Steven Kessler has been a licensed psychotherapist, studying many different healing modalities and maps of personality, including Character Structure, the Enneagram, NLP, energy work, Thought Field Therapy, and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques). He is a certified EFT Expert &amp; Trainer. Steven has also spent many years studying the evolution of human consciousness. His bestselling book, The 5 Personality Patterns, deepens the insights of character structure and, for the first time, presents its map of the human personality to the general public. Many people claim that reading it has been a life-changing experience, which has enabled them to finally understand both themselves and others. On this podcast we talk about his newest book, How to Have Better Relationships, which teaches the skills you need and actions to take to connect better with others based on the 5 personality patterns. You can access Steven's first interview where we dive deeper into the 5 personality patterns:&nbsp; and his books and courses:&nbsp;

CC: The KEY to Healthy and Fulfilling Relationships

In this insightful and milestone 500th episode, Christine coaches Lisa, a woman actively working to recalibrate her nervous system after decades of living in survival mode. Through their work in Christine’s Be the Queen program, Lisa has become increasingly aware of how her high productivity and people-pleasing patterns were actually rooted in hypervigilance developed from childhood emotional abandonment and a toxic past relationship. Christine helps Lisa move beyond traditional nervous system tools like breathwork by exploring one of the most overlooked regulators: the mind. They discuss how belief systems, people-pleasing masks, and unconscious behaviors can keep the body in a dysregulated state—even when things look “successful” on the outside. Whether you're a high achiever who struggles to slow down, or someone who feels stuck in a cycle of stress and self-doubt, this episode offers a refreshing look at how mental and emotional honesty are key to calming your system and reclaiming your peace. &nbsp; Consider/Ask Yourself:  Are you always “on,” afraid that if you stop doing, your worth might come into question? Do you feel triggered by others’ behavior and immediately spiral into old thought loops? Are your validation-seeking habits tied to unresolved childhood wounds or past trauma? Can you give yourself permission to operate from truth rather than performance or perfectionism?  &nbsp; Key Insights and A-HAs:  Your thoughts and beliefs are major regulators of your nervous system—not just your breath or body. Hyper-productivity often masks dysregulation and old coping mechanisms. Rewriting internal stories like “I’m only worthy when I produce” helps calm the system long-term. Nervous system regulation isn’t about doing less—it’s about doing from a place of grounded self-worth. You can’t fake authenticity; regulating your system starts with radical honesty about what’s true for you.  &nbsp; How to Get Over It &amp; On With It:  Begin your day by asking, “What do I really feel right now?” before reacting from habit. Use mental inquiry tools like Byron Katie’s “Is it true?” to deconstruct spiraling thoughts. Notice when you're chasing outcomes or approval and redirect into curiosity or creativity. Instead of defaulting to performative politeness (like saying good morning out of obligation), check in with your body and ask what’s real for you in the moment. Remember: It’s not always about doing less—but doing from a regulated, authentic place.  &nbsp; Sponsor: Beam Struggling with sleep? Beam’s Dream Powder has helped Christine sleep deeper and longer, without the grogginess of other sleep aids. This science-backed blend includes magnesium, reishi, and melatonin to help you fall asleep faster and wake up refreshed. Christine’s listeners get up to 40% off Beam’s best-selling Dream Powder. 👉 Shop now at shopbeam.com/overit and use code OVERIT at checkout. &nbsp; Social Media + Resources:         Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

EP 500: How to Regulate Your Nervous System in Ways You Probably Haven’t Thought Of with Lisa

In a world that glorifies giving and doing, receiving can feel foreign—or even uncomfortable. But true feminine power lies in your ability to allow love, support, abundance, and guidance in. In this episode, I explore why receiving is your divine birthright!!&nbsp;And how you may be blocking it and can begin to open more fully to what you truly desire.

CC: The Feminine Superpower of Receiving

What happens when you’re doing “all the right things”—and yet life just won’t give you a break? In this vulnerable coaching session, Christine supports Lauren, who finds herself stuck in a difficult season marked by frustration, stagnation, and unmet desires. From canceled dates to cockroach infestations and business disappointments, Lauren feels blocked on multiple fronts—despite years of doing the inner work. What unfolds is a compassionate deep dive into the exhaustion of “efforting” without reward, the hidden cost of spiritual performance, and the powerful shift that comes when we release the idea that life must be “fair” to be good. Together, Christine and Lauren explore how to trade spiritual perfectionism and judgment for something much softer: acceptance, self-advocacy, and grounded trust in the unseen support that’s already working on our behalf. Consider/Ask Yourself:  Do you feel like you’ve done the work, but life still feels hard or stagnant? Are you stuck in a loop of striving, yet not seeing results? Does part of you still believe life is supposed to reward effort like a transaction? Are you ready to shift from pushing to receiving—from performance to presence?  Key Insights and A-HAs:  Sometimes, when life “isn’t working,” we’re actually in a season of integration, not failure. “Life isn’t fair” is often a core wound—and learning to advocate for ourselves is the healing path. Taking empowered action is only part of the equation; our energy and beliefs must match. Self-advocacy is different from self-protection or hyper-independence—it’s rooted in worth. Relief, not elation, is the most powerful emotional setpoint to restore inner alignment.  How to Deepen the Work:  Ask: “Where in my life can I lovingly advocate for myself?” Practice shifting from judgment to relief. Try the affirmation: “This is what is—and I am safe.” Notice when you assign meaning to disappointment. Can you stay curious instead of collapsing? Look for the difference between resignation and true acceptance. One drains, the other restores. Journal on this question: “What am I learning to receive in this season of life?”  &nbsp; Upcoming Event: Christine’s Women’s Retreat – October 17–19, 2025 If you feel stuck, depleted, or unsure where to go next, Christine invites you to her signature Women’s Retreat. It’s designed to help you shift frequencies—not just fix external problems. This immersive, high-frequency weekend supports deep healing, soul reconnection, and sustainable transformation. Location: San Diego, California Details + registration:   Early bird registration ends soon Want to be coached on the show? Join the waitlist at:  Connect with Christine: Website:  Instagram:  &nbsp; Social Media + Resources:         Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

EP 503: When Life Just Keeps Throwing Challenge After Challenge at You with Lauren

In this powerful and emotionally honest session, Christine coaches Tiffany—a gifted, intuitive woman who’s been living inside the identity of caretaker, rescuer, and savior. As someone raised in a family marked by addiction, loss, and emotional chaos, Tiffany learned early on to take responsibility for others’ well-being, often at the expense of her own. Now, with a brother spiraling and a deep longing to create a family of her own, Tiffany finds herself stuck in an exhausting cycle of overgiving, people-pleasing, and spiritual burnout. Christine gently but firmly guides her toward a redefinition of love—one that includes boundaries, dignity, and surrender, not depletion. This episode speaks to every empath, helper, or healer who struggles with giving too much, confusing martyrdom with love, and forgetting their own needs in service of saving others. Consider/Ask Yourself:  Do you feel responsible for other people’s healing, happiness, or choices? Have you been confusing helping with over-giving—or love with martyrdom? Are you exhausted from trying to fix or save others who haven’t asked for your support? What might open up for you if you believed that everyone is on their own soul path—and you don’t have to intervene?  Key Insights and A-HAs:  Being the “savior” is often a survival role rooted in early identity confusion—not your true purpose. There’s a sacred difference between being of service and being responsible for others. You can give people the dignity of their own process—and that is its own act of love. God/Source never asks you to deplete yourself in the name of love. When you stop over-giving, you make space for reciprocal love, rest, and your rightful life.  How to Deepen the Work:  Reflect on this mantra: “I no longer rob others of the dignity of their own process.” Get honest about where you’re still playing the role of rescuer—and release it with compassion. Reorient your energy through prayer, meditation, or spiritual practices that restore you. Redefine your non-negotiables in relationships, especially around addiction, boundaries, and reciprocity. Begin to build a new identity: one rooted in self-trust, clear agreements, and spiritual alignment—not sacrifice. &nbsp;  Upcoming Event: The San Diego Women’s Retreat (Oct. 17–19, 2025)If this episode resonated, you’re invited to Christine’s signature women’s retreat—a high-frequency, transformational experience designed to reconnect you with your truth, your joy, and your courage. Whether you’re in a season of rebuilding or simply seeking maintenance for your soul, this retreat offers intentional support and sacred community. Early bird discount ending soon. Learn more and register at:  Social Media + Resources:         Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

EP 504: Stop Being the Savior with Tiffany

In today’s real-time coaching session, Christine works with Catherine, who is navigating a pivotal life decision about whether to continue a long-distance relationship that is heading toward a significant next step—or to step away. As someone who struggles with indecision and fears making the “wrong” choice, Catherine is looking for clarity, confidence, and security in her next steps. Through their conversation, Christine helps her uncover a powerful truth: clarity often comes after we take action, not before. What unfolds is a healing dialogue around people-pleasing, fear of mistakes, and the patterns that keep us disconnected from our intuition. Rather than rushing toward a binary decision, Catherine finds a third path—one rooted in authentic expression, boundaries, and self-trust. &nbsp; Consider/Ask Yourself:  Do you often fear making the wrong decision, and delay choosing altogether? Have you historically prioritized others’ needs over your own in relationships? Are you waiting for a sign instead of trusting your own intuition? What might shift if you gave yourself full permission to speak your truth?  &nbsp; Key Insights &amp; A-HAs:  Indecisiveness isn’t always resistance—it can be sacred space while we wait for the most aligned choice to emerge. The “right” decision isn’t always black or white. Sometimes clarity reveals itself in a third, unexpected option. Unspoken needs can’t be met. Self-expression is essential to healthy relationships. Even if a decision “doesn’t work out,” it doesn’t mean it was wrong—it was your classroom for growth.  &nbsp; How to Deepen the Work:  Journal on a time when your “mistake” led to unexpected growth. Practice speaking a boundary in a safe relationship—start small. Ask: What is my body telling me when I think about each possible choice? Instead of asking “What should I do?”, ask “What would feel most like self-honoring?”  &nbsp; Free Masterclass: Fulfilled &amp; Free (For Women) Are you a high-achieving woman who’s done “everything right”—but still feels like something’s missing? Join Christine for a free live masterclass on August 18th at 4 PM PT to learn the formula for deep fulfillment that doesn’t rely on over-achieving or perfectionism. Register at: christinehassler.com/masterclass Replay available for those who can’t attend live. &nbsp; Retreat Invitation: October 17–19 If you want deeper clarity, emotional release, and intuitive alignment in a live, immersive space—Christine’s women’s retreat might be your next step. Even if early bird pricing has passed, you can email Jill by August 10th and she will honor the early rate. Contact: jill@christinehassler.com Details and application:  &nbsp; Social Media + Resources:         Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

EP 507: Getting Clarity on a Decision That Feels Blurry with Catherine

In this powerful coaching session, Christine supports Tessa, a psychic medium navigating the challenges of fully owning her intuitive gifts after leaving a successful engineering career. While her spiritual sensitivity has deepened, she still struggles with confidence, financial consistency, and the fear of stepping fully into her calling. Christine helps Tessa uncover how early life choices for safety and belonging influenced her path, why money is a sacred energetic exchange, and how to embrace confidence without falling into imposter syndrome. This session is especially resonant for anyone who has felt torn between a “practical” career and their true soul path—or who has struggled with feeling “too sensitive” in a world that doesn’t always honor intuitive gifts. If you’ve ever wrestled with worthiness, worried about what others think, or hesitated to fully embody your calling, this episode will encourage you to claim your gifts with reverence, confidence, and joy. Consider / Ask Yourself:  Do you minimize your intuitive or spiritual gifts out of fear of judgment? Were you rewarded as a child more for achievement than creativity or sensitivity? Do you toggle between wanting safety (financial or social) and wanting to live your truth? Is your sensitivity something you see as a liability rather than a blessing?  Key Insights and A-HAs:  True confidence is radical self-acceptance, not arrogance. Sensitivity is not a liability—it’s a sacred strength when embraced. Financial abundance can flow through spiritual work when we claim it as valid and worthy. Belonging and validation from old systems (titles, achievements) can hold us back from owning our deeper callings. Spiritual gifts don’t have to come with a cost—you don’t need to “pay penance” for being gifted.  How to Deepen the Work:  Reflect on any early decisions you made to “fit in” and how they may still shape your choices. Reframe your sensitivity as spiritual hygiene, not a burden. Write and repeat affirmations claiming your gifts as part of your life’s is-ness (e.g., “I make an abundant living through my spiritual gifts”). Notice when imposter syndrome shows up and remind yourself that reverence and humility are different from self-doubt. Normalize taking breaks, grounding, and nervous system care without making it a “big deal.”  Upcoming Events: Christine’s Women’s Retreat is happening October 17–19, 2025. This immersive experience is designed to help you step out of your head, into your body, and reclaim your intuitive power. By the end of the retreat, women report profound clarity, spiritual awakenings, and a deep reconnection to their inner wisdom. Register at: christinehassler.com Social Media + Resources:         Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

EP 509: Stepping Into Your Gifts, Even If It Scares You with Tessa

In this intimate Coach’s Corner, Christine pulls back the curtain on what really happens at her long-running Signature Women’s Retreat. She shares the breakthroughs, emotional releases, and paradigm shifts women experience—and why this work is more essential than ever in today’s world. Christine also reveals how nearly two decades of facilitating retreats have evolved to include deeper nervous system support, somatic practices, and the kind of transformational healing that ripples out to families and communities. &nbsp; Plus, Christine’s daughter makes a sweet cameo in the conversation—reminding us of the powerful connection between healing ourselves and shaping the next generation. &nbsp; If you’ve ever wondered what truly happens at a women’s retreat (beyond the surface-level clichés), this heartfelt episode will inspire you to consider what transformation might be waiting for you.

CC: Why My Women’s Retreat Matters Now More Than Ever (with a Special Cameo)

Aimie Apigian, MD, MS, MPH, is a trainer, speaker and physician, double board-certified in preventive and addiction medicine with masters degrees in biochemistry and public health. Beyond her conventional medical and surgical training, Dr. Aimie has training in Psychosomatic Medicine, Functional Medicine, and Mental Health Nutrition. Her extensive training in trauma therapies, including the Instinctual Trauma Response Model, Somatic Experiencing, NeuroAffective Touch, and Relational Trauma Repair with Psychodrama, have formed her knowledge and services in attachment, trauma, and addictions, focusing on trauma at a cellular level.&nbsp;Her original inspiration came from her experience as a foster-adoptive mom during medical school.&nbsp; Dr. Aimie is also the host of the Biology of Trauma® Podcast. She has been featured on The Trauma Therapist Project, Therapy in a Nutshell, The Healing Trauma Podcast, and more. You can find her on YouTube, Instagram or her website.

CC: The Biology of Healing with Dr. Aimie Apigian

Christine Hassler is an author, life coach and speaker who is known for inspiring radical self-reflection with practical direction. Christine is the author of two best selling books and is currently working on her third entitled: "Expectation Hangovers®  - How to Leverage Disappointment.” She’s appeared on: The Today Show, CNN, ABC, CBS, FOX, E!, Style, and The New York Times.  Christine is a spokesperson for American Express Millennial Advocacy Program and serves on the faculty at the University of Santa Monica teaching programs in Spiritual Psychology.

CC: The KEY to Healthy and Fulfilling Relationships

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