This coaching call is about giving ourselves the love we deserve. Today’s caller, Nicole, is struggling to give the love and acceptance she gives to her child, to herself. She feels something is missing in her life because she didn’t receive love from her parents. Christine offers guidance on how she can change her story and start loving herself. &nbsp; [For show notes, go here: ]. &nbsp; Is it possible to give ourselves unconditional love 100% of the time? Is it possible to be loving to ourselves most of the time and catch ourselves when we are not? When we don't get the love we want, or need from our parents we can flip into the victim archetype easily. It is the subconscious way we try to get love for ourselves. &nbsp; The challenge with loving ourselves the way we love other people is so pervasive. There is an epidemic of people who don't feel that they are enough in some way. Whether the feeling came from inside our childhood home or outside of it, it reinforced that limiting belief. &nbsp; Love is our essence. It's naturally who we all are. But we move out of love and more into fear and judgment as we age. A practice we can do to be unconditionally loving to ourselves is to keep trying and keep showing up for ourselves. When we notice that we're not being loving to ourselves, when we're in judgment, fear, criticism, or shame, we can acknowledge it and bring ourselves back to love. &nbsp; Press your hand on your heart and say “I am loved.” Press your hand on your belly and say “I am safe.“ &nbsp; Are you interested in meeting Christine at a live event in Austin? Go to  answer a few questions and offer feedback about your interest in attending. The event will be introvert AND extrovert friendly. &nbsp; Consider/Ask Yourself:   Did you feel unconditionally loved as a child, and if you didn't, are you sad and angry about it?   Did you find it hard to give yourself the love you so easily give others, especially a child or a partner?   Do you struggle with being kind to yourself?   Do you wish that you could have had the childhood that other children have or that your children have?   &nbsp; Nicole’s Question: Nicole is struggling to give the love and acceptance she gives to her child, to herself. &nbsp; Nicole’s Key Insights and Ahas:   Her son is autistic.   She gives her son an abundance of love and affection.   She believes her son chose her.   She feels sad.   She was not given unconditional love as a child.   She feels anger toward her parents for the love she didn’t get.   She feels there is a big missing piece in her life.   She has worked hard to not be a people pleaser and not to seek validation from others.   She shares her mother’s love for nature with her son.   She wants to nurture a spiritual relationship with her parents.   &nbsp; How to Get Over It and On With It:   Grieve and release feelings of rage or sadness.   Embrace the love she is getting.   Take the opportunity to parent herself as she parents her child.   Feel gratitude in place of sadness.   Step out of victim and into integration and application.   &nbsp; Resources:  — Take a Coaching Assessment

EP 446: How to Give Yourself Unconditional Love with Nicole

Sara Szal Gottfried MD is a physician, researcher, author, and educator. She joins me to talk about her latest book: The Autoimmune Cure: Healing the Trauma and Other Triggers That Have Turned Your Body Against You. She graduated from Harvard Medical School and MIT, and completed residency at UCSF, but is more likely to prescribe a continuous glucose monitor and personalized nutrition plan than the latest pharmaceutical. &nbsp; Dr. Gottfried is a global keynote speaker and the author of four New York Times bestselling books about hormones, nutrition, and health. Her focus is at the interface of mental and physical health, N-of-1 trial design, personalized molecular profiling, use of wearables, and how to leverage these tools to improve health outcomes. Learn more at

CC: The Autoimmune Cure with Dr. Sara Gottfried

This coaching call is about breaking habitual patterns that are no longer needed. Today’s caller, Jenny, is having completely different reactions to different situations. She asks for guidance on how to be consistent in all areas of her life and change her attachment style. Christine discovers that it is not so much about her attachment styles but about the story she tells herself in different situations. &nbsp; [For show notes, go here: ]. &nbsp; For those of us who experienced a trauma, or when the worst happened or we got in trouble for something, a neural pathway in our minds created a belief that expecting something bad to happen at any moment prepares us for future traumas and the accompanying shock. The shock is what makes trauma stay in our bodies because when we think everything’s fine, and something happens, our system is surprised. It becomes an imprint in our psyche, subconscious, emotional body, and our nervous system. Neural nets create unconscious patterns. When we are triggered we are hijacked by our subconscious. &nbsp; As we grow and develop we have to update our survival strategies. So many of our survival strategies were formed when we were young. They are outdated. We have updated almost every other tool we use in our lives, yet we haven’t updated our survival strategies. When you have a habitual reaction to something, interrupt the pattern. &nbsp; If you have a situation where you are bracing, expecting the worst, or getting nervous, do whatever it takes to regulate your nervous system. Take deep breaths and pause to break the habit. &nbsp; Consider/Ask Yourself:   Do you feel like you’re a different person in different situations?   Are your reactions sometimes much bigger than a situation warrants?   Do you often prepare yourself for the worst even though usually the worst doesn’t happen?   As a kid, was there a part of you that felt like you were in trouble, and that you didn’t get things right?   &nbsp; Jenny’s Question: Jenny would like guidance about why her reactions are different in different situations. &nbsp; Jenny’s Key Insights and Ahas:   She feels she reacts differently to things at work, in relationships, and when with friends and family.   Her relationship with her parents has changed since childhood.   She often gets anxious at work and feels that she will be in trouble.   She remembers getting in trouble with her father when she didn’t do something right.   She wants validation and love from her father.   She doesn’t feel good enough at work.   &nbsp; How to Get Over It and On With It:   When triggered, regulate her system by putting a hand on her heart and her belly and saying “I’m not in trouble. I didn’t do anything wrong.”   Where is she telling herself she isn’t enough?   Give herself compassion and commitment. Don’t give up!   &nbsp; Takeaway:   When you have a habitual reaction to something, interrupt the pattern and update your survival strategy.   &nbsp; Sponsor:  — is an air filter and air purifier that creates the healthiest environment in your home. It filters out dangerous contaminants and allergens with an ultra HEPA filter that removes 99.99% of tested bacteria and viruses. To get peace of mind, order an Air Doctor today with a 30-day money-back guarantee, go to , and use promo code “Overit” and get up to 39% off filters and $300 off on selected models. &nbsp; Resources:  — Take a Coaching Assessment

EP 447: Why We Have Such Extremely Different Reactions to Different Situations Even Though We Are Still the Same Person with Jenny

Nedra Glover Tawwab&nbsp;is the author of the&nbsp;New York Times&nbsp;bestseller&nbsp;Set Boundaries, Find Peace. A licensed therapist and sought-after relationship expert, she has practiced relationship therapy for more than fifteen years. Tawwab has appeared as an expert on&nbsp;The Red Table Talk,&nbsp;The Breakfast Club,&nbsp;Good Morning America, and&nbsp;CBS This Morning, to name a few. Her work has been highlighted in&nbsp;The New York Times,&nbsp;The Guardian, and&nbsp;Vice, and has appeared on numerous podcasts, including&nbsp;Good Life Project,&nbsp;Sofia with an F, and&nbsp;Therapy for Black Girls. Tawwab runs a popular&nbsp;&nbsp;account where she shares practices, tools, and reflections for mental health and hosts weekly Q&amp;As about boundaries and relationships. She lives in Charlotte, North Carolina, with her family.&nbsp;For more information, see&nbsp;.

CC: Drama Free with Nedra Tawwab

Making fear based decisions around money (or really anything in life) keeps you in a dysregulated state ... and further away&nbsp;from the abundance and freedom you crave when it comes to money.&nbsp; In this episode, I share a three-step process&nbsp;for making&nbsp;aligned, body-based, intuitive financial&nbsp;decisions.&nbsp; &nbsp; If you are craving a more relaxed relationship&nbsp;with money, my longtime friend Kate Northrup is housing&nbsp;a FREE 3-day workshop called WIDE RECEIVER to help you start healing your relationship with money step-by-step. Register here:

CC: Stop Making Fear Based Decisions Around Money

Welcome to episode 448 of "Over It and On With It." Today, our host, Christine Hassler, engages in a compelling conversation with Lynn, who seeks guidance on boosting her self-confidence. This episode dives deep into the roots of self-confidence, touching on childhood experiences, personal insecurities, and the journey towards radical self-acceptance. Guest Insights:  Lynn discusses her challenges with confidence, particularly in her career as a travel advisor, where she struggles to promote herself effectively. She shares personal anecdotes about her upbringing, including the impact of her parents' divorce and the emotional unavailability of her father, which contributed to her confidence issues.  Aha Moments:  Lynn realizes that her lack of confidence stems significantly from not receiving adequate validation and encouragement during her childhood. Christine introduces the concept of "radical self-acceptance" and challenges Lynn to reflect on her internal judgments that might be hindering her confidence.  How to Get Over It:  Radical Self-Acceptance: Embrace every part of yourself without conditions to foster genuine confidence. Parenting Your Inner Child: Use the parenting skills you apply to your children to nurture and encourage your inner child. Action Steps: Engage in small, manageable acts that build confidence through real-life practice, such as regularly posting about her business.  Consider/Ask Yourself:  Do you struggle with confidence in specific areas of your life? How have your childhood experiences shaped your self-esteem? What does radical self-acceptance mean to you, and how can you practice it?  Sponsor:  Today's episode is sponsored by Caraway Cookware. Experience the joy of non-toxic, beautifully designed cookware. Visit:  for a special listener discount.&nbsp; Promo Code: Christine  Social Media Info:  Follow Christine on Instagram  Tweet your insights to Christine  Join us next week for another insightful episode where we help you get over it and on with the life you love.

EP 448: How To Feel More Confident with Lynn

Turning her postpartum sleep deprivation into an opportunity to serve the millions of women who suffer in sleeplessness, Dr. Leigha Saunders is a naturopathic doctor turned sleep guru. With over a decade of experience, Leigha’s innovative approach to solving sleep struggles intertwines hormone health, nervous system regulation and what she calls a "soul-focused approach" to focus on the deeper reasons so many of us lie awake at night. You can learn more here:

CC: Sleep like a Queen with Dr Leigha Saunder

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hasler coaches Margaret, who struggles with moving forward in her career due to past health challenges and financial needs. Margaret has experienced a mix of burnout and inertia, pushing too hard and then not enough, as she tries to navigate a balanced approach to re-entering the workforce. Consider/Ask Yourself:   Do you feel safe at home but anxious elsewhere?   Have you experienced vulnerability followed by rejection, causing you to withdraw?   Do you find yourself pushing hard until you burn out, only to struggle to start again? Guest Insights:     Margaret shares her ongoing battle with adrenal fatigue, anxiety, and the pressure of financial constraints.   She expresses frustration with the cyclic nature of pushing herself too hard and then needing extensive recovery time.   Her journey has included deep personal insights, yet she still faces the challenge of balancing work demands with personal health. Aha Moments:     Realizing that her pattern of pushing and withdrawing relates to deeper, unresolved issues around safety and self-worth.   Acknowledging the need for a deeper level of healing that isn’t about repeating past efforts but going deeper into her own emotional and psychological landscape. How to Get Over It and On With It:             Embrace inner child work to address past traumas and current fears.   &nbsp;Reevaluate her beliefs about work and productivity to find a sustainable way of engaging with her career.   &nbsp;Seek environments and work that align more closely with her needs as sensitive and empathic person.   Sponsor:  Today's episode is sponsored by Caraway Cookware. Experience the joy of non-toxic, beautifully designed cookware. Visit:  for a special listener discount.&nbsp; Promo Code: Christine  Social Media Info:  Follow Christine on Instagram  Tweet your insights to Christine  Join us next week for another insightful episode where we help you get over it and on with the life you love.

EP 449: Overcoming Blocks to Moving Forward with Margaret

Jade Luna is back on the show! He has been my astrologer for&nbsp;nearly a decade and gives us insight on what's been happening in the&nbsp;world and what we can expect. Jade has been one of the most successful Astrologers in the world and has maintained a high level practice for over 18&nbsp;years. He&nbsp;is the first Westerner ever to reconstruct Jyotish (Hindu Astrology) into a Greco-Roman format.&nbsp;&nbsp;Jade has traveled extensively around the planet, lecturing and conducting workshops on Astrology and mysticism. He has traveled to India more than 30 times and spent a great deal of time with various teachers, Saints and Sadhu's in Asia.&nbsp;Jade consults with people privately. He usually presents a few seminars each year at various locations world wide.

CC: Lessons from the stars with Astrologer Jade Luna

In this episode, Christine engages in a coaching call with Shelley, who is grappling with the ramifications of her fear of loss in her relationships. Through deep, introspective conversation, Christine helps Shelley uncover the ways in which her attempts to avoid loss may actually be precipitating the very outcomes she fears. Consider/Ask Yourself:   Do you often find yourself sabotaging situations not intentionally, but as a protective measure?   Are you hyper-vigilant in your relationships, constantly preparing for the worst?  Can you recognize how your fear of loss might be contributing to the problems you experience in relationships?  &nbsp; Guest Insights:   Shelley shares her struggles as a highly sensitive person who takes things personally and tends to anticipate negative outcomes, even in positive situations.  She realizes her need for control stems from a deep-seated fear of unexpected negative outcomes, which she tries to preempt by focusing on the negative possibilities.  Aha Moments:   Recognizing that preparing for the worst as a way of coping with fear can inadvertently bring about negative outcomes.  Understanding that her protective behaviors, while meant to safeguard her from pain, are keeping her from experiencing deeper connections and joy in relationships.  How to Get Over It:           Embrace vulnerability by acknowledging and expressing fears without letting them dictate behaviors.   Work on shifting focus from potential loss to the potential for joy and fulfillment in relationships.  Consider therapy or coaching to address underlying fears and learn healthier coping mechanisms.  Social Media Info:  Follow Christine on Instagram  &nbsp; Tweet your insights to Christine  Join us next week for another insightful episode where we help you get over it and on with the life you love.

Episode 450: How Your Fear of Loss Could Actually Lead to Loss with Shelley

Christine Hassler is an author, life coach and speaker who is known for inspiring radical self-reflection with practical direction. Christine is the author of two best selling books and is currently working on her third entitled: "Expectation Hangovers®  - How to Leverage Disappointment.” She’s appeared on: The Today Show, CNN, ABC, CBS, FOX, E!, Style, and The New York Times.  Christine is a spokesperson for American Express Millennial Advocacy Program and serves on the faculty at the University of Santa Monica teaching programs in Spiritual Psychology.

EP 448: How To Feel More Confident with Lynn

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