Hey lady! On the road to building the soft life of your dreams you’ll need to incorporate systems to keep that soft life moving authentically and with ease. Often, we’re taught that lives that feel good and easy come with hard work and while that is one way to do it there are ways to build routines and life processes that make life smooth and add joy. After all life is not about the end goal. The journey matters as much as the destination and to make that journey easier Dr. Dom and Terri have a comprehensive list of actionable strategies you can implement into your life incrementally to create a structure that is manageable and dare we say it, fun?! As with anything, take what you need and discard the rest.

You’ll want to tune into Patreon for the Aftershow. Terri and Dr. Dom offer seven journal prompts that can help you customize routines that provide soft structure and help you move intentionally towards your best, most fulfilled life of your dreams.

Quote of the Day:
"When you can and as you can, in ways that feel loving, make time and space for yourself”
– Tracee Ellis Ross
 
Goal Map Like a Pro Workbook
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary
 
Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
 
Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

S27E6: Soft Structure: Building a Routine That Honors Your Current Season in Life

Hey lady! This week, Terri and Dr. Dom tackle a potentially touchy topic – feedback, and the equally touchy topic of how to give it and how to receive it. After listening to this episode, you will be armed with tools for your personal toolkit so that you walk through life with grace, class and style. 

As each day turns the necessity of having a strong community to lean on becomes ever more present. Community isn’t a fantasy of make-believe relationships, it’s network of relationships built over time through authenticity, communication, skills, and trust. Without those elements living with other humans and their thoughts and behaviors can become difficult. There are strategies you can use when presented with an opportunity to grow via feedback and with practice you can become a person that maintains your sovereignty while being a strong communicator. So, how do you develop and strengthen the muscle of giving and receiving feedback? How does one cultivate a healthy relationship with offering perspective in a way that is constructive and supportive?

Dr. Dom and Terri offer a selection of common scenarios with actionable steps in how to engage with the other person skillfully. Knowing how to process feedback and how to implement or disagree is a key step in growing yourself in authenticity and in community.

Interested in customizing your toolkit in a way that feels real to you? Head to the Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop and grab a journal and think through your action plan. We’d love to hear from you about how you’re going to make receiving feedback a strength of yours. Holla at us in our Patreon and let us know how you handle difficult conversations and constructive criticism.

S27E8: The Feedback Loop: Parents, Kids, and Hard Truths

Sometimes holding on brings pain, yet letting go can bring its own challenges too. In this episode, discover why holding on and letting go both can carry their own struggles — and how moving through them can open the way to freedom, healing, and new possibilities. Listen to this podcast to find the courage and inspiration to embrace what comes next!   Affirmation  I honor where I am, whether I’m holding on or beginning to let go. I remember that emptiness is the beginning of healing, that uncertainty is my best friend, and that what I seek is also seeking me. In this moment, I am strong, I matter, and I am open to new possibilities.   If you found this podcast enjoyable, kindly consider subscribing and leaving a rating or review. Additionally, I'd appreciate it if you could share it with your friends to spread the love!   You can also follow me on&nbsp;, , , , and . If you are interested in my work, please check out my books,&nbsp; (including a new audiobook),&nbsp; and my new Audiobook,&nbsp;  Also you can check out my new  or my new digital    Above all, my heartfelt hope is that this podcast has supported your journey of personal growth, helped shift your mindset, built emotional resilience, and brought you less suffering and more joy, clarity, and peace.  &nbsp;

It Can Hurt To Hold On, It Can Hurt To Let Go

For anyone who works so hard to do the right thing and to break ancestral trauma, but then has someone telling them they aren't  good enough. 

Lyrics:
Come sit down, little girl,
I see that tremble in your hands
Come sit down little boy 
I see that aching in your heart

Do you know how good you’re doing
I see just how  hard you work
I’m sorry the world has been so cruel
And tried to putout your magic spark
 			
Hurt people hurt people 
And scared people scare people
But you- you broke that spell
You- you broke that spell
I see you turning that hurt into love
I see you turning that fear into magic

I wish I could keep you here
In this safe space with nothing to fear
I wish that I could always be near 
But in your heart, I am here

And we can heal this world together
Put down the bombs we can do better
Plant the seeds protect the wild
You dear are my perfect child

But hurt people hurt people.....		

May all beings find love and comfort
May all water be clean and clear
May all forests be protected
May all of nature be revered 

But right now you are hurting
So please sit down little child
Here’s some water and a pillow
You are safe and you are home

Feel the breeze and hear the birds
Feel my arms wrapped around you
Nothing to do or figure out
You can finally rest now

But hurt people hurt people

And I know how bad it hurts
I know how hard you work
And I know how bad it hurts
I know how hard you work  

Spellbreaker

What is love bombing? It’s a term used to describe the initial phase of a relationship when someone is trying to “seal the deal” with intoxicating affection. The person connects quick and hard, often validating you in ways you have craved your whole life; saying all the things you want to hear, treating you like you have dreamed of being treated. They make you feel seen and adored, which is why it’s so confusing and painful when it ends. 
 
A lot of people ask me, what happened to that person? Was it not real? It was real for you in your personal experience – however the person who enacted it was not portraying their true self. A person like this usually collects fans. They collect adorers, and they get off on the feeling of control. So I describe it often as a person with a different kind of brain. More on this plus some tools in this episode. This is for one person in particular but also meant for anyone who has fallen for a person who immediately disposed of you after you thought they were the one. And if you’ve been love-bombed and then deeply wounded, I send you much love. Hang in there. xox
 
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Ep 257: Love Bombing – What it is, why it happens

Hey lady! As many of you know a healing journey is more than face masks and bubble baths. It’s a deeply personal cultivation of all of your life’s experiences and the tools you’ve picked up along the way. It’s the way you find yourself to wholeness and build a life of meaning and fulfillment and it is hard and cyclical and takes effort. It takes real courage to get into the insides of yourself and choose to grow, but it’s possible and it’s worth it. 

This week, Dr. Dom and Terri invite Dr. Raquel Martin, a licensed clinical psychologist and host of the Mind Your Mental podcast, to discuss the rigorous path to living a healed life and the enrichment and reward of finding a path that works for you. Mental health and therapy are buzzy right now but those words are more than a passing fad. Dr. Raquel offers a unique perspective via straight talk to illuminate how people can find a path to mental wellness that feels authentic for them. Sometimes that may be boundaries, sometimes that means finding a mental health professional to work with, but all of the time it requires divorcing our thoughts from the patriarchal and colonial constructs that we use to build our realities. Babygirl, that is neither easy nor is it quick work but it is necessary for lasting change.

Wise words were once spoken that it all starts with looking ourselves in the mirror. When we begin to do the tough work of having honest conversations with ourselves, being real about our needs and untangling the deep wounding we have as a people we can begin to see more light in our lives so that we can be the light out in this world.

Dr. Raquel may not be accepting clients but if you are ready to amplify your healing with support book a consultation with Dr. Dom or check our resources below for the right option for you! We love you for real, lady. Keep thriving!

Quote of the Day: 
"You deserve rest that actually restores you, not just pauses you." 
– Dr. Raquel Martin

Goal Map Like a Pro Workbook
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Where to find Dr. Raquel Martin:
Website: Martin Psychological Services
Podcast: Mind Your Mental
Instagram: @raquelmartinphd
LinkedIn: Dr. Raquel Martin, PhD.
Facebook: RaquelMartinPhD
YouTube: @RaquelMartinPhD
TikTok: @raquelmartinphd

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

S27E9: Putting the Cape Down with Dr. Raquel Martin

Navigate life's path, cultivate inner clarity, and experience soul-led growth as you build a relationship with your team of Spirit Guides—a universal team of lightworkers who provide guidance, comfort, and direction—through this detailed, inspiring and accessible book from author, teacher, motivational speaker, and celebrated psychic medium MaryAnn DiMarco.  

Imagine getting divine input for every decision we make, knowing that at each fork in the road, we could just tap into an inner voice and intuitively sense which way to turn. In a world that offers us infinite ways to go, Spirit Guides are an invaluable resource—an inner GPS that routes and reroutes us as we head toward our destination, always there, always aligned.  

The Guide(s) Book: Mapping Out Life's Journey with Spirit by Your Side by MaryAnn DiMarco—celebrated author, motivational speaker, psychic medium and spiritual teacher—shows spiritually-minded readers how to do exactly that. It will show readers how to recognize, communicate, and be directed by their Guides on the other side. With clarity, warmth, and plenty of examples from her life and that of her clients, MaryAnn leads readers to tap into a broad network of ever-present Guides who will guide them to find purpose, direction, and serve their highest good.    

Each chapter of this book offers a specific aspect of living life with Spirit by your side (introducing Guides, gaining hands on experience, navigating challenging guidance, and integrating skills for soul-led growth) as well as any associated pitfalls; explores anecdotes to demonstrate the concept; and concludes with an interactive exercise to reinforce the concept. 

The Guide(s) Book By MaryAnn DiMarco

What if the real key to success isn’t doing more, but showing up differently? Tune in for an inspiring discussion with Tisha Marie Cain, JD, CHt, as she shares her new bestselling book Successful Women Show Up Differently: 6 Transformational Habits to Help You WIN From the Inside Out.
 
Moments with Marianne airs in the Southern California area on KMET1490AM & 98.1 FM, an ABC Talk News Radio Affiliate!  https://www.kmet1490am.com

Tisha Marie Cain, JD, CHt, is an executive counsel, c-suite breakthrough mindset coach, clinical hypnotherapist, and multiple #1 bestselling international author and artist who helps people rewire their subconscious, release emotional weight, and transform their relationship with money, power, and self-worth. She works with a wide range of clients, including Fortune 500 executives and visionary leaders, guiding them through deep mindset work, subconscious healing, and unapologetic self-liberation. After surviving domestic abuse and overcoming false charges that nearly cost her 14 years of freedom, she now helps others reclaim theirs with clarity, confidence, and courage. https://tishamariecain.com. https://www.cainslegalsupport.com/

Order on Amazon:  https://a.co/d/8CLVqXs 

For more show information visit: https://www.mariannepestana.com/

Successful Women Show Up Differently with Tisha Marie Cain, JD, CHt

What if the stress you carry every day is the very thing shutting down your energy, connection, and vitality? Tune in for an inspiring discussion with Dr. Danielle Armour as we discuss her new book Awaken Your Body Awaken Your Desire: Using Science to Heal Your Stress & Find Your Sexual Vitality.
 
Moments with Marianne airs in the Southern California area on KMET1490AM & 98.1 FM, an ABC Talk News Radio Affiliate!  https://www.kmet1490am.com

Dr. Danielle Armour is a psychotherapist, clinical sexologist, and nervous system specialist with over 15 years of experience helping women and couples restore balance, resilience, and connection. Drawing on neuroscience, somatic healing, and cognitive restructuring, she offers a compassionate, science-based approach that reframes stress and disconnection as the body’s natural way of seeking safety. Through practical tools like breathwork, yoga, mindfulness, and nervous system regulation, Dr. Armour guides people in cultivating self-awareness, confidence, and a renewed sense of vitality. https://daniellearmour.com

For more show information visit: https://www.mariannepestana.com/

Awaken Your Body Awaken Your Desire with Danielle Armour, PhD

S27E10: Authentic Storytelling and Navigating Wellness with Dominique Fluker

I finally got an album together. It's called Meet Me in the Wild. It's not perfect but it's from the heart. Writing these songs helped me and I hope listening to them will help you. Just tryin' to take all that icky goo that life throws at you and turn it into something sweet. <3

Grammy-winning audiobook publisher. Authors include James Patterson, David Baldacci, and Michael Connelly. Earbuds encouraged. Follow us on Twitter at @HachetteAudio.

In a single moment your life can change!  “Moments with Marianne” is a transformative hour that covers an endless array of topics with the ‘best of the best.’ Her guest are leaders in their fields, ranging from inspirational authors, top industry leaders, business and spiritual entrepreneurs.  Each guest is gifted, and a true visionary!  A recognized leader in her own work, and while teaching others to develop, refocus, and grow; Marianne will bring the best guest, and sometimes a special surprise.  Don’t miss this – you never know just which ‘moment’ will change your life forever.

Allison Carmen, Self-help author and Life coach, presents different techniques in this 10 minute podcast to reduce your stress, worry and anxiety. It's amazing how much you can get done in 10 minutes!

In a world where black women are often underrepresented and misunderstood, we need more safe spaces to just… be. Every Friday, join Dr. Dominique Broussard, a college professor and psychologist, and Terri Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker, as they initiate authentic conversations on everything from fibroids to fake friends.

If you’re a black woman or woman of color looking for an extra dose of inspiration on the go, pull up a seat and join us on the H.E.R. (Healing, Empowerment, Resilience) Space podcast. Episodes are published every Friday on iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, and Soundcloud.

We can’t wait to meet you, sis!

Help Me Be Me is an emotional toolkit for creating positive change in yourself. I like to think of it as self-help for people who hate self-help. I'm Sarah May, coach/mom/all-around happy person, and these are the tools that work for me in my life. For all of my offerings you can check out YayWithMe.com What I share is my personal opinion. It's not a diagnosis for treatment or a substitute for professional help. If you're suffering, please reach out to your local emergency services or call 9-1-1. Music theme created by www.BookerHillMusic.com

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