When it comes to the philosophy of non-monogamy, there can be a lot of questions: Is it polyamory or an open relationship? Do we have to tell each other about other partners? Is it a relationship or just sex? Today’s episode is all about intimacy and non-monogamy and how people connect and relate to each other in that world, with lots of nuggets that apply to ALL relationships, whether monogamous or not. In today’s episode, I’m breaking this all down with Marcia Baczynski (aka Marcia B.)&nbsp; Do you geek out on consent, communication, intimacy, how we relate to each other and connect, and why we engage in romantic and sexual relationships in the first place? You’re not going to want to miss this episode! In episode 403 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss:  (5:48) The difference between non-monogamy and polyamory (10:28) Important and relevant things to communicate with your partner(s), particularly when you’re in a non-monogamous relationship (and why the complexity of communication grows exponentially—not linearly—in non-monogamous relationships) (12:50) Ethical non-monogamy vs consensual non-monogamy: what’s the difference and do they mean the same thing? (And Marcia’s preferred term here) How do you determine if one non-monogamous relationship is ethical or not? (32:17) Our best tips for living the lifestyle that works the best for YOU (and one really important thing to keep in mind when navigating non-monogamy) (44:08) TWO things that are so important to pay attention to when it comes to your relationships and what to hone in on so that you can get your desires met more often  Slide into my DMs on Instagram: &nbsp; Or slide into Marcia’s DMs on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/askmarciab/) or Twitter () Links:   Buy Marcia’s book,  Learn more about   Learn more about Marcia and her work at her website: &nbsp; Take her upcoming course,  (starting October 26, 2022) Come join me for  Sign up for my  on  Nov 11, 2022!  Books mentioned in this episode:  The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, &amp; Other Adventures by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century by Barbara Carrellas The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Sexual Secrets Every Couple Should Know by Mantak Chia, Maneewan Chia, Douglas Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams Cuffed, Tied, and Satisfied: A Kinky Guide to the Best Sex Ever by JAIYA The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin D.C.

Ep 403: Intimacy in Non-monogamy With Marcia Baczynski

We can feel the divide in the world - on political ideology, public health, and the environment (to name a few!) Is there a way to learn to live together, to resolve the conflict, and to restore relationships? My friend Kerra Bolton is an outstanding journalist & author who has worked as a freelance writer for CNN and is a winner of the NY Times Award for Outstanding Journalism. This week, I invited Kerra to discuss the impact of building community through restorative practices. We are diving into her take on how to build restorative communities and her journey to writing her book. She shares some tips on how to work through violations or ruptures within a community, some powerful learning and what the process of a true restorative practice looks like.&nbsp; You don’t want to miss her refreshing take on the way politics is evolving and playing a role in our culture, and how we can minimize divides through these restorative practices.&nbsp; You know how much we love talking about growth and change on this show - come learn something with me, she has a lot to share! &nbsp; Listen to episode 404 now!  In episode 404 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss:  (3:00) Kerra’s origin story, and how she identifies with Christianity (13:25) Meeting a crazy man who ended up being a visionary (and what he taught her about societal needs) (23:15) What a true restorative practice can look like (some scripted questions to shape the conversation and why there is a need for a facilitator) (35:20) Untangling vaccines, mask mandates, and the political tug-of-war over public health issues&nbsp; (45:14) Politics in relationships - values vs. solutions  &nbsp; For full show notes and links to all the resources and books mentioned in this episode, go to  Slide into my DMs on Instagram: &nbsp; Or slide into Kerra’s DMs on Instagram:

Restorative Practices & Politics in Culture with Kerra Bolton

How can we let sacredness be the medicine for so much that ails us? In life, love, work, and all our relationships? Today we’re diving into sacredness, relational healing, how both can really influence collective and systemic shifts in the world.&nbsp; Are your relationships deeply nourishing? Do they feel supportive and fulfilling? Or are you finding yourself drained from dealing with bad behavior, emotional immaturity, or unhealed trauma? This week, I want to invite you into some deeper thinking & awareness around how you engage with people. Personally, I’ve had to heal and grow a lot in this area with -&nbsp;  Creating better boundaries that honor my relationships and myself Building better communication with the people in my life Lowering my tolerance for bad behavior while ALSO giving people the opportunity to repair poor behaviors And, allowing myself to bring sacredness into everything I do  Ultimately, creating reciprocal, nourishing & supportive relationships is about honoring the inherent sacredness in all of us and honoring the different ways we each love.&nbsp; Join me for this deeper conversation around how you’re engaging with the people in your life and the healing that can be found in honoring and embracing the sacredness of ALL life.&nbsp; In episode 405 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss:  [9:33] Healing from codependency & unearned benefits of the doubt [11:25] Saying NO to bad behavior, emotional immaturity & unhealed trauma responses&nbsp; [14:08] Discerning what is and is NOT your business and eliminating distractions so you can expand your capacity for the things that are in alignment for YOU [17:17] How to tell if your exchanges are generative, regenerative, or reciprocal - and why this matters [20:25] Why you should give the MOST of your energy to THIS kind of relationship [27:50] Embracing sacredness as a way of healing ANYTHING - individually, collectively, or systematically  Slide into my DMs on Instagram: &nbsp; &nbsp; Resources mentioned by Elizabeth in the episode:     .  .

Ep 405: Let Sacredness Be The Medicine

This week, I invited Charlotte Ruth Wilson, a multi-passionate creative and embodiment coach, for a deep and thought-provoking conversation on the distinction between the business of coaching vs. the skills of coaching, the polarity dynamics of feminine and masculine energies, and the role vulnerability & creativity play in our relationships and businesses.&nbsp; We dive into abusive relationships, whether we label ourselves feminists or not, and a conversation around vulnerability (and its effect on your mental and emotional health).&nbsp; Ready to drop into your full expression and feel inspired? You don’t want to miss this powerful conversation with Charlotte! In episode 406 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss:  [8:30] Charlotte’s thoughts on being a Reflective Practitioner and how we can teach ourselves by reflecting [10:15] The powerful ways she is creating space for self-expression on social media [12:52] The business of coaching vs. the skills of coaching - and how to make this distinction! [16:49] Charlotte’s story of being in an abusive relationship and being diagnosed with MS [20:05] Polarity dynamics and an in-depth discussion on masculine and feminine dynamics [22:26] Vulnerability as a form of feminine energy (and the harm this can cause) [29:28] Feminism, compassion and empathy for men, and the dangers of some of the feminine/masculine coaching in our space [38:16] Examining the energy behind your messaging&nbsp; [44:55] Tapping into creativity and how Charlotte started painting again after not being able to walk  &nbsp; Slide into my DMs on Instagram: &nbsp; Or slide into Charlotte’s DMs on Instagram:  Resources mentioned by Elizabeth in the episode:     .  .

Ep 406: Creativity and Self-Expression with Charlotte Ruth Wilson

Today I’m joined by Josie Pickens, organizer, educator, journalist, and culture critic, to discuss how to be a better lover to yourself, others, and explore intimacy in a more expansive way. Josie unpacks the message behind her essay “Party of One” that was featured in , and she describes her journey to being in a primary relationship with herself.&nbsp; We also dive into the juicy healing work that Josie has been doing and the ripple effect that it’s had on her life. We touch on our experiences with non-monogamy and polyamory, and celebrate how younger generations are reimagining what’s possible when it comes to love, dating, and relationships.&nbsp;&nbsp; Don’t miss this conversation with Josie where we dig into how to be more loving people in a world that tries so hard to get us to not be.&nbsp; In episode 407 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss:  [3:18] The healing work Josie’s currently engaging in [11:03] How to allow yourself to live your liberation and be nourished, even within the systems that we live in&nbsp; [15:45] Why feeling ‘enough’ is one of the most abundant feelings in the world&nbsp; [20:38] What distinguishes hoping from wishing [23:50] The connection between curiosity, surprise, and satisfaction&nbsp; [28:57] Limitations on how boys and girls are socialized relationally&nbsp; [38:36] The themes and takeaways from “Party of One” [44:24] What it looks like to be in a primary relationship to yourself&nbsp; [51:37] Why does the goal of any relationship need to be lifelong companionship or marriage? [54:16] Advice for people who have a hard time making decisions from a place of self love or self preservation&nbsp;  &nbsp; Slide into my DMs on Instagram:  Or slide into Josie’s DMs on Instagram: &nbsp;   Resources mentioned by Elizabeth in the episode:     Email us with questions or feedback.

Ep 407: How to Be Better Lovers of Life, Our People and Ourselves with Josie Pickens

In this episode, I sit down with Elisha Halpin, spiritual mentor and embodiment coach, to discuss consistency, playfulness as an adult, and nervous system healing. Elisa illustrates the beauty of a deep regulation journey and exploiting your relationship with curiosity, consistency, and choice. She also shares her interpretation of the initiation with the dark goddess and what it means to be in full flow with yourself.&nbsp; &nbsp; Elisa adds so many rich layers to the ongoing embodiment and expansion discussion that we're always having, so don’t miss this conversation!&nbsp; &nbsp; In episode 408 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss:  [2:44] The joy of slowing down, especially as a person who loves change and transition.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; [11:15] What it looks like to practice consistency in a way that honors who you are.&nbsp; [15:27] Learning how to incorporate more playfulness into your adult life.&nbsp;&nbsp; [20:48] The difference between the cooperative and adaptive aspects of your true personality.&nbsp;&nbsp; [24:46] Noticing when you’re in and out of alignment with your soul.&nbsp; [31:39] How to get into an equal exchange with others.&nbsp;&nbsp; [36:28] Why your own personal healing is essential if you want to make an impact in the world. [41:47] Breaking free from somatic oppression and giving too much power to a modality.&nbsp;&nbsp; [46:21] What’s necessary for nervous system expansion and healing.&nbsp; [48:31] Having a healthy respect for the dark, chaotic life force.&nbsp;  &nbsp; Slide into my DMs on Instagram:  &nbsp; Or slide into Elisha DMs on Instagram: &nbsp; &nbsp; Resources mentioned by Elizabeth in the episode:     Email us with questions or feedback.  &nbsp;  &nbsp;

Ep 408: Embodiment And Nervous System Expansion with Elisha Halpin

My friend Jadah Sellner, author and business mentor, joins me on this episode to talk about the takeaways and creative process behind her latest book, . We discuss what it looks like to detox from hustle culture, lead with love, and embody your own definition of success. This book is a full integration of the masculine and feminine, providing both a practical and holistic point of view on how to avoid burnout and discover more flow in your life. Jadah’s perspective on entrepreneurship and personal development is such a breath of fresh air. I can’t wait for you to hear our conversation and get your copy of She Builds! In episode 409 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss:  [3:24] Setting the standard of inclusive, trauma-informed teachers and mentors.&nbsp;&nbsp; [10:00] Receiving feedback in a constructive way and working through your unconscious biases.&nbsp;&nbsp; [18:13] Jadah’s business philosophy: love over metrics.&nbsp;&nbsp; [22:46] Why is the baseline goal to be a seven-figure business owner?&nbsp; [25:48] What ‘anti-hustle culture’ is all about.&nbsp;&nbsp; [29:57] Embracing your pace and following the seasons of your life.&nbsp;&nbsp; [39:22] Inside-out processing vs. outsourcing your answers and decisions to other people.&nbsp;&nbsp; [46:00] What we learned in Alexandra Franzen's course: &nbsp; [51:38] Jadah’s reflections on the creative writing process.&nbsp;  &nbsp; Slide into my DMs on Instagram:  Or slide into Jadah’s DMs on Instagram: &nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; Resources mentioned by Elizabeth in the episode:     Email us with questions or feedback.

Ep 409: She Builds with Jadah Sellner

To close out this season of the Embodied Podcast, I’m coming to you solo and exploring the power of feeling and dealing with your emotions. I like to think of it as going out on an emotional LIM: literacy, intelligence, and maturity. It’s so important to go back to the fundamentals and dig into what processing your feelings actually means.&nbsp; If you’re engaged with life in a growth-oriented way, this work is invaluable and timeless. Regardless of how enlightened or energetically-aligned you are, life has a way of throwing new challenges and tests at you everyday.&nbsp; Join us back here on January 16th for a new season where we’ll be diving into more healing, joy, and liberation.&nbsp; In episode 410 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss:  [3:39] The difference between feeling and dealing.&nbsp;&nbsp; [8:49] Practicing emotional literacy, intelligence, and maturity.&nbsp;&nbsp; [12:35] Tuning into how your signals and triggers change over time, especially as you engage in more healing work.&nbsp; [18:02] Why I think the feeling and dealing work is beneficial for everyone.&nbsp; [23:50] Quieting the inner critic to make space for more compassion and understanding.&nbsp; [27:13] Feeling this undercurrent of fatigue and the need for rest during this season.&nbsp;  &nbsp; Slide into my DMs on Instagram:  &nbsp; Resources mentioned by Elizabeth in the episode:  &nbsp;  &nbsp;    Email us with questions or feedback  &nbsp;

Ep 410: How To Deal With Your Feelings

To welcome in the new year, I’m covering some liberatory practices that you can incorporate into your routine life for a more expansive year. There are three words and a phrase that I’m using to guide my intentions and decisions in 2023 - unapologetic, unbothered, soft, and #ScrubFree. In this episode, I unpack what all of that means to me and how I plan on channeling that energy in all areas of my life.&nbsp; &nbsp; As always, you’re invited to take what resonates for you and ditch anything that doesn’t! &nbsp; In episode 411 of the Embodied Podcast, we discuss: (2:00) The interconnected nature of expansion and acceptance&nbsp; (3:47) How do we know if the work that we're doing on ourselves is really contributing to collective healing and liberation? (6:58) Why I love the saying, “May this be for the benefit of all beings” (12:58) Tapping into the expanded expression and embodiment of being unapologetic&nbsp; (13:36) The different layers of unbothered and how it differs from triggerable&nbsp; (16:58) Recognizing where I want to soften my edges and let go of things that aren’t mine to hold (21:36) Applying a #ScrubFree policy to every area of my life&nbsp; (24:32) Developing genuine self-awareness, especially around how you label yourself (27:28) What to expect from the next couple of episodes&nbsp; &nbsp; Slide into my DMs on Instagram:  &nbsp; Resources mentioned by Elizabeth in the episode:  &nbsp;   Email us with questions or feedback.  &nbsp;

Ep 411: Liberatory Practices For An Expansive Year - Part I

One of the most liberating elements of my life has been working through the fears that have been conditioned into me about needing to look a certain way in order to be desired, loved, and worthy. Gaining weight and embracing the tremendous amount of wisdom in my body has transformed every aspect of my life.&nbsp;&nbsp; In this episode, I invite you to approach your body like it's the complex and miraculous thing it is. I unpack some of my thoughts on common body neutrality messaging, skewed beauty standards, and what I’ve learned on this journey to becoming my most joyful, voluptuous self.&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; In episode 412 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss:&nbsp; (2:41) Recapping what liberatory practices are and how we can use them to create a more expansive year (and life)&nbsp; (5:19) Body positivity and body neutrality phrases that I deeply disagree with&nbsp; (10:19) Examining the programming that makes you resent your body, or resist closeness with it, or judge other people's bodies&nbsp; (12:43) Why we need to stop looking at exceptions and treating them like norms or ideals&nbsp; (14:52) My stance on cosmetic surgery&nbsp; (17:01) A look into my nearly decade-long experience gaining weight and dismantling my beliefs about my body&nbsp;&nbsp; (20:28) Getting back into dating and realizing that we're all somebody's ideal&nbsp; &nbsp; Slide into my DMs on Instagram: &nbsp; &nbsp; Resources mentioned in the episode:&nbsp;   &nbsp;&nbsp;  &nbsp;&nbsp;  &nbsp;&nbsp;  &nbsp;  &nbsp;  &nbsp;  &nbsp;  &nbsp;&nbsp;  Email us with questions or feedback.&nbsp;   &nbsp;

Ep 412: You Don't Have To Love Your Body To Liberate It

Known for her raw, honest, and grounded approach to self help and spirituality, Elizabeth DiAlto is an Integrative Spiritual counselor, creator of Wild Soul Movement, an author, and the host of the popular Truth Telling with Elizabeth DiAlto podcast. She’s been a teacher, leader, speaker, coach and trainer to groups and individuals for 15+ years in three different industries.
Elizabeth works with women internationally through her digital programs and speaking engagements and more intimately through in-person intensives, retreats, workshops, Wild Soul Movement™ teacher training, and occasional one-on-one engagements. Her greatest mission in this life is to help those who identify as women worldwide to reclaim and redefine their own womanhood, and contribute to a new paradigm of culture where it is both safe and natural for women to love, trust, and accept themselves fully.
In 2013, Shape Magazine listed her alongside Dr Oz, Ellen, Jillian Michaels, Tim Ferriss and more as a Top 30 Motivator. She has written for and been featured in Marie Claire, New York Magazine, SELF, Shape, The Huffington Post, US News and Health Report, Yahoo! News and many more. Before developing the current work she does with women, Elizabeth was a nationally-ranked Sales Rep and District Manager for Vector Marketing (with over $1 million in sales to her credit), a certified personal trainer, group exercise instructor and nutrition coach. She’s a Reiki Master, has completed Energy Mastery trainings with Energetic Solutions, and is an avid student of many spiritual traditions and sacred lineages.
Aside from being a prolific creator and community builder, she’s an insatiable learner and a sensualist who loves spas, bathtubs, dancing (especially salsa!), reading, traveling, spending time in nature, and she has a laugh that has been described as, “a sound bath of sunshine and JOY.”

Ep 407: How to Be Better Lovers of Life, Our People and Ourselves with Josie Pickens

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