcing—embrace a sincere journey towards self-discovery, freedom, and joy. Tune in to find the path to having your soulmate through your authentic vibe to attract your desires.

#717 Taming Your Ego to Have Your Soulmate

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Ever feel overwhelmingly drawn to someone that the physical attraction is just insane?

Where you know you are powerless to stop the descent into what is probably going to be complex and messy, but that magnetism to them has you out of your mind?  

Tracy dives deep into the complex world of attachment styles and how each one - avoidant, anxious, and more - uniquely intertwines with our sexual lives, often in ways we don't consciously realize. 

Tracy also explores the misconception that anxious attachment is purely emotional, revealing how it often manifests in the heightened intensity of sexual encounters. 

This episode is a journey into understanding why we may feel a magnetic pull towards certain partners and how this attraction can be misleading, mistaking intense physical connection for emotional depth. 

Yeah, sorry about that…as much as you might want him or her to be your soulmate, it might just be a physiological response to your conditioning.

#734: The Art Of Attachment and S*x

Shannon Algeo is a psychotherapist, author, and teacher. He is also a Soul Coach, Yoga Nidra teacher, and the founder of Soulumination Meditation. Shannon works with clients to heal patterns of trauma so they can show up in the world with presence, purpose, and peace.  His work has been featured in Rolling Stone, ABC news, and Yoga Journal. Shannon came to Esalen in December of 2024 to lead a workshop on smartphone addiction. Together we spoke about attachment theory and how it figures into technology addiction, what it feels like to be in Big Sur, detached from your phone, and the digital personas we create and how we attempt to live up to them. 

https://www.shannonalgeo.com/

Shannon Algeo: Smartphone Addiction, Digital Detox, and Healing the Self

In this episode, we explore how understanding your nervous system can unlock powerful shifts in how you show up, create, and lead. We’ll talk about the evolving conversation around Montessori, Alzheimer's, neurodivergence, why embracing your unique wiring is a superpower, and how to move from self-criticism into self-expression. Plus — what if work could feel like play? And what if the path to your next level isn’t about fixing yourself — but about fully being yourself? This is your permission slip to get curious, challenge old narratives, and create from a place of authenticity and ease.

ABOUT Rebecca Grugan

Rebecca Grugan is a distinguished Australian entrepreneur, educator, and life coach renowned for her dedication to personal development and the Montessori educational approach. As the founder and Managing Director of I Am Montessori, she has significantly influenced early childhood education by integrating Montessori principles into learning environments for children aged 0 to 12. Prior to her ventures in education, Rebecca amassed experience in public relations and marketing, successfully helping multiple small businesses create their online brands.

In 2022, Rebecca co-founded Life by Eight, a transformative framework inspired by the Montessori philosophy and principles of nervous system regulation, including practices like cold exposure and breathwork. This initiative underscores her belief in the inherent potential of individuals and her commitment to fostering communities rooted in love and connection.

Beyond her entrepreneurial and educational pursuits, Rebecca is a certified life architect. NLP Trainer and business coach. She empowers individuals to design, build, and live extraordinary lives, offering guidance through personalised coaching sessions, events and resources. Rebecca's multifaceted career reflects her unwavering commitment to personal growth, education, and the cultivation of intentional living.

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A lot of us live in our head, disconnected from our feelings and intuition. This podcast touches on releasing insecure attachment, accepting your authentic self and getting “unstuck” by connecting to how you FEEL instead of how you THINK. I’ve been there, and discuss sensitive subjects using my own experiences with a lot of laughs and even more empathy… because we’re all flawed humans.

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