In this insightful episode of "Over It and On with It," host Christine Hasler explores a deeply resonant topic—navigating and resolving anger towards one's mother. Our guest, Sarah, shares her struggles with frequent negative interactions with her mother, which are often marred by impatience and rudeness, despite her mother's consistent kindness. This conversation delves into the root causes of Sarah's feelings, the broader implications of parental relationships, and practical steps for healing and self-nurturing. Consider/Ask Yourself:   Do you have unresolved anger or resentment towards a parent that affects your current interactions?   How have your childhood experiences shaped your emotional responses to your parents today?   Are you able to meet your emotional needs independently, or do you find yourself seeking fulfillment from your parents? &nbsp;   Guest Insights:   Sarah recognizes her anger stems from past unmet needs during her childhood, exacerbated by her mother's inability to protect her from an abusive situation.  The conversation reveals Sarah's desire for her mother to push back against her, reflecting her unresolved needs for assertiveness and protection.  Aha Moments:   Realizing the necessity of mourning the 'ideal' parent and accepting the limitations of what one's parents can provide.  Understanding the importance of becoming the source of comfort and security that one sought from their parents.  How to Get Over It:   Embrace self-mothering by acknowledging and nurturing one's inner child.   Implementing practical exercises like visualizations where Sarah comforts her younger self, promoting healing.           Establishing boundaries and new emotional frameworks that do not rely on parental validation. Sponsor:       Caraway Cookware: Non-toxic cookware that combines modern aesthetics with functionality. Special discounts available for listeners at .       Social Media Info:  Follow Christine on Instagram  Tweet your insights to Christine  Join us next week for another insightful episode where we help you get over it and on with the life you love.

Episode 451: How Not to Be Angry at Your Mother with Sarah

Welcome to Over It and On With It. I'm your host, Christine Hassler. For over a decade, I've been a life coach, speaker, and author. Each week, you'll hear me work directly with a caller as I coach them through a goal they want to accomplish or an obstacle they may be facing. I'll provide a blend of practical and spiritual advice as well as tangible actions you can apply to your own life. Now let's get on with the episode. Summary In this episode, Christine speaks with Samantha, who is struggling with emotional attachments to two past romantic relationships she ended. Despite being the one to end both relationships, Samantha finds herself constantly thinking about her ex-partners, missing the companionship, and fantasizing about what could have been. Christine helps Samantha uncover the deeper emotional issues rooted in her childhood, specifically her relationship with her father, which have influenced her current difficulties in moving on from these relationships. Consider/Ask Yourself  Are you ruminating or obsessing over past relationships? Do you have unresolved issues from childhood with your parents? Are you still hoping for one of your parents to change and give you what you always wanted?  Guest Insights  Samantha admits that her attachment to past relationships is a way to avoid feeling the actual pain of their endings. She acknowledges that fantasizing about what could have been is a way to distract herself from the hurt. She identifies with a fearful avoidant attachment style, which she believes is linked to her "father wound." Samantha describes her father as someone who was both absent and inconsistent, leading to a deep-seated fear of being alone and unlovable. Christine helps Samantha realize that she has been projecting her unmet childhood needs onto her romantic relationships. Samantha's fear of being alone stems from childhood experiences and a longing for her father's approval and love.  Aha Moments  Christine emphasizes that feeling the pain and moving through it is necessary to avoid repeating the same mistakes in future relationships. By not fully processing the pain, Samantha has been unable to move on. The concept of the "Christ year" at age 33 is significant for personal awakening and transformation. Samantha, being 33, is at a pivotal point where she can choose to either continue her old patterns or embrace deep healing and change. Christine advises Samantha to stop seeing her loneliness as a problem to fix but as a necessary phase to fully experience and understand. By doing this, Samantha can break the cycle of seeking relationships to fill the void left by her father.  How to Get Over It  Feel the Loneliness: Samantha is encouraged to fully feel her loneliness without trying to escape it through distractions or new relationships. This process will help her develop resilience and self-reliance. Inner Child Healing: Christine suggests that Samantha engage in inner child work to address the unresolved issues with her father. This can involve journaling, therapy, and self-reflection to give her inner child the love and validation she missed. Seek Professional Help: Working with a therapist, especially one trained in somatic therapy, can help Samantha stay connected to her body and process her emotions in a healthy way. Practical Exercises: Samantha should write down the truth about her past relationships, focusing on what didn’t work, to ground herself in reality and avoid idealizing her ex-partners. Additionally, she should ask herself how her thoughts make her feel and if she likes feeling that way, then consciously choose thoughts that lead to feelings of peace and freedom.  Sponsor  Storyworth: Preserve precious memories and stories from your father or father figures for years to come. Save $10 on your first purchase when you visit .  Social Media Info:  Follow Christine on Instagram  Tweet your insights to Christine  Join us next week for another insightful episode where we help you get over...

Episode 452: The Opportunity That Failed Relationships Provide Us With, with Samantha

Thais and Christine talk about what exactly "limerence" is and how it is different from the infatuation&nbsp;stage of a relationship. We go deep into what caused it and how we can get out of it.&nbsp; &nbsp; Thais Gibson has a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in modalities such as CBT, NLP, somatic experiencing, internal family systems, and shadow work. She has nearly a decade of experience running a successful private practice. This diverse background has culminated in creating Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory™, an innovative framework uniting traditional attachment theory, developmental psychology insights, and potent subconscious reprogramming techniques that are woven throughout the course material within The Personal Development School, taught within our innovative coach training program and in her most recent book, Learning Love.  You can get 25% off the price of enrollment at The Personal Development School () if you use the promo code christine25off&nbsp;

CC: Is it infatuation or Limerence with Thais Gibson

In this episode, Christine Hassler coaches Liv, who is experiencing a significant life transition and is unsure about her career and future. Liv has worked with children as a teacher, babysitter, and nanny, but now she feels the urge to explore other professional paths. She struggles with guilt over leaving her current line of work and fears the uncertainty of pursuing new opportunities. Consider/Ask Yourself:  Are you feeling the urge to make a change or has a change been forced upon you? How did your upbringing shape your views on failure and success? Do you rely on your job as a safety net? What is your relationship with uncertainty, and are you willing to change your beliefs to improve it?  Guest Insights:  Liv is transitioning from a familiar career working with children to exploring new professional opportunities. She feels overwhelmed by the thought of leaving a job that she loves but also wants to pursue personal growth. Liv struggles with balancing her desire to serve others with her need for self-fulfillment. She feels a deep need for control and certainty, which stems from her upbringing, where failure had severe consequences. Liv's primary challenge is to reprogram her beliefs and embrace uncertainty as part of her growth.  Aha Moments:  Liv recognized that her current job should not be seen as a safety net but as a stepping stone to new opportunities. She identified the need to create a new relationship with uncertainty and develop an internal sense of safety. Liv realized that her belief that she cannot make money doing what she loves is a limiting belief that needs updating.  How to Get Over It:  Liv should focus on updating her limiting beliefs, such as "I can't make money doing what I love" to "People are interested in what I have to offer and it adds value to their lives." Embrace the belief that prioritizing her own growth is not selfish but essential for serving others more effectively. Take one step at a time and recognize that safety and certainty come from within, not from external jobs or situations. Engage in pattern interrupt techniques to shift from fear-based decisions to ones based on authenticity and alignment.  Sponsor:  Cozy Earth offers hypoallergenic, organic bamboo sheets that are breathable and comfortable. Use Promo Code “OVER IT" at cozyearth.com for 35% off  &nbsp; Social Media Info:    Follow Christine on Instagram  Tweet your insights to Christine  Join us next week for another insightful episode where we help you get over it and on with the life you love.

EP 452: How to Make Changes When You Don't Have Certainty or a Plan with Liv

If you're feeling boxed in by your current path, maybe it's time to think about how your skills can open new doors—not just for others, but for yourself too. If you’ve ever thought about what it might be like to teach others what you know or create a business doing what you love, don’t miss this episode. &nbsp; Your skills can be the key to unlocking new doors, not just for others, but for you too.&nbsp; &nbsp; Tune in as my guest Dean Graziosi, New York Times bestselling author and esteemed entrepreneur, and I discuss what it takes to become an entrepreneur…how to overcome the fears and limiting beliefs and step into your legacy. &nbsp; Together, Dean and Tony Robbins are hosting a FREE 3-day workshop on June 13th - 15th called “The Game Has Changed” with some amazing special guests. In this 3 day event they are going to reveal for the first time their “2024 roadmap to more” in today’s crazy economy. More freedom, more time, more joy, more income… more whatever makes YOU happy. &nbsp; Go here to register:&nbsp;

CC: How to Build The Life, Career and Business You Love with Dean Graziosi

In this episode, Christine helps Mariel navigate the complex feelings following a breakup that has left her struggling to move on. Despite ending the relationship almost a year ago, Mariel finds herself still emotionally entangled and unable to let go. Christine delves into the deeper issues stemming from Mariel’s childhood, particularly her relationship with her father, to uncover the root causes of her emotional struggle. Summary: Mariel ended a relationship due to her partner’s addiction issues, but she is finding it disproportionately difficult to move on. Christine explores the deeper emotional wounds from Mariel’s childhood, especially those related to her father, which may be contributing to her current emotional state. The conversation reveals the importance of addressing and healing childhood wounds to move forward in adult relationships. Consider/Ask Yourself:  Is there something on your mind you can't let go of, whether it's a relationship or something else? Have you been in a relationship with someone who had many good qualities but one major deal breaker? Do you often project your feelings or handling of situations onto others? Do you truly believe you are worthy of the kind of love you desire?  Guest Insights:  Mariel feels confused about why she is struggling so much to move on from a relatively short relationship. The relationship ended due to her partner's addiction, a pattern familiar from her previous marriage. Despite setting boundaries and ending the relationship, Mariel finds herself still emotionally attached and missing her ex-partner. Mariel has a history of attracting men who cannot process their emotions healthily, reflecting unresolved issues with her father.  Aha Moments:  Christine points out the importance of addressing the deeper issues from Mariel’s childhood to move on. Mariel recognizes that her ex-partner’s addiction and avoidance are reminiscent of her father’s emotional unavailability and anger. Understanding that her struggle is more about her own unresolved issues than about the ex-partner helps Mariel see the situation more clearly.  How to Get Over It and On With It:  Identify and confront the truths about the past relationship to move on from the fantasy. Work on healing the father wound and improving self-worth. Focus on developing a nurturing relationship with the inner child to address unmet emotional needs. Prioritize self-love and boundaries to avoid falling into similar patterns in future relationships.  Sponsors:  Cozy Earth: Get 30% off your purchase at  using promo code "OVERIT." Enjoy comfortable and temperature-regulating bedding products designed with viscose from bamboo.  Social Media Info:  Follow Christine on Instagram  Tweet your insights to Christine  Join us next week for another insightful episode where we help you get over it and on with the life you love.

EP 454: Navigating the Father Wound with Mariel

If you are considering becoming an entrepreneur&nbsp;or want to take your business to the next level, don't miss this episode.&nbsp;Between AI, new technology, inflation, the economy, and all the crazy stuff in the outside world… it’s clear the rules of success have changed drastically from even just last year.&nbsp;And this has created a massive opportunity to accelerate ahead or fall way behind. &nbsp; Jill Esplin, who has worked with me for nearly 15 years, and I talk about what we are noticing in the industry and how to overcome inner and outer roadblocks. We also discuss how the game has changed and invite you to join us at a free event June 13--15 hosted by Tony Robbins and Dean Graziosi:

CC: The Game Has Changed

In this episode, Christine Hassler speaks with Sabrina, a single mom struggling to break the cycle of emotional unavailability that has plagued her family for generations. They discuss the importance of self-awareness, healing past wounds, and creating a safe and supportive environment for Sabrina's son. Consider/Ask Yourself:  Did you have a parent that was unavailable, and does feeling disconnected or dismissed trigger you? Are you a parent struggling with your child's independence and need for space? Do you know that healing starts within, but you’re unsure how to begin?  Guest Insights:  Sabrina's Background: Sabrina is a single mom whose parents were emotionally unavailable. She recognizes that her father's drinking and her mother's choice of a similarly unavailable partner impacted her. Current Struggle: Sabrina wants to break this cycle with her 12-year-old son, who is becoming more distant as he grows older. Coaching Challenges: Sabrina's tendency to over-coach and talk too much is pushing her son away. Her unresolved anger towards men and trust issues further complicate her relationship with her son.  Aha Moments:  Mirror Effect: Children reflect their parents' unresolved issues. Sabrina's son is mirroring her feelings of being dismissed and not prioritized. Generational Patterns: Breaking the cycle starts with addressing her inner child wounds and not projecting unmet needs onto her son. Letting Go: Sabrina needs to let her son navigate his relationship with his father on his own terms and provide unconditional support without overstepping.  How to Get Over It:  Self-Compassion: Acknowledge and be proud of the effort and awareness in tackling tough parental questions. Inner Child Work: Engage in healing work to address unresolved anger and grief towards men and her childhood experiences. Space and Support: Allow her son to explore his relationship with his father while being a supportive presence, not an overprotective one. Professional Help: Consider working with a coach or therapist to navigate the challenges of parenting a tween and personal healing.  &nbsp; Social Media and Resources:  Follow Christine on Instagram @ChristineHassler  Tweet your insights to Christine @ChristineHassler on  Join us next week for another insightful episode where we help you get over it and on with the life you love.

Episode 455: Breaking Cycles with Your Child with Sabrina

In this interview we talk about our memories. What and how we remember and how we can improve our memory. Dr. Ranganath is one of the world’s top memory researchers. He is a Professor of Psychology and Neuroscience at UC Davis, where he leads their Dynamic Memory Lab. His book WHY WE REMEMBER radically reframes the way we think about the everyday act of remembering and reveals the role memory plays in every aspect of our lives, from recalling faces and names to learning, decision-making, trauma and healing.

CC: Why We Remember with Dr. Charan Ranganath

In this episode, Christine Hassler coaches Alexa, who has struggled with body image, self-esteem, and her relationship with food her entire life. Alexa shares her journey from childhood, where she was surrounded by family members who perpetuated negative body images, to her recent progress post-divorce. Christine helps Alexa uncover the underlying emotional causes of her issues, focusing on unexpressed anger and rage towards her parents and ex-husband. Through the session, Christine guides Alexa to recognize and release these pent-up emotions to transform her relationship with her body and herself. Consider/Ask Yourself  Do you struggle with body image and self-esteem issues? Have you experienced negative influences from family or significant others regarding your body? Do you find yourself turning to food for comfort or as an enemy? Are there unexpressed emotions, particularly anger, that might affect your well-being?  Guest Insights  Alexa’s body image issues stem from childhood influences and family dynamics. Her negative relationship with food is tied to emotional comfort and self-punishment. Unexpressed anger towards her parents and ex-husband has been internalized, affecting her body and self-esteem. Recognizing and expressing her anger is crucial for her healing process.  Aha Moments  Alexa realizes that her negative self-talk and body hatred are survival strategies she adopted from her environment. Understanding that unexpressed emotions, especially anger, can manifest physically, contributing to weight issues. The importance of finding her voice and expressing her true feelings is to release emotional baggage and transform her relationship with her body.  How to Get Over It and On With It  Express Your Anger: Allow yourself to feel and express your anger healthily. This could be through journaling, therapy, or physical activities. Compassion for Yourself: Shift the narrative from self-loathing to self-compassion. Understand that you did the best you could to survive. Inner Child Work: Connect with your inner child and provide the love and support that were missing during your upbringing. Find Your Fierceness: Embrace your anger and fierceness as power sources to make transformative changes.  Sponsors  Caraway Cookware: Toxic-free, beautifully designed cookware. Get 10% off your purchase at  with promo code “OVERIT."  Social Media and Resources:  Follow Christine on Instagram @ChristineHassler  Tweet your insights to Christine @ChristineHassler on  Join us next week for another insightful episode where we help you get over it and on with the life you love.

EP 456: Breaking the Negative Cycle You Have With Your Body With Alexa

Dr. Harrison is passionate and outspoken about the need to expand the addiction medicine workforce. She is the Co-Founder and Chief Medical Officer for , an innovative mental health and addiction treatment company, and has more than 20 years of experience practicing medicine. She is a double-board certified physician with specialties in general adult psychiatry and addiction medicine.  She is an advocate for stigma reduction and is passionate about the necessity for whole-person care as individuals and communities seek to recover from and prevent substance use disorders. You can read more about these issues in her new book, .&nbsp;

CC: Un-Addiction with Dr. Nzinga Harrison

Christine Hassler is an author, life coach and speaker who is known for inspiring radical self-reflection with practical direction. Christine is the author of two best selling books and is currently working on her third entitled: "Expectation Hangovers®  - How to Leverage Disappointment.” She’s appeared on: The Today Show, CNN, ABC, CBS, FOX, E!, Style, and The New York Times.  Christine is a spokesperson for American Express Millennial Advocacy Program and serves on the faculty at the University of Santa Monica teaching programs in Spiritual Psychology.

Episode 451: How Not to Be Angry at Your Mother with Sarah

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