Do you feel like you are the only person in your life who knows how to do anything correctly?&nbsp; Have you ever asked your partner or your teenager to do something, and they come back with “But you do it so much better…” or “I don’t know how…” OR wait so long to start that you just end up doing it?&nbsp; What if the people in your life are pretending to be less competent than they are to get you to do more than your share? Let that sink in.&nbsp; If you are overworking, overdoing, and, if you’re honest, resentful and burnt out, you might want to learn about strategic (or weaponized) incompetence. In today’s podcast, I break down this manipulation tactic and share how you can begin to step back from overfunctioning and move towards a more equitable distribution of labor in your life. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/378

378 Beyond Exhausted? Strategic Incompetence Might Be to Blame

Today I’m sharing an interview with Dr. John Delony. He’s a mental health expert, podcast host, and author who specializes in making the path to mental wellness accessible for everyone, especially people who don’t come from an academic background.&nbsp; John explained five steps you can take to heal past traumas that are getting in the way of your current life, no matter who you are. Plus, we chatted about codependency in parent-child relationships— how damaging it can be to both parties when parents are dependent on children for their emotional stability. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/415

415 Own Your Past, Change Your Future with Dr. John Delony

Have you ever wondered what makes people vulnerable to trauma bonding? Or how to tell if you are in a trauma-bonded relationship versus one based on mutuality or true love? From the questions I've received, I know many of you want a deeper understanding of trauma-bonded relationships: What are the signs and symptoms, and what does it mean? Listen for everything you need to know to protect yourself and your relationships. Read the show notes for today's episode at

538 Addicted to Toxic Love? Trauma Bonds Explained

**Trigger Warning** This episode contains a story about gun violence and narcissistic abuse. If this is distressing for you, please skip it! Katre has a phenomenal story of escaping a toxic, narcissistic abusive relationship that highlights the resiliency of the human spirit. She shares how she escaped, what brought her to the moment of needing to get out, and how she healed afterward.&nbsp; Those of you who have experienced narcissistic abuse may see yourself in Katre's journey. She shares it to help others feel less alone because when you go through something like this, as Katre shared, people in your life may not understand the extent of the abuse. Many of her friends waved off her ex's behavior as emotionally immature.&nbsp; But Katre was able to leave this relationship in 2018 and has worked on healing in the years since, even becoming a mentor and coach to others. If you can relate to her story, consider joining her Facebook community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1917430661795072/ Read the show notes for today's episode at

565 Thriving after Narc Abuse with Katre Keinast Kitchen

Do you feel like nothing ever works out for you? Like you never get what you want? Like good things only happen to other people, but not you? Do you often blame other people for your unhappiness? If any of this resonates, listen in, because this episode is all about a powerful perspective shift you can use to move from an unempowered state of mind to a much more empowered place. Read the show notes for today's episode at

568 6 Ways to Get Empowered + Reclaim Your Life

I am so excited to have Dr. Ramani on the show today to discuss concepts from her new book, It's Not You: How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People. Many of you are likely familiar with her work, and for good reason– she is a brilliant clinician who breaks down narcissism in an accessible way, which helps people heal. I've been a fan of hers for years and I am thrilled to bring you this conversation where we explore everything ranging from how narcissists are made, the impact of love bombing on victims, how narcissistic supply works and what it is, the difference between narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and what the healing process looks like.&nbsp; I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at

587 Healing from Narcissistic People with Dr. Ramani

When we think about boundaries, we often think about how we relate to others. But what about boundaries with ourselves? How we relate to ourselves is just, if not more important, than how we relate to others. We need to get clear on our relationship with ourselves first, which is why this episode is all about strengthening internal boundaries: self-talk, self-regulation, self-care, self-soothing, and self-love. Read the show notes for today's episode at&nbsp; Go here for more information and to enroll in boundary bootcamp:&nbsp; Visit&nbsp;&nbsp;to order my brand new Boundary Boss Workbook!

590 Quiet Your Inner Critic NOW!

Are you tired of constantly putting others' needs before your own? Do you feel like you get taken for granted in your relationships? I am so excited to share this interview I did on Danny Morel's show, The Higher Self. Danny asked such amazing questions and we had a candid conversation about boundaries: the good, the bad, what people get wrong, how you can improve at setting boundaries, and so much more. I also share boundary scripts you can use.&nbsp; Very thankful to Danny and his team for allowing us to share this with all of you. Make sure to check Danny's show out here: https://youtube.com/@DannyMorelshow Read the show notes for today's episode at

593 Terri on The Higher Self Podcast w/ Danny Morel

Does your family disrespect your boundaries, making it challenging to set and maintain them? Does your family of origin still treat you like a child? Or do they simply get mad when you try to set limits or assert your preferences and desires? If you are nodding your head, then this episode is for you, my friend, because I am diving into why many of us struggle to set boundaries with family and what you can do about it. I also give you a few scripts for when your family of origin offers you unsolicited advice. 🔥 Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/594 Go here for more information and to enroll in boundary bootcamp:&nbsp; Visit&nbsp;&nbsp;to order my brand new Boundary Boss Workbook!

594 Strategies + Scripts to Start Setting Healthy Boundaries With Family

Today I’m so excited to share this older interview I did on The Good Life Project podcast with Jonathan Fields. I hope you’ll learn something new from this episode, whether or not you already know my story.&nbsp; We chat about my early experience with alcoholism, how I left my career as an agent to fulfill my purpose as a therapist, and how we both balance being ourselves with being the face of our brands. Then, I share some advice about becoming and staying connected in long-term partnerships! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/595

595 Terri on The Good Life Podcast w/ Jonathan Fields

How fluent are you in your own emotions? Are you able to identify and feel your feelings, or is it a struggle? Do you tend to focus more on what other people are feeling?&nbsp; If so, you are not alone.&nbsp; This episode is all about becoming more emotionally resilient. We will explore why emotional resilience matters, the four common blocks we tend to experience around it, and ideas for putting the focus back on you. Read the show notes for today's show at  Go here for more information and to enroll in boundary bootcamp:  Visit  to order my brand new Boundary Boss Workbook!

596 How to Build Emotional Resilience As A High-Functioning Codependent + Empath

I’m sharing another interview this week where I’m on the other side of the microphone– This time, with host of Passion Struck, John Miles. We chat about the journey of self-discovery that led me to leave my job, pursue grad school, and start a new career in the mental health field. Plus, how I learned how to prioritize my own needs and desires and set healthy boundaries as I did it! Read the show notes for today's episode at

597 Terri on Passion Struck w/ John Miles

As a child, were you responsible for cleaning the house? Cooking for your siblings? Taking care of an adult because they were unable to care for themselves? Did the adults in your life expect emotional support from you? Did you mediate between family members? If so, you may have Parentified Child Syndrome.&nbsp; In this episode, I am breaking down the two types of child parentification, why it happens, symptoms you may have experienced, and steps to take to begin healing. Read the show notes for today's episode at

598 Parentified Child Syndrome: Causes, Symptoms, Impact and Healing

Today I’m sharing an unbelievable interview with Sebastian Bates, who is a best-selling author, podcast host, retired professional fighter, father, and founder of The Warrior Academy.&nbsp; Sebastian's story is amazingly inspiring. At 24, he experienced a horrendous BASE jump accident and was told he would never walk again.&nbsp; He refused to accept that and through a combination of willpower and discipline, he recovered.&nbsp; He shares his story with us and we dive into the details: his mindset, determination, his background as a fighter and teacher, his passion for helping others, and the impact he is having and wants to have through his philanthropic work at The Bates Foundation.&nbsp; I hope this interview makes you feel as inspired and motivated as it made me! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/599

599 Living an Inspired Life with Sebastian Bates

Does co-parenting feel difficult because you and your ex are never on the same page? Is your ex combative, dismissive, or a narcissist? Are you worried about what they’re saying to your kids when you’re not there? If you want what is best for your kids and find co-parenting activating, this episode is for you. I am covering the common blocks to cooperative co-parenting, protecting your child from an emotionally unhealthy ex, and the boundaries needed for healthy co-parenting. Read the show notes for today's episode at

600 How to Navigate Co-Parenting With Healthy Boundaries (Try This!)

I am so excited to have my pal and best-selling author, Ruby Warrington, on the show to talk about being sober curious and living a child-free life.&nbsp; Ruby actually coined the term "sober curious" and in this conversation, we both share our experience with that and getting sober. Ruby also shares her thoughts on choosing to be child-free, the societal expectations we face as women when it comes to motherhood, and so much more.&nbsp; I hope it resonates with you as much as it did for me. **Note: we discuss infertility mid-way through the episode. If this is a tender topic for you, consider skipping this episode. ❤️ ** Read the show notes for today's episode at

601 Women Without Kids with Ruby Warrington

Does it ever feel challenging to get through to your partner when you’re in conflict? Do they become endlessly defensive when you raise an issue? Or do they bring up unrelated problems they have with you or the relationship? Are you the defensive one? Many of you have written in to ask about navigating issues with defensive or conflict-avoidant partners. This episode is my answer.&nbsp; We’ll cover why clean conflict and fair fighting are critical to successful relationships, what this looks like in practice, and tips for having healthier, more constructive conflict. Read the show notes for today's episode at

604 How to Communicate With a Defensive or Conflict-Avoidant Partner

I am so thrilled to have my pal Case Kenny on the show today to talk about everything: His podcast, “New Mindset, Who Dis?” being in the wellness space, his wildly popular Instagram account, and his book, That's Bold of You. He shares some tips for ending behavior patterns you’re ready to move on from and using movement to cultivate mindfulness. Read the show notes for today's episode at  &nbsp;

605 How to Thrive as Your Most Real Self with Case Kenny

Do you know what your boundary style is? Are you aware of how boundary styles can impact you and your relationships? Whether we say “yes” when we want to say “no,” or don’t ask for help because we distrust others, our predominant boundary style often prevents us from living authentically.&nbsp; Curious to learn more? Join me for a deep dive into the differences between rigid and porous boundaries, how they negatively impact the quality of your life, and the transformative power of healthy boundaries.&nbsp; You’ll come away with a deeper understanding of your boundary style and where you might need to make adjustments. Read the show notes for today's episode at

606 What Your Boundary Style Says About You

I am so thrilled to welcome my pal Lisa Bilyeu back to the show to celebrate the paperback launch of her book, Radical Confidence: 11 Lessons on How to Get the Relationship, Career, and Life You Want.&nbsp; We talk about the practical steps you can take to build confidence over time, how toxic relationships erode our confidence, and boundaries and family (specifically, the moment Lisa found out her dad disapproved of her marriage plans).&nbsp; I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at

607 How to Choose You with Lisa Bilyeu

Does Mother’s Day bring up hard feelings for you or give you anxiety? Do you find it difficult or frustrating to find a Mother’s Day card that speaks to your relationship with your mother? Is it a day you’d rather pretend doesn’t exist? If you answered “yes” to any of these, you’re in the right place. I am sharing ideas for how to honor, grieve, mourn, and celebrate on Mother’s Day, no matter what kind of relationship you have with your mother. Read the show notes for today's episode at

608 New Ways to Honor (or Mourn) Mother’s Day

I am so excited to welcome Dr. Frank Anderson, renowned trauma expert, to the show to talk about his newest book, To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation.&nbsp; It's both a memoir and a beautiful exploration of healing trauma. I absolutely loved what Frank had to share about the different types of trauma, the healing process, forgiving the perpetrator, forgiving ourselves, and reclaiming our own narratives.&nbsp; If you've experienced childhood trauma of any type, I think you'll get a lot out of this conversation. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.&nbsp; Gentle TW: there is a mention of suicide at 21:15. If this is a tender topic for you, please skip forward 20 seconds Read the show notes for today's episode at

609 Truth, Trauma, and Transformation with Dr. Frank G. Anderson

Have you ever wondered if your relationship with your father or father figure is normal? Or maybe you know it wasn’t normal, but you’re not sure how it impacted you and your adult relationships. If you suspect you have a father wound, this episode is for you. We’re starting with the basics: what a father wound is, the symptoms and causes of father wounds, and why it is painful.&nbsp; Healing my own father wound has had a profound impact on my life, and I can’t wait to share more about this with you over the next few episodes. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/610

610 Father Wound 101 (Symptoms & Causes)

My amazing guest this week is Kara Loewentheil, a feminist lawyer-turned-life coach. She’s here to tell us how a sexist society gets in our heads and how to get it out with her new book, Take Back Your Brain.&nbsp; We talk about the messages we absorb from society at a young age, how they shape our thoughts, and how we can slowly replace those thoughts with less crappy ones. If you're a high-achieving woman who feels like you need to do it all and be everything to everyone, this episode is for you. As Kara says: You can't hate yourself into liking yourself!&nbsp; If this episode resonates with you, don’t forget to preorder her book, , releasing May 21!&nbsp;

611 Take Back Your Power with Kara Loewentheil

Growing up, my mother, my sisters, and I were all afraid of him.&nbsp; I didn’t think either of these things was a “big deal” until I connected the dots in therapy and realized how much I was playing out my father wound in my romantic relationships.&nbsp; Many of you say you think you have a father wound. By sharing my own story, I aim to illustrate a few of the different ways it can present and impact your life. Read the show notes for today's episode at

612 My Personal Father Wound Story

Are you intolerant of how you actually feel? Or are you intolerant of what others believe?&nbsp; My amazing guest and pal, Africa Brooke, is here to tell us how to get curious and be in the middle with her new book, The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of Intolerance, which I think is a much-needed antidote right now.&nbsp; Africa shares why she believes curiosity is a dying art, how to spark more of it (especially in ourselves), and how we can begin bravely expressing ourselves in the world, one step at a time, without censorship.&nbsp; Toward the end, Africa also tells us about her own experience of self-sabotage and how this led her to her current body of work.&nbsp; I hope you enjoy this enlightening conversation as much as I enjoyed having it. Read the show notes for today's episode at

613 Brave Expression with Africa Brooke

"We have an emotional body, we have a physical body, we experience physical pain in heartache." - Ashley Turner

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09 Ashley Turner - How to Be OK with Ending a Relationship

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14 Davidji - Destressifying Your Life with Meditation and Mindfulness

"We don’t have to live in this reactive world, we can live in a responsive world, and when we do that we’re a little calmer, we’re a little more patient." - Davidji

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41 Davidji - Creating a Meditation Practice

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57 Misha Lambert - Being Your Own Hero of Pretty

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82 How to Manage Toxic Relationships

"Ghosting is one of the cruelest forms of torture that dating itself can serve up." - Terri Cole 

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88 Seven Signs You’re Going to Be Ghosted

"If you have a narcissistic mother, you have endured a lifetime of abuse and trauma." - Terri Cole

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91 Daughters & Narcissistic Mothers: A Guide to Survive and Thrive

"You can be a loving person and not take shit from people. And by not taking shit from people, you actually become a more loving person." - Danielle LaPorte

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93 Danielle LaPorte - Discovering Your White Hot Truth

"The fact that you don't want to do something actually matters, and the only way it's going to matter to other people is if it matters to you." - Terri Cole
 
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131 Stop Being Manipulated Now (For Empaths + Nice People)

“The most effective language to use is a question. And the most effective question to use is a question about the communication that was spoken.” - Kasia Urbaniak

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160 Kasia Urbaniak - Verbal Self-Defense DOJO

This episode is one of my most powerful Terri Cole Show episodes from 2017 about how to set boundaries with difficult people, including narcissists! "Drawing boundaries is probably the most loving act that you can execute in a relationship." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/238

238 How to Set Boundaries with Impossible People

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