Confidence Building Strategies

Radical Honesty: How to Live With Integrity

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Is it OK for parents to lie to their kids?
Most parents seem to think so (as do other adults), and each has their own lies and justifications that they think are acceptable. And yet, if you were to lie to these parents, they'd feel disrespected and even outraged. So why do parents think it's acceptable to lie to their children, and are they really doing it for the child's benefit... or for their own convenience?
And even more importantly, how does lying impact the child's development, confidence, and quality of life later on?
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[#223] Parents: Do you think it's OK to lie to your kids?

In the fantasy series "The Prince of Nothing" and "The Aspect Emperor" by R Scott Bakker, we are introduced to a concept called The Darkness that Comes Before. This describes the unknown place from where our urges and drives and decisions come from, that subconscious part of the brain that really calls the shots.
In this podcast episode, I explore what occurs in that darkness, and how other people get into your mind to control you. We look at how to be sceptical about your own thoughts and feelings and beliefs, in such a way that ensures you make better long-term decisions and prevent others from manipulating you.

[#239] The Darkness That Comes Before: Managing the Manipulation from Your Own Mind

Show notes:

Introduction

Integrity definition
The formula for integrity is core values
By the end, you should know a draft of your values, how to live by them, and what behaviour change you could make today to become a bit more confident

What are core values and why are they important?

Integrity diamond
Start with what they’re not
So what is a core value
Thoughts and feelings don’t count

Core Values Exercise: The Integrity Formula

Integrity builds confidence, integrity is a formula
Values is the ingredients
Value questions
values criteria
Practical definition
Exercise

Core Values List for Confident Integrity: Examples and Definitions

Curiosity
Courage
Honesty
Acceptance
Respect
Responsibility
Giving
Assertiveness
Presence
Generosity
Ruthlessness

Core Values for Business and Career Development

Entrepreneur, owner or an employee
Patience
Responsibility
Honesty
Determination
Generosity
Service
Humility
Assertiveness

7 Core Values for Personal Relationships

Single, dating, or married
Honesty
Curiosity
Respect
Acceptance
Courage
Presence
Assertiveness
Generosity

Core Values for Leadership That Inspires Loyalty

Boss, manager, priest, or head of the family
Courage
Embodied
Curious
Assertive
Service
Ruthless
Responsible
Humility

[#244] Finding Your Integrity: Core Values to Live By

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Being attached to outcomes - results or reactions that are outside of your direct control - causes more suffering than just about anything else you'll ever encounter.

Tragically, you're doing this without needing to!

In this podcast, I explore the concept of having an emotional attachment (a hopeful expectation) to results that you prefer, and why this is both unnecessary and unhelpful when it comes to building self confidence.

We'll explore how to live with integrity and pursue your goals without hoping that things will go "well" and being able to enjoy the process rather than depending on winning.

[#247] Letting Go of Outcomes: Free 90min Confidence Building Webinar

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This episode  discusses the psychology of self-confidence, emphasizing that it can be learned and is not innate.

It outlines 21 traits crucial for building confidence, starting with bravery and courage, which involve facing and expanding past fear. It highlights the importance of radical honesty, assertiveness, and respect, and also stresses the need for self-awareness, curiosity, and optimism. I advice against people-pleasing and encourages ruthlessness when necessary.

This episode promotes a resourceful mindset, emotional stability, and relentless pursuit of long-term goals.

[#250] The 21 Traits of Self Confidence

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This episode discusses the challenges of self-love and acceptance, emphasizing the importance of treating oneself kindly. 

We'll explore the common struggle everyone has with stress, pressure, and societal expectations, which often lead to self-loathing and coping mechanisms like overworking, substance abuse, and people-pleasing.

True self-love involves reducing stress, being kind to oneself, and recognizing your achievements, searching for a balanced approach, free from the extremes of high pressure or complete apathy, looking for self-compassion and realistic expectations.

Practical solutions include reframing thoughts, focusing on controllable aspects, and fostering genuine connections.

[#251] How to Stop Being Hard on Yourself

In this AMA, I answer the following questions about confidence:

What's the best way - strategies, methods - to really get to know myself and like myself?

How can people stop defining themselves - their actions, life view etc. - by the Nice Guy Syndrome ?

Any suggestions and advice for a work confrontation with a colleague who tries to control me?

How to push through with Radical Honesty without backing down when they're resistant?

[#252] Ask Dan Anything! Your Confidence Building Questions Answered

Dan Munro outlines his Philosophy of Integrity in full for the first time.

This philosophy emphasizes individual self-discovery and the absence of rigid rules. Integrity is defined as consistency and honesty, while confidence is described as a deep-seated belief in oneself. The philosophy posits that increasing integrity leads to greater confidence and a better life.

Munro identifies core values as subjective principles guiding your behavior in a way that will improve your confidence and the lives of those around you, such as honesty, courage, and responsibility. He stresses the importance of aligning your everyday actions with your values, continuous adaptation of your values, and the rejection of instant gratification for long-term benefits.

Munro also highlights the influence of various philosophers and thinkers on this philosophy.

At the end, you will get a step by step practical guide for living by with integrity:

Action Items
[ ] Identify your core values.
[ ] Create a guiding principle or definition for each value.
[ ] Test and measure how well you are living by your values, and refine them as needed.
[ ] Treat each day as an opportunity to experiment with living more by your values.
[ ] Use the 3x model of curiosity, honesty, and respect to continuously enhance your wisdom about living with integrity.

[#253] The Philosophy of Integrity: Finding the Meaning of Life Through Confidence Building

Most Nice Guys think anger is a problem—something to suppress or feel ashamed of. But what if anger is actually the key to confidence, assertiveness, and a meaningful life? In this episode, we dive deep into the hidden power of anger and why suppressing it leads to depression, resentment, and passive aggression.

You’ll learn:
🔥 Why Nice Guys struggle with anger and how it sabotages their self-respect
🔥 The real reason you feel stuck, frustrated, or unmotivated
🔥 How to channel anger into confidence, courage, and boundary-setting
🔥 The difference between healthy anger and destructive rage

If you've ever felt like a pushover, struggled to stand up for yourself, or exploded after holding things in too long, this video is for you. Anger isn’t the enemy—it’s your greatest untapped resource. Watch until the end to learn how to express it in a powerful, constructive way.

👉 Comment below: What’s your relationship with anger? Do you suppress it, explode, or use it effectively? Let’s talk.

[#257] You’ve Been Lied to About Anger—How to Use It to Build Confidence

A no-holds barred responsible look at the toxic nature of "friendzones," how they are created, how they are different from real friendships, and how to prevent them from happening.

[#1] Staying Out Of The Friendzone

Without self-awareness, there is no growth. Most of what you think you know about yourself is false. In this episode we explore psychological tactics that allow you to dive into the subconscious part of your brain, so that you can better understand your decisions and behaviour, and improve this process in the future. Let's explore who you REALLY are, underneath the story you tell yourself.

[#2] Increasing Self Awareness

Your emotional attachment to results and outcomes can destroy your enjoyment of life. Imagine if you just lived for the moment, free from the fear of failure or success. How would it be different? Let's find out..

[#3] Letting Go Of Outcomes

Your fear of rejection probably holds you back socially - and perhaps even in your career - more than anything else. Imagine if it was all in your mind, that rejection didn't exist and you could free yourself from the fear of it. Let's find out how...

[#4] Eliminating Rejection from Your Life

All your life you've been conditioned to believe it's bad to be anxious, afraid or nervous. But what if it's not? What if you're only suffering with anxiety comes from thinking it's bad? Let's look at how anxiety contributes to your life, and how to make the best use of it

[#5] Anxiety Is Awesome

Are you a Nice Guy or people pleaser looking to build masculine confidence, healthier romantic relationships, and live with integrity? The Brojo podcast, brought to you by Dan Munro (Nice Guy Coach since 2013) will show you how to be more assertive, confident, charismatic and honest without harming others. We cover how to save your marriage, improve your attraction and dating options, and build integrity through living by your core values.

[#244] Finding Your Integrity: Core Values to Live By

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