Thais and Christine talk about what exactly "limerence" is and how it is different from the infatuation&nbsp;stage of a relationship. We go deep into what caused it and how we can get out of it.&nbsp; &nbsp; Thais Gibson has a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in modalities such as CBT, NLP, somatic experiencing, internal family systems, and shadow work. She has nearly a decade of experience running a successful private practice. This diverse background has culminated in creating Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory™, an innovative framework uniting traditional attachment theory, developmental psychology insights, and potent subconscious reprogramming techniques that are woven throughout the course material within The Personal Development School, taught within our innovative coach training program and in her most recent book, Learning Love.  You can get 25% off the price of enrollment at The Personal Development School () if you use the promo code christine25off&nbsp;

CC: Is it infatuation or Limerence with Thais Gibson

CC: See you in September!

In this episode of “Over It and On With It,” Christine Hassler coaches Sarah, who struggles with the complexities of a relationship that appears both deeply meaningful and deeply troubling. Sarah's situation involves a partner who alternates between emotional closeness and sudden, unexplained withdrawal, triggering Sarah's abandonment fears. Christine helps Sarah recognize the unhealthy patterns and offers guidance on finding the strength to set necessary boundaries. Christine's compassionate yet direct approach aims to support listeners who may find themselves rationalizing toxic behaviors in their relationships due to unresolved childhood wounds. Consider/Ask Yourself:  Do you find yourself attracted to relationships that cause you significant stress and anxiety? Are you making excuses for someone's unhealthy behavior because of their past trauma or because they express emotions sincerely? Did you grow up in a household where you felt neglected or unloved, leading you to accept less than you deserve in relationships? Do you struggle with setting firm boundaries and often talk yourself into staying in relationships that don't serve you? Are you ready to take bold actions to change unhealthy patterns in your relationships?  The Guest's Key Insights &amp; A-HA's:  Sarah's intense connection with her partner is rooted in unresolved childhood abandonment issues, making her more tolerant of behaviors like ghosting and emotional withdrawal. Despite the partner's ability to articulate emotions, his repeated blocking and disappearing acts are red flags that&nbsp;cannot be overlooked. Christine highlights the importance of evaluating how someone handles stress and whether they take responsibility for their triggers and actions. The episode underscores the necessity of setting clear boundaries and recognizing when a relationship is unhealthy, regardless of the depth of emotional connection.  How to Get Over It &amp; On With It:  Acknowledge and address the old childhood wounds influencing your tolerance for unhealthy behaviors in relationships. Practice emotional and physical grounding techniques to reconnect with your sense of self-worth and power. Seek out trauma-informed therapy or coaching to work through past wounds in a supportive and healthy environment. Establish firm boundaries and recognize that justifying toxic behaviors is a coping strategy rooted in past trauma. Affirm your worthiness of love and respect, and take bold actions to protect your emotional well-being.  Upcoming Events:  Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat at the end of September 2024.&nbsp;Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at .  Social Media + Resources:         Email: jill@christinehassler.com&nbsp;— For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

EP 463: Stop Talking Yourself into an Unhealthy Relationship with Sarah

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Angela, who is struggling to connect with her inner child while grappling with anxiety. Angela's journey is marked by a history of complex PTSD, making it difficult for her to feel safe within her own body.&nbsp; Christine guides Angela in understanding that instead of trying to manage or eliminate anxiety, she can transform her relationship with it by embracing it with compassion and care. Through a powerful coaching session, Christine helps Angela uncover the underlying fears and beliefs fueling her anxiety. The session emphasizes the importance of being present, acknowledging inner feelings, and nurturing oneself in moments of discomfort. Consider/Ask Yourself:  Do you spend a lot of time, energy, and effort trying to manage or eliminate emotions like anxiety? Have you experienced complex PTSD or other traumas that have left you feeling disconnected from your body? Do you feel overwhelmed with fear when stepping out of your comfort zone or putting yourself out there? Have you connected with the younger parts of yourself and provided them with a sense of safety and belonging in your current life?  The Guest's Key Insights &amp; A-HA's:  Angela's anxiety is deeply rooted in her childhood trauma and complex PTSD, leading her to feel unsafe in her own body. By observing and communicating with her anxiety, Angela begins to understand that it is a part of her, but not all of her. Christine demonstrates the power of separating oneself from overwhelming emotions, which can help one regain a sense of control and calm. The coaching session highlights the importance of nurturing inner parts of oneself, primarily when those parts are related to past traumas and fears.  How to Get Over It &amp; On With It:  Begin to view anxiety not as something to eliminate but as a part of you that needs understanding and compassion. Practice grounding techniques and self-soothing methods to help your nervous system feel safe in the present moment. Consider using the empty chair technique to separate yourself from anxiety and other overwhelming emotions, creating a dialogue that helps you manage them better. Embrace all parts of yourself, especially those that feel scared or vulnerable, and bring them into the present where they can feel safe and seen.  Upcoming Events:  Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat at the end of September 2024.&nbsp;Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at .  Social Media + Resources:         Email: jill@christinehassler.com&nbsp;— For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

EP 464: Transform Your Relationship with Anxiety Rather than Trying to Get Rid of It with Angela

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Cassandra, who struggles with indecision. She often feels stuck, drifting through various aspects of her life rather than fully committing. At 39 years old, Cassandra is beginning to confront the deep-rooted patterns that have held her back, stemming from a traumatic and dysfunctional childhood. Christine helps Cassandra understand that her indecision is not a personal flaw but a survival strategy developed during her chaotic upbringing. Through their coaching session, Christine encourages Cassandra to reconnect with her inner child, offering her the safety and nurturing she never received as a child, which is crucial for healing and moving forward with clarity and purpose. &nbsp; Consider/Ask Yourself:  Do you struggle to make decisions, often feeling stuck or paralyzed by overthinking? Have you had a chaotic or traumatic childhood that makes it difficult for you to trust yourself and others? Do you often find yourself drifting through life, unsure what you truly want or how to commit to it? Can you communicate your needs openly or bottle up emotions until they explode?  The Guest's Key Insights &amp; A-HA's:  Cassandra's indecision and drifting are deeply rooted in her childhood trauma, where she felt trapped and unsafe. Christine highlights that Cassandra's struggle is not about a lack of decision-making ability but rather a lack of self-trust and safety. By reconnecting with her inner child and practicing self-compassion, Cassandra can begin to break free from the patterns that keep her stuck. The coaching session underscores the importance of nurturing oneself and creating a safe space for personal growth and decision-making.  How to Get Over It &amp; On With It:  Begin to see indecision not as a flaw but as a survival mechanism that can be transformed through self-compassion and nurturing. Practice reconnecting with your inner child by providing the safety and love you needed growing up. Communicate your needs clearly and honestly in your relationships, even if it initially feels uncomfortable. Create small, actionable steps towards the life you envision, focusing on integration rather than over-analysis.  Show Sponsor: This week's episode is sponsored by . Organifi offers a line of organic superfood blends that provide plant-based nutrition, high-quality ingredients, and less than three grams of sugar. One of Christine's favorites is the Red Juice, a delicious superfood berry blend packed with adaptogens, antioxidants, and a clinical dose of cordyceps. It's a perfect alternative to coffee, promoting energy without caffeine and supporting your overall health. You can get 20% off all Organifi orders by visiting  or using the promo code "OVERIT" at checkout. Upcoming Events:  Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat will be held at the end of September 2024 in Austin, Texas. Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at .  Social Media + Resources:         Email: jill@christinehassler.com&nbsp;— For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

EP 465: Why You're Drifting Instead of Committing with Cassandra

I am thrilled to share with you the parenting expert whose work I resonate the most with. No matter how old your children are, this is a must listen! Janet Lansbury’s parenting advice () is quoted and shared by millions of readers worldwide. Inspired by her mentor Magda Gerber, Janet popularized “respectful parenting” and is the author of two bestselling books,&nbsp;and&nbsp;.&nbsp;Janet is also the creator and host of “Janet Lansbury Unruffled,” one of the most downloaded parenting podcasts on the web and recommended listening by&nbsp;The Washington Post, New York Times, The Cut, USA Today&nbsp;and more. &nbsp;

CC: Respectful Parenting with Janet Lansbury

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Tina, who struggles with fear and doubt regarding her dreams of finding a partner and starting a family.&nbsp; At 41, Tina has done significant personal work to connect with herself and remain grounded in her feminine energy. However, she often experiences panic and doubt, mainly when influenced by external messages about age and time. Through their coaching session, Christine helps Tina explore the root causes of her panic and teaches her how to form a deeper connection with her inner child. This approach enables Tina to navigate her fears more effectively and stay aligned with her desires. Christine explains that Tina's fear and panic are not just obstacles but are rooted in protective mechanisms formed in her childhood. By addressing these fears with compassion and understanding, Tina can move past them and create space for her dreams to manifest. Consider/Ask Yourself:  Do you sometimes believe in your dreams but get pulled off course by doubt and fear? Do you panic when doubt and fear arise, thinking you're sabotaging your desires? Have you done personal work but still find specific patterns, like fear or doubt, that are&nbsp;hard to change? Do you have a deep, nurturing connection with the younger parts of yourself?  The Guest's Key Insights &amp; A-HA's:  Tina's fear and doubt&nbsp;are deeply connected&nbsp;to her inner child, who experienced instability and uncertainty in her early years. Christine identifies that Tina's panic is a form of protection, a response she developed to feel safe when her environment was unpredictable. By acknowledging and communicating with her inner child, Tina can begin to alleviate her fears and doubts, allowing her to stay aligned with her dreams. The coaching session emphasizes the importance of developing a deeper relationship with oneself, especially the parts that feel fear, doubt, and insecurity.  How to Get Over It &amp; On With It:  Recognize that fear and doubt are not signs of failure but messages from parts of yourself that need care and attention. Develop a consistent practice of checking in with your inner child or younger self, offering reassurance and understanding. Allow yourself to feel your emotions fully without rushing to fix or change them. This will create a more authentic and healing experience. Integrate new, supportive beliefs by connecting with your inner child and affirming that you are safe and supported in your journey.  Show Sponsor:&nbsp;This week's episode&nbsp;is sponsored&nbsp;by Air Doctor. Air Doctor provides a range of air purifiers designed to remove up to 99.99% of harmful pollutants from your indoor air, including allergens, dust mites, mold spores, and bacteria. With people spending 90% of their time indoors, ensuring clean air is crucial for health and well-being. Air Doctor's purifiers offer a powerful solution to maintain high air quality, especially in environments with increased indoor pollutants. Visit&nbsp; and use promo code "OVERIT"&nbsp;to receive up to $300 off and a free three-year warranty on your purchase. Take control of your indoor air quality with Air Doctor today! Upcoming Events:  Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat will&nbsp;be held&nbsp;at the end of September 2024 in Austin, Texas. Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at&nbsp;.  Social Media + Resources:         Email: jill@christinehassler.com&nbsp;— For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

Episode 466: How to Deal with the Fear and Doubt that Comes Up in Regards to Your Dreams with Tina

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Marcus, who is grappling with the emotional aftermath of a breakup. Marcus has a long-standing pattern of being the dependable "rock" everyone can rely on, but this role costs him dearly in his relationships. During their coaching session, Christine helps Marcus see how his childhood experiences, particularly taking on the role of the "man of the house" from a young age, have influenced his adult relationships. Marcus often finds himself in situations where he is taking care of others' emotional needs at his own expense, leaving him feeling depleted and unsupported. Christine explains that this dynamic stems from childhood coping mechanisms where Marcus learned that being responsible and reliable would earn him love and acceptance. By recognizing these patterns and setting healthier boundaries, Marcus can start to prioritize his own needs and break free from the caretaker role that has dominated his life. Consider/Ask Yourself:  Do you find yourself being the rock for everyone in your life but feel like no one is there for you? Are you struggling to set boundaries because you fear disappointing others? Do you often feel emotionally drained because you always put others' needs before yours? Can you identify patterns from your childhood that may be influencing your current relationships?  The Guest's Key Insights &amp; A-HA's:  Marcus's need to be the dependable one comes from his childhood experience of having to take care of his mother after his father left, making him feel responsible for others from a young age. Christine identifies that Marcus's pattern of being the caretaker has left him feeling like he has no one to rely on in return, perpetuating feelings of loneliness and exhaustion. By acknowledging these childhood influences, Marcus can start to shift his mindset and create space for relationships that also meet his needs. The coaching session emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and learning to be comfortable saying “no,” even when it might disappoint others.  How to&nbsp;Get Over It &amp; On With It:  Please recognize that you don't have to be the rock for everyone; it's okay to need support yourself. Start setting boundaries in your relationships to protect your energy and emotional well-being. Practice saying “no” lovingly that honors your needs and respects your limits. Understand that it's healthy to have reciprocal relationships where support is mutual rather than one-sided.  Show Sponsor:&nbsp;This week's episode&nbsp;is sponsored&nbsp;by .&nbsp; AquaTru offers a range of water purifiers that use a four-stage reverse osmosis process to remove up to 15 times more contaminants than typical pitcher filters. Their purifiers require no installation and help ensure&nbsp;that you&nbsp;and your family drink the cleanest water possible.&nbsp; For a limited time, listeners can receive 20% off any  purifier by visiting  and entering promo code "OVERIT"&nbsp;at checkout. AquaTru also offers a 30-day money-back guarantee.&nbsp; Start drinking healthier water today! Upcoming Events:  Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat will occur in late September 2024 in Austin, Texas. Register now at .  Social Media + Resources:         Email: jill@christinehassler.com&nbsp;— For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

EP 467: How Being the One That Everyone Can Count on Is Costing You with Marcus

In this episode of&nbsp;Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler coaches Charlotte, a woman grappling with feelings of unworthiness and a deep-seated fear of being seen. Charlotte's inner struggle stems from a belief that she does not deserve love and attention, which leads her to hide her true self in many of her relationships. During the coaching session, Christine helped Charlotte uncover how her childhood experiences of growing up with siblings with special needs and feeling responsible for minimizing her own needs contributed to her pattern of people-pleasing. This has resulted in Charlotte often putting others before herself, even to her detriment. Christine guides Charlotte to understand that this pattern, which was once a coping mechanism, no longer serves her as an adult, especially in her role as a mother. As they work through these deep emotions, Christine helps Charlotte recognize the importance of self-love, boundaries, and allowing herself to be seen and supported rather than always being the one to please others. Consider/Ask Yourself:  Do you often feel like you are not deserving of love or attention? Do you have difficulty receiving love and support, even though you crave it? Are you prone to people-pleasing and putting others' needs above your own? Can you identify patterns from your childhood that influence how you show up in your relationships today?  The Guest's Key Insights &amp; A-HA's:  Charlotte's belief that she doesn't deserve love stems from her childhood, where she felt she needed to make things easier for her family, especially her mother, who had other children with special needs. Christine helps Charlotte realize that her habit of being "low maintenance"&nbsp;and avoiding taking up space prevents her from fully experiencing love and connection in her adult relationships. By identifying this belief and the behaviors it drives, Charlotte can start to reclaim her sense of worth and build relationships where her needs&nbsp;are met, too. The session emphasizes the importance of healing old wounds, setting boundaries, and embracing self-worth.  How to Get Over It &amp; On With It:  Acknowledge that you are just as deserving of love and attention as anyone else. Begin setting boundaries that protect your emotional well-being and ensure your needs&nbsp;are met. Practice receiving love and support without guilt or fear of being a burden. Reframe any childhood beliefs that make you feel less worthy of care and attention.  Upcoming Events:  Christine Hassler's retreat is in Austin, Texas, in late September 2024. Register now at&nbsp;.  Social Media + Resources:         Email: jill@christinehassler.com&nbsp;— For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

EP 468: What Believing You Don't Deserve Love Is Costing You with Charlotte

Kelly Brogan, M.D. is a holistic psychiatrist, author of the NY Times Bestselling book, A Mind of Your Own, Own Your Self, the children’s book, A Time For Rain, and co-editor of the landmark textbook, Integrative Therapies for Depression. She is the founder of the online healing program Vital Mind Reset, and the membership community, Vital Life Project. She completed her psychiatric training and fellowship at NYU Medical Center after graduating from Cornell University Medical College, and has a B.S. from M.I.T. in Systems Neuroscience. She is specialized in a root-cause resolution approach to psychiatric syndromes and symptoms. Learn more at

CC: The Reclaimed Woman with Dr. Kelly Brogan

In this episode of&nbsp;Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler coaches Marla, a professional singer who bravely shares her experience of being publicly shamed and attacked after performing the national anthem at a major rugby event.&nbsp; Marla opens up about the intense wave of negative reactions she received from the press and social media, as well as the personal toll it took on her and her daughter. Christine helps Marla process the deep wounds this experience triggered, drawing connections to childhood trauma and longstanding beliefs of unworthiness and fear of rejection. Through the coaching session, Christine guides Marla to reclaim her voice and inner power, emphasizing the importance of healing from past trauma and addressing limiting beliefs that may have reinforced feelings of shame and isolation. Marla's journey is a powerful example of how, even in the face of overwhelming negativity, we can find strength, regain our self-worth, and take a stand for ourselves. Consider/Ask Yourself:  Have you ever felt attacked, bullied, or shamed in your personal life or public spaces? Do you struggle with feelings of rejection or fear of judgment? Are there wounds from your childhood that still influence how you handle criticism or rejection today? How do you respond when&nbsp;you're unfairly criticized? Do you retreat or stand up for yourself?  The Guest's Key Insights &amp; AHA's:  Marla shares how being publicly shamed reignited deep fears of rejection and criticism that date back to her childhood. Christine helps Marla understand that her experience is not just a random occurrence but a reflection of longstanding limiting beliefs&nbsp;that are&nbsp;ready to be healed. Marla recognizes the importance of expressing her feelings and standing up for herself, not only in the present moment but also for her inner child, who was silenced in the past. The session highlights how reclaiming our voice, even in the face of fear, is a powerful way to shift&nbsp;out of victimhood and into&nbsp;empowerment.  How to Get Over It &amp; On With It:  Acknowledge the feelings of hurt and rejection that may arise when you're attacked or criticized, but don't allow them to define you. Revisit any limiting beliefs from your past that may contribute to how you perceive criticism or bullying. Practice giving voice to your feelings and standing up for yourself, even when difficult. Remember that reclaiming your voice and power is a process—allow yourself to move through the emotions and find strength in your vulnerability.  Sponsor:  Caraway Cookware: Christine loves Caraway's non-toxic, chemical-free cookware. Check out their selection and get an exclusive 10% discount by visiting and using promo code "OVERIT" at checkout.  Upcoming Events:  Christine Hassler's retreat is in Austin, Texas, in late September 2024. This immersive experience offers a deep dive into healing, self-awareness, and nervous system recalibration. Register now at&nbsp;.  Social Media + Resources:         Email: jill@christinehassler.com&nbsp;— For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

EP 469: How to Handle Being Attacked, Bullied, Shamed, Criticized, or Ostracized with Marla

Christine Hassler is an author, life coach and speaker who is known for inspiring radical self-reflection with practical direction. Christine is the author of two best selling books and is currently working on her third entitled: "Expectation Hangovers®  - How to Leverage Disappointment.” She’s appeared on: The Today Show, CNN, ABC, CBS, FOX, E!, Style, and The New York Times.  Christine is a spokesperson for American Express Millennial Advocacy Program and serves on the faculty at the University of Santa Monica teaching programs in Spiritual Psychology.

CC: Is it infatuation or Limerence with Thais Gibson

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