This episode is just in time for the holiday season!  My favorite trick to get less annoyed with the people in my life whom I love but we're all human and we do things that bug each other is to think of their undesirable behaviors like babies spitting up.  Listen in to see what I mean and how it works. I know it will help you. Enjoy!

P.S. For more on this topic please listen to episode 24 "What to Do When Your Loved Ones Are Driving You Crazy"

Episode 120 - The Spit Up

There are many ways to think about the word ownership, but in this episode I'm referring to taking ownership or responsibility for the parts of your life that are in your control and that are your creation.  There are a few sneaky traps that we can fall into in this area where we accidentally categorize things that are in our control as out of our control. Also, we may not realize when we are not owning something in our lives that is our fault or our doing and when we make that shift to ownership we get unstuck in that area. In this episode you are going to learn how to ask questions like: "In what ways is this my fault?" and "How is it being my fault good news?" Remember that we are not taking ownership or accepting fault for things that are other people's responsibility (another sneaky trap), just our own. Enjoy!

Episode 131 - Ownership

We can all benefit from giving ourselves more validation and this is something I work with my clients on a lot.  My favorite way to teach this concept is to teach them a two step process of first validating our own experience/feelings and then to follow it up with reassuring ourselves. It is so powerful!  One common problem with this is when I encourage people to validate themselves, they can resist the concept because they are confusing it with indulging themselves. Listen to this episode to hear more about my highly impactful two step process and to really understand the critical difference between giving yourself validation and indulging yourself. Enjoy!

Episode 132 - Indulgence and Validation

Did you know that sometimes it does not matter what we are thinking? I know this is shocking coming from a life coach who teaches people every day that what you are thinking is everything and that your life is a result of your thoughts.  However, there is a scenario where focusing on the thought can get you pretty stuck and I’m here to teach you about it and to give you permission to not worry about what you are thinking about sometimes. Enjoy!

Episode 133 - When the Thought Doesn't Matter (and Why)

I’m thrilled to have my good friend Becky Hoy on my podcast today. She is the founder of Brave Crates and a long time military spouse and mother of the cutest little boy. We have worked together at Brave Crate for 3 years and we are excited to share some updates with you about some big changes going on around here. Welcome to the Simply Resilient podcast Becky!

Episode 134 - An Interview with Becky Hoy of Brave Crate

Have you ever heard the phrase “Hindsight is 20/20”? It’s describing what happens when we can look back on something and see it more clearly than when we were in the middle of it. It can be so much easier to think and feel the way we want to think and feel about something (especially hard somethings) when we are looking back at it and it’s over and resolved and typically you have some distance from it and probably even some healing. A thought work tool that I’m teaching you in the episode is called “Future Hindsight” and it’s where you borrow some thoughts and feelings from how you imagine you’re going to feel when the thing you are in the middle of is over and you’re looking back on it. It can be challenging because our brain doesn’t want to guess how it’s all going to resolve, it wants to know. But here’s where it becomes an awesome exercise is stretching your brain to just decide how you’re going to feel no matter how it resolves or even deciding how it’s going to resolve (even though you can’t know) and accessing that power 20/20 hindsight perspective today. Doing this will better equip you to face what you’re facing and show up more the person that you want to be. Enjoy!

Episode 135 - Future Hindsight

We often know where we are and where we want to get to, but we don’t always know how to get from here to there. In thought work this can look like understanding your current thoughts about a situation that you are not ok with and how they are making you feel and how they are not serving you, then deciding what you want to be thinking  and believing about this situation, but then not knowing how to get yourself from what you are currently thinking to what you want to be thinking. This is where bridge thoughts come in because once we set our path we can transition step by step to thoughts that serve us just a little bit more and are one step closet to the thoughts we’re trying to spend time thinking and believing. The beautiful thing about this concept is that as long as the next thought that you are working on is just one manageable step away you will be able to help your brain get there relatively quickly and easily. When we don’t do use bridge thoughts, we end up trying to take unrealistic and massive leaps in our thought work to thoughts that we’re not ready to think and then we crash and just go back to our old thoughts.  You are going to love this concept. Enjoy!

Episode 136 - Bridge Thoughts

This is something we all struggle with in varying degrees and for a variety of reasons. In this episode we’re going to get into people pleasing so we can understand it better in ourselves and in others. Doing this will help us in our efforts to indulge in this behavior less, if that is what you are trying to accomplish. If people pleasing is something that you struggle with a little or a lot, you are going to want to listen to this episode. Enjoy!

Episode 137 - People Pleasing

These have been buzz words in the mental health community for good reasons. In this episode I help us get clearer on what scarcity and abundance mean, what it looks like to be living in them and making decisions from those mindsets, and what we can do about it. Enjoy!

Episode 138 - Scarcity vs Abundance

Join me in the episode as I share the audio of a coaching session with a long time client of mine and her husband who was preparing to leave for deployment.  Enjoy!

Episode 139 - A Military Couple's Coaching Call

One of the most exciting concepts that I have learning since becoming a life coach is my ability to increase my capacity in any given area. It is incredible to understand how mind management can be such a powerful tool that you can use it to increase your ability to handle the ups and downs of life as well as increase valuable resources in your life like time and energy that used to feel finite to me. Enjoy!

Episode 140 - Increasing Your Capacity

Hello everyone! Welcome to the Simply Resilient Podcast. My name is Jessie Ellertson and this is life coaching from a military wife who is in the trenches of life with each of you. This is a podcast for military wives who know how to handle the challenges of deployments and frequent trainings, but want to stop feeling mentally miserable in the process. You know what to do and you’re doing it, all while holding down the fort at home, but you are weary from living in survival mode and battling with your brain. You are ready to thrive and you are in the right place!

Episode 120 - The Spit Up

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