Because our brains are "wired" on default to look for the negative, feeling more joy in life isn't an automatic process. It requires focus and intention and practice.&nbsp; First, we have to recognize what is STEALING our joy.&nbsp; And neutralize these "joy thieves". Listen to a replay of episode 11 to hear the many human ways we all let joy be stolen from us. And hear Heidi explain HOW to increase our joy - in small and big ways. A joyful mother (who also feels the negative) is the greatest gift to her family!

Ep 180 (Best of) How To Feel More Joy

Humans are like magnets.&nbsp; Something in our make-up attracts or repels certain people. I believe OUR VIBE or our energy attracts certain people, certain successes, and certain failures in our life. And our VIBE repels others. Our vibe includes our nervous system - how we hold our body, the words we use, our mannerisms, how we dress, act, don't act, how we talk about ourselves and others. This is the energy we put into the world. And energy follows energy. Listen to this replay of one of the most downloaded episodes to hear how to identify and change anything about your VIBE that isn't how you want your life to look. Goodness and confidence are out there. Now let's attract more of this into our lives!

Ep. 181 (Best Of) Our Vibe Attracts Our Tribe

It sounds like a kind desire to have towards others - wanting them to be happy and feel good. This desire works... until it doesn't and this thought becomes toxic and creates stress (in us and them). And disconnects us from the people we love most who experience human and negative experiences. When others are sad, grieving, disappointed and more, they don't need us to tell them we really want them to be happy.&nbsp; (If we do this, they don't want to be around us - which is usually the opposite of what we want.) They need us to witness their negativity, they need validation and support. They don't need "fixing", which is what it feels like (unintentionally!) when we want everyone to be happy. Ironically, as we sit with others in their negativity, they naturally feel "better" because they feel seen and loved. Which is what we all want anyway. Listen to episode 182 to hear the reasons why we don't want people to be happy all the time and how to create more humanity and love in our relationships.

Ep. 182 (Best of) Wanting Others To Be Happy

Our life made up for billions of moments/experiences and each experience has three layers:  The actual experience. Our awareness of the experience. The story or meaning we create about the experience.  Listen to episode 183 as Heidi Benjaminsen shares and breaks down several experiences of her life into these three layers. You'll learn that actual experiences only last a short period of time.&nbsp; Heidi teaches how having the awareness inside our body helps us feel any emotion and know it will pass in time.&nbsp; Being able to handle any emotion allows us to stay in our lane and stay calm and anchored. Heidi shares how we are shaped most in life by the third layer, the stories we tell about each experience.&nbsp; She teaches how to make meaning in our life that will create the life experiences we really want. Would you like to know how to calmly handle the silence when your college student doesn't reply to texts or calls?&nbsp;

Ep. 183 Three Layers of an Experience

A friend told me she was sad and asked if she could call me.&nbsp; Episode 184 is step by step how I validated, witnessed and helped her process her sadness. We will all feel sad, it is a normal human emotion. The skill of zooming in and seeing the sad is what helps all of us get to the other side of the sadness. Listen to hear what color her sadness was and where she felt it in her body. She now knows how to love and care for the sadness when it comes back. This is a must listen for all parents, friends, spouses and humans who want to connect more with other humans. A confident mother is the greatest gift to her family!

Ep. 183 Three Layers of an Experience

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