Steven Kessler has been a licensed psychotherapist, studying many different healing modalities and maps of personality, including Character Structure, the Enneagram, NLP, energy work, Thought Field Therapy, and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques). He is a certified EFT Expert &amp; Trainer. Steven has also spent many years studying the evolution of human consciousness. His bestselling book, The 5 Personality Patterns, deepens the insights of character structure and, for the first time, presents its map of the human personality to the general public. Many people claim that reading it has been a life-changing experience, which has enabled them to finally understand both themselves and others. On this podcast we talk about his newest book, How to Have Better Relationships, which teaches the skills you need and actions to take to connect better with others based on the 5 personality patterns. You can access Steven's first interview where we dive deeper into the 5 personality patterns:&nbsp; and his books and courses:&nbsp;

CC: The KEY to Healthy and Fulfilling Relationships

In this insightful coaching session, Christine Hassler helps Venus navigate deep emotional wounds related to past relationships. Venus struggles with feelings of being replaced and not being chosen, which stem from childhood neglect, abuse, and enmeshment. She finds herself caught in patterns of comparison and pain over an ex possibly moving on with someone else. Together, Christine and Venus unpack these core wounds, working toward reclaiming empowerment, self-worth, and emotional sovereignty. This episode is for anyone who has ever felt stuck in the past, struggled with self-worth after a breakup, or wants to heal old relationship wounds at the root level. &nbsp; Consider/Ask Yourself:  Are you still emotionally attached to an ex, even though you know you were incompatible? Do you struggle with feelings of being replaced or not chosen? Have childhood wounds influenced your relationships, making love feel like dependency or codependency? Are you trying to “pray away” pain instead of working through it? How can you shift from a fear-based desire for validation to true self-empowerment?  &nbsp; Key Insights and A-HAs:  The pain of feeling replaced often stems from deeper childhood wounds of neglect or not being chosen. Healing is a process that requires presence, patience, and self-compassion—there’s no quick fix. Breaking patterns of comparison and self-judgment is crucial for self-empowerment. Taking up space, moving energy through the body, and developing personal sovereignty help break cycles of emotional pain. The shift from being disempowered to reclaiming choice is the core of deep healing.  &nbsp; How to Get Over It &amp; On With It:  Recognize disempowering thought patterns and actively redirect them. Use empowering language—instead of asking, “Why did this happen to me?” reframe it as, “What am I choosing at this moment?” Engage in movement and expression—dance, sing, walk, or scream into a pillow to release stored emotional energy. Practice self-acknowledgement—celebrate progress rather than focusing on how far you still need to go. Trust the process—deep healing doesn’t happen overnight, but consistent efforts make a lasting impact.  &nbsp; Social Media + Resources:         Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

EP 492: How to Heal Old Wounds With Exes, With Venus

In this deeply personal and transformative episode, Christine Hassler coaches Sara through the difficult journey of self-forgiveness. Many of us have experienced the weight of regret—dwelling on decisions we wish we had made differently and struggling to let go of the past. This episode offers a path toward healing, self-acceptance, and true forgiveness. Christine helps Sara navigate the emotions of guilt, self-judgment, and the pressure to "fix" herself, while also uncovering the deeper wounds that have shaped her self-worth. Together, they explore the impact of childhood conditioning, the importance of self-compassion, and how to break free from patterns of self-criticism. This coaching session is a powerful reminder that we are not defined by our mistakes and that true self-love means embracing all parts of ourselves—even the ones we struggle to accept. &nbsp; Consider/Ask Yourself:  Are you holding onto self-judgment for something you’ve done? Do you find it easier to forgive others than to forgive yourself? Have you ever attached your self-worth to external validation, such as your appearance or achievements? Are you ready to let go of shame, guilt, and regret, and embrace self-compassion instead?  &nbsp; Key Insights and A-HAs:  Many of the “mistakes” we regret are actually opportunities for growth. Forgiveness is not about condoning what happened, but about freeing yourself from self-punishment. Our childhood experiences shape our self-image—but we have the power to rewrite our story. True healing begins with self-compassion, not self-criticism. We can learn to see ourselves beyond the surface and appreciate our true, authentic essence.  &nbsp; How to Get Over It &amp; On With It:  Reframe your perception—instead of seeing your actions as "mistakes," view them as learning experiences. Practice self-mothering—speak to yourself with the same love and gentleness you would offer a child. Challenge self-judgment—when you hear your inner critic, ask, “Would I say this to a friend?” Shift your focus from past regret to future growth—each day is a chance to choose self-compassion.  &nbsp; Special Thanks to Our Sponsor: Enviro Air &amp; Water If you live in the Greater Austin or San Antonio area, you deserve clean, high-quality water for your home and business. That’s why I’m excited to share Enviro Air &amp; Water—a family-owned company with over 30 years of experience in whole-house filtration and reverse osmosis systems. I personally love my system, and I’ve noticed a huge difference in my skin, hair, and overall health. Unlike big companies that lock you into proprietary equipment, Enviro Air &amp; Water customizes the perfect system for your needs—whether it’s alkaline filtration, softening, or refinement options. They’ve done installations for Starbucks, Whole Foods, and many other businesses, ensuring top-tier commercial and residential solutions. Mention this podcast to receive 15% off your system! Call Casey directly at 210-823-4499. Visit  to learn more! &nbsp; Social Media + Resources:         Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

EP 493: How To Forgive Yourself for a Mistake with Sara

With the recent eclipse, equinox, planets in retrograde and schumann resonance activity, a lot of us are feeling&nbsp;pretty crappy! In this episode I share some tips for staying grounded and nourishing yourself during this time.

CC: Tips for Navigating the Intense Energy Right Now

In this honest and empowering coaching session, Christine works with Elena, who is navigating the emotional aftermath of ending a seven-year relationship. Although the breakup initially seemed mutual, deeper fears have surfaced—particularly around abandonment, self-worth, and what it means to be alone. Christine helps Elena explore the deeper roots of these fears, which stem from unresolved childhood trauma and modeled behavior from her mother. This episode addresses why we often stay in relationships that aren't healthy, the difference between true forgiveness and repression, and how to break free from generational patterns. Through this conversation, listeners will learn how to embrace solitude, process anger in a healthy way, and find strength in standing firm in their boundaries. If you’ve ever questioned whether you were too hard on someone, or feared walking away even when you knew it was the right choice, this episode is for you. &nbsp; Consider/Ask Yourself:  Have you ever stayed in a relationship because you were afraid of being alone? Do you struggle with repeating family or generational patterns in your relationships? Are you confusing forgiveness with repression? Do you feel like you're settling for less than you deserve because it feels safer than the unknown?  &nbsp; Key Insights and A-HAs:  Being alone in a relationship can feel lonelier than being on your own. Anger, when unexpressed, can turn into anxiety or self-betrayal. Repeating generational patterns is common, but with awareness and action, they can be broken. True healing requires both reparenting yourself and creating new internal belief systems. Boundaries are an act of self-love and are essential to change long-standing relational habits.  &nbsp; How to Get Over It &amp; On With It:  Embrace solitude as a form of strength, not weakness. Practice anger release through safe outlets such as movement or journaling. Acknowledge generational influences without letting them define your future. Reframe thoughts that tempt you to return to unhealthy dynamics. Ask yourself, “Is this my voice, or my programming?” Visualize the kind of parent, partner, or person you want to be, and make choices in alignment with that vision.  &nbsp; Social Media + Resources:     &nbsp;    Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

EP 494: When Your Fear of Being Alone Keeps You in Unhealthy Relationships with Elena

In this inspiring and heartfelt coaching session, Christine works with Sarah, who is navigating life after the dissolution of a 20-year marriage. While Sarah has processed much of her grief and feels more grounded, she finds herself in an in-between space—caught between who she was in the relationship and the new version of herself that she is becoming. Christine helps Sarah explore the deeper roots of her feelings of being held back, which stem from earlier life experiences where she felt disempowered. Through their conversation, they discuss the challenges of moving forward when parts of your old life still linger, and how to embrace your growth without slipping back into past patterns. Listeners will learn how to acknowledge and honor their own progress, release the need to please others, and fully step into their new life. This episode encourages listeners to choose themselves, embrace their own story, and trust that moving forward—while uncomfortable at times—is worth it. &nbsp; Consider/Ask Yourself:  Are you feeling stuck between your past and your future? Do you tend to hold back because you fear upsetting others? Are you fully acknowledging your own progress, or are you still telling yourself an old story? Can you trust that your choices, even if they come with loss, are the best ones for your growth?  &nbsp; Key Insights and A-HAs:  Holding back can feel familiar, but it doesn’t serve your growth. Grief can come in waves, even after you think you’ve moved on. Choosing yourself may mean letting go of old relationships, and that’s okay. You don’t have to wait for external validation to step into your new story. Acknowledging your growth is essential to moving forward.  &nbsp; How to Get Over It &amp; On With It:  Identify the ways you are holding back and consciously choose to move forward. Allow yourself to feel the grief of letting go without letting it hold you back. Practice trusting your choices and recognize your progress without minimizing it. Find your support network and let them remind you of your growth when self-doubt creeps in.  &nbsp; Social Media + Resources:         Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

EP 495: Moving On and Trusting Yourself After a Long Relationship with Sarah

In this insightful coaching session, Christine works with Karin, who has repeatedly found herself in cycles of earning and losing money, leading to a persistent struggle and anxiety around finances. Karin shares her experiences of attempting various methods—from manifesting practices to lifestyle adjustments—to improve her financial stability, yet continually finds herself back in scarcity. Christine helps Karin uncover deep-seated generational patterns and subconscious beliefs around money that perpetuate this cycle. They discuss the nervous system’s role in financial stability and how chronic anxiety and fear can block abundance, even when consciously pursuing financial goals. Listeners will gain a deeper understanding of how past familial beliefs, generational trauma, and nervous system dysregulation can influence their current relationship with money. Christine provides tangible insights into shifting from scarcity and struggle toward a more grounded, regulated, and abundant state. Consider/Ask Yourself:  Do you notice patterns of gaining and losing money repeatedly in your life? Are you constantly anxious about your financial situation, even if things momentarily improve? Can you see any generational patterns in your family around money and struggle? Would you like to shift from feeling overwhelmed and fearful about money to feeling calm and abundant?  Key Insights and A-HAs:  Financial stability is closely tied to nervous system regulation. Generational patterns deeply impact our subconscious relationship with money. Fear and anxiety about money can create blocks to consistent financial abundance. It's essential to consciously decide to break cycles of financial struggle. Cultivating a regulated nervous system can significantly shift your relationship with money.  How to Get Over It &amp; On With It:  Identify and acknowledge your underlying fears and anxieties around money. Work actively to regulate your nervous system before engaging in financial tasks or conversations. Clearly define your financial desires without minimizing or compromising. Decide consciously to break generational patterns of financial struggle and scarcity. Practice daily habits that reinforce a regulated nervous system state, promoting calm and abundance.  Social Media + Resources:  &nbsp;       Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

EP 496: Healing Your Relationship with Money with Karin

As an entrepreneur, bestselling author, and mother, Kate Northrup’s goal is to support people to light up the world without burning themselves out. Kate believes that when folks heal their relationships with money they can step into their true power to feel the way they want to feel, live the way they want to live, and have a positive impact on the world.  Through her own journey of breaking her unhealthy relationship with money by healing her nervous system, she unlocked a methodology that has helped thousands of women do the same through her top-rated podcast, Plenty, and programs. &nbsp; You can access her FREE 3-day workshop "Good with Money" at

CC: Get Good With Money with Kate Northrup

EP 497: How to Stop Pushing Intimacay Away with Darletha

Nicole J. Sachs, LCSW, is a speaker, writer, psychotherapist, retreat leader, and podcaster who has dedicated her work and her practice to the treatment of chronic pain and anxiety. She is the author of&nbsp;the books&nbsp;MIND YOUR BODY&nbsp;(Penguin/Random House 2/25) and&nbsp;The Meaning of Truth&nbsp;&nbsp;(2016)&nbsp;and creator of the online courses “Freedom from Chronic Pain,” “Freedom From an Anxious Life,” and “The Sarno x Sachs Solution” practitioner training. Her brands, BreakAwake and The Cure for Chronic Pain, include a website, podcast, YouTube channel, membership community, and newsletter. Sachs is on faculty at the Omega Institute for Holistic Studies in New York. Learn more about Nicole's work at:

CC: The Cure for Chronic Pain Is Not What You Think with Nicole Sachs

In this deeply insightful and emotional coaching session, Christine Hassler works with Kate, a courageous woman who has spent much of her life relying solely on herself. While Kate has achieved personal and professional success, she finds herself feeling stuck when it comes to romantic intimacy. Her high-functioning independence has become a barrier to receiving love—and allowing herself to be truly supported by others. Together, Christine and Kate explore the roots of hyper-independence, including childhood dynamics, family roles, and the need to feel “in control” in order to feel safe. Christine gently unpacks the difference between strength that empowers connection and armor that blocks it. As they navigate Kate’s fears of vulnerability and trust, the conversation opens the door to softness, receptivity, and true emotional intimacy. This episode is a powerful listen for anyone who identifies as the “strong one,” has trouble receiving help or affection, or longs for deep partnership but doesn’t know how to shift lifelong patterns of self-protection. &nbsp; Consider/Ask Yourself:  Do you often feel like you have to handle everything on your own? Is it difficult for you to ask for or receive help? Are you drawn to relationships where you feel emotionally safer staying guarded? Do you believe that letting your guard down means losing control—or being weak?  Key Insights and A-HAs:  Hyper-independence is often a trauma response rooted in childhood survival strategies. Being strong doesn’t mean being closed; real strength includes openness and the willingness to receive. Letting others in starts with letting ourselves feel—especially the parts we've kept buried or dismissed. Shifting from control to trust is a journey of nervous system safety and self-compassion. You don’t need to be “fixed” to be loved—you need to be seen and softened.  How to Get Over It &amp; On With It:  Notice where “I’ve got it” may actually be a defense, not empowerment. Practice small acts of receiving: compliments, support, kindness, physical affection. Reparent the younger version of yourself who had to grow up fast—give her what she never received. Use body-based practices to reconnect with your emotions and signal safety to your nervous system. Explore relational growth in environments that offer support, compassion, and emotional safety.  Social Media + Resources:         Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!  &nbsp;

EP 498: Stop Doing Everything on Your Own and Learn How to Receive with Kate

In this raw and revealing coaching session, Christine Hassler coaches Bridget, a woman navigating the painful territory of jealousy, comparison, and unmet desires. Bridget candidly opens up about her long-standing struggles with being single and childless—two areas that trigger deep feelings of not being “good enough” when she sees others with what she longs for.&nbsp; &nbsp; The coaching session explores not only the emotional roots of these feelings but also how deeply ingrained patterns from childhood can skew how we view ourselves in relation to others. Christine guides Bridget to understand that jealousy isn’t a flaw—it’s a signal. A signal that we may be projecting our own unlived qualities onto others, which can be used for self-discovery and healing when viewed with compassion. Through tools like “positive projection” and reparenting, Christine helps Bridget shift her lens from lack and comparison to abundance and self-trust. &nbsp; This episode is essential listening for anyone who finds themselves stuck in comparison loops, struggling with envy, or feeling left behind by life's timelines. If you've ever looked at someone else's life and thought, “They must know something I don’t,” this one is for you. &nbsp; Consider/Ask Yourself:  Do you often compare your life to others and feel like you're falling short? Do you feel left out or behind when it comes to relationships, family, or success? Is jealousy something you were taught—something modeled in your family of origin? Are you ready to reclaim your sense of self-worth and step into greater self-trust?  &nbsp; Key Insights and A-HAs:  Jealousy can serve as a tool for growth when reframed as a positive projection. Often, the qualities we admire in others are ones we haven’t fully owned in ourselves. Chronic comparison stems from childhood imprints, often passed down from caregivers. Confidence in decision-making strengthens our relationship with ourselves and builds autonomy. You are not less than anyone else—there is no secret formula that others have and you don’t.  &nbsp; How to Get Over It &amp; On With It:  Practice positive projection: When you're jealous of someone, ask yourself, “What qualities am I seeing in them that I haven’t yet recognized in myself?” Build self-trust by making confident, embodied choices—even small ones. Flex your decision-making muscle. Reframe comparison as separation. Instead, use it to connect with the qualities you desire to cultivate in yourself. Visualize removing the “comparison glasses” and choosing to see through the lens of truth, where your worth is not tied to others’ outcomes. Work with a therapist or coach to reparent the younger parts of you that never got to fully develop autonomy or self-approval.  &nbsp; Upcoming Events: &nbsp; Christine’s Signature Women’s Retreat  Christine is still honoring the&nbsp;early bird discount&nbsp;for her upcoming&nbsp;Women’s Retreat! This transformational experience is designed to help women heal the sister wound, release patterns of jealousy and competition, and experience deep, soul-level connection and support. You’ll leave with greater confidence, clarity, and connection—with yourself and with other women. Visit&nbsp;christinehassler.com/retreat&nbsp;to register and learn more.  Questions? Email&nbsp; &nbsp; Social Media + Resources:         Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

EP 499:  Break Patterns of Jealousy and Comparison with Bridget

Melody Wilding is an executive coach, human behavior expert, and author of Trust Yourself and Managing Up. In this episode we&nbsp;unpack how high-achievers often sabotage their careers through people-pleasing and emotional suppression. Melody shares why sensitive strivers (a term she coined for deeply feeling, high-performing individuals) often struggle to advocate for themselves in professional environments — and how this disconnect leads to burnout, resentment, and career stagnation. We explore the difference between being collaborative and being a doormat, and how to set boundaries that actually earn respect rather than risk relationships. Learn more at

CC: The Hidden Career Cost of People-Pleasing with Melody Wilding

In this insightful and milestone 500th episode, Christine coaches Lisa, a woman actively working to recalibrate her nervous system after decades of living in survival mode. Through their work in Christine’s Be the Queen program, Lisa has become increasingly aware of how her high productivity and people-pleasing patterns were actually rooted in hypervigilance developed from childhood emotional abandonment and a toxic past relationship. Christine helps Lisa move beyond traditional nervous system tools like breathwork by exploring one of the most overlooked regulators: the mind. They discuss how belief systems, people-pleasing masks, and unconscious behaviors can keep the body in a dysregulated state—even when things look “successful” on the outside. Whether you're a high achiever who struggles to slow down, or someone who feels stuck in a cycle of stress and self-doubt, this episode offers a refreshing look at how mental and emotional honesty are key to calming your system and reclaiming your peace. &nbsp; Consider/Ask Yourself:  Are you always “on,” afraid that if you stop doing, your worth might come into question? Do you feel triggered by others’ behavior and immediately spiral into old thought loops? Are your validation-seeking habits tied to unresolved childhood wounds or past trauma? Can you give yourself permission to operate from truth rather than performance or perfectionism?  &nbsp; Key Insights and A-HAs:  Your thoughts and beliefs are major regulators of your nervous system—not just your breath or body. Hyper-productivity often masks dysregulation and old coping mechanisms. Rewriting internal stories like “I’m only worthy when I produce” helps calm the system long-term. Nervous system regulation isn’t about doing less—it’s about doing from a place of grounded self-worth. You can’t fake authenticity; regulating your system starts with radical honesty about what’s true for you.  &nbsp; How to Get Over It &amp; On With It:  Begin your day by asking, “What do I really feel right now?” before reacting from habit. Use mental inquiry tools like Byron Katie’s “Is it true?” to deconstruct spiraling thoughts. Notice when you're chasing outcomes or approval and redirect into curiosity or creativity. Instead of defaulting to performative politeness (like saying good morning out of obligation), check in with your body and ask what’s real for you in the moment. Remember: It’s not always about doing less—but doing from a regulated, authentic place.  &nbsp; Sponsor: Beam Struggling with sleep? Beam’s Dream Powder has helped Christine sleep deeper and longer, without the grogginess of other sleep aids. This science-backed blend includes magnesium, reishi, and melatonin to help you fall asleep faster and wake up refreshed. Christine’s listeners get up to 40% off Beam’s best-selling Dream Powder. 👉 Shop now at shopbeam.com/overit and use code OVERIT at checkout. &nbsp; Social Media + Resources:         Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

EP 500: How to Regulate Your Nervous System in Ways You Probably Haven’t Thought Of with Lisa

In a world that glorifies giving and doing, receiving can feel foreign—or even uncomfortable. But true feminine power lies in your ability to allow love, support, abundance, and guidance in. In this episode, I explore why receiving is your divine birthright!!&nbsp;And how you may be blocking it and can begin to open more fully to what you truly desire.

CC: The Feminine Superpower of Receiving

What happens when you’re doing “all the right things”—and yet life just won’t give you a break? In this vulnerable coaching session, Christine supports Lauren, who finds herself stuck in a difficult season marked by frustration, stagnation, and unmet desires. From canceled dates to cockroach infestations and business disappointments, Lauren feels blocked on multiple fronts—despite years of doing the inner work. What unfolds is a compassionate deep dive into the exhaustion of “efforting” without reward, the hidden cost of spiritual performance, and the powerful shift that comes when we release the idea that life must be “fair” to be good. Together, Christine and Lauren explore how to trade spiritual perfectionism and judgment for something much softer: acceptance, self-advocacy, and grounded trust in the unseen support that’s already working on our behalf. Consider/Ask Yourself:  Do you feel like you’ve done the work, but life still feels hard or stagnant? Are you stuck in a loop of striving, yet not seeing results? Does part of you still believe life is supposed to reward effort like a transaction? Are you ready to shift from pushing to receiving—from performance to presence?  Key Insights and A-HAs:  Sometimes, when life “isn’t working,” we’re actually in a season of integration, not failure. “Life isn’t fair” is often a core wound—and learning to advocate for ourselves is the healing path. Taking empowered action is only part of the equation; our energy and beliefs must match. Self-advocacy is different from self-protection or hyper-independence—it’s rooted in worth. Relief, not elation, is the most powerful emotional setpoint to restore inner alignment.  How to Deepen the Work:  Ask: “Where in my life can I lovingly advocate for myself?” Practice shifting from judgment to relief. Try the affirmation: “This is what is—and I am safe.” Notice when you assign meaning to disappointment. Can you stay curious instead of collapsing? Look for the difference between resignation and true acceptance. One drains, the other restores. Journal on this question: “What am I learning to receive in this season of life?”  &nbsp; Upcoming Event: Christine’s Women’s Retreat – October 17–19, 2025 If you feel stuck, depleted, or unsure where to go next, Christine invites you to her signature Women’s Retreat. It’s designed to help you shift frequencies—not just fix external problems. This immersive, high-frequency weekend supports deep healing, soul reconnection, and sustainable transformation. Location: San Diego, California Details + registration:   Early bird registration ends soon Want to be coached on the show? Join the waitlist at:  Connect with Christine: Website:  Instagram:  &nbsp; Social Media + Resources:         Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

EP 503: When Life Just Keeps Throwing Challenge After Challenge at You with Lauren

In this powerful and emotionally honest session, Christine coaches Tiffany—a gifted, intuitive woman who’s been living inside the identity of caretaker, rescuer, and savior. As someone raised in a family marked by addiction, loss, and emotional chaos, Tiffany learned early on to take responsibility for others’ well-being, often at the expense of her own. Now, with a brother spiraling and a deep longing to create a family of her own, Tiffany finds herself stuck in an exhausting cycle of overgiving, people-pleasing, and spiritual burnout. Christine gently but firmly guides her toward a redefinition of love—one that includes boundaries, dignity, and surrender, not depletion. This episode speaks to every empath, helper, or healer who struggles with giving too much, confusing martyrdom with love, and forgetting their own needs in service of saving others. Consider/Ask Yourself:  Do you feel responsible for other people’s healing, happiness, or choices? Have you been confusing helping with over-giving—or love with martyrdom? Are you exhausted from trying to fix or save others who haven’t asked for your support? What might open up for you if you believed that everyone is on their own soul path—and you don’t have to intervene?  Key Insights and A-HAs:  Being the “savior” is often a survival role rooted in early identity confusion—not your true purpose. There’s a sacred difference between being of service and being responsible for others. You can give people the dignity of their own process—and that is its own act of love. God/Source never asks you to deplete yourself in the name of love. When you stop over-giving, you make space for reciprocal love, rest, and your rightful life.  How to Deepen the Work:  Reflect on this mantra: “I no longer rob others of the dignity of their own process.” Get honest about where you’re still playing the role of rescuer—and release it with compassion. Reorient your energy through prayer, meditation, or spiritual practices that restore you. Redefine your non-negotiables in relationships, especially around addiction, boundaries, and reciprocity. Begin to build a new identity: one rooted in self-trust, clear agreements, and spiritual alignment—not sacrifice. &nbsp;  Upcoming Event: The San Diego Women’s Retreat (Oct. 17–19, 2025)If this episode resonated, you’re invited to Christine’s signature women’s retreat—a high-frequency, transformational experience designed to reconnect you with your truth, your joy, and your courage. Whether you’re in a season of rebuilding or simply seeking maintenance for your soul, this retreat offers intentional support and sacred community. Early bird discount ending soon. Learn more and register at:  Social Media + Resources:         Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

EP 504: Stop Being the Savior with Tiffany

In this transformative episode of The Pottery, Tess guides you through the powerful, underappreciated art of emotional boundaries—and how learning to say “no” without guilt can radically change your life. Through honest storytelling, guided journaling, top-tier music and sound cues, and Tess’s signature straight talk, you’ll learn: - Why setting boundaries (and sticking to them) is the most loving gift you can give yourself and those you love - Where guilt and perfectionism get in the way—and how to move through them - How to visualize and fiercely protect your personal boundaries, one step at a time - Real-life, heartfelt examples and prompts to help you practice your “no’s,” alongside scripts for empowered “yes, but here’s what I need” moments - A transformational meditation to anchor new habits with clarity and compassion This episode helps you lighten your load, strengthen your self-worth, and fill your circle with authentic love and capacity—for yourself and everyone who matters to you. Plus, Tess welcomes you to check out [Mantra Mudd on YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/MantraMudd) for bonus mantras and meditations to keep you inspired and supported between episodes. Subscribe, visit [www.mantramudd.com](https://www.mantramudd.com), and join us for field trip episodes and even deeper journaling practice week by week!

The Pottery Episode 2 - Emotional Boundaries - Saying No Without Guilt

In this powerful coaching session, Christine supports Tessa, a psychic medium navigating the challenges of fully owning her intuitive gifts after leaving a successful engineering career. While her spiritual sensitivity has deepened, she still struggles with confidence, financial consistency, and the fear of stepping fully into her calling. Christine helps Tessa uncover how early life choices for safety and belonging influenced her path, why money is a sacred energetic exchange, and how to embrace confidence without falling into imposter syndrome. This session is especially resonant for anyone who has felt torn between a “practical” career and their true soul path—or who has struggled with feeling “too sensitive” in a world that doesn’t always honor intuitive gifts. If you’ve ever wrestled with worthiness, worried about what others think, or hesitated to fully embody your calling, this episode will encourage you to claim your gifts with reverence, confidence, and joy. Consider / Ask Yourself:  Do you minimize your intuitive or spiritual gifts out of fear of judgment? Were you rewarded as a child more for achievement than creativity or sensitivity? Do you toggle between wanting safety (financial or social) and wanting to live your truth? Is your sensitivity something you see as a liability rather than a blessing?  Key Insights and A-HAs:  True confidence is radical self-acceptance, not arrogance. Sensitivity is not a liability—it’s a sacred strength when embraced. Financial abundance can flow through spiritual work when we claim it as valid and worthy. Belonging and validation from old systems (titles, achievements) can hold us back from owning our deeper callings. Spiritual gifts don’t have to come with a cost—you don’t need to “pay penance” for being gifted.  How to Deepen the Work:  Reflect on any early decisions you made to “fit in” and how they may still shape your choices. Reframe your sensitivity as spiritual hygiene, not a burden. Write and repeat affirmations claiming your gifts as part of your life’s is-ness (e.g., “I make an abundant living through my spiritual gifts”). Notice when imposter syndrome shows up and remind yourself that reverence and humility are different from self-doubt. Normalize taking breaks, grounding, and nervous system care without making it a “big deal.”  Upcoming Events: Christine’s Women’s Retreat is happening October 17–19, 2025. This immersive experience is designed to help you step out of your head, into your body, and reclaim your intuitive power. By the end of the retreat, women report profound clarity, spiritual awakenings, and a deep reconnection to their inner wisdom. Register at: christinehassler.com Social Media + Resources:         Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

EP 509: Stepping Into Your Gifts, Even If It Scares You with Tessa

Christine Hassler is an author, life coach and speaker who is known for inspiring radical self-reflection with practical direction. Christine is the author of two best selling books and is currently working on her third entitled: "Expectation Hangovers®  - How to Leverage Disappointment.” She’s appeared on: The Today Show, CNN, ABC, CBS, FOX, E!, Style, and The New York Times.  Christine is a spokesperson for American Express Millennial Advocacy Program and serves on the faculty at the University of Santa Monica teaching programs in Spiritual Psychology.

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