Thanks Lily!  It was great collaborating with you on this!

I've returned to this episode several times over this last year. I love it. (It's especially interesting to listen w/ your spouse. :))

Come explore romantic relationships and how they can go so so wrong or feel so hard at times. But don’t worry - you’ll also get to hear about what works. From some brave souls at the bar, you’ll hear stories of single, partnered, divorcing and “it’s complicated”. We'll also hear from Dr. Robert Solley, a well seasoned couple therapist in San Francisco. Join us as we dive into adult attachment!

Produced By: Lily Sloane
Theme Song By: Topher M. Lewis
"Friends Till the End" By: Derailed Freight Train
"The End of Love" Excerpt Written and Read By: Pilar Dellano

Special thanks to The Little Shamrock and Zeitgeist in SF, The White Horse Bar in Oakland, and Three Dots and a Dash in Chicago.

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Someone Like Baby

In the last episode, we explored defense mechanisms - all the things we do to cope psychologically with various threats in our day to day lives. One of the biggest threats we find ourselves defending against as conscious beings is the unknown in its many forms. So in this episode we’re gonna dig into all of that excitement - like, how we develop narratives and strategies to get through uncertainty. And what happens when life tears through those structures like an F-5 tornado.

This episode features an interview with Phoebe Judge of the podcasts Criminal and This is Love. 

Produced by: Lily Sloane
Edited by: Emily Shaw
Music & Sound Design by: Lily Sloane
Episode Image: "who am i?" by paurian via creative commons. Image is altered to black & white.

This episode features a clip from "All the Time in the World", episode 68 of Criminal.

Thank you to Arthur Mac's Tap and Snack and strangers at the bar who opened up to me. Thank you Garrett Tiedemann for talking through some philosophy with me for this episode.

The Unknown

Guided loving kindness/metta meditation practice.

Loving Kindness

Guided mindful walking/walking meditation practice

Walking Meditation

Short Meditation

Did YOU solve the riddle of the Green Glass Doors? Jedediah & Torrey explain the answer once they get through contemplating the mystery of the alphabet. ALSO: WOW: WE’RE HALFWAY THOUGH THE DIARY and halfway through 2018. Remarkable. Once the boys get through a slow week in 1993 (video games, Bodie, TKD, you know the drill), they reflect and reminisce on what doing The Jedediaries has meant to them. Jed’s mom, dad, brother, friend Matt, and 6th grade teacher also share their thoughts. And finally: a patriotic retrospective of greatest hits.

Week 26: June 26–July 2, 1993

There’s this cliche, that all therapists want to do is make you talk about the past. Even though I often reassure new clients that I won’t make them talk about anything they don’t want to, it’s not untrue - a lot of us do want to know about your past. Because the past is never actually in the past and the present and the future are intricately tied to it. But like any historical research, piecing our own pasts together is both vital to self-understanding and fraught. And our understanding of history changes with who we are in the present.

/ Credits /

Producer: Lily Sloane (www.lilymakessound.com)
Story Editor: Emily Shaw (www.emilyshawcreates.com)
Original Music & Sound Design: Lily Sloane
Additional Music: "Colocate" by Poddington Bear and the original theme to The Jedediaries by Marshall York

Find The Jedediaries at www.thejedediaries.com or wherever you listen to podcasts.

Thank you Josey Baker, Torrey Paquette, and Ada and Linden for lending your voices to this story and Mat Stevens for helping me interview Jed.  

Clips from Mortified were recorded at the New Parish in Oakland, California March 10, 2018. I highly recommend the Mortified TV series on Netflix, the podcast, and live shows. www.getmortified.com

Become a patron of the show at www.patreon.com/atherapistwalksintoabar.

The Presence of Past

It's Torrey's birthday week! In the present, Jedediah & Torrey discuss mortality, depression, Ozymandias, Oprah, and journaling by way of Gchat. But back in 1993 it was rollerblading (disappointing), presents (for which insufficient gratitude was shown), pizza (pepperoni), and staying up all night (until 6 AM). And fireworks (for America's birthday).

This week features a clip from this month's episode of Lily Sloane's podcast “A Therapist Walks Into a Bar” featuring Jed! Go and give it a listen once you're done here. It's a wonderful thing.

Week 27: July 3–9, 1993

Lilia Vega: "About ten years ago, I was inducted into a secret society in my family. The ones who know, and the ones who protect. We are the guardians of the family. The bodies we put between them and Him.

He is a dark presence in our family, the man I call grandfather. He sits on the fringes of family gatherings, braying in that low, distinctive voice of his. He’s a charming man, but whenever he makes a joke, no one looks at him as they laugh. No one calls him “father.”

Is a secret really a secret if everyone knows?"

This piece was produced by Chelsea Kigano, Emily Shaw, Lilia Vega, and Lily Sloane, as part of The 24-Hour Radio Race from KCRW's Independent Producer Project.

This Shadow - KCRW Radio Race

I believe that Red Car had a soul. But where did it come from? And where is it now?

Part 1: A Car Is Born
Part 2: Goodbye Red Car
Part 3: Car Soul Released 

Honored as an Official Select at On Air Fest 2021. 

Produced by Emily Shaw. Editorial support from Palace Shaw, Ray Pang, Dee Peterschmidt, Mary Wesley, Nicki Stein, Cin Pimentel, Stepfanie Aguilar, and Nieves Gruneiro. Special thanks to Alice Shaw, Jazmine (JT) Green, and UnionDocs.

Freesound.org recordings from: Philip Goddard, akemov, dasgoat, wangzhuokun, be-steele, tmrobin1, Iamgiorgio, edranil, bvaudio, ameangelofsin, danielsilveira321

Archival recordings: 1990 Toyota Corolla Commercial, Derek Prince: “Total Man - Functions of Spirit Soul and Body”, 1989 Toyota Corolla Commercial

Red Car

A Therapist Walk Into a Bar is a podcast that brings therapy to you. I am a San Francisco based psychotherapist who likes to get out of my office, grab my microphone, and find people in bars to chat with about the best and the worst of life. Help support the show at www.atherapistwalksintoabar.com/donate

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