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In this episode we cover the top mistakes I've seen people make as a coach in their self development journies:
1. The information trap
2. Guru worship - throwing $ at the problem
4. Materialism - attachment to outcomes
5. Chasing abundance
6. Loyalty to a single way
7. Following unscientific woo
8. Indulging in only academic philosophy
9. Trying to keep things the same and change simultaneously
10. Focus on results rather than process - too serious
11. Doing it alone
12. Doing it with the wrong people
13. Creating a new comfort zone
14. Finish line fallacy
15. Confusing responsibility with acceptance (change v tolerate)

Get Dan Munro’s latest book “THE NAKED TRUTH: Using Powerful Honesty to Enhance Your Confidence, Connections and Integrity”:
https://www.brojo.org/pub/the-naked-truth-honesty-confidence-connections-integrity 

If you enjoyed this video, get access to more of BROJO’s content and dozens of confidence-building online courses by joining today. It’s FREE! Learn more here: https://www.brojo.org/join 

BROJO is an international self-improvement community run by coaches Dan Munro and Mike Wells. We are focused on how to build confidence through living with integrity and authenticity. We help Nice Guys discover their masculinity, and we focus on supporting people-pleasers of all types to build confidence, integrity, and deeply connected relationships.

For more personal support, contact Dan & Mike directly with your questions info@brojo.org, or complete an application for a FREE coaching session with a BROJO Coach:
https://www.brojo.org/apply 

BROJO’s Top resources:

The 3X Confidence and Authenticity Masterclass Program [Udemy course]
A complete in-depth guide on how to build your confidence by being authentic and living with integrity, following Dan Munro’s secret 3X Confidence formula.
https://www.udemy.com/course/3x-confidence-and-authenticity-masterclass-programme/?referralCode=E2E2809759BC30A64ED5

Overcome Your Fear of Rejection… Permanently [Udemy course]
Say goodbye to fear of rejection, approach anxiety, and missing out on opportunities. This quick but thorough course will destroy your limiting beliefs around rejection.
https://www.udemy.com/course/overcome-your-fear-of-rejection-permanently/?referralCode=A463BA253FFB91EC62FC

The Legendary Life: Build the Motivation and Confidence to Create an Authentic Lifestyle [book]
Dan’s first book covers a complete blueprint for designing your life in a way that matches your core values, showing you how to overcome fear, set and achieve powerful goals, and build your confidence without needing other people to like you.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00TJFWJSS/

Nothing to Lose: Using Curiosity to Destroy Hesitation, Procrastination and Limiting Beliefs [book]
A philosophical examination of the confident mindset, from a scientific and practical viewpoint. This book will help you decode confidence into a set of beliefs and behaviours that you can control.
https://www.amazon.com/Nothing-Lose-Hesitation-Procrastination-Confidence-ebook/dp/B01MRMJJPU/

Dan’s blog:
https://www.theinspirationallifestyle.com/blog

The BROJO Online podcast:
https://soundcloud.com/thebrojo

Mike’s blog:
https://www.coachmike.live/

[#201] The 15 Top Mistakes People Make in Self-Development

Discover masculine confidence with my Nice Guy Recovery course:
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In this episode, I dug through the archives to bring you my top 5 pieces on building authentic relationships:
- what women really want
- nice guys and the women who enable them
- how to create an authentic relationship
- the difference between a relationship and a connection
- honesty in relationships

Consider it a starter pack for any nice guy or people pleaser who wants to build a good connection romantically.

If you enjoyed this, get access to more of BROJO’s content and dozens of confidence-building online courses by joining today. It’s FREE! Learn more here: https://www.brojo.org/join 

BROJO is an international self-improvement community run by coaches Dan Munro and Mike Wells. We are focused on how to build confidence through living with integrity and authenticity. We help Nice Guys discover their masculinity, and we focus on supporting people-pleasers of all types to build confidence, integrity, and deeply connected relationships.

For more personal support, contact Dan & Mike directly with your questions info@brojo.org, or complete an application for a FREE coaching session with a BROJO Coach:
https://www.brojo.org/apply 

BROJO’s TOP RESOURCES:

The Nice Guy Recovery Course
A intensive, step by step guide to help Nice Guys and people-pleasers undo their programming and conditioning to become authentic, powerful and confident.
https://menprovementx.com/nice-guy-recovery-101/?sld=danielmunro 

The 3X Confidence and Authenticity Masterclass Program
A complete in-depth guide on how to build your confidence by being authentic and living with integrity, following Dan Munro’s secret 3X Confidence formula.
https://menprovementx.com/3x-confidence-101/?sld=danielmunro

Shamelessness: Total Social Confidence
Say goodbye to the “not good enough” story in your head, and all the social limitations that come from believing it.
https://menprovementx.com/shamelessness-101/?sld=danielmunro

THE NAKED TRUTH: Using Powerful Honesty to Enhance Your Confidence, Connections and Integrity [book]
Discover Dan Munro’s powerful honesty techniques so that you can be authentic and genuine without losing respect:
https://www.brojo.org/pub/the-naked-truth-honesty-confidence-connections-integrity 

Nothing to Lose: Using Curiosity to Destroy Hesitation, Procrastination and Limiting Beliefs [book]
A philosophical examination of the confident mindset, from a scientific and practical viewpoint. This book will help you decode confidence into a set of beliefs and behaviours that you can control.
https://www.amazon.com/Nothing-Lose-Hesitation-Procrastination-Confidence-ebook/dp/B01MRMJJPU/

Dan’s blog:
https://www.theinspirationallifestyle.com/blog

The BROJO Online podcast:
https://soundcloud.com/thebrojo

Mike’s blog:
https://www.coachmike.live/

[#203] Authentic Relationship Tips for Nice Guys

After studying and practicing honesty for more than a decade (having spent the prior period of my life being largely dishonest), I’ve come to realise that I’ve actually developed a worship of honesty.

Having experimented with being more honest for such a long time, I’ve arrived at the firm conclusion that “Just be more honest” is the long-term solution to any social issue or self-confidence problem, and it’s become my go-to mantra for solving almost every difficult problem that crosses my path.

Honesty acts like the tip of the arrowhead; if you just focus on being as honest as possible, all the other areas of life follow it to create long term success in a way that’s appropriate for you personally – be it health, career, relationships, and so on. You might not get what you thought you wanted, but you’ll get what you truly need.

This is becoming more fact than opinion. It’s been skeptically tested by myself and hundreds of my clients, alongside many others who I have no personal connection to, and we can also see a growing body of evidence that people living with integrity can demonstrate a measurably higher quality of life, career and relationships than others, especially compared to the opposite end of the spectrum (e.g. criminal offenders and those with severe integrity-repellant Personality Disorders like AntiSocial PD and Narcissistic PD).

Unfortunately very few if any scientific studies have been dedicated to measuring the effect that honesty has on quality of life.

As with all subjective morality, there really is no objective way to say “We must all be honest”. There is evidence to support this claim, just as there is no evidence to support any moral claim, given you start with an unproven assumption, e.g. “that human wellbeing is a good thing”. But such assumptions are subjective – there’s no way to prove that wellbeing is good.

So as much as it pains me to admit it, my worship of honesty is essentially a religious experience.

In this podcast, we explore and introduce the religion of honesty...

[#206] The Religion Of Honesty

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When asked, most successful people will tell you a story about how they became successful, but unfortunately it won't often be true. It will just be what they wished was true, like they worked hard, or were courageous, or broke the rules in some dashing way.
In this podcast, we'll break down the proven strategies and tactics of success that don't require any starting advantage and actually align with scientific studies on what makes people successful.

Meta learning
Focus on your strengths
Be lazy (efficient)
Serve consistently, give freely
Shoot out of your league
Quality over quantity
Stop at good enough
Go deep on what you love
Teach what you’ve learned
Serve high quality people
Set very long term goals
Have a high failure rate
Get the right coaches
Create a supportive peer circle
Go against the grain
Get reliable feedback
Make it smaller
Reduce pressure
Make integrity your reason
Make it sustainable
Measure yourself quantitatively


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Get Dan Munro’s latest book “THE NAKED TRUTH: Using Powerful Honesty to Enhance Your Confidence, Connections and Integrity”:
https://www.brojo.org/pub/the-naked-truth-honesty-confidence-connections-integrity 

If you enjoyed this video, get access to more of BROJO’s content and dozens of confidence-building online courses by joining today. It’s FREE! Learn more here: https://www.brojo.org/join 

BROJO is an international self-improvement community run by coaches Dan Munro and Mike Wells. We are focused on how to build confidence through living with integrity and authenticity. We help Nice Guys discover their masculinity, and we focus on supporting people-pleasers of all types to build confidence, integrity, and deeply connected relationships.

For more personal support, contact Dan & Mike directly with your questions info@brojo.org, or complete an application for a FREE coaching session with a BROJO Coach:
https://www.brojo.org/apply 

BROJO’s Top resources:

The 3X Confidence and Authenticity Masterclass Program [Udemy course]
A complete in-depth guide on how to build your confidence by being authentic and living with integrity, following Dan Munro’s secret 3X Confidence formula.
https://www.udemy.com/course/3x-confidence-and-authenticity-masterclass-programme/?referralCode=E2E2809759BC30A64ED5

Overcome Your Fear of Rejection… Permanently [Udemy course]
Say goodbye to fear of rejection, approach anxiety, and missing out on opportunities. This quick but thorough course will destroy your limiting beliefs around rejection.
https://www.udemy.com/course/overcome-your-fear-of-rejection-permanently/?referralCode=A463BA253FFB91EC62FC

The Legendary Life: Build the Motivation and Confidence to Create an Authentic Lifestyle [book]
Dan’s first book covers a complete blueprint for designing your life in a way that matches your core values, showing you how to overcome fear, set and achieve powerful goals, and build your confidence without needing other people to like you.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00TJFWJSS/

Nothing to Lose: Using Curiosity to Destroy Hesitation, Procrastination and Limiting Beliefs [book]
A philosophical examination of the confident mindset, from a scientific and practical viewpoint. This book will help you decode confidence into a set of beliefs and behaviours that you can control.
https://www.amazon.com/Nothing-Lose-Hesitation-Procrastination-Confidence-ebook/dp/B01MRMJJPU/

Dan’s blog:
https://www.theinspirationallifestyle.com/blog

The BROJO Online podcast:
https://soundcloud.com/thebrojo

Mike’s blog:
https://www.coachmike.live/

[#211] 21 Unusual Tips to Succeed at EVERYTHING

In this episode, confidence and career coach Angie McQuillin interviews Dan Munro to pick his brain about the topic of manipulation. Dan used to work with psychopathic criminals and was trained by top forensic psychologists to manage manipulation and deception. Today he shares what he learned and how to apply master of manipulation in everyday life, relationships and workplace situations.
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Angie's main website: https://www.angiemcquillin.com/

Angie's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1uE1V6FBBhCK480cVwR9Qw

Email Angie: info@angiemcquillin.com

Join Angie's Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Confidenceforcorporateandbusinessprofessionals/

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Get Dan Munro’s latest book “THE NAKED TRUTH: Using Powerful Honesty to Enhance Your Confidence, Connections and Integrity”:
https://www.brojo.org/pub/the-naked-truth-honesty-confidence-connections-integrity 

If you enjoyed this video, get access to more of BROJO’s content and dozens of confidence-building online courses by joining today. It’s FREE! Learn more here: https://www.brojo.org/join 

BROJO is an international self-improvement community run by coaches Dan Munro and Mike Wells. We are focused on how to build confidence through living with integrity and authenticity. We help Nice Guys discover their masculinity, and we focus on supporting people-pleasers of all types to build confidence, integrity, and deeply connected relationships.

For more personal support, contact Dan & Mike directly with your questions info@brojo.org, or complete an application for a FREE coaching session with a BROJO Coach:
https://www.brojo.org/apply 

BROJO’s Top resources:

The 3X Confidence and Authenticity Masterclass Program [Udemy course]
A complete in-depth guide on how to build your confidence by being authentic and living with integrity, following Dan Munro’s secret 3X Confidence formula.
https://www.udemy.com/course/3x-confidence-and-authenticity-masterclass-programme/?referralCode=E2E2809759BC30A64ED5

Overcome Your Fear of Rejection… Permanently [Udemy course]
Say goodbye to fear of rejection, approach anxiety, and missing out on opportunities. This quick but thorough course will destroy your limiting beliefs around rejection.
https://www.udemy.com/course/overcome-your-fear-of-rejection-permanently/?referralCode=A463BA253FFB91EC62FC

The Legendary Life: Build the Motivation and Confidence to Create an Authentic Lifestyle [book]
Dan’s first book covers a complete blueprint for designing your life in a way that matches your core values, showing you how to overcome fear, set and achieve powerful goals, and build your confidence without needing other people to like you.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00TJFWJSS/

Nothing to Lose: Using Curiosity to Destroy Hesitation, Procrastination and Limiting Beliefs [book]
A philosophical examination of the confident mindset, from a scientific and practical viewpoint. This book will help you decode confidence into a set of beliefs and behaviours that you can control.
https://www.amazon.com/Nothing-Lose-Hesitation-Procrastination-Confidence-ebook/dp/B01MRMJJPU/

Dan’s blog:
https://www.theinspirationallifestyle.com/blog

The BROJO Online podcast:
https://soundcloud.com/thebrojo

Mike’s blog:
https://www.coachmike.live/

[#216] Protect Yourself from Manipulation, with Dan and Angie

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Is it OK for parents to lie to their kids?
Most parents seem to think so (as do other adults), and each has their own lies and justifications that they think are acceptable. And yet, if you were to lie to these parents, they'd feel disrespected and even outraged. So why do parents think it's acceptable to lie to their children, and are they really doing it for the child's benefit... or for their own convenience?
And even more importantly, how does lying impact the child's development, confidence, and quality of life later on?
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If you enjoyed this, get access to more of BROJO’s content and dozens of confidence-building online courses by joining today. It’s FREE! Learn more here: https://www.brojo.org/join 

BROJO is an international self-improvement community run by coaches Dan Munro and Mike Wells. We are focused on how to build confidence through living with integrity and authenticity. We help Nice Guys discover their masculinity, and we focus on supporting people-pleasers of all types to build confidence, integrity, and deeply connected relationships.

For more personal support, contact Dan & Mike directly with your questions info@brojo.org, or complete an application for a FREE coaching session with a BROJO Coach:
https://www.brojo.org/apply 

BROJO’s TOP RESOURCES:

The Nice Guy Recovery Course
A intensive, step by step guide to help Nice Guys and people-pleasers undo their programming and conditioning to become authentic, powerful and confident.
https://menprovementx.com/nice-guy-recovery-101/?sld=danielmunro 

The 3X Confidence and Authenticity Masterclass Program
A complete in-depth guide on how to build your confidence by being authentic and living with integrity, following Dan Munro’s secret 3X Confidence formula.
https://menprovementx.com/3x-confidence-101/?sld=danielmunro

Shamelessness: Total Social Confidence
Say goodbye to the “not good enough” story in your head, and all the social limitations that come from believing it.
https://menprovementx.com/shamelessness-101/?sld=danielmunro

THE NAKED TRUTH: Using Powerful Honesty to Enhance Your Confidence, Connections and Integrity [book]
Discover Dan Munro’s powerful honesty techniques so that you can be authentic and genuine without losing respect:
https://www.brojo.org/pub/the-naked-truth-honesty-confidence-connections-integrity 

Nothing to Lose: Using Curiosity to Destroy Hesitation, Procrastination and Limiting Beliefs [book]
A philosophical examination of the confident mindset, from a scientific and practical viewpoint. This book will help you decode confidence into a set of beliefs and behaviours that you can control.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0B8SR1BXS/ 

Dan’s blog:
https://www.theinspirationallifestyle.com/blog

The BROJO Online podcast:
https://soundcloud.com/thebrojo

Mike’s blog:
https://www.coachmike.live/

[#223] Parents: Do you think it's OK to lie to your kids?

If you enjoyed this podcast, you can buy me a beer! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/danthecoach

Taking something personally means to assume that a critical piece of feedback or an offensive opinion is somehow directly relevant to you, and presents a threat that you need to defend yourself against. Taking it personally is probably the #1 cause of conflict in relationships, the workplace, and particularly online comments sections and conversations.
In this podcast, we explore what taking it personally really is from a psychological/beliefs perspective, and how to change the way you respond to something healthier, more accurate, and more beneficial to your connections and relationships.
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If you enjoyed this, get access to more of BROJO’s content and dozens of confidence-building online courses by joining today. It’s FREE! Learn more here: https://www.brojo.org/join 

BROJO is an international self-improvement community run by coaches Dan Munro and Mike Wells. We are focused on how to build confidence through living with integrity and authenticity. We help Nice Guys discover their masculinity, and we focus on supporting people-pleasers of all types to build confidence, integrity, and deeply connected relationships.

For more personal support, contact Dan & Mike directly with your questions info@brojo.org, or complete an application for a FREE coaching session with a BROJO Coach:
https://www.brojo.org/apply 

BROJO’s TOP RESOURCES:

The Nice Guy Recovery Course
A intensive, step by step guide to help Nice Guys and people-pleasers undo their programming and conditioning to become authentic, powerful and confident.
https://menprovementx.com/nice-guy-recovery-101/?sld=danielmunro 

The 3X Confidence and Authenticity Masterclass Program
A complete in-depth guide on how to build your confidence by being authentic and living with integrity, following Dan Munro’s secret 3X Confidence formula.
https://menprovementx.com/3x-confidence-101/?sld=danielmunro

Shamelessness: Total Social Confidence
Say goodbye to the “not good enough” story in your head, and all the social limitations that come from believing it.
https://menprovementx.com/shamelessness-101/?sld=danielmunro

THE NAKED TRUTH: Using Powerful Honesty to Enhance Your Confidence, Connections and Integrity [book]
Discover Dan Munro’s powerful honesty techniques so that you can be authentic and genuine without losing respect:
https://www.brojo.org/pub/the-naked-truth-honesty-confidence-connections-integrity 

Nothing to Lose: Using Curiosity to Destroy Hesitation, Procrastination and Limiting Beliefs [book]
A philosophical examination of the confident mindset, from a scientific and practical viewpoint. This book will help you decode confidence into a set of beliefs and behaviours that you can control.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0B8SR1BXS/ 

Dan’s blog:
https://www.theinspirationallifestyle.com/blog

The BROJO Online podcast:
https://soundcloud.com/thebrojo

Mike’s blog:
https://www.coachmike.live/

[#225] How to stop taking things personally

Comment below with your opinions on this!

Check out Jacob's YouTube channel here: www.YouTube.com/@thenamelessnarcissist 

And his other links, including options for supporting his work, can be found here: https://linktr.ee/thenamelessnarcissist

Jacob Skidmore, a.k.a The Nameless Narcissist, was officially diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and was aware that something was off since early childhood. Since realising that narcissistic behaviour has damaged his own life as well as harmed others, Jacob has set out on a path of revelation and discovery, looking for a way to live that is more beneficial to both himself and others.
In this fascinating and honest interview, Jacob shares what it's like to be a narcissist, what goes on in his mind, what motivates him and drives him, and what he's hoping to achieve through sharing his struggle with the world.

[#232] Inside the Mind of a Narcissist: Interview with Jacob Skidmore - The Nameless Narcissist

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In the USA, divorce rates are 2.9/1000, meaning that 50% of all marriages end in divorce, averaging about 8 years before they crash. And USA is not even as bad as Russia, Maldives and Canada.
But does this mean that the Red Pill narrative about how marriage is a bad idea for men is accurate?
In India, divorce rates are 0.01/1000, meaning there are almost no divorces. Countries like Italy also do well. So what's really going on here?
In this podcast, we'll carefully examine the real data - scientific evidence - about divorce rates, causes of marriage breakdowns, why every country has a different divorce rate, the truth about concepts like "hypergamy" and lack of commitment.
And more importantly, we'll do what Red Pillers almost never do - look at the 50% of marriages that last a lifetime, and see what those couples are doing differently and what they believe that keeps their relationships solid.

[#236] The Truth About Divorce: An Honest Look at Why 50% of Marriages Fail

In this podcast, I scoured the internet to find the most common arguments against honesty - the justifications for lying, manipulation, and keeping thoughts to yourself. I will address each of them with my counter arguments, including the most powerful cases I've ever seen: hiding Jews from the Nazis, and not telling a child that they're about to die!

[#237] Debunking the Arguments Against Radical Honesty

Introducing the Green Pill approach to dating and relationships

In this podcast episode we’ll discuss about what I’m going to call the “Green Pill” approach to dating and relationships (as opposed to red pill or blue pill ideologies). I’ve named it that because green seems the right colour to signify integrity, growth, and nature / being natural.

So with the Green Pill approach to dating you actually lose the word “dating” altogether because it’s too needy and full of desperation and transactional. It’s a complete paradigm shift away from getting something from other people. Instead, you focus on socializing with integrity. The primary purpose is to impress yourself with valued living. No more seduction techniques, hiding behind texting, sliding into DMs, online dating apps, setting up dates, or going to bars and clubs.

Instead you fill your week with hobbies and activities that fulfil you. You turn everything you love into a social event, and you focus primarily on being as honest and brave and transparent as you can be in those situations, even if it costs you the love of everyone in the room. Rather than trying to “get” people and fit in or make them like you, you take the risk of losing everyone in order to be true to yourself. But at the same time, you don’t sabotage potential connections with avoidant tactics or contrarian disagreeableness. You employ powerful honesty principles to attract the right kind of people and repel the wrong kind, all while primarily focusing on engaging in activities you enjoy.

If the honesty is loved, respected and reciprocated by someone you also like, then you invite them to join you in your life (but you don’t create new events just for them). You keep doing that until you’re only surrounded by the best fit possible people, and of course, your shameless honesty will naturally escalate things romantically as well. ————-

This Green Pill approach is broken down in great detail in my Building Rapport course – you can access this and all my other courses with a free 7 day trial to my paid subscription – DM or email me dan@brojo.org for access

[#238] Beyond Dating: The Green Pill integrity-based approach to finding your ideal partner

In the fantasy series "The Prince of Nothing" and "The Aspect Emperor" by R Scott Bakker, we are introduced to a concept called The Darkness that Comes Before. This describes the unknown place from where our urges and drives and decisions come from, that subconscious part of the brain that really calls the shots.
In this podcast episode, I explore what occurs in that darkness, and how other people get into your mind to control you. We look at how to be sceptical about your own thoughts and feelings and beliefs, in such a way that ensures you make better long-term decisions and prevent others from manipulating you.

[#239] The Darkness That Comes Before: Managing the Manipulation from Your Own Mind

Listen Notes
In this podcast episode, I break down some of the major psychological components that make up Nice Guy Syndrome. NGS is a cluster of different psychological disorders and struggles, and not every Nice Guy is the same. Some of these will apply to you, some won't. This podcast should help you figure out what type of Nice Guy you are, as well as how you should focus your recovery.
We'll talk about Nice Guy Attachment Styles (avoidant and anxious), Nice Guy Narcissism, People Pleasing Syndrome, and comorbidity with ADHD and autism. Then we'll wrap up with looking at a general recovery approach that works for all types.

[#240] Nice Guy Syndrome Psychology: A Complete Review

Introducing Digressions, a virtual reading group organized by the Dig and Haymarket Books. This first session took place on August 3, 2023.

Every session of Digressions will take place three to four weeks after its guest appears on the Dig, and will be broadcast live. A list of suggested readings—including a discount code for any recommended book(s)— will be made available by both Haymarket and the Dig, and participants will also be given a chance to ask their own questions of Digression guests. Click here to learn more about Digressions.

Our first session will be on The Communist Manifesto and its enduring relevance, featuring China Miéville, author of A Spectre Haunting: On The Communist Manifesto.

•Read along by ordering a copy of A Spectre Haunting from Haymarket Books for 40% off the cover price: https://www.haymarketbooks.org/books/...

•If you have questions you'd like to ask China, or Dan, about The Communist Manifesto , A Spectre, Haunting, or their conversation on the Dig, you can submit them in advance using the following form: https://forms.gle/rwQHxyhyrjy7ttdu8

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More about A Spectre, Haunting:

Few written works can so confidently claim to have shaped the course of history as Karl Marx and Friedrich Engels's Manifesto of the Communist Party. Since first rattling the gates of the ruling order in 1848, this incendiary pamphlet has never ceased providing fuel for the fire in the hearts of those who dream of a better world. Nor has it stopped haunting the nightmares of those who sit atop the vastly unequal social system it condemns. In A Spectre, Haunting, award-winning author China Miéville provides readers with a guide to understanding the Manifesto and the many specters it has conjured. Through his unique and unorthodox reading, Miéville offers a critical appraisal and a spirited defense of the modern world’s most influential political document. 
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China Miéville is the multi-award-winning author of many works of fiction and non-fiction. His fiction includes The City and the City, Embassytown and This Census-Taker. He has won the Hugo, World Fantasy, and Arthur C. Clarke awards. His non-fiction includes the photo-illustrated essay London’s Overthrow. He has written for various publications, including the New York Times, the Guardian, Conjunctions and Granta, and he is a founding editor of the quarterly Salvage.

Daniel Denvir is the author of All-American Nativism and the host of The Dig on Jacobin Radio.
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Digressions is sponsored by Haymarket Books and The Dig. While all of our events are freely available, we ask that those who are able make a solidarity donation in support of our important publishing and programming work.

Watch the live event recording: https://youtube.com/live/CN9JJmO2mYY

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Digressions #1: Dan Denvir in conversation with China Miéville

Show notes:

Introduction

Integrity definition
The formula for integrity is core values
By the end, you should know a draft of your values, how to live by them, and what behaviour change you could make today to become a bit more confident

What are core values and why are they important?

Integrity diamond
Start with what they’re not
So what is a core value
Thoughts and feelings don’t count

Core Values Exercise: The Integrity Formula

Integrity builds confidence, integrity is a formula
Values is the ingredients
Value questions
values criteria
Practical definition
Exercise

Core Values List for Confident Integrity: Examples and Definitions

Curiosity
Courage
Honesty
Acceptance
Respect
Responsibility
Giving
Assertiveness
Presence
Generosity
Ruthlessness

Core Values for Business and Career Development

Entrepreneur, owner or an employee
Patience
Responsibility
Honesty
Determination
Generosity
Service
Humility
Assertiveness

7 Core Values for Personal Relationships

Single, dating, or married
Honesty
Curiosity
Respect
Acceptance
Courage
Presence
Assertiveness
Generosity

Core Values for Leadership That Inspires Loyalty

Boss, manager, priest, or head of the family
Courage
Embodied
Curious
Assertive
Service
Ruthless
Responsible
Humility

[#244] Finding Your Integrity: Core Values to Live By

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Being attached to outcomes - results or reactions that are outside of your direct control - causes more suffering than just about anything else you'll ever encounter.

Tragically, you're doing this without needing to!

In this podcast, I explore the concept of having an emotional attachment (a hopeful expectation) to results that you prefer, and why this is both unnecessary and unhelpful when it comes to building self confidence.

We'll explore how to live with integrity and pursue your goals without hoping that things will go "well" and being able to enjoy the process rather than depending on winning.

[#247] Letting Go of Outcomes: Free 90min Confidence Building Webinar

Lecture par l'auteur & Constance Dollé
Entretien mené par Camille Thomine - Interprète : Marguerite Capelle

Patient X est un texte à part dans l’œuvre de David Peace, un livre né du culte qu’il voue à Ryūnosuke Akutagawa (1892-1927), l’un des plus grands auteurs japonais dont l’œuvre phare, Rashomon, a été adaptée au cinéma par Akira Kurosawa. Patient X traverse ainsi la vie de l’écrivain japonais à travers douze nouvelles incarnant différents moments de son existence, depuis sa gestation dans le ventre de sa mère jusqu’à son suicide à l’âge de 35 ans. David Peace sonde tous les états d’âme du poète, des plus lyriques aux plus sombres. En s’inspirant des écrits d’Akutagawa (nouvelles, essais, correspondance), David Peace défie les conventions de la biographie littéraire et compose un singulier et brillant exercice d’admiration, en même temps qu’un bijou pour les amoureux de la littérature et de la culture japonaises.

À lire – David Peace, Patient X, trad. de l’anglais par Jean-Paul Gratias, Rivages, 2024. Ryūnosuke Akutagawa, Les Grenouilles, trad. du japonais par Catherine Ancelot et Silvain Chupin, Cambourakis, 2024

David Peace – Patient X, Le dossier Ryūnosuke Akutagawa

Dan Munro outlines his Philosophy of Integrity in full for the first time.

This philosophy emphasizes individual self-discovery and the absence of rigid rules. Integrity is defined as consistency and honesty, while confidence is described as a deep-seated belief in oneself. The philosophy posits that increasing integrity leads to greater confidence and a better life.

Munro identifies core values as subjective principles guiding your behavior in a way that will improve your confidence and the lives of those around you, such as honesty, courage, and responsibility. He stresses the importance of aligning your everyday actions with your values, continuous adaptation of your values, and the rejection of instant gratification for long-term benefits.

Munro also highlights the influence of various philosophers and thinkers on this philosophy.

At the end, you will get a step by step practical guide for living by with integrity:

Action Items
[ ] Identify your core values.
[ ] Create a guiding principle or definition for each value.
[ ] Test and measure how well you are living by your values, and refine them as needed.
[ ] Treat each day as an opportunity to experiment with living more by your values.
[ ] Use the 3x model of curiosity, honesty, and respect to continuously enhance your wisdom about living with integrity.

[#253] The Philosophy of Integrity: Finding the Meaning of Life Through Confidence Building

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In this episode, we discuss manipulation, defining it as controlling or influencing someone, which can be neutral or malicious depending on intent and outcome.

Manipulation is constant and subjective, occurring when someone changes behavior in response to emotional discomfort. It's vital to start recognizing manipulation by its impact on quality of life and engage in strategies like maintaining original plans, questioning intentions, and being assertive.

We'll look at the importance of endurance and making manipulation uncomfortable for the manipulator.

[#255] On Manipulation: How People Influence and Control You

A no-holds barred responsible look at the toxic nature of "friendzones," how they are created, how they are different from real friendships, and how to prevent them from happening.

[#1] Staying Out Of The Friendzone

Without self-awareness, there is no growth. Most of what you think you know about yourself is false. In this episode we explore psychological tactics that allow you to dive into the subconscious part of your brain, so that you can better understand your decisions and behaviour, and improve this process in the future. Let's explore who you REALLY are, underneath the story you tell yourself.

[#2] Increasing Self Awareness

Your emotional attachment to results and outcomes can destroy your enjoyment of life. Imagine if you just lived for the moment, free from the fear of failure or success. How would it be different? Let's find out..

[#3] Letting Go Of Outcomes

Your fear of rejection probably holds you back socially - and perhaps even in your career - more than anything else. Imagine if it was all in your mind, that rejection didn't exist and you could free yourself from the fear of it. Let's find out how...

[#4] Eliminating Rejection from Your Life

All your life you've been conditioned to believe it's bad to be anxious, afraid or nervous. But what if it's not? What if you're only suffering with anxiety comes from thinking it's bad? Let's look at how anxiety contributes to your life, and how to make the best use of it

[#5] Anxiety Is Awesome

Books on the Bookshelf interview with Paul Hunt.  Covers the story of the disappearance of the Erle Stantley Gardner Museum; the tragic story of Gus Hasford, the man who loved books too much;  legal problems for Booksellers to avoid when buying books from estates; more about BookstoreMemories.com website.

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A podcast about the life, work, and legacy of James Ellroy.

Ellroycast #6 (L. A. Confidential with Tristan Nankervis)

Hosted by Caelainn Hogan, Portals is a special podcast series from ILFDublin that takes listeners beyond their radius, through conversations with a half-dozen writers based across the globe, all of whom were scheduled to read at ILFDublin 2020, prior to its postponement.

In this episode, speaking from Japan, English writer David Peace chats about his latest book 'Patient X' and looks ahead to the publication of the final part of his Tokyo Trilogy in 2021. You can order his books from our festival bookseller, The Gutter Bookshop: http://ilfdublin.com/news/ilfdublin-presents-portals

ILFDublin is an initiative of Dublin City Council and kindly supported by the Arts Council. Visit ilfdublin.com for all the latest festival news and to sign up to our newsletter.

Portals - Episode 4: David Peace with Caelainn Hogan

Treat yourself to a copy of Dan Munro’s new book 
“THE NAKED TRUTH: Using Powerful Honesty to Enhance Your Confidence, Connections and Integrity”
https://www.brojo.org/pub/the-naked-truth-honesty-confidence-connections-integrity 

Building confidence is hard enough as it is, so you don't need to be making it even more challenging by sabotaging your progress through pointless harmful behaviours. In this episode, we look at the most common way that people wreck their own confidence, and how to prevent this from happening.

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[#167] 50 Ways That You Undermine Your Confidence

Are you a Nice Guy or people pleaser looking to build masculine confidence, healthier romantic relationships, and live with integrity? The Brojo podcast, brought to you by Dan Munro (Nice Guy Coach since 2013) will show you how to be more assertive, confident, charismatic and honest without harming others. We cover how to save your marriage, improve your attraction and dating options, and build integrity through living by your core values.

[#239] The Darkness That Comes Before: Managing the Manipulation from Your Own Mind

Brojo: Confidence for Men with Nice Guy Syndrome