When I saw this quote from Eckhart Tolle that I opened the podcast with, it really hit me. It hit me so hard that it inspired thoughts to spew out of me that I felt would be very pertinent to so many.

It is so important to remember that we are not our emotions. I realized that a couple of weeks ago, I fell prey to personifying the way I was feeling. I began to identify with it. I felt like it was part of me. I had forgotten that feelings come and go. Just because I was sad, did not mean I was a sad person and it would last forever. 

I see this all of the time with my clients. Narrative therapy is what I will often use to try to objectify and separate those feelings from the identity. When a person says they are anxious or have anxiety, it has become part of their identity. It has become something that has been felt so consistently that it is now a part of the subconscious and is a way of life. Narrative therapy suggests to separate these entities by objectifying them. For example, labeling feelings of anxiety and painting them into a character such as "the old lady" or whatever. That way, you can ask when they remember "the old lady" first showing up. Can you see how this can begin to separate emotions from idenity?

Join me in this podcast and listen to some practical examples of how this occurs and 3 steps that will help to combat identifying so much with our emotions. 

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Just Because you're Bored doesn't Mean you're Boring

The Family Matters Podcast is a Mental Health podcast for anyone who is rebuilding, stretching, or growing from struggle in any way. This podcast has expanded to include not just those going through divorce, but going through any difficult adjustment in life. In this podcast, we talk about all things family from children, parenting, marriage, divorce, and becoming our best selves. Welcome to those who are ready to turn the corner and grow real emotional resiliency from adversity.